Personal Problems

ANSWER: You have a tendency to overthink your problems. You establish very specific expectations and desires and fear anything that deviates from your plans. One of your life lessons is learning to accept other people and alternative ways to do things. Patience and flexibility need to be learned.

Souls are not assigned at any particular time. You and your husband had made a contract with the child’s soul while you were all still at Home. This soul would enter any bundle of cells designated for your family. That could have been through natural means, or insemination, or adoption.

It is understandable to be scared about this situation with which you are not totally in agreement. Your fear has been blocking a number of procedures that were tried in the past – don’t let it block the happiness of having a child. The egg may not come from your body but it will grow in your body. You will be sustaining it until birth, exchanging blood and nutrition. It will not know the donor but will exist because of you. It is your child.

Children develop family characteristics more from the environment than from genetics. Teach the child as if it originated from your ovum. The donor merely contributed some eggs; without you it would go no further. Take pride in the fact that you will bring the child to term and produce a happy, healthy baby.

Your father is with us and wants only your happiness. You will make a fantastic mother if you give it a try.

ANSWER: You will not be able to go into a hypnotic trance or meditate until you give up control. The symptoms you have reported show you have an intense desire to know everything that is going on and to be able to control the outcome. You insinuate yourself into everything around you. You think you are overly sensitive but you are really being overly nosy, needing to know what is happening, even if it is only that a car is driving down the street.

Most of your difficulty sleeping when something big is about to happen results from your expectations. You have an extreme fear of things when you don’t know how they are going to end. You run over all the possible scenarios and then question the plausibility of your thoughts. You can’t relax and let go because you fear you will miss something.

In order to have the ability to meditate, you must be able to shut down your mind. To you, your mind’s thoughts are the most important aspect of your life. Your ego, based upon your judgment of things, is paramount. To go with the flow, and not get hung up on the revolving door of thoughts in your head, you have to stop looking at everything to judge how it applies to you. Let the world revolve and enter observation mode only.

You are very concerned with how you rate next to everyone else. Why? It is not going to help you understand your existence or relax and clear your head.

Start with meditation. As you place yourself in a quiet place where outside noises do not penetrate, concentrate on the sensations in your body. Can you feel the air going in and out of your lungs? Do this for a while, and if any other thoughts pop up, bring yourself back to your breath. Next, listen for the blood moving through your body. Next, ask a question and listen for an answer.

Be patient; keep trying until you can shut off the outside noise. If you are having trouble, start doing a walking meditation: You walk, and as you stay alert to the possible obstacles under your feet, you will notice the internal noise will lessen and then disappear.

ANSWER: Every soul makes its own decisions through its universal freedom of choice. The soul of your child is aware of the situation between its parents and chose to come in order to witness and learn from the lessons you are sharing and working to complete.

There are no absolutes during one’s journey, just a series of interwoven decisions driving you in one direction or another. Your man has an addiction to which he has dedicated a large portion of his life. The introduction of a child will not automatically change the way he approaches his challenges. He has to make the choices that can change his behavior.

He drinks to escape his fears and anxiety. When he drinks, he opens himself to the negative energies that surround him; it is almost like a possession, but he has not invited any of them to enter into his body yet. He has a strong inner strength that he does not see. He sees only pain and fear. He must want to truly change and face the darkness inside.

Those psychological/emotional injuries from his past will remain until he routs them out. As long as he continues to run away through drink, he will never be whole. It is hoped that the love he feels for his child will encourage him to take the steps necessary to be the perfect father for the child and spouse for you.

Be there for him and help him by talking through his nightmares. Lack of communication is something that led to his misconceptions of the past. Don’t let him shy away from his truths. He does have it in him to change.

A. Dear Little One, what you are experiencing is an intense need to know what is coming next. When you feel that you are not in control of your life, you imagine all the worst possible scenarios that could befall you. And because your mind is so powerful, you actually empower the things that you fear the most. So your fear is turning the feared event into a reality.

This fear originates from expectations that you have for the outcome of everyday activities when you don’t feel in control. Start by realizing that control is an illusion. It is simply impossible to make free decisions for all the people who are involved in your day-to-day life. In fact, you can only make your own action choices. Stop trying to micromanage and direct the Universe! Have faith in your soul’s existing choices for your Earth lessons. You did not plan more for yourself to experience than you are capable of handling.

When you fixate upon an event (whether accident, illness, or frightening thing), you so anticipate it that you place yourself into an environment for it to occur. Stop looking for these things and they will not appear in your life. Of course, death at the appropriate time—a time you have pre-selected—will definitely happen. But what is there to fear about going Home? Back to a place where you are loved unconditionally? Where you are reunited with all your soul mates and your twin flame? When the time is right you will welcome death.

ANSWER: The human body and mind are very resilient. When trauma occurs and the consciousness is not ready to deal with all the implications, you remember it in a way that you can tolerate. With your limited understanding as a 4-year-old, you knew something was not as it should have been so you relived the incident to try and understand it. When you became 7, you understood that something very wrong had happened to you, so you morphed the incident using things you had witnessed on film and read or been told about, things that were symbolic so it could have happened to you or someone else.

Many of the aspects of the 7-year-old remembrance parallel the story of Hansel and Gretel, along with information on fattening up animals for slaughter. From the beginning, because of what your attackers said, you maintained an air of guilt that you were partially the cause for your discomfort. At seven you wanted to make your memory a fairy tale in order to try to take the fear out of it. Hansel and Gretel is a dark tale about abandonment, cannibalism, and lack of control that fits the way you felt. The abuse made you feel abandoned by your protectors, consumed by the older boys, and totally without control over anything that happened.

Just like belief systems taught to you in your childhood by parents, teachers, and society, scenarios you adopt for protection remain a part of your life until you unearth them and replace them with a new or more complete view of the facts. Some of these coping skills are still buried in your psyche and influence your life from time to time. Don’t let them hide. If you detect any discomfort, stop and go looking for the cause.

ANSWER: Human depression is an interesting state. If you take the word itself apart you have the prefix de-, the word press, and the suffix -ion. De- means “the undoing, reversing or ridding of something;” press means “to urge onward;” -ion means “the process of.” What the word depression means (by the sum of its parts) is: “the process of losing the urge to move forward.” The driving force in your life has been turned off.

For the soul this state is potentially as good as society sees it as bad. The soul views the depressed state as the ultimate moment of choice. All the governors in your life have been removed. There are no more commands coming from outside telling you what to do. There is a vacant space where those orders usually reside. This allows you to start all over again, making only decisions you have freely chosen, placing them in the vacant space, and reinventing your definition of self.

It is not only employment loss that can precipitate depression, but any time you complete a lesson and no longer have it urging you onward. Students may find themselves depressed when they graduate. It is a common occurrence after a divorce, particularly when the wife has been a stay-at-home mom. The loss of family members whose care has been labor intensive towards the end can bring depression, not relief. In each case it is time to start over again.

For those who have no concept of their self-worth this is a feeling of devastation. For those secure in their own power, this is freedom. Depression should be looked upon as an opportunity. You have swept the house clean, so now decorate it as you see fit. Start with an inventory of your abilities, your tools, and your desires. Plan where you want to go and begin the trek.

The first step to success is to live in the moment. Don’t spend time blaming people or condemning yourself-what is done is done. Seize the opportunity to showcase your strengths. Don’t be afraid to follow your feelings into new arenas. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by being your new self. See depression as really your friend.

(Note: This discussion does not have to do with depression caused by chemical or other imbalances within the physical body. If you are feeling depressed we suggest you consult with a licensed medical practitioner.)

ANSWER: Your nephew was on the Titanic. He was a young immigrant traveling with his family. They were caught below decks and drowned. His last conscious thoughts from that time were of struggling to stay afloat and choking on water.

He had difficulty, at first, letting go to allow himself to pass over completely into the light of Home. He haunted the decks of the sunken ship for several of your Earth years looking for his parents and siblings. Paddling in water brings memories of frustration, fear, and desperation.

He is not too young to benefit from guided meditation and/or hypnosis. He can be asked to explore his fear of water and to go back to the first time he ever experienced it. This is not the only life where this fear has surfaced. He may have to visit a couple of lives to remove his fear. This can be done by asking him to use the knowledge he now has of the ability to swim, and the realization that he can do it if he lets go of the thought he can’t.

Having him view pictures, movies, or clips of little boys swimming for recreation, enjoyment, and competition before guiding him to his own past will give him more confidence in the ability of someone his age to be successful. Taking him to places where he can walk on a pier or embankment near water, and being in a boat on the water, will also help him learn to relax.

Start with guiding him through visualizations. First do it with one of his favorite hobbies or interests where he can see himself performing. Then move on to wading in a cool lake when it is extremely hot. After this has been done a number of times, when he is relaxed, take him to a place where he can wade. Relax him and have him remember what he did while he had his eyes closed and imagined the scene.

ANSWER: Your body, with the assistance of your unconscious, is carrying out the thoughts you have about your job and your happiness. It is making you sick because you are therefore excused from doing your best – and sometimes from going to work at all.

While you are recovering from one of these “procrastination” illnesses, spend time in meditation. Contact your higher unconscious self and inquire what is going on with all this hesitation to continue living your life. You know you are unhappy; ask what is the reason.

Only you can determine what will make you happy. You do have the ability to accomplish anything you put sufficient energy into doing. You get discouraged, followed by lazy, and followed by hiding behind illness. You have completely depleted your immune system because your energy is drained off to fight your depression, sadness, and sense of defeat, so any passing bacteria or virus finds a welcoming, comfortable home.

You will never be able to succeed in your current job because you don’t think you can. This is sabotaging any progress you make. There is no one form of employment that a soul has planned for its trip to Earth. Part of the growth process is learning about yourself and the abilities you have.

Take a step back from your cold, hazy mind and see what feels exciting and enticing to you. Don’t be afraid to say that your current path is not serving you and it is time to move in another direction.

ANSWER: In this life and past ones you have been taken advantage of and betrayed by those who seem to be your friends and family. This has left a fear deep inside you that someone you know, particularly someone who seems to be trying to get close to you with friendship, is just doing this so they can get the better of you. When you meet someone you don’t know, it does not trigger this hidden fear because you never expect to see the person again.

You are by nature very open, which sets you up to be used by others. What starts out as a simple request to help a “friend” turns into a big expedition and a drain on your time and resources. You find it almost impossible to say no to people, and you know strangers aren’t going to ask you to do favors for them, so they are no threat to daily life.

It is time to remember that all souls are alike. No one owes anything to anyone else. You are only responsible for yourself. Take back your power to exercise your freedom of choice. Do not do anything that you don’t want to do or that doesn’t feel right to you. Regardless of who asks you to do something, say no unless you really feel you want to do it.

You will find it no problem to be near friendly people you know if you understand you are the same as they. You will be able to joke with them and nicely sidestep any requests for your time. It will be a slow process, but knowing the cause of your fear, you can easily deal with it. You will also discover that not everyone is out to take advantage of you.

A. The very tenor of your question gives you the gist of your problem: fear! Whenever you interject fear into any scenario, you have already started the slide into failure. All of your thoughts create an energy pathway that your actions follow.  When you program for failure, you achieve that end.

Ask yourself why you started into this field in the first place when you did not have faith in your own abilities and didn’t have a plan or pattern that you observed to be productive. Were you convinced that it would be a fast and easy way to get rich? Nothing is further from the truth when you have no idea what you need to do.

We cannot give you a “pattern” because each set of situations has different solutions. In a place like the stock, bond, or futures markets there are literally thousands of variables that generate the ups and downs each day. Each one of those variables is connected to one or more souls, and each soul has its own freedom of choice to make and change its decisions.

The only way to be successful in the market all the time is to have “dumb luck” or to be enlightened enough to “feel” the trend (pathway) of the energy surrounding each offering. When you are sensitive to energy, instead of spending time “thinking” about what might happen, you meditate on which way the energy is pointing and go with the flow.

This principle of feeling versus thinking can be applied to every activity in your life. Fear arises when you want to control something but realize that, in fact, control is an illusion and you have none. Spend your time learning to sense energy and then just ride it to its destination.

ANSWER: Each soul chooses its own path. Fears and doubts are before you as an indication of a lesson you have not explored and learned. Your potential is loving yourself for this life you have chosen and allowing yourself to enjoy it. This lifetime was not designed by you to be extremely challenging. It was more a chance to have some rest and relaxation.

Every life is for the purpose of finding out why you have come and how to experience the most that you can. The life is yours. It is not designated as a way to help others, either family or society. You have no requirement to do something meaningful for society. You have the idea that you have obligations left unfulfilled. No, you do not.

Continue to enjoy yourself with no sense of guilt. Experiment with various talents such as art, music, or writing, if it suits you to find something that can occupy more of your time – it may lead to something you can share with others. For now, search for total love of self, and congratulate yourself for all your accomplishments. Help your children find love within themselves and then all of you can share your knowledge with the world.

ANSWER: What is experienced while in a human body on Earth is chosen by all souls before they enter into the body. Once in the body, they bring to themselves that which they need in order to have those experiences.

You have repeatedly dealt with lessons concerning guilt and punishment in this and past lives. You see yourself as not worthy of being happy or pain free. You have always blamed yourself for things that have not worked out the way you desired. Once you have experienced a painful disorder, your mind has adopted it as a way to punish you for infractions.

All souls are pieces of Source energy and have the same powers and abilities of Source. One of these is the ability to create what you wish to experience. In order to create a pain-free existence, you must accept that you have the power to change things in your life.

Start with manifesting a single day or hour without pain. See in the place of pain a “love only” area around you. If the pain begins to return, ask your higher self why it is there. This will take you back to an incident in which you accepted the pain in place of the hurt that was facing you at that time. Examine the situation and see that you do not need to take the pain because you are really not at fault. Do this each time pain appears.

As uncomfortable as your pain is, you see it as a comfort zone because you know all about it. To not have the pain would be dealing with the unknown, and that terrifies you. Your conscious mind wants predictability – you find it reassuring.

The mind is very powerful. It has the ability to manufacture pain and disability as well as health and happiness. You have freedom of choice and may choose to shut out the pain and feel only the joy. This will take a concerted effort at examining all your motivations. Don’t run away from this challenge, but believe you can, know you can, and then change your life.

At this minute there is no physical reason for the chest pain except your fear. If you let it remain, it can cause a physical ailment to justify your anxiety. You can do this if you desire.

ANSWER: You are a fantastic saboteur. You have convinced yourself that you are being victimized by others because you have no confidence in your abilities or yourself. You also project your fears and sense of anxiety onto others, such as your superiors. Any bad feelings held by bosses are being reflected by you to them, and they are just picking up on your energy.

Love should never be exhausting. Trying to bend yourself to the wishes of another is. If you cannot say with absolute certainty that you loved your boyfriend, then you did not. You take all of your clues as to how to behave and what to feel from those around you. You do not want to have to make decisions or take responsibility for what happens to you. You seek others to tell you what to do.

Your boyfriend has not reincarnated yet. You want him to be in your life because he took care of telling you what your choices in life should be. You have a tremendous need to be needed and loved. You thought what he did for you was love. He used you for his needs but gave little to you.

Every soul has total freedom of choice. One of the life lessons you chose before coming to Earth was to be in situations where you could learn about love and taking responsibility for your life. There was no determination as to how that should take place. You are getting the choice to make these decisions, so you could say your life is going as planned.

Your future is up to you. Stop doing things just because someone is telling you to do them. Don’t do anything until you ask yourself whether it is something you feel like doing. Make your own choices based on your inner feelings. Search for the self-love within you.

ANSWER: Everything a soul experiences during their time in a human body is by choice. It doesn’t really matter what specific cause is used by your body to subject it to the dyslexia, just that you wished to have the experience, so you brought it into your life.

How you deal with the difficulty is the learning part of the lesson. Most of the time, the way a person works through their lessons is totally dependent upon the beliefs (usually called their belief systems) they have chosen to control the way they will interact with and react to their surroundings. This is known as creating your illusion or reality of life.

If you accept that the disorder is insurmountable, then you will never be able to deal with it. If you see the condition as something that causes you to find new and different ways to accomplish what others can easily do, then you will conquer it.

There is no need to reprogram your cells. All you have to do is know you can find alternative ways to deal with this situation – and it will be so. Your mother is dyslexic, as you have surmised, and your genes inherited from her brought the same scrambling of nerve endings into your body.

While it is possible to create a blueprint for your nerves that would erase the dyslexia, that is much more complicated and time consuming than working with what you have. This is not your only chosen life lesson, and dealing with the physical correction would delay or prevent your finishing the rest of your lessons.

But, as with all things during a physical incarnation, the choice of action is up to you. From a spiritual perspective, nothing is considered right or wrong.

ANSWER: What does it matter if you know who the biological father is? What difference if the sperm donor is not the man you are currently with? Are you trying to use this dilemma as a way to justify what you have done? Or are you trying to get punishment for what you think might be your dishonest past?

Your concerns for your child are nothing but guilt for something you regret having done. Was your love for each of these men true? Whom have you harmed so far? The only person who has suffered anything is you. The decision you have to make now is whether to be open to both men and let them decide what should happen, or just let things go on as they are.

Your continued sense of deceit will have you suffering until you admit your secret. It is impossible for this paternal possibility to be totally resolved without the potential fathers getting involved. If you only want your current partner to know, you can admit that during the time you got pregnant you had an encounter with someone else and he may not be the father. Then a quick DNA test will prove if he is or is not the biological match.

Until you bring this out in the open you will suffer. Don’t let it influence your child, who is innocent. Your continued distress can be felt by your child, and it will be felt until you resolve your anguish.

ANSWER: When you planned to begin a whole new phase of your life you did it big time. You made sure that nothing of the past was going to interfere with the future. Now your question is where do I go from here? And the answer is wherever you want to go. There is no “perfect” place for you, no “true” home. Your only physical home is where you are at the moment.

Now, this is not to say that there may not be places on this planet that will feel better to you than other places. These you can find through being totally open to the energy of a location and seeing how you feel while there. Sometimes, if there is a particular resonance that comforts you it may even be possible to feel that way through examining a picture of a locale that you have never visited. When you have found such a place it is time for the old freedom of choice to come into play: Is it good enough to move myself there?

You will find that when an area feels good to you, other things just fall into place, such as a new job, a beautiful home, and people who relate easily to you. In other words, you should be out looking and feeling your way into different situations. Baby steps, one at a time, would be your next order of business.

Intention is also very important at this time. Be very clear what it is that you are trying to manifest. Why don’t you write down a description of your perfect place? Be specific and it will help bring that energy to you and clarify for you what your living needs are.

ANSWER: You have reached the juncture in this lifetime when almost all the pieces in your various lessons have been laid out in front of you. What you do now determines which lessons you complete and which you will have to repeat. The way you define yourself tells you what is happening. When you accept a diagnosis you claim the energy of that condition and then have to work with it until you are complete. When you label yourself as this or that, you also claim all the properties that are associated with that label. Let’s take stock of what you have said.

You have claimed fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, cardiomyopathy, arthritis, major tremors, exhaustion, depression, lack of motivation, being helpless, and wanting to be a victim. You criticize yourself for your actions, want to be bailed out by having someone else take away all your responsibility, but admit you are the cause of all of this.

Our advice is wake up! You have all the answers. Each one of the things you claim is part of a life-lesson. The central core of everything you have in front of you is finding the soul within. That is the spiritual theory you know but can’t figure out how to put into practice. Lesson one is to learn to love yourself. Learn the situation you are in is for you to learn you have freedom of choice and can create what you want instead of being stuck with what you have. Lesson two is to start exercising your freedom of choice to change your world. Lesson three is to remember that lesson number one is the key to everything.

ANSWER: You set very high standards for yourself, sometimes even unrealistic ones. All of these destinations, or sought-after results, are powered by specific expectations that create tunnel vision and put restrictions on your activities.

In your everyday work situation, you have a product you wish to make but you do not have a specific manner established to accomplish this task. With no pre-set guidelines, you use all of the experience gained during your training and your previous work, plus the possibilities that occur to you as you move along, allowing you to easily complete the project.

When time becomes a factor you over-think the process and don’t give your creativity free reign. When you form a definite expectation about what you want to produce, you find you cannot produce it because you are restricted to the experiments of others that you have studied. Let go of expectations and let the energy flow.

Similarly in sports, you practice with ideal conditions based on the maneuvers you expect of your opponent. In the competition your adversary sees you position yourself to intercept him on the right side so he goes left. You are programming your next move for him. Begin by not anticipating what you have seen happen in previous battles and prepare for the unexpected. Do not commit yourself to moving in one direction or the other until you see your opponent begin to move.

To sharpen your response time and reflexes for sports, try some video games that have random-generated movements. Begin to sense the direction that your opposition is sending to you. Again leave the expectations at home and go with the flow.

ANSWER: Your phone romance began during a time when he was bored and found it was fun to have someone fawning on every word he spoke. He could create and project an image of himself that he didn’t have to make real. He was trying out his sales and relationship techniques on you in a safe environment. Without personal contact he was safe to say and do anything he wanted.

His intention was to have you hang on every word he said, becoming dependent on his contacts. He wanted you to want him because it was great for his ego, which had been deflated in another relationship. He told you what he could sense you wanted to hear. He had very little invested in the emotions he was generating in you.

He does not love you and never loved you as anything other than as a woman he could manipulate through words. You so desperately need to be loved that even this minimal amount of energy made your heart sing. This is a good lesson for you in learning to value yourself more. It is the same as falling in love with a Bollywood star. Go out and meet someone face to face so you may see in his eyes if he is playing with you or is sincere.

ANSWER: You are still infatuated with this man from your past. Your unconscious knows you put a lot of time and effort into trying to get him to notice you and decide whether or not he returned your interest. You built an imaginary life around him, the house you would have, the children, growing old together. When you see another man, you compare a possible life with him to the life you had imagined you could have with your first love.

You are actually blocking other men from seeing you and taking an interest because of this comparison running in the background. You will not be able to attract and keep another until you clear your yearning for this man. The voice is your dream state, which still sees ways that you can be together. While you think you are no longer in love with him, mostly because you know he has no desire for you, you still spend way too much time engaged in memories.

The first thing you have to do is be more present in the moment. Any time you start thinking about the past, even if it has nothing to do with this man, take an inventory about what you see right in front of you; this will bring you back to the here and now. Observe the trees, the weather, who passes by your house, everything that is happening in the now.

Souls are very powerful, with the ability to manifest what they desire. Normally it is done consciously, but when you have a historical record playing in the background, it can drown out your wishes. Start to put a picture of a desired mate into your mind: his age, his personality characteristics, the type of life you would like to build together. Project this out into the universe, and also let it infiltrate all aspects of your memory, covering over the things you no longer need.

The things that you want or need to experience get drawn to you by what you project as your current dream. Shape what you want and banish the past.

A: A number of things are at play in your scenario. The time of your childhood was before it became so easy to inject fear into people. Governments are very cautious trying to protect their citizens in these terrorists’ times. Stores and manufacturers are afraid of the average consumers who are quick to file lawsuits, sensing they can obtain money if a merchant wasn’t overly careful of how all the merchandise in their control was handled.

One of the main things that is suffering throughout all this precaution-crazy world is interference with the soul’s life lessons, particularly the exercise of freedom of choice. You may have set up a situation where you were to be affected by a tampered-with product, but lo and behold, your protagonist wasn’t able to set up the planned event because of all the precautions in place preventing access. You therefore are unable to make decisions about how to think and deal with the resulting infirmity.

Remember, you only draw to yourself what you need to experience, but if blockades are erected so that the test can’t come to you, you may find yourself not completing a lesson and coming back again. Some of the fear that you sense results from feeling you have no choices in life.

As with all of your thoughts you must watch what you fixate upon because it will bring the dreaded event to you one way or another. You don’t have to worry if you exercise reasonable precautions. Don’t take a drink offered to you by a stranger. Don’t use a product that has had the seal broken on the cap. Trust that the government regulations are protecting you. Don’t buy into the fear that the tamperers are seeking.

ANSWER: Your husband is going through a very common condition called survivor’s guilt. No matter what he might have done in relationship to his brother, it would have made no difference. It is impossible to get people to change unless they want to change, and your brother-in-law did not want to change his life.

Jeff had chosen to lead a very challenging life. He wanted to experience what it was like to exist in a total state of helplessness. Even though he had those around him, like his brother, who sought to offer help, he was deaf to their pleas. By his own choice he was destined to have a short life from the beginning.

It is difficult for many to understand, but the brothers had made an agreement before they came down to Earth. Jeff was going to have all kinds of problems. Your husband would seek to help him with them, realize that he could be of no help, finally step aside, and then watch as his brother transitioned back Home.

Your husband’s lessons in this agreement were to work out his feelings about guilt, responsibility for another, not being able to change another no matter how hard he tried, and the interconnection of all souls. His guilt is a continuing lesson from past lives as well as this. He will have to go deeply into his feelings about trying to control another when they don’t want to be controlled. This also has to do with the fact that one is not responsible for the dealings of another person. Each soul leads its own life.

His life will become a lot easier if he relaxes in the knowledge that all souls are connected. In this knowledge he will know that his brother hears his love and regrets for what has happened, and your husband will be able to feel his brother say, “Hey, Bro, don’t you remember? We planned it this way for both of us to learn from the experience. Just chill, man!”

ANSWER: Whoa! Stop right there and look at what you have just said. “I know I am trying to accept my karmic fate”.  Ain’t no such thing Buddy. You are simply taking responsibility for your own actions. There is no one holding a gun to your head and saying “Thou shall do this” – either on that side of the veil or this side.

Your thoughts about what you are responsible for have caused you to take the steps you have taken. It is called guilt in the human world. You have not learned the lesson involved or you would not still be punishing yourself on a daily basis.

Have you really talked to your Mom as to her wishes? She would rather be away from your energy right now, and who wouldn’t? You are not doing her any service by cooping her up in your tiny apartment and making her watch you tear yourself apart. She still loves you regardless what has happened. While there are not finances for her to return to her former nursing home there are alternatives.

Why do you say that she would die all alone in a Medicaid facility? If you find placement for her in such a place is it your intention to abandon her there? They do allow visitation you know. She would have someone there to talk to all the time. She would get her meals on time. Her physical needs would be met. You could visit on a regular basis and bring her little things to make her happy.

Stop beating yourself up. The past is the past. Don’t make both of you suffer while you try to work out your lessons. Remember, this would not have occurred without her consent to the situation. No soul goes through anything on Earth they have not been a part of planning. For some reason, that you are not concerned with, your mother choose to have all these things happen.

Answer: Every soul is on its own journey. You come to Earth to be able to experience the duality or negativity available nowhere else. For most souls those lessons will include contracts you have made with other people, and therefore it is necessary for you to interact with others in order to complete your tasks.

Each soul is on Earth for itself, not for the benefit of someone else. There are individual lessons that you are here to understand. If you are working on an issue of self-worth, self-love, or any of the human emotions that you have carried over from a past incomplete lifetime, solitude is the best way to work on your journey without interference from other people.

Tom Hanks’ character in Castaway was thrown into a situation where he had to face himself. Did he value his life enough to keep fighting with his inner demons and with his physical environment? When the thought of ending it all took over for a while, his subconscious kept putting up obstacles and giving him reasons to live. He would not have grown in the self-acceptance and inner peace that he took away from the island if other people had been around.

Some of you have chosen to have lifetimes in which you can advance your wisdom only when you are alone to work on your fears and doubts, which are the outward personification of your chosen life-lessons. Society around you is begging you to return and interact so it can have the benefit of your hard work. Believe in what your intuition is telling you to do. Mystics of your past history followed their inner feelings and knew, for them, the way to enlightenment was a singular journey.

ANSWER: When you married your husband you were both very third dimensional engaging in the societal ego function of judging, rating, and grading everything that happened around you or in which you took part. You also deferred to his wishes thinking it would make him love you more. It didn’t, it just gave him a sense of being able to control and manipulate you.

As you explored your spiritual essence you became aware that letting go of the need to judge and using love instead made you feel better and lighter. You were releasing the heavy Earth negativity and replacing it with universal unconditional love which is a lighter vibration.

He has done nothing to move beyond the starting point you had with him. As you have learned to use your abilities to take care of your own power and create a world more resonant with your soul you have grown apart from your husband and even antagonized him because you long longer fear and unconditionally obey his desires.

Your choices have taken you away from the negative default energy of the third dimension and placed you in a position to seek positive loving energy. It is hard for those not on a spiritual journey to recognize the characteristics of a negative world as versed to a positive environment. The ego asks for maintaining a “right and wrong” world. This is in conflict with seeking evaluation of your actions and seeking love.

Each soul has freedom to choose the world it desires. You must make the choices about your future. Do you want to try to balance both worlds? Or is it time to find a comfortable place where you may grow faster and without interference? Neither choice is right or wrong – you must evaluate the path for you.

ANSWER: You live in a negative environment where you gather negative thoughts and energies to you. You are bringing these conflicts to yourself because you fight the people who say anything you disagree with. Once a conflict is started, it easily accelerates until you have a full-blown war. This has been a continual pattern with you for a number of years.

Accusations and inaccuracies can have an effect upon you only if you allow them to. You like a good fight—you look on it as “standing up for yourself.” But we would ask you: what are you accomplishing except getting upset? The more you argue with someone, the more they desire to win and will do whatever they think they have to in order to come out on top.

Again, we say these things can bother you only if you allow them to get to you. If you consider the insignificance of most of what has happened, you will have to admit a mote of dust has grown into a mountain. Don’t worry about the motives of anyone else. Be concerned only with how you feel about the part you have played in this whole event. You will not be able to accomplish anything that will resolve how you feel about this incident until you let the anger go.

This has been a series of lessons about control, anger, self-love, self-respect, judgments, and one-upmanship. Go inside and deal with your personal doubts and fears. Forget about everyone else. This is your life, and continuing the conflict will only keep you in negativity. Choose to be positive about how you exist. Every time you sense any negativity, immediately search for something positive in the event—it may be simply seeing what you never want to experience again.

ANSWER: There are a lot of lessons simultaneously playing out in your life. Overriding all of them is your own understanding of using your power and freedom of choice. You are overly sensitive to the emotions of other people because you do not understand your own emotions.

Don’t criticize yourself for the way you reacted after your boyfriend left. Being spiritual does not mean you have all the answers to things to make your life run smoothly. It only means that when something is bothering you, it is possible to recognize a life-lesson rather than finding a fault to be corrected. Relax and observe. Your year-long anxiety resulted from reliving confrontations and constantly going back over conversations to see if you could have done something differently. The past is gone. The future hasn’t occurred yet. Live in the now as you play your part in this timeframe. Feel the way your soul responds to the events in which you partake. Choose to continue holding on to the feelings if you don’t understand them, or learn what they mean and move on.

You try to control things around you so you can feel others are learning as well as you are. Let people experience their own journeys. Your colleague and your boss won’t bother you if you accept they have things to learn. They can affect the way you feel about yourself only if you accept what they say as true. Take those derogatory things that are said to you and ask: how do I feel about that? If you know it comes from a soul who is striking out to hold on to control, just let it go. When you don’t react, they will get tired and move on. If you acknowledge what you feel is a truth in their statements, then find out how you can change yourself to be more acceptable to you. You are the only one who should be important in the way you feel about yourself.

ANSWER: In the human being, sensory activities are what you live for, what you came into a body to be able to feel. Happiness, sadness, sexual release, belly laughter, and dealing with life lessons in order to gain wisdom set human existence within a physical body apart from your essence where you are in unconditional love and perfection – which sounds good, but gets boring fast and teaches you nothing.

What you are referring to as emotions are the physiological reactions of your body to stressors from things you are experiencing. On a conscious level it is sometimes impossible to control the body’s reaction to a strong stimulus. You may feel sad, be depressed, cry uncontrollably, laugh for no reason, or become numb to what is around you.

These are all responses to internal situations that rise to the surface. Things inside of you need to come out when something similar on the outside triggers a release. When a strong reaction arises, stop and go into the emotion and ask yourself why it is there. If you are open to the event, you will get a sense of the actions that are connected to that outbreak of feeling. Examine the cause and release the need to hold it within.

As you release each closeted event, you will have more freedom to interact with the things that cause immediate gratification, so that you may cry when needed and be happy when you choose. Each person is able to manifest the emotions they feel if underlying ones are not taking over. You may put aside feeling sad or unhappy and choose to see the world as happy and magnificent.

ANSWER: Your nephew, his father, and you agreed to assist each other with a number of Earth life lessons. The father feels the intensity of your connection to his son and fears that your nephew will ultimately love you more than he will his own father. These are lessons of lacking self-confidence, jealousy, possessiveness, and not being able to exhibit unconditional love for a child.

The child is here to spread love to all, to open others up to the energy that connects each of you and to share his talents, which will develop. He will choose, or not, to further enhance his psychic abilities. Some of his life decisions will depend on his interaction with his father. This loving soul chose the father he was born to in order to have the journey he is on; it is not your place to say otherwise.

Your lessons include being able to honor the choices of others, not needing to take control of others, and the discretion to know when you have no right to interfere with a situation. You will have a large part in this boy’s life but not at this time. You need to step back and let his cellular family help him find his choices at the moment.

Observe the situation from a respectable distance and be available when they wish to have you involved in the boy’s life. You will be able to monitor what he is doing from a distance and from your psychic connection with him. When he is older and has found his path and passion, you will be a part of that aspect of his existence.

ANSWER: Your struggle for harmony is still being done in fear. You are holding on to the belief that your ex still has a control over you. You must accept that he does have problems but they have absolutely nothing to do with you. You have not let loose of the ties he had over you. A person can control you, cause fear in you, and create nightmares for you only if you allow it. You have to believe the situation is still true in order to be affected.

It is time to feel the strength that you have within. You were strong enough to leave him; now you can be strong enough to be in the same place with him—seeing him for the injured person that he is. No matter what he says, or tries to imply to you, it cannot hurt you unless you accept his words as true. But why would you accept the words of an unbalanced person as being true?

The other people are coming into your life because, since you have not released completely the hold your ex has on you, the universe thinks you still want to experience this type of behavior, so it sends more of it your way. Say “cease and desist.” Tell everyone you no longer have to deal with this type of activity and walk on by, ignoring what these people have to say.

Begin your harmony with only positive energy in your thinking and being. When anything that is negative or that troubles you appears in your life, find a positive aspect and build up the positive energy. If some negative people try to interfere with your happy world, just say to them you no longer need such negativity in your life and move on. The choices are yours.

When it rains, you can be unhappy that you are getting wet or you can be happy that the flowers will soon be in bloom. When it is cold outside, you can complain or you can be grateful you get to wear the new coat you purchased. It is all in the way you look at the world.

ANSWER: Your fear originates from the stories that have been told to you and your imaginings of what happened, since your memory is not intact. The ideas are even worse than the actual facts. Those who have told you about the events have dramatized the situation, giving it more “evil” disruptive energy.

Most of what you read into your experience is the fear, anger, and disgust of the well-meaning “historians.” This is further embellished by what you have seen on media reports and television stories about child abuse. Yes, you were sexually abused. You did not cause it to occur. A sick mind was behind what happened. Seeing that person on occasion has prevented you from being able to step back and examine your feelings.

This was a lesson you decided to have to see how long it would take you to understand that this was not your fault and that you have the strength to work through the negativity that you sense around the fear of letting a child of yours be a victim in the future. You don’t want anyone else to have to experience what you went through, particularly not a progeny of yours; so, you reason, no children = no continued abuse.

You can remove the impact of this abuse by reliving the events either under hypnosis or in deep meditation. Confronting the abuser’s higher self, or soul, without having to face the person physically, will allow you to deal with the emotions you harbor within. Talk to this unconscious self and see if you can understand the person’s motivation and can release the fear you have concerning the abuse. Not facing this energy will allow it to remain a barricade against a normal adulthood.

Your self-worth and confidence are being impacted by permitting this fear to remain without dealing with it. The abuse occurred while you were so young so that you could recognize it and deal with it and still have a happy, productive adulthood and family.

ANSWER: Stop living in the past; be aware only of the present and use that to direct your energy. Condemning a person’s past actions makes you a very judgmental individual. Enlightenment is the process of forgoing judgment, which is an instrument of the ego. Try vesting yourself solely in evaluation.

A spiritual person sees nothing as right or wrong but merely the lessons other people choose to learn. You cannot convince people to accept your impression of something unless they choose to see your point of view. Many people do not like to admit they have been wrong about an issue, and they will fight your suggestions on principle alone.

Remember, every soul chooses its lessons, and those who share them have also chosen to partake in this scenario. Another’s lifestyle and lies can affect you only if you choose to let them. Ignore what has happened. Reach out to the children without demonstrating judgment. Make yourself available to talk to them about anything but their contact with their mother. They are individuals living their own lives.

As long as you do not constantly remind your brother of how you condemn his choices, he will be willing to talk to you. Speak of the weather, his job, your vacations, the kids’ lives. Be the one who buries the past and doesn’t constantly harp on it. Being reminded about the past is making it impossible for him to envision anything else in his new relationship.

There are no dark spirits involved in anyone’s life. There has been a tendency to choose negative energy over positive, but that is easy to change once it is discovered how pleasant positivity makes the environment.

ANSWER: This so-called friend of yours is a bully and control freak. She wants to be acknowledged as an expert and fantastic person. She frequently rides on the successes of others and takes all the credit. Her way of doing things is to discredit and intimidate those whose work she claims.

This is just another chapter of your life lessons about loving yourself and accepting your magnificence. You are always ready to believe what others say and what they want you to do, thinking they have your interests at heart. Because you want others to accept you as an honest and caring person, you blindly take all people as you want them to be without questioning their motives. This leaves you open to being played and manipulated as they desire.

You have come a long way, but you are still not confident in your own abilities and look to others for a sense of self. You can be betrayed only when you set yourself up for the betrayal. After all this time you should be aware of the symptoms when the action begins. You deny what you are feeling when the manipulation starts and then are “shocked” when the action is completed.

You need to begin to live in the moment and question the motives of others. One of your lessons is called discernment. It is to feel exactly what is behind the actions of others. It is sensing what your part is in a situation and making decisions based on what you desire, not what others want.

Letting go is acknowledging what has happened and making the decision not to allow it again. Assign no blame; just be grateful you recognized the pattern so it can’t happen again.

ANSWER: Each soul having a physical existence on planet Earth is a piece of energy broken off from the Creator or Source. As such you have the ability to bring to yourself that which you want and need to experience. The way that you accomplish this feat is through your intention. But you may use your powers to bring something to yourself only if it does not interfere with some action you have previously begun for learning purposes, or something you set up to occur before you came into bodily form.

The Law of Attraction in many forms has been a best seller for almost 100 years as people have sought to have an easy fix for their problems. It has sold as many books and courses as those practitioners of weight reduction programs. Just as weight loss is a discipline of altering your life patterns, so is the application of LOA.

You speak of any type of “like bringing like” to you as a violation of free will. That is not so because you are the broadcast point—you decide what you want to think, what energy you desire around you, and what dreams you would like to see fulfilled. LOA is merely a starting point for things coming from you. If someone else desires to do something, as with your stalker, that comes from them and not from you. However, if you spend time fixating on the event, you do give power to it to continue.

The biggest problem with your intentions being in the driver’s seat is that you have been taught to doubt your strengths and to believe in your limitations. You want someone to tell you what to do so that you do not have to take the responsibility for the result. Accepting what is said by those people who want to sell you their belief system is saying they know more about what you need than you do.

When you get upset by what someone is preaching, don’t listen. Giving attention to their ideas gives credibility to them. Ignore them. If others choose to join their bandwagon of true believers, you don’t have to be there, as well. Once the world was populated by people who swore the sun rotated around the Earth and the planet was a flat surface that you would fall off of if you got too near the edge. Always ask yourself if it feels right to you. LOA works in some situations when all the factors are in place, but it is not an absolute certainty for everything.

ANSWER: Your stepdaughter did not like you taking the place of her mother. She had the family thinking that she was being psychologically abused by you and your relationship with her father because you did not let her make decisions about things she wanted. It was easy for the family to make you a scapegoat, because accusing your husband only further antagonized his daughter. She has always been a very needy, manipulative, spoiled brat.

This is a lesson for you not to give credibility to the accusations of others when you know they are wrong. You are giving much too much weight to the significance of these people. Relax and consider the source: they are not reliable, friendly, or people you would want to spend a lot of time with, so learn to ignore them. They are never going to apologize for what they have said and done because they will never admit wrongdoing.

A lesson from this is to realize that you are here living your own life. You cannot change the way other people think or feel unless they consent to a change, so stop wasting your time. Love the fact that you can ignore their petty, hateful ways, because it is something they have to experience but you don’t have to take part in. Be yourself and forget about them; giving too much attention to them prevents you from making your own decisions and progress. Choose to be happy.

Your husband finally realized what his daughter was doing and how she was playing other family members against you. He is ashamed for not seeing it earlier. He confronted her, and she is punishing him in her own way for calling her out.

No one needed to taint her thinking. It is just a case of her not getting her way and pouting like a three-year-old. She needs to grow up and start taking responsibility for her actions. She needs her other relatives to stop facilitating her poor behavior, but that is their joint lesson.

ANSWER: You became totally obsessed with the idea this man was your twin flame. You don’t even really know what that means but you think it is everything you need. As a result of your obsession you began to stalk this man telephonically to the extent you could have been arrested for harassment. You disrupted his life and did not honor him by allowing him to make choices; you were just demanding compliance with your desires. He has no plans of ever contacting you again. You may think that you love him, but he despises you for ruining his life.

If you wish to have a vibrationally compatible companion, you have to learn to share, not to set all the parameters yourself. The way you are proceeding right now, you would only draw to yourself an egotistical man who wants to make all the decisions. If you want a spiritual union you have to get rid of your judgment and go with the flow of the universe.

First you need to get out of the past, out of your imagined dreams. You are unable to draw another into your life as long as all you can think about is your interpretation of the past. Close the cover on that escapade. Begin to live in the now with no history to get stuck in. Outline what type of person you wish to share your life with, and make sure he is available and not committed to another.

ANSWER: You have convinced yourself that the only thing that will make you feel good in this lifetime is a relationship with someone who will respect and comfort you. You set expectations for situations that come to you and are disappointed when they don’t work out the way you had planned. That is a need to control people and things.

The disappointments will continue to appear in your life if you continue trying to direct things. When you lust after a person who is unavailable, you are saying that person should come to you and the person’s partner should disappear. You are attempting to control two people. Control is an illusion and will work only with the consent of those being controlled.

When you say you love and respect yourself tremendously, you are lying to yourself. Souls can be disappointed only when they set themselves up for a failure. If you loved yourself, you would have enough love and respect for yourself to satisfy your needs while you work through those lessons you are already aware of—your spouse and children.

You imply by your desire to find companionship that you share nothing with your children and that they do not respect and love you. Is that true? And why is that? Will you not let them share the need for love you have because you need adult interaction? What about them? They need the opportunity to have companionship and respect, too.

A. Dear long-suffering wife, it’s time that you admitted to yourself that from the very beginning you overlooked your husband’s destructive tendencies because you were confident that you could get him to change his ways. As we have been teaching throughout all our messages, every soul has complete freedom to choose how they live their incarnation. In order for your husband to amend what you consider his wayward ways, he must choose to make the changes.

You are attempting to control the life of another, and control can only be exercised with his consent. From the very beginning of your relationship, your husband was never deceitful with you. You were aware of his partying lifestyle and were right there with him at the start.

We commend you for now realizing that numbing your senses doesn’t allow you to go inside and connect with your inner self. This change in your approach to life allows you to grow consistently in awareness and wisdom. You have bypassed your husband’s energy level. It is now up to you to make decisions based upon the fact that you cannot force him to change his behavior.

You can choose to remain in the situation and to occupy yourself with concern for him, or you may see that—in order for you to progress further along your life’s pathway—you must cut loose from the desire to control another. The choice is up to you. Remember, nothing is right or wrong; everything is just a lesson that you chose to experience.

ANSWER: You have turned yourself into a victim feeling beaten and betrayed by your former friends. Your world has turned into me, me, and me. Your distancing from friends is because they were tired of the insistent talk about yourself and what you thought you deserved which was not coming to you. The company you crave is on your own terms and you run away from normal interactive exchanges with others where everyone shares the spotlight.

Your special friend is to a saturation point of your negative talk about things that yo don’t find beneficial to you. She is confused because you are no longer the person she befriended so long ago. Your open sharing has disappeared and a self-interest has taken its place. Your disagreements stem from you no longer wishing to give any respect to her opinions and desires if they vary from yours.

Your view of life has become distorted because you choose to only look at things with tunnel vision goggles. These glasses only take into consideration your thoughts, desires, and feelings. Continuing to live with these in place will drive away anyone who would communicate or try to interact with you. It is time to take off the goggles. Look around you 360 degrees. See how the rest of the world is dealing with the same issues which face you. Understand that in order to work with others you have to compromise and not always be the one who makes all the decisions. The choice to do this or not is up to you.

ANSWER: Your friend is spending a lot of time on lessons of control, self-worth, and self-image. She is totally unaware of what she feels or thinks about things and relies completely on the word of others for her interpretation. She is desperately seeking love, and her current sense of love is coming from this phantom she has never met. It is easier for her to give him total say over her life because she has made up her own reality around his communications—it has become her existence.

This man is a manipulator and controller. He sees her as a pet who can be made to do anything he asks of her. Your friend is running from the physical reality of her life, a life which she finds unfulfilling and boring. Because she has never met this man, she can see him, in her imagination, as a savior, a knight in shining armor. To her he is the guide she always sought. She has never been able to satisfy herself, so she thinks he will make all her decisions and everything will become as in her desired fairyland.

At this time she will do anything he asks for fear of losing him if she doesn’t. She has to realize that this is not living, that she has to take responsibility for her own future and exercise her freedom of choice. The choices are now up to her. There are too many variables out there for us to see what she will decide. Send hopeful intentions to your friend so that she might see what is happening and break the spell he has her under.

You must realize that this is just another lesson that she sought to have during this lifetime. It has nothing to do with any intentional desire to hurt you. Reach inside to the love of your soul and the unconditional love that all carry within. Refresh yourself there and then venture forth into new experiences with a knowing love that you are doing what you came here to do, and the hope that she too will reach that awareness.

ANSWER:  This man has never loved you in the way you love him. He is merely using you to prove that he can. He gets satisfaction out of how you will do whatever he says or drop anything else you are doing because he waves you to him. You were a conquest for him when he became your first love. He is marvelous at manipulation and you felt you were the prize princess put up on a pedestal. You were, in fact, just a prize he coveted.

There was a lot of brainwashing that went with his early display of affection. Because of your age and lack of experience you believed he was prince charming. In reality he was a puppet master who could control you. He worked on seeing how much deceit, breaking of promises, and downright bad behavior you would tolerate. You were a game and a challenge to him.

When he learned you were about to get committed to another, he ramped the game up to the next level by his efforts to get you back. He never intended for it to be long term or monogamous. He just wanted to see if he could still dance you around on his strings. The only things he truly cares about are his own needs and desires. After a while he gets bored with one conquest and moves on to another. By his behavior, he gets the woman to break it off so he can say they were just doing what they chose and it had nothing to do with his antics.

To stop this cycle and remove his strings from you, you need to realize what type of person he is. He is egotistical, manipulative, and narcissistic. He loves only himself and will never bend to the wishes of a mere woman. You have him imprinted in your beliefs as your savior, who can be a worthy partner. Go inside and examine all that has happened and see if that is how you actually feel about him. Stop living in your dreams. You have given him mystical status and he is nothing. Take back the power he stole from you—the power to make your own choices. Never do anything unless it feels right to you.

ANSWER: You are allowing people to manipulate you by being so intense about your son and how he relates to school and to others. You are so focused on your son’s performance that it is impossible to function. Your son is very intelligent, and it has become a game for him to see how frustrated he is able to make you. You see him only as a student. Look at him as a spoiled little boy who will do anything to get his way – and he is succeeding.

Others see what he is doing to you and they are trying to tell you. It is not your tension creating problems with people; it is your inability to see anything but his studies. It is not that others don’t understand you – you are the one refusing to listen to what others have to say or suggest.

Your son does not need to study as much as you think he should because he can do the work if he wishes. He has created a battlefield in your home and is seeing if he can breach your command center and take charge of everything. He has already captured you and made you a prisoner of war. You are at his mercy because you gave him that power.

It is time to take back your power. You are never going to be able to make him do anything that he does not want to do. Make his grades the important thing, not his amount of studying. Do not allow him any privileges such as video games, sports, television, or talking to friends unless his grades are at a respectable level. He will fight back, tell you he hates you, or he doesn’t care, but after a while he will want to have his freedom back.

Release the strain of responsibility for him. You can only be his mother, not the one who takes his hand and leads him through life. He has plenty of time to be a boy once he stops being the man-child directing your household.

ANSWER: A human’s essence – the soul – is composed of formless, unconditionally loving energy. It has no definable sex because that is a feature of a physical form. The male/female dichotomy that you see in your question is part of homo sapiens’ duality. It was designed to allow a soul to be able to work with many chosen life lessons based upon the concepts attributed to one sex or the other.

If a soul connects with its Source energy, it has characteristics of both what is referred to as masculine and feminine traits. Depending on the direction of the life’s learning, the sex may be the pivot point of the exercises. Surrounding sexual urges themselves, you find the first major lesson of ambiguity. This balances societal beliefs against the inner feelings of the soul.

The lesson becomes deciding what is more important: following society’s limiting restrictions or allowing the body the ability to explore its potential for and from different situations. The only thing that is definite in interpersonal relationships is that it is imperative to have one man and one woman in order to procreate. Any combination of two persons can work with and experience the various configurations of love.

Heterosexuality is the societally accepted mating because it allows for increasing the population. Homosexuality permits testing one’s sense and love of self to follow internal feelings rather than the dictates of society. Some souls, in order to have varied experiences, are bisexual.

As we say all the time, nothing is right or wrong. Just as some marriages work for a while and then one or both parties grow apart from the original reasons for joining and get a divorce, sexual energy preferences may change as the need for additional lessons develops.

ANSWER: You chose to marry this woman so that the lesson of honoring yourself could be practiced. Your low expectations of life and marriage show your lack of confidence and self-worth. If you work on understanding and dealing with these lessons, you will see your life change completely. Your desire for sexual satisfaction will not be able to be obtained until your self-image is modified.

There is no way that you can change the way your wife approaches her life unless she chooses to change. You are to some degree as prudish as she is, except in your dreams, because you have participated in this sexual void for so many years. You claim it was because of low expectations, but it was really from fear. You are afraid of what others besides your wife will think of you and how they will respond to your sexual thoughts.

You overcame your tendencies, at least on one occasion, or you would not have your beautiful daughter. Staying in this tension-filled household with the desire to share your daughter’s life may not be the best way to raise her. Children are acutely aware of strain between their parents and react to it in many ways including acting out, depression, and mimicking the behavior of their parents. You will be showing her what a dysfunctional family is like – not a happy, contented one.

If you choose to remove yourself from this unhappy marriage, in search of a truly sexual sharing relationship, it will allow your daughter to see a functioning, happy couple at least during the time she spends with you. Stop making excuses for depriving yourself of a normal functional lifestyle and choose to live.

Visualize what type of a person you know you can be, and then bring a sexual partner into your life. If you convince yourself you have no choice but to remain with your wife, then you have no chance of creating any different energy around yourself, which includes a continuation of the sexual void you now know so well. The choice is yours.

ANSWER: Your partner is a selfish, bullying narcissist. He only cares about himself and his desires. He is intrigued with stories about “bad boys” or people who have made pacts with demons to ensure that all their pleasures are satisfied.

He doesn’t want to have any restrictions placed upon his actions, while wanting you to do his bidding. This is not the result of a karmic vow or a required service contract to the dark forces. It is his excuse for doing whatever he wants.

If he were to cleanse these behaviors and cut ties to these needs, he feels it would lead him to a very boring, unexciting, unfulfilled life. He is immature in his attitude toward responsibilities and enjoys playing this role of being a dark force. He has totally convinced himself it is so—so for him it is true.

You will not be able to help him until he is ready to examine where his lifestyle fits into society. He has no idea who he is as a soul and really couldn’t care less. This is part of a life lesson he came to experience. He has to first understand it as a lesson before he can learn from it and then go in another direction.

ANSWER: Most of the readings where people are told to step away from their unpleasant sensations have to do with one of two things. The first is standard psychology where the therapist tells the person to assume coping mechanisms that cover up the sadness and don’t do anything to heal or understand the causes.

The second is the spiritual principle of manifestation where the soul chooses between negative and positive energies. These choices are most easily accomplished by going into the cause and removing the trigger that is coming out as discomfort. It is in this second category that the work you suggest would benefit so many people.

Sexual abuse is a hot button issue everywhere these days, and the “me too” movement has allowed some women to speak out for the first time because judgment is set aside and their experiences are being dealt with as a stumbling block to mental health.

You fully understand the spiritual growth to awareness as to why you have chosen to experience this abuse. You may not be able to talk to everyone in spiritual terms, such as freedom of choice, but you can allow them to see that the guilt, lack of self-worth, and hiding from their trauma can be reversed.

As you have said, the choice is yours. Be assured that the path will not be easy but the benefits can be substantial. Letting others know they have a voice and can change the way they see themselves is monumental. Know that your first target group will be women’s safe houses and clubs. Start slowly and the demand for your words will continue to rise.

ANSWER: You are a perfect example of the soul coming to Earth to learn lessons. Only within the physical duality can the soul gather knowledge. When older souls, with many prior Earth experiences, enter the phase of their incarnation where they concentrate on a business, they are often conflicted.

A younger soul with little wisdom concentrates on situations that permit simple life-lessons such as greed, control, betrayal, etc. Once many similar lives have been lived, the soul then enters into phases of reaching out to share information it has obtained with other less-informed souls. Then an issue may occur. The soul is still in a physical setting and must be able to support itself, creating a potential problem.

Your world is currently in a transitional phase. During this phase the older souls are awakening and wanting to use their skills to help others reach enlightenment, but there are not always enough other awakening souls available to allow the older soul to support its physical needs with compensation. In your case, your area is not into holistic healing sufficiently to allow you to support your needs.

There are a number of directions you can take. Employment with the government will provide sufficient cash to enable you to develop a healing clientele in your spare time, and then you would be able to continue with this dual arrangement or transfer into healing completely. You will be opening a lot of your co-workers to new ideas and feelings. Or, you may move to an area where holistic lifestyles are encouraged and begin a practice there.

Neither is right nor wrong for your intended path. This is a freedom of choice decision and one best made accessing your innermost feelings.

ANSWER:  Each soul has chosen a unique path for its lifetime. You are judging this life of yours against what you perceive as “normal” by what society says and what you have seen. There is no such thing as normal or what all should expect to happen to them—that includes, lovers, friends, family, and employment.

You chose a very difficult set of life lessons to learn before you arrived. Your greatest is accepting yourself in the face of your bipolar mood disorder. Many people judge those with this ailment as unworthy of getting any of their attention, which is one of the reasons you find it difficult to have friends. You have a tendency to hide behind your condition as an excuse instead of putting yourself out there and meeting new people.

You are not cursed. This is not a situation of bad karma coming to haunt you from a past life. You have decided that, rather than having to take responsibility for yourself to be comfortable in society, you accept that you have no hope to change. However, change is as close as making the decision to step out the door and find others with your same ailment, so you feel like one of the group.

Your mission is to find ways to deal with your doubts and fears about life. You have stated what they are, so all you have to do is figure out a solution to release the grip of their fear. Ask why you feel the way you do about the “lacks” in your life. Be quiet while your inner self gives you the answers. You will then have a direction if you choose to follow.

You control all the choices for the rest of your life. Don’t let anyone tell you what you are or how you have to handle things. Take a look at how well you have cared for your mother—a sometimes very complicated task—and know you can do what you set your mind on doing.

ANSWER: You find yourself in what we call the enlightened fourth dimension. It can be unnerving at first because all the signposts have been removed and your direction is up to you. Your mind is a product of judgments made by the ego, and once the ego has been set free, intention drives all. There are no remaining judgments to act as directives. All responsibility has shifted to you.

You are physical, yet you have shed your physically restrictive ego judgment. Having no fears or doubts means that you have completed, or stepped away from, the lessons you chose to address in this lifetime. You are connecting with your essential self, or soul, and everything that happens to you is the product of your intention.

To orient yourself, step back, close your eyes, and “feel” who and what you are. The choice to feel physical emotions such as happiness, sadness, excitement is at your discretion. Without choosing a direction, you feel like a rudderless ship floundering on the ocean.

Connect with your inner self and use the power that is within to restart your engines for more physical experiences, if you wish. The choice is yours.

ANSWER: You have had many lives on Earth and wanted something that was going to challenge you in this life. As a soul, you have total control over what you bring into your life. You draw to yourself what you need to experience in order to fulfill your own desires. As a human, you have fallen into the judgmental path of society and want to be led, or at least find an easy way to live this life.

The purpose for a soul coming into the negativity of human living is to figure out how to see the positive aspects of everyday life that are so easy to ignore when you feel sorry for yourself. You have accepted that this is a horrible place, because to see anything else would mean you have a lot of work to do to advance to the meaningful life you seek.

Everyone interprets daily life based upon their experiences and beliefs. If your experiences are judged – and in your case you see them all as bad – then the future looks bleak. Your beliefs mirror the decision that nothing will be anything but disastrous, and that the world is against you. Until, and unless, you change the way you see the world, your life will remain as it is now.

Each person creates their own reality. When you look at the area around you and you see it as dystopic, you will overlook anything that is positive and points the way in another direction. Get out of your mind, which says there is nothing you like in your life.

Envision what you would want in your “world.” Look around and find things you feel comfortable with, even if they seem out of context with what you have seen before. Whenever you feel nothing but negativity, know that your prejudices are concealing the positive alternatives. Search for happiness and joy; it is right there, but you need to bring it into the light.

ANSWER: When was the last time you found yourself totally without fear? When could you truthfully admit you had faith in yourself and your decisions? When was the last time you listened to and trusted your intuition? Did you ever feel you knew who you were? Your vacillation back and forth results from not feeling you should take responsibility for your decisions.

First thing you need to do is wake up and be present in the moment. When your attention is only on what you are doing right now you do not even think about the past or the future. What this does is allow you to access your feelings and see what your inner self—your higher self—tells you is the right thing for you at that moment. Ignore what might have been right or wrong for you in the past.

If your “word,” about what you are going to do or what you think, never stays the same, people will disregard you as not being dependable. Would you trust a person whose willingness to help you keeps changing? If you don’t know what you believe, you cannot tell someone else, and you appear to be presenting different views to different people, which to most appears as if you seek to be dishonest.

Your path is to learn to know yourself and your abilities. Connect with your soul, that feeling of unconditional love within. Always ask what you feel about a situation, not what you think about it. Let your decisions come from your feelings. Don’t let yourself be influenced by the contradictory information that flows from society. Whenever there is more than one person, there are multiple ideas as to what you should do. Take responsibility for your life and the way you are going to live it—that is your path.

ANSWER: Earth children live in a vibrant world where it is easy to have friends and acquaintances all over the planet. Before the computer a child’s world was first defined by how far he could walk, then by how far his bicycle could take him, then by what his home’s television set could bring him, and now by his knowledge of the use of a computer. Children are able to compare notes on life-all over the planet-by moving their fingers around the keyboard.

Could you imagine what joy parents in the 1940s, who couldn’t get their child to stay in school and definitely not get them to do any reading for fun or informational purposes, would have seeing their child spending hours reading off a monitor? A computer is much more than a communications device-it is an educational tool. It allows a perspective to be developed about the future. It opens prospects never before imagined. “I could do that? Wow!”

The danger is when the computer becomes the child’s world, an excuse not to interact physically with others. Gaming is even helpful to develop reflexes, evaluative skills, and self confidence; just be sure those talents get carried outside on to the sports field or into group activities.

As a parent, just like monitoring the foods your children consume, you must be sure they have a balance of social skills. Some of these can readily come from computer or cell phone time. If you want to turn time spent on Facebook into actual face-to-face time, help your child plan outside activities, or a yard party, or a sporting event. Moderation is important.

ANSWER: Each person on Earth is a soul having a human experience that it chose before coming. Your father pre-determined the lessons he wished to face and it is his journey to figure out how to work with them to learn as much as he can. You and the others involved knew what was coming and desired to find out whether you could deal with it as a spiritual lesson or be kept in negativity with fear, anger, jealousy, and the desire to control others.

The best thing to do is to be true to yourself. You and your brother should be open with your father about your concerns for his welfare. Condemning her to him will serve no purpose but to alienate him from you. While she is a very negative and manipulative being, she is not involved actively in black magic. You have spooked yourself with fears of things you don’t understand.

Your father loves you but he also has feelings for this woman. His money is his own to do with what he wishes. Your brother should try to get a commitment regarding his uni fees if your father is willing – but he has no obligation.

ANSWER: Peter is a mirror and a gauge for you to see how far you have grown during this time. You were a different person 14 years ago with divergent ideals and intentions for the rest of your life. You have now settled down and are ready to share yourself with someone else. You were shy around others because you didn’t have faith in yourself. Your confidence has increased to fit your abilities.

You did make a contract with him to appear at different times in your life to increase your awareness of self. Your energies are very compatible now and continued growth will occur while you are together. You must both exercise your freedom of choice for the future.

A: The employee who is leaving has always wanted your job. She was unable to convince your superior that she was the one who deserved the job you have worked so hard to maintain. She is leaving because they would not listen to her demean you any longer. The company is extremely happy with your work and the way you supervise the rest of the employees. They would be the first ones to tell you if they didn’t think you were doing a fantastic job.

The departing employee hopes to leave you riddled with doubts about yourself and a legacy of ill feelings. She tried to ingratiate herself to the others so that she could continue to taunt you, through them, after she left. You are making it easy for her by accepting the garbage she has left around.

Your pathway to employment bliss is self-confidence. When you allow yourself to realize what a terrific job you have been doing and are doing, you will know you are the reason the store is so successful. If you let the rumors she laid take hold, you are saying to the others either “what she said was true” or “I don’t deserve to be your boss.” Do you truly think that?

Take inventory of everything that you have done. Accept that you are the moving force behind the sales. Don’t listen to what others say. What they say cannot hurt you unless you believe it is true and accept their lies. Stick by what you know.

ANSWER: You are trying to serve two masters at once – yourself and society. You do not have to satisfy or please anyone besides yourself. You are not living this life for someone else. Your spiritual self, the part of you that is having this human journey, is the only thing you need to listen to in order to grow toward awareness of self.

The anger that is inside you is one of the lessons you chose to experience in this life. The feelings that come with your explosions are there to let you know that, in order to progress, you must learn why the anger is there and how to deflate it.

You can halt the train by choosing to do so. You have control of your own actions. When you feel yourself getting angry, stop what you are doing and ask yourself why you are getting angry. If you listen, your unconscious will tell you why it is so. Then you have the ability to make the choice to stop holding on to the ideas from which the anger arises.

Your guides are there to help you, but they cannot do the work for you. They will help you with the understanding, but you have to choose to change the way you think about things. A quiet, peaceful disposition is the key to being able to hear your guides. Take the time to do a calm meditation and ask for them to make contact.

Spirits do not always “talk” to those in human form. They may use signals, such as signs or calling your attention to something written. They may even give you a smell or a sound as you ask a question to indicate that you are on the right track. Have patience and keep asking.

ANSWER: The phrase “following one’s passion” has several implications. It refers to the elementary concept that a soul has total freedom of choice and that learning about yourself can only occur if you are in touch with your inner self or driving force. It looks toward souls’ ability to manifest that which they desire to experience. It encourages one to take responsibility for their decisions and to understand that as time changes, so will your need for diversity.

As a soul goes through their chosen life lessons, they may reach a point where the lessons no longer drive their life, and they are free to create a world of their liking. Now, this may be one of rest and relaxation, or it may be fulfillment of things always hoped for, or it may be to exercise the wisdom gathered through their lessons. They might have a strong need to help the less fortunate, or perhaps their ability to make art speaks to and is pleasing to others, and they wish to share.

Those whose passion is for a pursuit that will not financially support their human existence will have to occupy a portion of their time with one that will feed and clothe them. These people generally choose something that does not involve too much thought since that part of themselves will be taken up with planning the next passionate endeavor. They might find the perfect answer in washing dishes, cleaning streets, bussing tables, picking up garbage – none of which requires deep thinking.

You will find that making the connection to a passion enhances your life by being a force that “pulls” you through the rest of your time. It is all consuming and satisfying. But it, too, like all other phases of your existence, should be constantly evaluated to see if there is something that has a more dynamic effect upon your physicalness. Don’t be afraid to change or to try something new.

ANSWER: What you are saying is that you want to intermingle the two aspects of your life. Consider a scenario where you are at school in a criminal justice class and you want to speak in Spanish because you are attempting to become proficient in that subject as well. Do you think your Criminal Justice instructor is interested in how much Spanish you know? We don’t think so. That does not mean that one is more important or better than the other. Each has its own place.

Police work is a very fine profession. It gives you a chance to come into contact with a lot of people who are having difficulties in their lives. With your understanding of metaphysics you would be uniquely qualified to understand and assist them. That does not mean you have to convert them to your way of thinking—just give them alternative ways to think about things.

You are correct that you will not be able to discuss metaphysical principles with the majority of your fellow officers, but you only work 40 hours a week. You do not have to spend your free time with only other police officers. Find a discussion or work group to spend time with to increase your understanding of your divine journey.

ANSWER: Let’s face it – you are rebelling against the wishes of your family who believe this school is the thing you need to do to be successful in life. The problem is that you have absolutely no interest in the program. You need to sit down and talk to your parents about this. They do not realize the stress this situation is placing you in and the extent of your discomfort.

You are also a loner right now – you are happiest when you are all by yourself and doing what you wish. The teachers and elders that you fear have to do with the fear you also harbor for your parents and other relatives. If you can sense why this fright emerges, you will be able to work your way through it.

Part of this fear originates from a lack of confidence in yourself and your decision-making process. You have always been the “dutiful” little child who didn’t question the dictates of others, and now you are faced with the results of being directed by them. Fellow students irritate you because they are where they want to be and are enjoying this experience that you find so onerous.

You need to figure out what a fantastic person you are and that you have freedom of choice to travel through life. Realize the power and abilities you have inside from your essence of Source energy. You are the same as every other soul having a human experience and need to love yourself for the fact that you are living it every day. Find your voice and power and let others know who you truly are.

ANSWER: You and your wife have been very useful intermediaries between Earth and us. We thank you for all you have done and will continue to do if you so choose. Mixed in with the wonderful life you have enjoyed together has been a series of lessons. Your wife’s cancer is yet another one.

You have been strong as a pair, and now your lessons are individual. As she deals with the mental, emotional, and spiritual trials of this disease, you have become her witness, observing and supporting her choices. You are also faced with the inability to help her as you have done so very many times during your marriage. This is your lesson of experiencing lack of control and not having a way out of it.

Both of you are extremely strong people who have helped a lot of clients, and now you need to recall the advice you have received for others in this same situation. You are a soul having a physical experience. As a soul you have the same powers as Source energy. You can manifest, create, and in all cases exercise freedom of choice.

Replace any negative thoughts or stumbling blocks with positive, loving energy. Don’t accept a negative destination because society has said it is so. Reject negativity and promote positivity.

One of the possible conclusions for this current action is your wife returning to us before you. This was a known scenario before you came to Earth. You had considered experiencing the rebuilding of a new life without her, but it is not a forgone conclusion because of freedom of choice and the use of the powers and abilities of your essence.

ANSWER: You, as a soul having a human experience, have complete freedom of choice over what you do in this life. Nothing is pre-determined and unchangeable. Persons who have the ability to connect with the timeline of the universe don’t always get a true sense of the time in relationship to the present. There is no time, as you know it, in the universe – just here, because it records the transit of Earth around the sun. Therefore, “seeing” things may even come from another lifetime and not the present.

It is not easy to see the future because it is constantly changing. With everyone having freedom to make their choices, the future is not set and therefore not very predictable. Examine the statement you were given, taking this fact into consideration. If sometime in the future you needed for some reason to part with your horse, you would do so – but it won’t happen unless you choose that as an option.

Your horse is one of the 2 percent of animals who do have a soul and is from your soul group. You had decided to share a life to be there for each other in times of difficulty. There is no reason to part now. Continue to share, and talk with, this beautiful soul.

Remember, you always have choices. Do only what feels good to you; don’t let the opinions or advice of others sway you away from what resonates with you. This is your journey and you are the one making decisions. Don’t be influenced by the remarks of others who are not living your life.

ANSWER: There are way too many variables to be able to say with certainty that success is in your future. You stepped away from this profession so long ago that many things have changed and been re-worked since you were in the field. Recognition within the profession and a portfolio of past accomplishments is king.

If you feel this strong urge to jump back in, start small to see if it is really what you have created in your imagination. Try a friendlier location such as Chicago, Nashville, Las Vegas, or even your local theater groups. Talk to an agent about the requirements currently standard for professionals in the arts and also to get an idea about commercials, television, and other possibilities.

Acting is a labor-intensive career and not for the faint or hesitant of heart. It has also been a “grass is greener on the other side of the fence” idea for you. Define exactly what you want out of this life change; you are no longer 21. The majority of older actors in the business are those who payed their dues for decades; few newbies break into the business.

Part of your wanderlust is the unsatisfactory nature of your marriage and feeling a total lack of excitement. You can change this by bringing more things and people into your life. You are a wonderful teacher and could start a new generation of actors by putting on local presentations with the youth. Sure, you would not be the star in the production, but you would be the star in their eyes and those of their families.

A middle-aged or older person can aspire to become, say, an Olympic athlete because they performed well in college in a sport. But they must inventory their body, mind, and spirit’s current state of readiness for rededication to potential physical extremes, reconciling that with the condition of their aging bodies. Be realistic. How does reality dictate where you can go?

ANSWER:  You are going through a period of boredom and are seeing things only from the societal, third-dimensional viewpoint. The most important thing on your spiritual journey should be the passion you achieve and are able to follow. Passion is not something that can be wished into being or forced to appear. It comes upon you slowly when you feel drawn to an activity and decide to dedicate your existence to being able to continue until you reach a mastery of that talent.

When you work in a regular third-dimensional office, there is much you have to absorb along with the spiritual energy you are seeking. Since you are receiving monetary reward for the work undertaken, you have to conform to what your boss expects. This should not be considered part of your journey toward mastery but merely the setting within which you can find the way you seek.

You have set specific expectations of where you feel you should be and when that time should occur. This is limiting your progress because you are constantly stopping and judging if you are where you feel you should be.

Trust that your inner wisdom will call to you the opportunity you need to achieve your purpose. Stop thinking and analyzing things, because all this does is put you in a place where you use ego judgment to compare yourself with where you have seen or heard others are located. This has nothing to do with your development.

With each selection point you reach, don’t think about the alternatives but go inside and ask yourself how you feel about the options available. Follow the direction that feels like it is pulling you toward it. Do not hesitate to change your heading when it doesn’t feel like you are going with your highest and greatest good. Keep up faith in yourself.

ANSWER: When your world ends in disappointment, it is because your expectations are not in alignment with the potential reality. If your dream is to be a princess, and you study hard to learn all the pomp and circumstance but you don’t have the lineage, you will never be a princess. You might have a chance if you marry a prince but there are not many around.

You do not know who you are; that is why you can’t find “your clan” and feel constantly lost and lonely. You are a soul who is having a human experience, and you have the freedom of choice to decide how to live that life.

You think that you should duplicate the plan of some of the other people around you – your supposed “clan.” What you need to do is accept that you have the power and ability to create that which you would like to understand and live, and that it is a solitary journey. No one can do it for you, nor does anyone need the same situations as you.

You are drawing to yourself the things you had previously decided you wanted to learn about, but you are not allowing yourself to really look at them and find yourself within the chaos. When you reach the point where reality doesn’t match expectation, you throw your hands up in the air and say let’s do it all over again. Follow through with dreams and plans, being observant to what is happening in the moment, as you move forward.

You are giving up much too soon in new situations – before you see if they are right for you. Trying anything new and finding what is ideal for you is not something that can be done swiftly. You have to learn the procedures, get comfortable with them, and then make them your own.

ANSWER: You are facing situations in which your expectations are not being fulfilled to your specifications. When you make up your mind about something, you expect it will work out in that fashion. You didn’t want your friend to die, so you again fear death. You thought someone was your soulmate, so you decided he should act in a particular manner. There is no determination before you come to Earth as to who, if anyone, your mate will be. Stop living in your mind and dreams and start living in the now.

Why do you fear death? Can you do anything to prevent it? Every physical body ceases to exist, but the soul that animated it travels on to another adventure. It is possible to communicate with those who are in spirit form after death if you have the faith that you can do it, and if you try.

To sense your soul and other souls, enter into a meditation where you clear all the thoughts out of your head and feel for your essence of unconditional love. Enter that love and connect with the rest of the universe. You are a magnificent, powerful soul if you believe you are and use your powers to bring knowledge and wisdom to you.

Your true purpose in life is to find out who you are as a soul. Follow the above suggestions and you will reconnect with yourself.

ANSWER: We shall comment on your last question first. Why do you need confirmation or validation? Are you not going to continue to think you can do something unless you immediately know that you can? When you began school did you know instantly that you would graduate? Or did you stop after a day or two because you were not sure of your abilities instantaneously? Did you realize when you did graduate that you had consciously created that experience for yourself? No one else performed the learning or passed the exams for you.

Too many people out there talk about the ability to manifest as if there are no impediments to waving a magical wand and altering whatever you aim it at into whatever you wish. You are all very powerful beings, but since you entered physical form and chose to accomplish certain tasks while you were thus encapsulated, there are restrictions.

Souls decide that they will complete certain life lessons during their lifetimes and then come down with amnesia concerning these tasks. If one of your lessons is to experience poverty and want, your wishes alone to manifest plenty will not be fulfilled because of your own previous choices. You can work your way through school, get a great job, and find yourself with riches, but this would complete your lesson while manifesting out of thin air would not.

Physical manifestation of your wishes is possible with positive thought and intention if nothing stands in the way. The state of Isness, as you call it, is what others refer to as being awake or enlightened. You reach such a state when you have claimed all your powers, completed your lessons, and shed your fears. At that point nothing stands in your way or interferes with manifestation.

Fear and self-doubt sabotage your efforts to complete your desired creation. If the intention you release to the universe says “I would like to” or “I think I can,” you have already failed in your efforts. Both are equivocal and speak as much to failure as to success. Manifestation arises out of the unconditional intention to create. If your thoughts instead speak as if the action is already complete-“I am grateful for having created this opportunity”-it will appear.

We understand your concern as a parent for the education and sociability of your child. Remember, an mp3 player does not come pre-loaded with propaganda. This is one of the easiest ways to monitor what your child listens to. Stipulate that you will monitor the playlist on their device periodically.  

While there is the potential problem that children will cut themselves off from their peers and just listen to their headsets, many great benefits can come from their players. It makes most children part of a group in which they can discuss and share their music.  Many children use background music to filter outside interference that prevents concentration, thus improving their study habits and grades.   

Your middle child has agitation problems. Soft, relaxing music will allow him to become centered and quiet. He will have it with him at all times and it is better for him than medication. Your daughter wants to study the effects of a deep meditative state. Help her load meditative pieces on to her unit and the trips on the bus to and from school will allow her new insight.

Mp3 players are tools that can be used for many productive activities and not just recreational noise.  Your children just wish to tune in using modern technology.

ANSWER: Contained within your head is everything to which you have been exposed since entering that human form. This includes things that have been told to you, things that you have observed, and things that you have read. In addition, there is another section that is contributed by the unconscious aspects, including all the activity in which your soul has participated throughout all its incarnations of physicality. And if this isn’t enough, you also have access to communications from nonphysical beings, both those who are guiding you from the light and the discarnates if you allow them to add their opinions.

At the controls of all this information is you with your freedom of choice. You may determine what you permit to be of influence and what is just around for background noise. If you are looking for a way to pursue your life lessons and spiritual journey, you need to step out of ego judgment and into loving evaluation. This you do by rejecting any thoughts that come accompanied by judging, rating, or grading the possibilities they express.

Once you have removed the competitive suggestion, the next step is to run all the remaining proposals through your intuition, or your “feelings,” to see what resonates with you. There are a number of things you chose to have appear in your life, and these will be recognized by you if you evaluate them with your inner essence.

Don’t listen to what others have said because they are not in your shoes; they are not living your life. It does not serve you to worry about how some other choice might have worked out after the fact – just study and see what you learned from the choices with which you followed through.

Relax. Feel. Don’t be in a hurry to complete anything unless it feels totally the direction you seek. You can only really commit to one opinion at a time, so take your time to choose. If you find yourself fighting with an option, you have entered into judgment, so disregard it and move to something else.

ANSWER: Two things are occurring in this situation. Your associate is becoming a practitioner of the ego and he is aiding this first quest by practicing energy vampirism. He came into this life with a lot of lessons to learn. He pushed them aside so he might focus on meditation, wherein he sought all the answers without having to do any of the work. Everything is starting to fall down around him because the lessons are now constantly “in his face” and will not allow him to ignore them.

Lessons are accomplished by dealing with emotional issues within Earth’s duality (negative and positive arena). To sustain the contrasting possibilities, the ego, which is judgment, must be used. When one exists in a judgmental world everything is either right or wrong. Fear permeates the experiences, making them noticeable so they may be dealt with.

Control is a main lesson, and when he does not feel in control he attempts to seize it any way he can. When others do not play his game of master and slave he strikes out in anger and fear. Some he seeks to control are out of the judgment cycle and do not need to argue with him. They decide that they do not need to go into an energy battle with him, and he gets no satisfaction when a fight does not ensue. This is when he loses his control. Those who engage in his battle get their energy taken and absorbed by him, strengthening him and weakening them.

His divine energy is not drying up because the soul essence does not leave you. What happens is it gets so covered over with ego-driven situations that it is unreachable until the garbage is cleaned away. He is still an enlightened, unconditionally loving soul under all that ego, but he has a lot of housecleaning to do before he can shine again.

ANSWER: You are absolutely correct that a new job will not help at this time. You also have come to the correct conclusion about your dilemma—the problem is completely contained within you. You have no self-confidence or faith in yourself and your decisions. You hide from the lessons that would tackle and solve these problems and lead you to accept responsibility for this journey you are on.

You had many traumas early in this lifetime that are now forcing you to look into yourself—and you are refusing. We suggest that it is time to consult a professional who can assist you in reviewing and dealing with these blockages. A hypnotherapist, EFT practitioner, coach, or therapist can help you, but you have to make the decision.

You are as marvelous as any other soul. You are broken off from Source and therefore are all-powerful, knowing, and creative. You have to get to the point of accepting that you possess such abilities and then start using them. Right now it is easier for you to go around miserable rather than work to correct your self-image. Take baby steps into the world of confidence and control. You can do it if you are willing to put in the effort.

ANSWER: Concepts of attraction, pleasantness, and beauty are all judgments of the ego-based society. You are living in a society that chooses to rate, grade, and judge everything so they can define for themselves who they believe they are within that group of people.

As a single individual you have no one to rate yourself against. It is only if you choose to play the game of “I’m better than you are” that how others appear to you makes a difference. When you go along with their judgments, you are giving them all your power and saying that they know you better than you know yourself.

Children can be very cruel because they want to feel important – such as that they are “prettier” than someone else. If everyone else in the group has brown hair, then auburn hair makes you unique and they will try to take that difference and make it trivial or wrong. Your lack of self-confidence allowed that to happen.

You can continue to let the opinion of others control your life or take back your decision to give them power over you. Honor who you are. You are who you chose to be before coming to Earth. This was a choice to see if you could understand the implications and work through the physical and emotional hurt.

There are no spiritual ramifications surrounding how you look or how you dress. How you feel is the determining factor. Do something only because it feels right to you, not for the purpose of hiding or of placating anyone else. Whether you dye your hair, or even shave it off, should be a decision based completely on how you want things to be.

ANSWER:  Are you aware how many people would do anything to be in your position of being able to write with a publisher who believes in them? What a cop out to say you don’t trust yourself, and to blame where you are right now on what has happened in the past. You are great with the excuses but claim to be a positive person. A positive being does not see herself as a failure.

Use that knowledge of positive thinking to bring success and self-confidence into your life. Start with the book. If you had enough to be accepted by a publisher, then you are the only thing keeping the book from being finished. You are afraid of success because you see yourself as the product of failure. Unconsciously you feel that if you succeed, you have been lying to yourself. So what?

You have bought into that ideology of druggie song writers that they have to suffer in order to be able to write soulful songs. They use that as an excuse for their ridiculous behavior. You do not have to have a tough life to be able to write. All the answers are in your heart, not your experiences.

You are correct that you don’t love yourself enough. People who love themselves would not allow their life to spin out of control as yours is doing. Stop and feel all the fear and doubt in your life. Go into each one of these problems and ask: Why it is there? Where did it come from? Realize that you don’t have to carry these problems around, because they interfere with your success.

As you rid yourself of unhelpful thoughts, fill the freed space with unconditional love brought in from the universe. Spend time each day “sunning” yourself in that love and accept that you are that love. Reject anything but love and you will come to love yourself.

You have a very precious bundle of joy in your home who has two parents who are very concerned and loving. In your mind it is now the mother’s duty to be the primary caregiver, but your husband is willing to do that as well. He has found it so fulfilling being at home with his child that unconsciously he is sabotaging interviews for employment. He would never do anything to harm your standard of living, but he wants as much “daddy” time as he can get.

It is a spiritually rewarding endeavor to help direct the path of another. It does not have to be done full time. You have extremely strong feelings toward your child and are getting to the point of not wanting to share. This would be easy if you were not in this with your husband, so it is time to sit down and take a good look at the physical reality of your situation.

Both of you would prefer to continue the way it has been for the last year. Neither of you has been completely honest with the other about your desire to remain at home. You need to figure out a budget of the minimum that you need to get by. Then consider the possibility of both working part time outside the house. There also is the ability for you to work from home. Stop thinking in the conventional terms of your history; be creative.

ANSWER: We are not god. It is not our purpose or anyone else’s to tell you what to do. The situation in which you find yourself was thought up by you as a life lesson before you entered the body you now inhabit. You chose very difficult lessons, by Earth standards, and now have to work through them.

Among other things you chose your family and the society in which to live. You have accepted the belief systems of your family and the locale and must now decide whether you will follow exactly what they have dictated or whether you will choose to do what feels right to you.

No one from the non-physical realm is telling you to do one thing or another; beings of the light in unconditional love cannot tell you to do anything. All the advice you think you are receiving is coming from the customs of your family. You have the freedom to choose to go along with them or to do whatever else you want.

You must make the decisions. Nothing is right or wrong from a spiritual standpoint. All the choices come from learning lessons. You may make your own choices and learn from them or follow the herd and have to work on a similar lesson in the future.

The negativity you feel blocking you comes from thinking about going against what your family wants. It also is a list of all the bad things that you feel are holding you back. You have not once talked about having any faith in yourself that you can change what is happening. Start sending out a positive stream of the way you want to see your life, and it will begin to bring change to you if you believe and don’t do anything to hinder it.

You have the energy of Source within you, and with it you can manifest what you need. If you continue to look only outside for assistance, it will not come. Start inside, loving who and what you are, and then use that unconditional love to change your life.

ANSWER: A life on Earth is a choice of the soul. What you do with the parts of your life is completely up to you. The soul has total freedom to choose what you want to do and when you want to do it. Your ego has decided that it knows better than most people what is wrong with your world and what they should do about it. This is a way for you to control the opinion of society to agree with your judgments.

There is no right or wrong in the choice of activities while on Earth. The purpose for a soul to come into a body is to connect with their essence of unconditional love and hopefully with their memories of other lives they had led so they may use knowledge gathered in their past lives in this life.

Embedding oneself in ego and negativity does not allow you to see the whole picture of the energies in your life. (In other words, you cannot grow in spiritual wisdom while reclining in negativity since enlightenment comes only in positivity.) There are some lessons you can experience in your current field, if you feel you need to complete them and conquer your demons then you should proceed.

Writing all your dramas down may put it in a fashion you can understand and see your destination. Anything with a negative thrust will hold you firmly in the duality of the human third dimension. You wish for a connection to other dimensions but they can be accessed only in positive energy. The negative holds you down. Other dimensions are the domain of souls who are not caught in polarity.

You have seen the pathways – now the choice is yours as to what you experience and when.

A. First, you must realize that your friend’s reality is in being within the obsession that controls her. She has the freedom of choice to live within that reality, if she so chooses, and you will find it difficult to replace it until she wants to let it go.

Her obsession grew out of a lack of self-esteem and a desire to feel important. Her parents are always telling her that she is a nothing and never will be anything. This is her way of running away from her current existence. Within this obsession, she has the sense that, in fact, she is the star and is admired by thousands of people.

At this point she is just playing a role—rather like being in a continually running drama. Except for your suffering friendship, this action has not had a negative effect upon her college work nor her job.

She needs to have her self confidence restored. Compliment her on the things that she accomplishes that have nothing to do with her hero. Let her see that she is successful in her own life. Start with the fact that she is a great student, very well liked, and accomplished at her job as well.

Suggest that it might be beneficial for her to talk out her obsession with one of the school counselors, or her minister. You can’t make her change, but you can be there to help her find her way, if you choose.  

ANSWER: Get off your “pity-pot” and take a look at yourself and the realizations you express here. The most telling phrase is that life has always been about what your father had determined would be your passion. You need to learn to say no to any ideas or beliefs that do not originate from within you.

You have escaped taking responsibility for your life by listening to others. You have sat back, so when things aren’t as you would like them to be, you can easily say: ”Well, it didn’t work because I was only doing what he said, and he was wrong.” It is time to start using your freedom of choice and making your own decisions.

You haven’t found peace in love or career because you have tried to please your father, and he is not you. Take all your beliefs and examine each to see if you still want it to be a part of your life or if you want to replace it with your own ideas. Once all the ideas are yours, it will be easy to draw up a manifestation that brings you your desired life.

The men who have been drawn to you are ones who would please your father and are very much like him. No wonder they have never worked out! From this day forward, do only what you choose to do. Every time you go to make a decision, say: “How do I feel about this?” If it doesn’t make you happy and give you a feeling of resonance with it, try something else.

ANSWER: You instinctively know that your path lies in interacting with others. Your sense of not being in the right place is from not being challenged by what you do. To sell a product you try to convince someone that it is right for them. This is helping only with their material needs, not their mental and emotional ones.

A way to find your path is to begin to ease into helping the whole person, not just the purchaser. You mentioned coaching. You would find satisfaction in any aspect of coaching from Little League, to Boy Scouts, to Life Coaching. See what feels right to you and either volunteer to help with youth or take a life-coaching course, after which you can see whom you feel more comfortable assisting: children, youths, or adults.

You are very intuitive. If you open yourself to the energy waves of those around you it is possible to direct them through the problems they are unable to see without your help. For years others have been seeking you out for advice because of these abilities; now put them to use in a career.

At each new phase always ask yourself if what you are doing feels right for you. If it feels comfortable, continue; if not, don’t hesitate to move into something else.

ANSWER: You analyze everything that comes into your life. In addition, you develop specific expectations for what you want in your life. You are sabotaging yourself by demanding certain results from your actions. You need to have faith in yourself, not in someone else or some doctrine or some dream of what you think you need or want.

Stop thinking about everything and start feeling the direction in which you should proceed. Nothing is right or wrong – everything is just an experience. Start following those intuitive feelings you get that you question and analyze. Trust they appear for a reason. Souls pull to themselves what they need to experience.

Your mother is a very weak, easily manipulated, fearful person who thinks she is receiving the life she deserves. She needs to decide why she cannot leave your father and his abusive lifestyle. She needs to realize that the choice to leave is hers alone.

Work with your mother on knowing what self-confidence means. Help her to see that she is accepting her husband’s complete control, and it is only possible because she is allowing it. Getting out of the marriage is not a failure but an acknowledgment of her own power. The choice is hers to accept; she is as good as he and does not deserve the treatment he is dishing out.

A. Dear Worrier, you were raised always to please those around you without question. Now you no longer have to do exactly what your parents, relatives, church, and society want you to do, unless you choose to comply. You were told that you didn’t know what was best for you, and that you always messed things up when you made the decisions. Because of this early programming, you have no sense of self worth or of confidence in your choices. You need to start creating your own belief systems and deleting those beliefs that are crippling you.

Go back and take a look at messages in which we have discussed souls. All souls are equal regardless of the human shell they chose to inhabit. Very importantly, you are yourself an individualized piece of the energy of Source, with all the powers and abilities of Source. You are a magnificent being. Let yourself feel that way.

Whenever you are faced with a decision, step outside the ideas you have allowed other people to store in your brain, and ask your heart how you feel about the situation. If, at first, you don’t know because it is such an unusual concept for you, ask how you would like to feel about the situation. Then know that, as a piece of Source, you can do anything you want. Slowly, as you build a new relationship with the empowered you, each new situation will be exactly what you need to face to gather wisdom, and it will become enjoyable to make decisions that create this new you. Enjoy creating!

ANSWER: Your spirit guides are not setting your lessons into play – you are. You decided what you wanted to do and, thus, unconsciously bring to yourself the necessary people and energies to accomplish your wishes. Of course, you do have freedom of choice, so you can change your mind.

But think, why did you come to Earth? You came for one reason only, and that was to learn who you are, what powers and abilities you possess as a piece of Source energy, and to gain understanding and wisdom that you may forever use in future incarnations.

If you stop all your lessons now, you will be going against your own wishes and, in fact, wasting the rest of this incarnation. There is nothing that says you can’t do that, but why would you? You went through all the planning to be where you are now. You set up the staging with family, location, and friends just to have the experiences that have been presented to you.

You have an idea what your chosen lessons are since you have identified fears and doubts within your life. You can send them on their way and proceed in another direction simply by completing the desired tasks. All you need to do is work to understand them and not continually repeat the same activities over and over again.

Whatever you decide is up to you – not your guides. They don’t determine anything; they are merely available to advise if you ask them a question. Anyone else you hear giving you “advice” is a negative, discarnate spirit trying to mess with your progress.

All we have talked about is the spiritual path you are on. You can, as you have suggested, disregard the fact that you are a soul having a human experience and, instead, become a negative, ego-loving person. You can deny the spiritual educational trip you are undertaking and go forth judging what you decide is good and bad for you. The choice is yours.

ANSWER:  Your daughter has a fantastic talent, which she has developed beautifully. She has some doubts about herself that are invisible barriers to her success. This mostly arises from her lack of self-love and confidence. She fears success as much as she desires to achieve it. When others tell her how great she is, her inner thoughts are, “Yeah, right; you are just saying that because you think you should, but what are you really thinking?”

The material she writes expresses her feelings. Take a close look at the yearning that it articulates. She needs to resolve her doubts and fears, which are life lessons she has not addressed.

She is projecting her fears with her music so that others are repelled by the energy that comes out at them. They are totally unaware of this happening. When she can accept herself as she is, she will start radiating love; that will be what others feel and they will want a share of it.

She has also not defined for herself what she wants in the field. Others have told her what she should desire, but she has not always felt that what others say is the thing she wants. One way she could figure it out is to start in a supporting role in the industry to see if this is what she wants full-time in life.

To allow her “discovery,” she has to remove the bursts of negative energy she projects. She won’t be able to do that until she feels love for herself and everything she does.

ANSWER: You are feeling lost because you do not wish to make decisions for yourself. You don’t want to take the responsibility of deciding something that you might not like later. You always defer to what others say and tell you to do, and then you can blame them if you are not happy. It is time to put on your big girl panties and start taking charge of your life and choices.

You never stop and ask yourself how you “feel” about an action – it is always what do I “think” about this. That means taking all the opinions of others that are stored in your brain and reviewing them. Your own feelings are never engaged or even considered.

You do not think you have the ability to see what is needed. This life’s lessons do include working with self-confidence and self-doubt, but you ignore addressing them by relying upon others instead of considering alternatives for yourself. You are saying to those around you that they are more aware of what would be “good” for you than you are. They are not in your body so that is a ridiculous proposition. It is time to honor yourself and make those choices for yourself.

Nothing is intended to be permanent on Earth; it is just one large classroom for learning. There is nothing wrong with changing your mind or direction when you do not feel comfortable where you are. Does your marriage resonate with you? If not, it is time to try something else. Don’t feel comfortable in your current locale? Move on to something else.

Always know you have time to make these decisions. Nothing should be rushed. See how each alternative feels to you. Don’t feel you have an obligation to any particular path or person – because you don’t. You wouldn’t buy an expensive outfit without trying it on first, so remember that when making decisions.

Don’t attempt to do everything at once. Take each facet of your life and see how it fits. If it is still good for you, stay there. If it makes you uncomfortable, try on the other choices.

ANSWER: You can do anything you put your mind to. There was no one particular thing that you had decided would be this life’s profession. You wanted to search around and try a number of things. You are a very giving and caring person, but you have allowed others to take your energy from you; that is why you feel so depleted when you work with people. Even if someone has mental, emotional, or physical challenges, that does not mean you have to allow them to take your energy.

You must learn to honor your own path. You are very sensitive to negativity and that is how your energy gets drained. It is imperative you set up blockages to prevent others from taking energy from you without your consent. Surround yourself with protective white light whenever chaos is around. Pull in extra pure unconditional love energy from the universe so you have some to give to those in need. Whenever you sense strong negative emotions or energy near you, fight back by bringing thoughts and feelings of the happiest, most positive memories you can.

One of your strongest assets is empathy for those around you. It is also one of your biggest problems. You need to learn when to accept the feelings of others in order to be able to help them, and when to block it or give it back to them so they may acknowledge what it is causing their problem.

Empathy would be a fantastic tool to use with your hypnosis and past-life work, enabling you to find core problems and help direct clients in ways to work through difficulties. You must, however, reject and shake off their negativity at the end of a session and repower yourself with positive love energy.

ANSWER: The life lesson you are fulfilling is one of taking responsibility for the choices you have made. Your decision to take on financial responsibility for additional people has used up all the possible discretionary money your work has brought to you. You started out with a poverty mentality from your family and have not learned all the possible lessons from it.

You can try bringing money in through the law of attraction, but it will not help until you analyze the total situation of your life, including your expenses when judged against your potential income. Be honest with your family’s spending. Yes, you would like to be able to provide them with more than you are capable of at this time, but it is impossible.

Prosperity is not just monetary. Prosperity is the ability for your life to abound with happiness, health, sharing, and love. Appreciate all that is possible for you – that is your lesson. Sometime in the future, when you rejoice in your physical prosperity, you may be ready to also have some degree of monetary prosperity.

ANSWER: You did choose to lead a life filled with hardship lessons. You had several layers that you planned. The first lesson, with your arm, dealt with an understanding that your appearance and body do not define who you are. You are defined by the way you allow yourself to interact with others. This was all about truly knowing how to use your self-esteem, and not a handicap, to define yourself and your connection with others. You figured out that lesson.

Then you wanted to have a hurdle that made it more difficult to deal with other people while you silently decided what you thought about the experience. This lesson has to do with your confidence in yourself and how you evaluate your self-worth in comparison to how the world sees you.

Deafness does not cut you off from others unless you allow it to. You will have to work harder to establish a balance in your life with this handicap than you did before. This does not have to keep you away from people—you just need to adapt. You need to learn to lip read; study body language, which is very telling about a person’s thoughts and ideas; and don’t be afraid to ask others to accommodate your disability.

It is part of human nature to want to help others. It is even a larger part of human nature to hesitate to ask for assistance. Take the confidence that has served you in the past and use it to your advantage. You are actually helping people to feel better about themselves by letting them assist you. Don’t be afraid—this is all part of the lesson.

Stop hiding and begin living again. You have the ability, and once you start, you will find it easier than you thought.

ANSWER: What you have experienced that makes you feel confident, joyful, radiant, and happy is the unconditional love that is the embodiment of Source energy. The times you sense this state are when you are out of ego judgment and becoming aware of sitting back and evaluating what this Earth-living is all about.

The main purpose souls come to Earth is to try to find and remember the essence of the unconditional love they are when not in the duality there. As you study and become more aware of the positive nature of spiritual energy, you will spend more time in these feelings. This has nothing to do with whether you help other souls along their paths.

You have an ability to help others as they are drawn to your energy and personality. You may assist them along their spiritual route or with their human life lessons so they may move on to working on themselves as souls. You should look into counseling of some type as an occupation. Women with low self-confidence and self-esteem would benefit the most from your enthusiasm about life.

Even if you choose not to get the necessary education required for a certification, sharing your feelings about choosing to get out of negativity and selecting positive attitudes and associates will help many. Stop making your future look so difficult. The universe will bring to you what you need to learn and help others to find you to assist them. Live though your heart and stop analyzing with your head.

ANSWER: Marijuana has become a friend, a comfortable hideout, escapism from the fear of your life. The mellow high and diminished sense of responsibility that the drug affords you, make it easy to continue running away from yourself. Whenever you don’t want to face anything you take the edge off your anxiety with a smoke. Feel a little fear of failure and the smoke will make you forget and not care.

When you try to stop smoking you fear that you will not be able to, so you take “one last smoke.” Then, after you get high, you get mad at yourself for doing it, for not having the courage to stop, so you hide from that shame in another cloud of smoke. Each broken promise to yourself makes you run deeper and deeper into the drug to get further away from facing the truth that you don’t have the courage to stop. The fact is you don’t really want to stop.

Your whole perception of the world for quite a while has been under the influence of a mind-altering drug. You are more fearful than ever because you have no idea what the world is really like, and that scares you to death. With your view of the world so skewed, you are unable to handle a total break from this drug without assistance.

Seek professional help either from a medical clinic, a drug counselor such as narcotics anonymous, or a hypnotherapist who will be able to let you access your sub-conscious mind, which isn’t tainted by the physical need your body has for this drug.

ANSWER: Every soul inhabiting a human body has a differing experience with alcohol and other intoxicating substances, depending partially on the lessons chosen for that lifetime. Human bodies are affected by any chemical substance with which they come into contact via consumption, inhalation, or injection. The resulting effects are unique to a particular body, depending on whatever else is impacting it at the same time.

There is no right or wrong answer to your question, nor is there a single directive as to alcohol’s impact on spiritual enlightenment. In understanding connection to Source energy, one needs to realize that there are many ways to communicate. Sensing, or feeling, taking in the energy, is the surest way to establish a firm joining.

The body’s ability to engage with energy may be influenced by the activity occurring in its nerve endings. Some people are critically affected by ingestion of alcohol and lose their “fine touch” for what is around them. That makes it difficult, or impossible, to sense nonphysical beings, particularly if they are not strong. Thus, some psychics and mediums don’t consume alcohol because it deadens their connections.

An intoxicant can also pose the danger of reducing one’s inhibitions so that discarnates can convince the person to allow them to enter into the contact. There is no reason to fear, however, if one is enjoying a drink with no intention to reach outside themselves for a conversation in the ether.

Most guides have also lived many human lives, and their experiences on Earth can color the information they convey to you. If they had unpleasant drinking events, or their belief systems forbade alcohol, they will condemn it for you. Guides give advice based upon their own experiences, not some absolute fact. See what resonates with you – you have freedom of choice.

Your mentioned that high-level spiritualists follow a practice of “purity,” but that is a personal choice, not a necessity. It is influenced by societal, ego-based judgment, which is not a part of spirituality. Most are also vegan, believing they should not ingest anything with a face. Most of these practices originate in Eastern philosophies where this lifestyle is practiced. It is not necessary. You will notice many “purists” are also fanatics, imploring all to follow their lead. Be yourself.

ANSWER: Your friend has created an illusion based on the life she would like to have. Since this man does not love her unconditionally, she is picturing an alternate solution to their spending the rest of their lives together. This ending, the termination of his life, gives her an excuse for them not to be in a relationship.

Her lesson in this situation is to realize she cannot influence anything that happens to this man, and that her purpose on Earth is to learn about who she is and not spend time picturing herself in a dream. She would rather continue with her made-up world instead of becoming aware of the actual events around her. She is running away and hiding from reality.

He parted from her in the first place because of her intensity and dreaming. The only way they could ever be together would be if he made the choice to give her another try. This will not happen unless she lives in the moment within the factual reality he shares.

This obsession is unhealthy for her and is taking her into a negative existence where results occur to accomplish the end product of unhappiness. To remake her life she would need to give up her ego judgment that this is the only man for her, shed all negativity that prevents manifestation of a fulfilling relationship, and spend time learning to love herself and this journey on which she has ventured.

Love of self is not selfishness but rather an acceptance of the lessons chosen and the actions required to understand them completely.

ANSWER: No one is ever truly alone in this world. You are surrounded by your guides and all the other souls in the nonphysical universe who wish you success on your journey. You cannot “feel” them because you have convinced yourself that if you can’t see something, it does not exist. The reality you have created for yourself requires a constant companion to authenticate what you are doing.

You have never reached a point of having confidence in yourself, learned what loving yourself feels like, or developed a sense of right and wrong in decision making. In other words, you take no responsibility for your life unless, or until, it is validated by others.

The way you treated your married life is a perfect example. Even though the feedback you got from your husband was demeaning and abusive, it was a type of validation that you were unable to take care of yourself and therefore had to remain in that untenable situation.

To change your life, you must believe that you can. Accept first that your soul is a piece of Source energy and, therefore, you have the powers and abilities of Source. That means you can create, manifest, and connect with all other souls in the universe. Next, you must believe that this is true and that you possess these abilities. Mull that over for a while until you start to know this is true and that it is now up to you how you use these powers.

You “know” you have the ability, so what’s next? You start to use the powers. Start simple with feeling your guides and nonphysical friends around you, cheering you on. Then bring to yourself an opportunity you have always desired through the use of your intention. Once it is here, use it, live it, love it, become it.

ANSWER: You have a very vivid imagination and idea of how you want your life to be. You practice creating that reality consciously during the day and unconsciously continue working at night. You are still clinging to your thoughts and memories of NR. Your dream was acting out your desire.

You were trying to manipulate the relationship when you were together to create the things that you desired. You went so far as to agree that you would relent with some of your demands to make him feel more comfortable. You would start for a brief period, and then you amped up the intensity again to make your dreams come true.

You need to step back from the situation and take a look at what you were doing. Your lessons in this lifetime are all about control and this is just a tiny part of that lesson. You state that you loved him unconditionally, yet you made certain demands of him, which negated giving him total freedom of choice, which is the definition of unconditional love.

When you have expectations, whether of a situation or a person’s behavior, you are trying to control that person and the outcome. To learn your lesson you must understand that you can never get people to do what you want unless they agree to do it. To let go of your controlling personality, start to do things without programming the conclusion. Go with the flow of the universe—just let it roll.

ANSWER: Every soul has total freedom of choice. You choose what you fear, how you feel and what you believe. No one is out to get you unless you ask them to. You are constantly projecting the desire to have negative things happen to you because that is all you can think about. You only see the world as against you, ready to take advantage. You accept that you are a victim ready to be preyed upon.

You are the one who cannot move on from the past. You cling to ex-friends living in the past with constant thoughts of interactions you had with them. Stop it right now! Be aware only of the present moment and those who you see around you. Now create an image that everyone thinks you are a strong willed person with whom they have no negative dealings.

Let your happiness shine. Why do you need to bring in a negative feeling from the past to interfere? Fixate on the happiest moment in your life and visit that space whenever you feel any negativity. If you rid your thinking of the negative and bring in the energy of positive unconditional love your life will be bright and cheerful. Your losses were tests to see if you can return to the positive after a negative experience.

The situation with your boyfriend was not pre-planned. The two of you met and interacted from there. The future is up to the choices you each make.

ANSWER: Some Finns do drink a lot. Statistics show that about 10% of the population consumes almost 50% of the liquor. Consumption has increased steadily over the last 40 years, but since the drop in taxes that reduced prices 22% in 2004, drinking has skyrocketed. With the increase in drinking has come medical implications. More people die from alcohol abuse and complications than from cardiac diseases or cancer.

Alcoholism or addiction problems are life lessons chosen by the soul before coming to Earth. In order to experience this lesson, you made the choice to enter the planet in a position that set the conditions all around you. Learning that you have the choice to quit, as you did, is the lesson. All such souls must go through the process of understanding why they are afflicted, know that they can change, and then take the steps necessary. Your desires for your husband can support him, but the decision to make the final choice away from alcohol is his.

These lessons rarely come alone. It is common to have issues of self-confidence, self-worth, not loving oneself, or fear as a secondary problem. Help your husband to understand why he needs to drink. He is running away from other feelings that possess him. Dealing with his feelings will replace his liquor need.

ANSWER: Your problem is that you do not like to face reality, at least your own reality. The time you spend glued to your television takes you into someone else’s life and away from the trials and tribulations of your own.

It is very easy to sit and identify with or criticize what the contestants do in reaction to the so-called “life situations” the programming throws at them. To the losers you say, “I wouldn’t have done that, you stupid idiot.” And to the winners you say, “You were just lucky; I knew all those answers or could have done that task even better.”

You use the various situations to pass judgment both on what you have done in the past and the comments that others have made concerning your behavior. You have not learned the lessons that have come to you in this life. You ignore them and don’t see them as having any effect upon you.

When you watch the shows, some of those hidden tests come and face you, but you still cannot see them as applying to you. You can evaluate the performance of others facing the same tasks.

Until you can connect these reactions you are experiencing during your television watching to your own life, play a “what if” game. What if that were me in there—why would I do what I see myself doing? How does the entire situation make me feel? After viewing the episode, what have I learned about myself?

Life presents you with innumerable ways of learning the lessons you chose before you incarnated. Use your compulsion to learn yours.

ANSWER: Who are you trying to kid? Anything that you do daily is a habit, and when it is cigarettes, alcohol, or illegal drugs—something that alters your body chemistry or affects your psychological mood—you are addicted. What have you been working on? Justifying to yourself that you are a good person and accepting responsibility for hiding from your life in a puff of smoke? Things look very benign and non-threatening when you get high. As of now you do need the stuff, because you fear being without it and facing reality.

You can always calm yourself, quiet your inner child or turmoil, and deal with your fears by choosing to have only positive thoughts and experiences. When you numb yourself, you are incapable of sensing what you are feeling or what the result of your actions is on your life and body. You have to be aware of the activity around you to react in such a way as to learn your lessons. “Providing security,” as you claim the marijuana does, gives you a false sense of safety. It is not real because you are not participating in the “real” world.

There are no demands being made on you at all. You have freedom of choice to decide how you wish to lead your life. You can continue on your current path or choose to wake up and deal with the discomfort that will answer your questions about where to go and what you can and need to learn.

It is time to get to know yourself as you really are, not with dulled senses and being cut off from everyday activity. You say your journey wants you to give up everything you know and love: in a sense that is true. In order to grow in awareness of new things, you have to let go of the old. You could not go into middle school, then high school, and then university until you let go of each of the old places that had become comfortable to you. You do not lose the memories of those old times, but you grow up into a more sophisticated person with each more mature action you allow yourself. But the choice is completely yours.

ANSWER: Life is telling you that you are the one who is responsible for the actions you undertake. When you engage in sexual activity with no true concern for the possibility of a pregnancy, you are endangering your potential health and terminating a fetus because you are not ready to be a mother. It is easy enough to take precautions, but you let your sexual passion be the only thing you have any thought of.

All souls have freedom of choice, even those who are just coming into your world. The fetus you aborted was just a bundle of cells to which no soul had been assigned. It was known that you would have an abortion because that is a lesson you sought to understand so that you would go through exactly what you are currently experiencing.

Take your personal feelings and examine them: the guilt, the selfishness, the betrayal. Do you want to be a mother? To be responsible for raising a child? To give up your carefree ways and settle down? The choices are all yours. Nothing is right or wrong from a spiritual perspective, but you are living in a society that has very strong opinions about the way you should lead your life.

Thinking that naming an unborn group of cells will assuage your guilt is not going to help you. It is a coping skill taught by psychiatrists to take your attention away from what you really need to focus on: Why did this happen in the first place? Stop living in the past and start living in the moment to ensure you will not find yourself in a similar circumstance again.

ANSWER: Your conscious mind is what is directing your difficulties, not the fact that you have lived a number of previous lives. The problems with time you are discussing are a “this life” situation only. You have convinced yourself that they are a holdover from prior lives – not so.

Living in the moment and being in touch with your surroundings will allow you to interact in a timely manner with those around you. These “problems” you describe are life lessons, and you are ignoring learning about them by blaming your status as an old soul. Ask yourself why your mind wanders and you don’t accept the importance of being and doing things on time.

Transitioning into a higher dimension cannot occur if you are not finished with the lessons you came to Earth to learn. Stop making excuses and face your inadequacies, for they are what you came here to understand. Confusion means you are not taking a good look at what is bothering you.

Loneliness occurs when you cut yourself off from your inner self, your love of self. It is your soul, the driving force of your life, that establishes contact with your guides and the other nonphysical beings around you. You want to make contact so they can tell you what to do – but they will not do that because they honor your freedom of choice to live as you wish.

You will get help from their advising you on ways to learn your lessons and how you can work to get clarity about life. However, they will not make any decisions for you.

ANSWER: You have worked long and hard to get to the understanding you are at right now. What you are still troubled with is acceptance that you are the same as every other soul who is having a physical existence. Your essence is all-powerful, all-knowing, and magnificent, but you always impose conditions and doubts about yourself before you will look at your potential.

You will be ready for a companion when you believe that you are. There is no soul or person who is beyond you or not interested in you. You set the conditions. Put that thought out into the universe and it becomes true for you. If you don’t do  that, you will prevent yourself from changing the limits that you have accepted, which will drive people away, or at least send them the psychic message “don’t mess with me!”

Loosen up. Throw out all your limiting beliefs and start with a new premise. All souls are the same. You wish to share your life with someone who also desires to love and share with another person, and that person could be you. Be clear with the signals you send out. What do you want in a companion? What do you have to give? When do you want this companion to appear?

Once you have the energy flowing for what you want, be ready to act upon what it draws back to you. Be yourself; don’t mold yourself into something you think the other person wants—no union can last on such lies. Don’t make your fears of acceptance a barrier to starting a relationship. You have been extremely successful in other aspects of your life; see that kind of success come to you in a companion.

ANSWER: This child indeed has chosen to come at a time which will make you examine a lot of your beliefs about family and life. You will be a blessed family. What part your husband plays in this is up to him. He does not see this as a blessing but rather additional complications and burdens. Your spirituality allows you to see the larger picture of life within the universe. He sees only the day-to-day life and all the difficulties he already faces.

Your husband needs to feel the unconditional love of a child to get a glimpse of what life is all about. Go easy on him as he adjusts to his expanding world. Keep up your positive attitude because it will have a definite effect on him. He sees so much negativity outside the home that your island of peace and tranquility within the home is confusing by contrast.

Be truthful to yourself and your way of feeling. Gently introduce him to your spiritual beliefs of manifestation and unconditional love. He will be drawn to your beauty and grace with your sense of calmness. Just be yourself.

ANSWER: You may do whatever they want in your journey, but, as you have pointed out, if you don’t know what the options are, you really have no choices. A calling, which you seek, is a very individualized event requiring action and active participation. This is something that pulls you through life. You must first be totally open to all possibilities before you will hear or feel this invitation to join in.

As you have seen from your own experience, a person may have a number of callings. It is not uncommon to follow one, have it no longer hold its appeal, and then move on to something else. When you have had so many opportunities to discover yourself, it becomes harder to get excited by anything new.

A soul has no requirements for various activities during a human experience, and what you do is completely up to you – including choosing to do nothing! Spiritually, nothing is right or wrong. There are no judgments, so whatever your choice, no one declares you horrible or magnificent.

You are aware of the things that are pulling at you at the moment but just haven’t figured out a way to make them work for you. Many companies hire people to do shopping, eatery evaluation, and recording the world through pictures, and it can be quite lucrative if you become good at it by their standards. When it comes to travel, any company that offers trips to the public needs those who go along and trouble-shoot for clients. Cruise ships have huge staffs, sometimes one for every two passengers, to make the journey enjoyable. Meditate on the possibilities. But you can still do nothing if that resonates with you, and no one will penalize you for it.

ANSWER: We agree you should take responsibility for your own happiness, but that does not mean being irresponsible about the results of what you think would make you happy. Are you happy right now after you quit your job? No! Responsibility also has to do with anticipating and accepting the results of the actions you take.

Your divine guidance told you to consider leaving the job to increase your happiness. It did not say leave now and don’t think of the consequences. You have done this in the past, so you well knew what would happen when you left with no plans to provide for your needs. You thought only of immediate gratification. You have to be more practical and consider your needs.

When the message came through that it was time to move on in order to increase your happiness, you should have remembered the problems of leaving unprepared, and started looking for something more appropriate. Leaving the way you did also does not look good to future employers. They do not know if they will be able to depend on you to be loyal to the company if you have a habit of just getting up and leaving, which can make it more difficult to get a new job.

If you had done some searching before you acted, there would be minimal fear, worries, and self-doubt. What you did was an example of running away instead of facing the situation and remedying the unhappiness you were feeling. Your ideal scenario was constructed with lessons you went through in the past. However, since you did the same thing again, you didn’t learn and therefore had to repeat them. They will continue to recur until you learn and may then move on to another lesson.

ANSWER: Unfortunately, there are no re-dos within the same lifetime. The experiences had on Earth are analyzed when you are back Home to see what you wish to do in your next lifetime. As the poets say, you cannot un-ring the bell.

There is another way of looking at things, and that is that you needed to have this experience, which you find so repugnant, in order to learn some lessons and move on to the next desired tasks in your life. Earth is the only place where such things can occur because it is the only place where a duality exists. If there is no duality, no negativity, there is no way to exercise freedom of choice and thereby learn.

You are the one who is clinging to the negativity. Enclose it in white light and use it as a reference manual of what you do not want to repeat. Some things that happened to you as a child you do not wish to repeat, but you easily set them aside. If you forgive yourself for the actions of the last several months you will be fine.

This is about being able to accept yourself, forgive yourself, and love yourself for having the power to go through adversity, learn from it, and move on. Stop holding on to the past, and only concern yourself with the present and what is facing you right now. Live solely in the moment.

ANSWER: Hello, is anyone home in your head? Put yourself in your sister’s position. She is being kind and generous to take in her down-in-the-dumps sister. Said sister then drags along an uncaring boyfriend – not a husband – who is a slob and uses his history as an excuse for being inconsiderate and disruptive. What would you think? How happy would you be with these events?

You live in a dream world where you think everything is about you, and you have no concept of the needs and desires of others. You have always been bailed out of difficult situations by family and friends and think your behavior is okay. It is time to take responsibility for your actions, including the decision to inflict your boyfriend on your family. The reason you dragged him along is because he makes you feel important and depends on you. You two are co-dependent.

Your difficulty with your sister comes from your attitude. She is very realistic and sees things as they are. You have always lived in a fantasy where you are the princess and think others must heed your needs and take care of you. It is time to open your eyes and grow up.

From a spiritual perspective, nothing is right or wrong, so you may continue on as you have always done or you can become aware of the world around you and engage in living. The choice is yours. But it is time to stop blaming everyone else but yourself for the way you are treated.

ANSWER: Ever have the experience of seeing an actor in an emotionally moving situation and becoming fascinated and physically responsive to their existence? This is the same roller coaster you find yourself on with this man. Ever have a visceral reaction to a steamy book you are reading or a movie you are watching? This is a similar reaction.

You have engraved in your mind what you desire with your whole heart because of the way this contact has stimulated your body. This is not a real response to the action of this individual but a desire to satisfy the cravings you momentarily had with this person inspiring your imagination.

This occurrence happened at a time when you wanted so much more from your marriage and were not getting satisfaction. You stepped into your “perfect” imagination and are now stuck in its throes. This man became symbolic to you of what you had to have. Of course, he is not interested in what is in your dreams alone.

A twin flame would have the same reaction to you that you have to them. Since he finds you somewhat of a stalker, you can rest assure he is not your twin. He came into your life so that you would examine exactly what your dreams are demanding in a relationship.

Step back and see what it is in him that you desire in a mate. Take this particular man out of the equation and create, with your needed requirements for happiness, just what you wish to bring into your life. Look only at characteristics, do not try to identify a person behind them – that is where your fixation takes over and prevents looking forward.

ANSWER: Everyone makes their own decisions and choices, and nothing you say is going to cause them to change unless they wish it. Your husband spends so much time in negativity that it feels “normal” to him. Being in a negative arena makes it easier to deal with the troubled patients than fighting to maintain a positive attitude around them.

He is unaware of carrying so much negativity once when he leaves until he is once again faced with your positive energy. His outbursts are the negative energy attempting to include some of your positive energy to allow it to swell in size. The sensation he is getting is that the world is different from him and he needs to fight against it to continue to exist.

Negativity cannot maintain itself when confronted with unconditionally loving, positive energy, so sending that toward your husband will defuse some of his spreading negative energy. Since he does not understand what is happening to him, he is unable to correct the influx on his own. Any time you think about it, just send some his way even when he is at work.

Try engaging him in a discussion about his patients. See what he senses when he is near them. Ask if they react to his presence differently depending on how he is feeling. This is a back-door approach to opening him up to what the energy is doing to all of them.

The panic he is feeling is a sense he is catching from the paranoia amongst the patients. Ask him what it is that the majority fear and if he gets the same sensations. You are going to have to approach this very slowly because he is extremely intelligent and may see that you are trying to get him to look at things the way you do.

Keep sending that love energy all the time. Ask your and his guides to assist and send some of their own as well.

We understand your concern. It is sometimes difficult to appreciate that the same situation may have a different meaning at another time. Whenever we are asked a question we give you an indication of how the energy is flowing around the situation at that exact moment. If there is a change in any circumstance affecting that energy pattern, the interpretation of the same energy signature will change.

Your son is an older soul who has chosen very complex lessons for this lifetime. In the first years of his life nothing of the physical had much of an impact upon his body. He was able to sustain himself with the very energy contained in the air (prana). As he has gotten older he has become more physical and therefore more subject to the effects of the physical implications of the bodily process. He can no longer live solely on prana.

What has also happened as he has grown and matured is his ability to read the anxiety of others. He is living somewhat on the fear expelled by those around him. He has found the power that his actions can have upon his parents and has found ways to use that to control the immediate situation. He loves the attention that he gets by not being normal. He is a very strong-willed individual and thinks he can outlast everyone else. It has become a mind game with him.

You are taking all the right steps to let him know that you love and care about him. It is important that you set limits for his behavior and do not reward misbehavior. He is having a negative effect upon the rest of the family now and it is important that you decide how far you will let it go. Nothing is right or wrong. You are all experiencing lessons which you chose.

ANSWER: You must go into your heart and ask: What do I feel about this situation? What is it I really feel I want to do? You have opened yourself to self-love; let that love direct your future. The first thing you should remember is that as a soul you are all-powerful and can create, and then manifest, that which you desire. You have already started this process by bringing this wonderful man into your life to shoot down all your fears concerning men and relationships.

You chastise yourself for “wrong” decisions. None were truly wrong; they were choices that came to you so you could see what did not work well in your life. The men you met were examples of the kind that would not fulfill you. The realizations you have reached from your past experiences let you now outline exactly what you want from here on out.

Rule one: you have total freedom of choice to choose every aspect of your life. No one can tell you what to do; they can try, but you have the final decision on whether to agree or not. Rule two: nothing is final or absolute in your life’s journey. If a man doesn’t continue to satisfy your needs, get a new one; if a place doesn’t feel right, move; if everything starts to get negative and fearful, stop and see the positive side and move into it. Rule three: see rule one. The choice is always yours.

ANSWER: We see a hamster on an exercise wheel working her heart out and getting nowhere because the wheel just keeps going around in circles. You are so fixated on thinking about negative things that you have not put positive energy intentions out into the world to get a return.

You are residing in negativity, and negativity just brings in more negativity. You have gotten to the stage where you feel nothing is going to go right—so let’s run away. You have given up. That’s fine if you really want to start all over again. You don’t have to; if you really want to stay in university, then make it happen, but only if it still feels right to you.

You would have no trouble sleeping at night if you took all the energy expended on worrying about things and instead spent it sending positive intentional affirmations out into the universe. Worrying is a useless expenditure of energy. You cannot redo the past and can only influence the future to the extent that you project your intentions. With all the worrying you have been doing, you have told the universe, “Look, I don’t think my life is working because I can’t find a job.” So guess what? Your world mirrors the thoughts you have been sending out.

Change the thoughts into you working, maybe though contacts at the university employment office, sleeping restfully, and moving ahead with a fulfilling life.

ANSWER: Your grandmother is a soul mate of yours. You have spent many lifetimes together and she is always watching over you. Your continued energetic connection to her makes it easy to love her. Your difficulty is that spending so much of your love on one who is at Home depletes the amount you have for those who are sharing this active life with you.

The journey you are on is one of self-discovery and self-love. You should first have unconditional love for yourself and everything that defines your life, rather than transferring it to others. You can only love another individual to the degree and extent that you love yourself. Despise yourself and you will always find things wrong with others.

To find you attractive, a lover must see that you are capable of loving life and creating a happy environment. You have plenty of time to attract a lover with whom to produce a family. You know how to manifest your desires because you have succeeded in the past. Concentrate on perfecting a love that you can share with a partner and little ones. That does not mean loving yourself less.

You can definitely not forget yourself and still project to another that you are that person’s right one. As an example of how happy you will make your lover, you must show the person how happy you are with yourself and your abilities. Start seeing a new life for yourself that includes a family. Put your intention into producing this scenario and it will come into being.

ANSWER: Things get drawn to you because you need to experience them to complete your life lessons. There was a miscommunication concerning your employment, and it set you up to take a long look at where you are in your life at this time. You moved almost without an idea of what you would be facing. You created a situation you thought existed because you truly wanted it to, and then got hit with the real facts, or the “dirty game” as you call it. Fault can be assigned to both sides.

You have had several past lives in Egypt that were very pleasant; that is why you feel at home there. The fact that it makes you feel that happiness you remember does not mean it is the perfect place for you to continue living this life’s journey. You have to be realistic about the requirements for continued residency.

This gentleman had agreed to help you with lessons. You knew you would hesitate to work through difficulties, so he was positioned to help bring those things to the front, into your face. He is one of your soul mates, which is why it is easy for him to know just how to stimulate you. The worst is always the lesson you ignore, which is the most important to understand.

Let your present situation open your eyes to the moment, clearing the past and understanding the needs of the future. Spend time asking how you feel about every choice presented to you. Do things because they resonate with you, not because you think it might be a good idea. Stop and examine the difficulties that come to you and you will find ways to smooth out your life.

A: You relate stress with being out of control. When you sense that you have no control of the things around you, you reach out to take control of something, and anything will do. Since you have success with the things that you dive into, such as these games, you retreat to them to be the Man—in control, in charge, not to be messed with!

Part of the reason you need this affirmation of self-importance is to prove to yourself that you are somebody. From an early age you have been told that you will never amount to anything or become anyone important. When you win at a game you are proving the world wrong.

A secondary benefit you derive from the violent games is a sense of getting even for all the injustices done to you. If you acted this way in public you would end up in jail or worse, but on the screen you can retaliate with murder and mayhem without repercussions. You are running away from life’s responsibilities into a fantasy world where you can write the rules while hiding from your feelings.

You can cease this non-productive use of your time by confronting the reason for your feeling of stress and dealing with it at the moment it strikes. Instead of instantly jumping into a fantasy activity, stop and ask yourself exactly what you’re sensing. If it is anger, guilt, worthlessness, or abandonment, go inside yourself to see why the feeling arose. Then decide whether or not you believe it to be valid. If not, discard the thought and get on with your life. If you feel that it is justified, choose to change so it is no longer part of your reality.

ANSWER: Your mother transitioned very easily and is relieved not to have to deal with physical things any longer. She sends her love and says to tell you it is time to wake up and get on with living again. She reminds you that we each create our own reality and you are not doing a great job of yours right now.

Everything that you have talked about all has to do with various life lessons you chose for this lifetime. When you were concerned with your mother’s condition, you were on auto-pilot regarding these tests and the rest of your life. Now that she has returned Home you are lost, almost as if you are starting all over again. You have too many choices of what to do and how to respond to things; you feel overwhelmed.

This is a period where you are studying all about self-awareness, self-confidence, and self-love. You are becoming aware of things you didn’t “see” before since you were too preoccupied. You don’t have only one option any longer, so you feel something akin to depression since there is no single impression of what is needed to be done. The choices are yours and with them the responsibilities, and that frightens you.

In response to this new awareness you think you must analyze every action so that you do not regret it later. There is no right track. No one has previously made decisions for you and left you to find the way to them. It is important to “listen” to your inner voice. Follow only what resonates with you. Understand there is no right or wrong direction, but standing still is not an option if you want to get through this section of your life.

Your husband is taking a lot of cues from your actions. When you are stressed, so is he. When you are depressed or confused, so is he. When you find stability for yourself you will see that he will also. Your “fuzziness” is somewhat from the tablets you are consuming. This is not a hormonal issue, as easy as that would be to blame.

ANSWER: You are not involved in any specific contract. What you are doing is living with the lessons you chose versus those chosen by your husband. How you can deal with them is to learn the reasoning behind yours, and then that will release the influence of your husband’s. There are a number of beliefs you cling to that direct the way you see this situation.

Your husband is a magnet for negative energy. This is partially because he has a discarnate attached to him who thrives on negative energy, and partially because he wanted to deal with negativity in this life. You were drawn into his arena because you wished to see if you could recognize and remove yourself from the influence of negative people and activities.

The only thing that will defeat a negative drain is to combat it with unconditionally loving energy. If you and all the others whom he is affecting have the intention for him to be bombarded with unconditional love, it will be so, and his negativity will be overrun. Do not under any circumstances engage in arguing with him because it enhances his negative energy when he thinks he has you cowering.

Cover yourself with the white light of love and teach all the others to do it as well. Ask your guides to protect you from his energy and to help him give up his dependency on the negativity and his attachment. Be proactive and aware of how you are feeling before you become overwhelmed.

You have not shared any other lives with this soul. You determine what your life is like from here on out. Make the choices that increase your positivity and protect yourself from his negativity – you create your own reality. Whenever you feel drained, consciously pull in universal life-force energy from the Source energy that is all around you and available merely through using your intention for it to replace the voids within you.

ANSWER: You desperately want people to like you and think good things about you. Your definition of how you are doing in life is dictated by what you believe other people think and say. You have developed a pattern of not interacting with others on the premise that if they don’t really know you, they won’t think anything negative about you. All of this stems from the fact that you do not love yourself and are extremely self-critical.

You fear that once you get to know people, they will be able to detect the lies you hold inside—primarily that you don’t really like yourself, so why should they like you? Others can detect your hesitancy to commit to any connection with them, so they move on. You fear having to commit to a relationship because you don’t want to be controlled.

All the relationships you have examined in your life have been ones in which there is a dominant person and a subservient one. You have experienced some of these firsthand. You have not seen a sharing partnership. To share, you have to open yourself up and bare your innermost fears and joys. You are afraid that would allow your lack of love to darken everything.

The step you need to take is finding out why you cannot seem to accept yourself as you are. You are a piece of Source and have all the same magnificent abilities and traits. Your essence is unconditional love and is shared with the universe. Spend time connecting with that energy and you will find your love; then you can share that love with the souls who will be drawn to your magnificence.

ANSWER: As a soul having a human experience, you decide what it is you wish to be exposed to. You have the freedom of choice to diminish or intensify the energy around you. You had a series of lives where you could feel nothing and desired this one to be different.

Problem is, you are a bit overwhelmed and, at times, identify yourself as a victim. When you take on the victim mantle, you do so to feel sympathy for your situation instead of assuming responsibility for the way you have directed your life.

You cannot have too much of something in your life unless you call it to yourself for the experience. It is time you say enough of this. Stop constantly reliving the past emotions and live in the present sensations, which are yours alone. You have to deal with your situation in order to establish a pattern for the rest of your life.

When you start feeling bombarded, stop and ask yourself: Where is it coming from? Does this belong to me or am I soaking up someone else’s misery? If it belongs to another, send it back to that person. If it is yours, take a look at the origin and see if you need it for this life’s lessons. Don’t carry around anything more than you need to learn about yourself.

With the dramas of others you have shut down part of your human functions; this is causing the dis-ease within your body. Consciously funnel universal life force energy (sometimes called Reiki or other healing energies) throughout your body and let it cleanse you of these blockages.

Remember you are totally in control of the choices you bring to your world. Others cannot harm you or give you their difficulties unless you open and accept them. Protect yourself from unwanted negativity by always surrounding yourself with the white light of positive unconditional love. You will be able to walk through your family and really see them for the first time.

ANSWER:  You are correct that these people are involved in a lesson with you. The only one you have to have concern for, though, is yourself. This has nothing to do with past-life issues; it is about how you see yourself in this life. You have been working very hard to balance your world, rid it of judgment, and not interact with others.

This lesson is partially about learning to deal with others in a positive, non-confrontational manner. Talking with others about something that bothers you, as long as you do so in a quiet, non-threatening manner, is not confrontational. This is about standing up for yourself because you know and accept you are as good and deserving as every other soul on the planet. This is having the courage to honor your own journey through this existence. It is refusing to be abused by those who don’t know or care what effect they are having on others.

A second aspect is learning to ignore what you don’t want to bother you. If you hate the sound of rain on a roof, no matter how insignificant the precipitation, you will be disturbed by its noise. If you allow yourself to get absorbed in a project such as work, a craft, or a book, you can block out even a thunder storm.

You don’t have to show tolerance or compassion for these noisy people. That is the same as saying that you are wrong, and you are not. It is choosing your battles and how you expend your energy to deal with life’s situations. You are doing great helping your sister through her problems; use some of that knowledge to get yourself through this inconvenience.

ANSWER: First off, he was not your twin. Had he been your twin the two of you would have had such fantastic energy together that it would have outshone your addictions and they would have been put aside. Just being together would have been all you desired, and you wouldn’t have wanted anything chemically to keep you from feeling each other’s energy.

What happened here was a case of each of you facilitating the other’s addiction. He did everything he thought you wanted, by seeing that you got what you desired for your addiction, in exchange for using your body to satisfy his addiction. He took advantage of you in all sorts of circumstances and frequently against your will. You kept allowing and forgiving him because you convinced yourself he was your twin flame. This is a notion that he enhanced every time he could.

Your anger is understandable, both because he tricked and abused you and because you cannot forgive yourself for letting it continue for so long. Put it aside with the knowledge that you can change any future contact with men. Forgive yourself because you now know it can’t happen again unless you allow it to.

Even if your twin flame were incarnate at the same time as you, there is nothing to say that the two of you had planned even to meet up. You are not restricted by the presence of any soul on the planet. Decide how you want the rest of your life to occur.

Fears and doubts are the indication that you are facing a lesson you wished to experience. Use those signs to examine what is holding you from moving forward. Put together a dream for your future and then manifest it into your life.

ANSWER: Your spiritual self and your ego self are using your body as a battle ground. Your ego is saying that you must do what other people tell you, whether or not you think or feel it is the right thing to do. Your soul essence is starting to tell you it is time to honor yourself and make your choices of life and living based upon your feelings.

You are at a crossroads. Do you remain the dutiful little woman always doing exactly what others want? Or do you begin to get a sense of who you really are and move toward redefining your life? That urgency you sense of always wanting to move on is your soul saying that now is the time to take responsibility for who and what you are in this world.

Running away from responsibility is procrastination from exercising your freedom of choice. You are so concerned with other people right now that you have trouble seeing yourself when you look in the mirror.

Close your eyes. Take a deep breath, then another; relax your tense muscles. Now slowly open your eyes and really see what is around you at this moment. Don’t think about anything but this second. Now ask yourself: “How do I feel?” Let the question seep deep inside before you start throwing out answers.

Fears will predominate for you right now. Take each fear and ask yourself where it came from. When you see that it came (as most do) from other sources-society, family, coworkers-ask yourself if that is how you feel. If it is not, release that issue. If you do accept it as something truly from you, ask yourself how you can rid yourself of this fear.

Using this method you will get to the point of knowing what is truly you and what is a reflection of the outside world. Now you have a starting point to shape the rest of your life.

ANSWER: You are sabotaging your life by creating expectations, which you then interpret as not being fulfilled. You are seeking perfection within an imperfect world and blame yourself when you don’t see it happening. You also have no patience with life or yourself. Give things time – you have not been around that long.

You are basing most of your conclusions on the ego-based societal judgment system. As for the people who you feel see only disappointment in you, how do you really know what others are thinking? You are not inside their head. And any disappointment you have is an expectation of things that may not have had sufficient time to come to completion.

Turn that love you have inside toward yourself. You don’t love yourself or you would be ecstatic at all the things you have experienced and done. To whom do you feel useless? You have no obligation to anyone but yourself. Fear is a normal state in a human – that is how they determine what lessons they had chosen for their life. It gives you the opportunity to charge right into them and understand so you can move on.

Helping others will not make them automatically love you. You should do things for others because you love to do them, not for any return you might receive. You need to push away the negativity that has gotten you into this depression. Go inside to your connection with your core unconditional love, which is always there waiting for you. Love yourself for these difficult times and turn all things into positive experiences. You have total freedom of choice, but don’t give up on yourself so easily.

ANSWER: You are infatuated with the idea of a torrid and sensual love affair. You desperately want to be loved and passionately courted. Your dreams have taken the scenarios from movies you have seen and books you have read and turned them into nighttime entertainment. Your egos are trying to control one another’s actions.

This is not reality; this is a fixation. He is not a soulmate. He says to you in your dreams exactly what you want to hear because you are writing his lines for him. Most people choose some famous person to be their dream lover, but you are intimidated by well-known people and took this obscure man because you convinced yourself he was a soulmate and therefore someone you were entitled to have as a lover. Stop living in a fantasy world!

You have plenty of time to redirect all the energy you have put into this believe life and begin an actual relationship with someone. Go to places where you can meet new people and find some common interests. Establish a relationship based upon sharing yourself with a real person while you are awake. Your dream world has been enjoyable but it is time to move on.

ANSWER: You do not have to do anything that anyone else says to you. Being a soul having a physical experience (a human life), you have total freedom of choice to choose everything that affects you. You are on a journey of discovery about why you chose to come to Earth. It is a solitary journey in that no one can influence what you wish to experience. So too is this man. No one, not you or anyone else, can influence him to do anything he does not choose. That means that no one can influence others to go to the light unless it is their choice to do so. For your information, this gentleman is not in the dark.

What others are sensing around you is your concentration directed to this man. They feel your dedication to making some type of union between the two of you. This has led them to believe, because the energy is so strong, that this man is the love of your life. You have convinced yourself that he could be the love you have not had, but that is for lack of other candidates.

He does not feel anything for you. He is happily married and very much in love with and involved in his family. You have what is like a school crush on the most popular boy in class. You dream about being together when you feel depressed and lonely, and this only makes it seem more real that you belong together.

You have not moved on as you say. You have continued to count the passage of time but you are frozen in the first moment when you could see yourself in this man’s arms. You have written a whole stage play of your desired life and gone over and over your lines. It is time to write a new play with a new cast.

ANSWER: You are a romantic and bored out of your mind. Your family life is not providing enough diversity and excitement, so you create your own fantasy world. If it were not this man, it would be some other. Part of this stems from your feeling that you would like to have more of a say in relationships, but you do not speak up with your husband. He is unaware of your desperate unhappiness.

There is nothing wrong with what you are doing, exactly, except that you are wasting time that you could be using for some other endeavor. These fantasies are giving you a vacation from what you see as your humdrum life. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if your dreams could be played out? Have you considered getting involved in the local theater group where you could reinvent yourself with each new role? How about a community center full of various activities?

You also need to examine your marriage and whether it is the right place for you to be right now. Often, after a while, people who were perfect for each other when they married are no longer compatible and just hold a place for each other. When was the last time to two of you sat down and shared dreams and desires for your future?

Evaluation time is here if you want to reestablish control over your life. The choices are yours. You can continue to dream or you can take action.

ANSWER: During this spiritual journey you have chosen, you are making it as easy on yourself as possible by relying on the goodness of others to provide for your needs. This is selfish and not very transcendent. You have become lazy about taking responsibility for your personal needs. You are depending on your wife to feed and clothe you while you spend time on your “studies.”

You are like a sticky seed pod that catches on your clothes, annoys you, and becomes more firmly embedded the more you shake to get rid of it. You see having your wife take care of you as a matter of right since she is married to you. Life does not work that way; ascension does not work that way.

You have to work to achieve enlightenment. It does not come from wishing but rather from work. One of the requirements is learning your chosen life lessons by making a choice between the various options. You must do this – not ride on the back of another.

You don’t want to be responsible for the results of your choices so you make none. It is time to decide what it is you really want because right now you have no idea. Stop being childish and running from your obligations; start things off by choosing a direction for your learning. The doubts and the fears in your life are indications that a lesson is behind each. Work on resolving them and you will grow.

ANSWER: Since every soul has total freedom of choice to change their mind at any time, what a psychic or channeler can see, and relate to you, applies only to the direction in which all choices are leading at the time of the reading. Many factors have come in to influence the journeys of your children. They have not matured – that is, assumed responsibility for their own decisions – to the point of appreciating their situation. You must give them a little more time to decide to accept what they are seeing and feeling concerning their father or to continue to ignore it.

Your lesson in this lifetime is to be an observer – a witness – to the expedition that is your children’s lives. You already see that you have no way to control what goes on in their lives, and that the way you feel about this is totally up to you and dictates your mood.

Each soul creates their own reality by the choices they make. You can choose to be unhappy and miserable because things in your children’s lives aren’t going the way that you wish, or you can honor the fact that these are the lessons they chose before coming into this life.

What is important is that you not let their journey interfere with your own. Work through the lessons revealed by your fears and doubts. Release ego judgment and enter into unconditional love. This is what your trip here is all about.

You wanted to deal with lack of control, self-image and self-worth issues, and not letting the actions of others affect your emotional well-being. You have done very well with these. Your agreements with the family involved being the parent who was different from the pattern they chose to learn, and being there when the time was right for counseling them through their realizations.

ANSWER: All the reading and studying that you mention will only allow you to see what has worked for other people. There is no guarantee that it will assist you or be appropriate for you at all. You have a resistance to letting go; you need to feel you are in control at all times. This keeps you from getting into a meditative, mindless state, and from allowing your unconscious to take over during hypnosis, thereby  preventing a connection to your past lives.

The spiritual path is one of letting go of the ego judgment that controls society and merely evaluating what is occurring around you. Anger means that you disagree with what someone has said, believe you have not been treated fairly by others, or are mad at yourself for your lack of accomplishments. All of these things have to do with life lessons.

Your purpose for coming to Earth is to find out who you are (a soul) and learn the powers and abilities that that knowledge brings with it. This is a spiritual path, so if you examine this, you are pursuing spirituality.

The first step in awareness is learning what is negative and what is positive. Negativity is tied to the ego, and positivity is where unconditional spiritual love can be found. Examining how you feel and react to events will tell you how you are doing in becoming a spiritual being. If you feel anger and do nothing about it, you are not spiritual at all. If when you sense the anger you go into the feeling and find out what it is connected to and then deal with the cause, you are moving along the spiritual path.

Whenever you find yourself entering into a judgment, replace that opinion with an evaluation of the necessity of that action within your life. Love yourself for being able to make the choice of going from anger into love. Once you begin consciously making positive choices, you will be able to go into a mindless state with no judgment, which most call meditation.

ANSWER: Your first issue is dependency. You have prided yourself on becoming an independent woman and fear the dependency of childhood – mostly because of the lack of control it brings. The things you fear don’t have to be a stage in aging if you are conscious of maintaining your body.

With age should come the culmination of all your life lessons so that you transition from working hard to make the choices that take you out of ego judgment and transport you into unconditionally loving evaluation. Every lesson understood gives you the wisdom to apply the same principles of knowledge to all other facets of your life. This can enhance every aspect of living.

Removed from judgment, replete with wisdom, you can expand into the nirvana of Source-type energy. No more negativity, just the blissful enjoyment of human possibilities only available to the soul when contained in a human body complete with nervous system.

The soul is in total control of the human body it inhabits. It, and it alone, decides when to leave the physical realm and return to the spiritual. There is no restriction on how the soul accomplishes this transition. It can let the body waste away or fail from deterioration or disease, it can choose euthanasia or suicide, or it can just mindfully have the physical systems cease to function.

There are no pros and cons among the choices because, in the spiritual realm, there is no judgment. What happened in one life has absolutely no effect or impact on subsequent lives unless the soul makes that choice. Everything is based on exercising one’s freedom of choice.

ANSWER: Ego really doesn’t have feelings; it merely has judgments. Within ego, things are good or bad, right or wrong, better than or less than. Feelings are the sensations you get when you identify with an emotion or energetic sensation and it either resonates with you or repels you.

Ego is based on thoughts, things such as opinions that have been stored in your head/mind from what you have heard, read, or seen. Basically it comes from the general thinking of the society where the ideas originated. It has nothing to do with input from you, yourself.

If someone is ultra-nice to you and says they love you, then you assume they are serious because that is what society tells you love looks like. If another never mentions the love word but you sense with every sensory part of your body that they love, want, and respect you, then you feel loved. The first is a judgment based on ego, while the second is your soul using your own evaluation from feeling things you have catalogued from this lifetime and others.

The energy surrounding a person also gives you an indication of their true intention. If they have little negativity and exude positive love energy, you know they are love and mean what they say or imply. You and your new beau didn’t make specific plans for this lifetime other than to meet at some time to see where you were in your respective journeys and if you wished to explore each other in this life.

ANSWER: Your husband does not like to take responsibility for anything. He is very comfortable playing the spoiled little boy who doesn’t want to grow up. He envies what he sees as the carefree life of your children. In point of fact, they are more responsible and resourceful than he. As the children grow older he is getting resentful that they are pulling away from their need of him, so he is sucking on their energy.

He has always siphoned off your energy. At first it felt like a loving sharing, so you allowed it. Now that you have not been as preoccupied with your employment, you notice it for the drain it is. He does not want to leave this cushy little situation he has developed, so to change the scenario, you will have to make the decisions. Do you want to continue being a food source? Or do you want to rid yourself of this suction machine and move on?

One of your lessons in life was to become aware of the interaction between souls. Your family and teaching have provided a laboratory. Moving on will free you and clear your aura of negativity while also forcing your husband to realize what he has fallen into by way of his lifestyle. Only he can choose to change his pathway.

You have become very aware of energy cycles and the way they affect people. Your children are equally aware. Your husband sees nothing, and will continue to see and feel nothing until the present cocoon has been withdrawn from him. But nothing is right or wrong so you may choose to leave things the way they are.

Part of your learning process is accelerated whenever you work with or teach others. You sense what is needed by someone and then strive to produce it. To gather the finances for your children’s education you will either have to jump back into industry, and spend less time with them, or teach more classes. Have you ever considered teaching at one of the universities that provide free tuition for faculty members’ families?

ANSWER: With all your lessons concerning self-worth, self-confidence, self-love, and trust still very active, to radically change, you will have to start from the beginning. The first step is accepting that you are a piece of the Source energy that is responsible for everything that exists anywhere and everywhere. With that acceptance comes the ability to image the qualities you have at your disposal for creating the life you desire.

Right now, you are inhibited by the belief systems that were bestowed on you by your parents and society. As a child, you accepted these without question and never even imagined that you had the ability to override them and change what they made you believe. These are the automatic responses you encounter in any situation that presents itself to you.

To begin to defuse these, and write your own rules for living, you have to start questioning the way you respond to any stimulus. You need to ask: Does this feel right to me? Is this what I really want to do? If the answer to these questions is a resounding no, then it is time to choose for yourself the actions you take. You are then beginning to rewrite the beliefs controlling your life. Do something because you feel it is the correct thing, or what you want to do, rather than what others have told you to do.

Each soul who has come to Earth to have a human experience does so by itself and has no obligations to anyone else. You owe your family nothing in a spiritual sense. But you owe yourself respect, honor, and love for enduring all these lessons in this situation and working within it.

In meditation, ask your guides to make contact with you so that they might hold your hand as you go through your transformation. The “God” you were threatened with in your youth is a creation of organized religion and does not exist. Source, Creator, Divine Spark – whatever you wish to call the originator of all things – is nothing but unconditional love.

Begin to see the magnificence that is your essence. Feel the love emanating from the universe down to you to assist you with your struggles. Know that you can become an independent person, manifesting what you need.

ANSWER: Each one of you involved in this situation had chosen to be presented with these facts. Of course, with amnesia, no one is consciously aware of that. Your daughters wanted to work on lessons of abandonment, guilt (feeling it’s partially their fault you have left), sadness, and helplessness.

Your lessons include self-love, self-confidence, and honoring your own journey. Even though you bore the children, your lessons are still yours and can only be dealt with by you. You do not have a spiritual obligation toward them. Most feel there is a society responsibility.

Right now, they are very confused and believe you do not love them or you wouldn’t have left them. You did not spend enough time explaining to them what you were going to do and why you felt you had to leave.

Talking to your daughters’ essences, or higher selves, will give you an idea only of what the soul understands – it does not give you the emotions of the human. Only direct conversations with each girl will give them an idea of what you are doing. You need to treat each one individually, not both as a set.

You will not be able to get a good read on how they are reacting to this change in their life until you speak face to face with them. It could be done over Skype or FaceTime.

ANSWER: Teachers come when a student is ready to learn and move forward. When you start with a new teacher, to learn faster you give them your undivided attention and full faith and trust in everything they are saying. You saw this person as a master of all you did not know or understand, so you idolized him. He is so powerful over you because you have allowed this to occur. To change his impact, you merely need to take back the power you gave him over you.

In many learning situations there comes a point when the student becomes as knowledgeable as the teacher, and sometimes even more so. This person does not want students to recognize this, so he instilled certain rules and regulations that would not permit the student to advance beyond him.

Obtaining your own connection to guides who have the intelligence of Source energy is a threat to your teacher because he does not have the same contacts. As you have determined, the information they are channeling to you is very insightful and would be helpful to many people. You would, in turn, become a teacher, and your teacher wants to prevent this from happening.

The teachings that he imparted to you allowed you to reach the degree of awareness where you now stand. If you follow all his restrictions on getting messages from other sources instead of from him, you will cease to advance and may even regress.

During a spiritual journey, the most important thing to understand is that you are the only one who knows what the direction is for you. Rely on those things that resonate with you. Listen to your intuition to commune with your higher self and personal guides.

Your teacher is only human and subject to the ego judgment of the third dimension. The spirits you have been approached by are from the realm of unconditional love where there is no “better than” or “worse than.” Do what feels right for you.

The tension created by trying to stay “loyal” and at the same time following your instincts is causing your stomach distress. Honor your intuition and take steps to do what you desire, and all will return to balance.

ANSWER: When a second human body is connected to you, it has many effects upon your body. During pregnancy, in particular, there are stressors placed upon the body that make the endocrine system—those organs which put hormones into your body—run crazy. This is what happened in your case.

The antidepressants you were prescribed brought your hormones back into alignment and the symptoms disappeared. Being aware of your body and taking care to see you get proper nutrition, rest, and exercise also helps to balance out the body. Withdrawal occurs when you remove artificial assistance and force your body back into production and balance.

Your sense of energy lack comes from negative thoughts you have allowed to come into your world because you are sure something worse than pregnancy-induced hormonal imbalance is involved. There is nothing else present.

Love yourself for the fantastic person you are. See the wonderful children you have begot. Stop looking for limitations and see your world as a marvelous, loving, fun place. Any time negativity comes into your life, see the beauty around you and banish it with positive love energy. Do not let negative feelings remain.

ANSWER: What has been your reason for desiring to write a book? You must be able to answer that question before you know if writing is really for you. As a career, writing has served you well but the subject matter has not always been of your choosing.

In your search for a book, listening to others does not help you at all. Some of those “advisers” did not want you to be able to succeed where they haven’t been able to, so they did what they could to discourage you. When you give the decision-making processes of your life to others, you are saying that they know more about you than you do.

Whether to write a book is up to your freedom of choice. Everything has not been written or there wouldn’t be thousands of new books coming out each year. Yes, a lot of books cover the same subject matter; genres are limited in nature but content is not.

Famous people do have an edge in publishing because they are already a household name and some people will read anything they write, even if it is garbage, just because of their name. That does not mean new writers can’t be discovered and succeed in getting their books read.

E-books are extremely popular at the present time. They are easy to publish and easily obtainable. True, they don’t produce the financial return of a print book, but many more copies are purchased with no outlay of money up front. You need to question your reason for writing. Is it to share your knowledge and experience? Or to entertain a chunk of society? Or to be honored as a best-selling author?

Your first step should be to answer the questions presented herein and then, if you wish to proceed, start changing the intention you project. Any hesitancy, doubt, or negative thinking will sink your boat. The energy of thought is powerful.

ANSWER: You are speaking of emotional responses to stimuli. Sometimes there is a direct connection with the immediate trigger that brings on the tears or chills, and other times it is a similar but not identical stimulus. You are bringing to the surface life lessons that have not been dealt with completely in your past lives. These are warning signs that all is not right in your world and you need to work on clearing blockages.

When you cry because you watch or read about man’s inhumanity to man or animal, you are placing yourself in the position of the oppressed. You have been in numerous situations over your lifetimes where you did not stick up for yourself when being abused. You tolerated the abuse of others under your care without interfering. You are now crying for all the injustice you allowed or in which you played a part.

When this happens again, stop and ask yourself how it makes you feel. Going into the feelings will deal with your emotions and not just the ideas you have running through your thoughts. As you recognize the cause of your discomfort, you will be able to deal with it by releasing the hold it has on you. Do this by seeing it as a lesson that you now understand and do not have to repeat.

Start loving yourself for taking part in this wonderful learning experience. Your problem with trust is twofold. First, you have set too many expectations for the behavior of others and they never get fulfilled. Stop trying to control what others do. Second, you harbor the idea that everyone is always going to lie to you, disappoint you, and abandon you.

Use the principles of the law of attraction to bring the right energies to you. See yourself dealing only with people who are truthful. Reject all negative thoughts, replacing them with positive possibilities. Your world will change.

ANSWER: The life the soul of your father chose for his lifetime was one of ambiguity and duality. He was neither completely homosexual nor entirely heterosexual but today would be considered bisexual. He loved both of his lives –that of loving father and husband and that of companion to a same-sex partner.

He was very discreet in his lifestyle because he did not want to hurt either of his families. The delay in your finding out is a tribute to his stealth. His homosexual traits came at a time when he would have been condemned for them and his employment would have been jeopardized.

Had the fact come out that he had a homosexual liaison, he would have been forced to make a selection between the two lifestyles, but his then-tarnished reputation would have made it impossible for him to provide for your mother and the family in the manner he did. He loved everyone too much to take the chance of discovery.

These challenges were part of his life lessons. They had no effect on your life because you didn’t even know. Anyone who did know chose not to divulge the information to you because it could only cause confusion and harm. Would it have made a difference in the way you think of your father today if you had found out he had a mistress or an affair? What about if you found half-siblings around?

He felt he had enough love for both sides of himself. Don’t think less of him because he struggled long and hard to learn the lessons he had chosen. He is watching over you and hoping you see his life was selected for the experience it provided.

ANSWER: You are a magnificent soul, a piece of Source that has all the properties of Source. Your illness is your barometer of accomplishment and success. When you get to a position where you should take hold of the reins and move on, you stick in the saddle and ride that wild horse for fear of the unknown. You do not want to assume responsibility for your life.

You figure that as long as you are an employee you will be protected. Problem is, you are easily a better healer than anyone for whom you have ever worked. They become jealous of your skills and connection to your patients, and as their patients fall off, they start to use you for their own profit, while they step back and work you like a pack mule. Your constant illnesses are the result—your body is speaking out whenever you are afraid to take action or hesitate to depend on yourself.

You do not need the recurring medical problems if you will merely make your own decisions about the rest of your life. You are fantastic at what you do, but—freedom of choice—you can throw it all away just because you are afraid to be responsible for your own practice.

If you put a fraction of the effort into your own business that you have done in all the others, you will be fabulously successful. Think of all the people you have helped who could not get help from other means. Be your own patient. Help yourself to move on just by using the same abilities you have always used which come so naturally to you. Take responsibility for your future without depending on others.

ANSWER: Your presence in the world helps others. As you have sensed, learning lessons by overcoming your struggles has given you many tools to assist others. You don’t need a formal stage upon which to reach out to those in need; they will be drawn to you. Be aware of those who approach you at work, on the street, in the market—they sense your strength and wisdom. Sharing your experiences will benefit them greatly.

Why do you think you are not ready to accept assistance from the other side? We, your guides and guardians, are always ready to give advice. Conferring with us through meditation or quiet conversation is channeling. When your belief is there, you are ready. It is a very human trait to think that you are not good enough or enlightened enough to reach out and accept the assistance that is hanging there ready to be snatched up. Take us up on our offer: we insist (subject, of course, to your freedom of choice J).

Be yourself. Honor yourself, and then in whatever place you find yourself at work, you will find happiness and fulfillment.

ANSWER: You are well aware of the reason for your problems but you have not admitted it to yourself. You do not love yourself; as a matter of fact you hate yourself. This lack of love makes it easy to be as nasty to yourself as you believe you deserve. You will not allow yourself to go into the causes of your thinking because it would be too painful for you. This you explain by saying your psyche is under lock and key and that it won’t release. Well, who has the key?

Nobody is going to be able to help you until you accept that all these negative situations have come to you because you are generating nothing but negativity. Love is the opposite of negativity. Accept the possibility that you deserve to be loved. You are a soul that came from the same place as all other souls, so why do you feel that you deserve less love than other souls?

After accepting the truth about your current condition, then believe that you can change. If you feel you cannot change, then you won’t. After you believe you can change, then work yourself into a place of knowing that it is possible for you to begin the process. After you know that you can do something, it is almost easy to begin doing it. When you begin allowing yourself to love and be loved, the negativity will start to disperse. As the negativity goes, you will feel the love around you and no longer hate yourself. Then you will become a person who can evaluate and deal with the situations which create a life other than what you desire.

The steps to change, therefore, are: accepting, believing, knowing, allowing, and becoming. Each action requires the desire to seriously change—so that is a pre-condition to having a fulfilling life.

ANSWER: Everyone is different. Souls have chosen to have a variety of experiences while on Earth. People who are afraid of taking responsibility for their lives cannot think or make decisions for themselves and constantly want others to tell them what to do. These types need to be in the immediate vicinity of others or they feel afraid, fearing abandonment or making mistakes.

Souls who are working on getting to know themselves and what abilities they have can do it more easily when not constantly being interfered with by others. You are one such individual. Your lessons have included learning about love, family, intellectual exploration, and stepping back to witness and observe what those around you are doing.

You feel some pressure from society to conform to the pattern of the majority: needing the advice of others. You are your own person and honor yourself enough to need only the inner feelings of your soul to decide what is best for you.

You are definitely not hindering yourself. To follow all the lemmings that need to run around with the crowd would be for you to deny who you are. People who cannot be content alone or at home are those who don’t love themselves or the journey they are on.

Continue to do what feels right to you and ignore all the taunts and gibes of others. They envy your freedom. To be satisfied with your life as it is without the need of the rest of society, or fulfilling society’s idea of living, is a choice that is yours to make.

You have the freedom that others crave. You decide what you do and when you do it. You don’t waste time in lounges or with people who are not on the same wavelength. You are at a point in your development toward which others strive. Go for it, girl!

ANSWER: “Luck” is a word that implies that things just happen for no reason and you have to sit there and take whatever is thrown your way. Nothing is further from the truth. What you must consider is the fact energy gathers like energy to itself. If you concentrate on what you do not have, the energy you are calling to yourself is the energy of lack. If you think of all the things that can go wrong with a situation, the universe thinks you want to experience those difficulties and brings them to you.

When engaged in a business transaction you constantly start thinking about what can go wrong and who else might intervene, so that is what materializes. You are getting buried in negativity. You must begin ridding yourself of all negative thoughts. You know your product is better so keep that thought foremost on your mind.

You must start seeing the transaction as completed instead of as a possibility. Any hesitancy grows into negativity and turns customers away from you. Your question even shows the degree of negativity your thoughts have reached. “The situations are beyond anyone’s control” is how you see your life. With that attitude you will never build success.

Begin a campaign of affirmations that have you selling your product to the world. See your knowledge powering a terrific sales increase. See yourself having all the money you need to turn around your financial situation. Any time a negative or restrictive (doubting) thought comes into your head, immediately replace it with a positive one. That is the way to manifest.

ANSWER: You have always been the first one to follow the leader and to take advantage of the advice and instructions of family, teachers, and friends. This has been a very safe life because you have never had to be responsible for the outcome of any of the decisions made by others that you followed. Consequently, as each of these leaders has found other interests, you find yourself alone and without an idea of how to start making decisions or friendships, or where to go with your life.

When you step up and make choices for yourself, you are vested in the outcome and take notice of everything that is happening. When someone else is driving, you have no idea where you are or what you must do next. This life is about understanding that all the choices have to be yours in order for you to truly accomplish your goals for your journey through this human existence.

You chose these lessons and this way of life to see if you could find a path that integrated you into life in general and provided a direction for your future. Could you learn to make informed decisions that taught you about yourself?

Nothing that happens on Earth is right or wrong. You can hang up on your life if you choose, but then you really would have learned nothing during this whole time. You can also stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop sitting on the sidelines, and step into the fray of living.

First take an inventory of things that interest you. Is there any one of them that would provide for your needs? Start talking to people to see if you have anything in common with them. Mingle with others and really listen to what they have to say about the way they cope with life – not to follow their path directly, but to see how choices are made. Then step up to the plate and take a big swing at living.

ANSWER: There is no such thing as “normal” applying to all souls having human experiences. You are caught up in what you think, by the example of what you see happening in society around you, is necessary for loving relationships. That completely depends upon the partners.

There are situations where intense love relationships exist without sexual intimacy. In cases where circumstances prevent contact – such as in paralysis, possible contagion, emotional fragility, and physical distance – the partners may provide solace to each other through communication alone. Some also abstain through vows of celibacy but still pair up for companionship.

You deeply desire and have a need for love, for being the object of the care of another, but while you can tolerate touching and holding, giving yourself over to the ministrations of another freaks you out. This stems from incidents in your earlier life where you were used by another against your will, and now you have an intense need for being in control over your body, which you do not feel is possible during sex.

You can examine your feelings and see if it is possible to restore a sense of confidence in another’s control for short periods of time. During a flashback of fear, go into the event and try to return to the cause. Once you have arrived, look at the incident through your adult eyes and see that it has nothing to do with your current status. You will then be able to release your blockage. This may or may not open you to desiring to engage in intimacy, but it will give you another perspective on your actions.

Any time you have a relationship, what happens within it is the choice of both parties. You have your hang-ups regarding sex, and your partner has to decide whether that is or is not a vital aspect of why he loves you. Being “in love” means accepting your partner and all that represents who they are. Intimacy is not an integral part of love.

ANSWER: What do you think about your husband’s regard for you? Do you think he honors and respects you? And what do you feel about him? Does he deserve your continued loyalty and respect? You are in the midst of stepping outside of your sheltered little house and seeing the world as it truly exists.

In the beginning you ignored the signs that showed your husband was being unfaithful to your marriage. You did not want to admit that he was choosing someone over you. It made you question your worth. You are a fantastic, magnificent person—you just have to see and accept that fact.

He is a very weak person and has to have someone to take care of him on whom he can depend to be there, or he cannot function. His woman in that other country is his stability. He sees women as possessions and servants to service his needs. He does not really know how to love another human being.

This part of your life is a lesson to see if you can honor your inner essence and do what is necessary to feel respected and loved. You may continue as things are, but it is preventing you from finding a caring, sharing man with whom you may go through the rest of your life. Love yourself enough to “feel” what you need to do to honor and plan for the next part of your life.

You are filled with unconditional love inside. Let it come out so you may feel fantastic about yourself and your decisions. Cutting loose from what is a marriage in name only will allow you to get out of the loneliness that has been there because you are holding open a hollow existence, and it will free you to move out into the light, and the companionship of others.

ANSWER: Living on the planet is a constant compromise of your wishes competing with those of the people around you. When you need to experience a life lesson, it will be drawn to you. Your current living condition is all about your life, what you learn from it, and what you don’t learn from it.

When you share walls, floors, and ceilings with others you do not have control over your environment. You can never get others to do anything they do not choose to do. Complaining to the parties or the landlord will be useless unless they are sympathetic to your condition and agree they have an obligation to comply with your wishes.

The more you fixate on the noise, the louder it will become. The more upset you get over their inconsideration, the more troubled you will feel. You are letting the intensity elevate because of your socialization difficulties. To help modify this situation, try to desensitize yourself to people.

There are people who experience life as you do. Look for them. Share coping skills. Learn to self-hypnotize to block out noises. Try going to an exercise class to help you get rid of the stress that makes all noises impact your body. Find the self-love you are running away from by working on the problem rather than complaining. Your life will improve dramatically.

ANSWER: You are managing your lessons very well. You have seen that making choices concerning the blame game for your decisions gets you nowhere, but when you accept and work through the fears and doubts, you understand what needs to be done. You are an older soul who has done this human trip many times, so you are into advanced lessons, not just minor ones.

All souls, particularly older ones, get that feeling that they want to be at Home right now. But then they realize that if they are in the middle of something, they will probably decide to come back and re-do or complete it after they go Home, so why not just stick around and finish up the current cycle.

Twin flames rarely are on the planet at the same time. There is no plan to meet during an incarnation. When the soul is in human form it has no idea whether or not it will choose to come back to Earth for another lifetime. That decision is made by each soul when it is at home reviewing what it has done and deciding if there is anything else it wishes to do.

Self-realization, or total enlightenment, is an individual thing that the soul has to complete. It does not need assistance. Suggestions may come from guides and soul mates but the work has to be done alone.

If you had met your twin flame, you would only be able to think of that person and no one else, even if you were involved with another. You would walk away from your family and strive to do everything possible to be only with your twin. You have not met your twin – who, by the way, is not even on the planet at this time.

Just like a young child, pets don’t understand what is happening to them. You must consider the quality of life that she is living at this time. Pets start out like any child needing you to care for them and make all the decisions for them. Children mature and become independent. Domesticated animals do not.

Animals age at a much faster rate than humans, so as you spend time together the pet becomes the age of your grandparents, while you may still think of it as your child. You are now holding on to her for your own sake. She is in a state of confusion, feeling cut off from the world because of failing sight and sound. In nature she would go off into the woods and await the inevitable in some safe little den.

Honor the time you have spent together and let her move out of her debilitated, restricted body with dignity. She will thank you and honor what you have given up for her comfort.

ANSWER: You certainly did not plan an easy period into your life. Your recent awareness of self has allowed you to weather the storms with minimal damage. Grief, acceptance, and forgiveness are some of this life’s lessons. Within this turmoil you have increased confidence in your own abilities. You were quite dependent upon your husband for emotional and day-to-day support. You were then tossed out without a safety net and not only survived but thrived. This was planned.

Your connection with universal life force energy has exposed you to unconditional love without emotional baggage. Spend time within that energy while meditating. Call it in and get used to the feel—that is the next step you are seeking. You will find strength and answers to all your problems as you spend time learning to love yourself.

You and your husband had many contracts which you have completed. He needs to experience new things without you—as do you without him. That does not mean that some time in the future you may not each choose to renew your contact. The time is not right for you now. You need to see and plan the immediate future with just yourself in mind. Think only of yourself for a change. Do things because they feel perfect for you and not because it is your usual pattern or someone else desires you to act in a certain way. Embark on the great adventure before you with an eager heart. Live in the present and let the past rest.

ANSWER: Congratulations on all the successes with your journey. You have realized that people have freedom of choice to make the decisions that impact their life. The next big realization you see has been that no two people progress at exactly the same rate toward enlightenment.

Your husband clings to some of his old traits because it makes him comfortable with those in society with whom he has to deal. He is not as sensitive to positive and negative energy as you are. Negative energy is the default setting in third-dimensional ego judgment and he is just going along with “the boys.”

His way of looking at life can have an impact on you only if you allow it to. You have done nothing to encourage his choice so why do you feel bad, tired, and hopeless? These are not your decisions for life; accept that they are his and are what he needs right now at this time in his life. He is never going to be exactly like you or have the same feelings about a philosophy of living.

You both love each other, so the question becomes: can you put up with his outlook on life as long as it does not really affect you? Understand that his journey is different from yours, and just as having different racial or religious backgrounds does nothing to prevent a happy life, why should this?

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You have not permanently lost your children. You must first open yourself to the thought of being in their lives. By your negative thoughts that you cannot get them back, you are keeping open the chasm that has been created between you. Banish the negative and embrace the positive. Envision sitting down and having a conversation with them and it will set the stage for such a meeting.

The encounter with the one known as Mahal Na Inkong was an instance of being in the presence of one who spends vast amounts of time in higher dimensions. He communicated to you a fragment of your purpose on Earth, a specific life-lesson. The information has significance for many periods in this life until you learn the wisdom behind the lesson. This message may act as a stimulus to understanding if you feel its clarity and power. Meditate on the words for the energy contained within them.

A. Your brother is afraid, almost to the point of being terrified. He thinks that too much association with you and your partner will turn him into a homosexual as well. He was in a fraternity of jocks at college who were homophobic. He is even afraid to talk to his friends about your lifestyle for fear of what they will think or do.

Your lesson of sexual preference entailed dealing with ambivalence within yourself. Secondarily, it addressed whether you were strong enough to overcome the self- worth issues that arose as you first made the discovery about yourself and the fact you were not like the majority of other humans on the planet. You never wavered accepting your choice and the related dissension that it caused. Going internally you felt your way to your truth and are now at peace.

You chose to experience a life as a homosexual in order to deal with prejudice and bigotry. It was even determined that you should find yourself in the midst of the family struggle that now exists. Just as your brother chose to put himself into a situation where he is completely controlled by the beliefs of others, you chose to be the stimulant that causes him to examine his feelings versus those of his friends.

You cannot force others to change their mind. You can, however, provide them with information about other points of view which allows them to change their opinion. Do not get confrontational with your brother. Treat him and his opinions as his right. Continue to send him holiday cards and gifts, and keep the invitations coming so that he can see you aren’t discriminating against him – as he is you.

ANSWER:  The one lesson you have not mentioned is jealousy, and that plays a big part in your dilemma. This revolves around the child and how it is a cherished result of the betrayal and something you cannot duplicate to return your life to where it was before the unfaithfulness. The salve of healing is unconditional love for all souls and the journeys they have chosen.

As deeply as you love your husband, since you feel he “got away” with something, you have not truly been able to forgive him. Imagine if this affair were an unfortunate financial situation into which he was lured and lost all your savings. Could you completely forgive him for causing you to change your living conditions because of lack of money? Since this involved your sacred marriage vows, you take it as ultimately more important.

There is no right or wrong answer to this lesson. You have loved this man in the past but cannot reach the state of unconditional love for him now after his deceitful actions. You have no obligation to remain with him. The choice is yours.

If you desire to return to a place where you accept him as the imperfect person he is, then you have to change some aspects of your life. First you have to stop living in the past. Concentrating on his faults won’t have any effect on them. You have to start ignoring the emotions that are only destructive and begin making a new life with the facts around you today.

Focus on your daily life together. Since you can’t change the past, see if you can become a stepparent to the child, who is blameless in this situation. The child’s life is going to be difficult because of the deception surrounding its birth; help it overcome the anxiety that will be present in the future. If you harbor negative feelings about the birth, the child will sense it and feel responsible; how stupid is that? If you cannot see yourself doing this, then maybe it is time to move on.

ANSWER: You need to get out of your own head and stop creating situations that make up fears and anxieties for you. Not everyone bonds immediately with their child, particularly when they have a preconceived notion of how that child is going to look. In your case, your slightly older nephew had developed his baby “cuteness” and you expected your daughter to be even more beautiful and cute when she came into the world because she was yours. She had a hard delivery and her features did not take on the “cuteness” for several weeks.

You are very hung-up on appearances and don’t open to the energetic sensations that accompany all people, such as love. The act of taking care of her, which has exhausted you at times, has allowed you to stop thinking about your disappointments and just feel her love. She does love you and is aware that your earlier reaction was part of a life lesson on judgment that you had to work out.

She loves you tremendously, but what you have sensed is her frustration that you don’t allow your feelings to overrule the conclusions you create with your mind. You are being totally controlled by third-dimensional ego judgment. You reach out to see what you think others are going to say about a situation rather than evaluating the situation yourself.

Your daughter is an advanced soul who has been to Earth many times and recognizes your behavior for what it is, even though you do not. She has come to help you learn to accept things as they are and not try to make them into something else. She will constantly fight against your unreasonable expectations and push you into delving into them because they are all part of life lessons.

Your life will be extremely smooth if you get rid of judgment, open to the feeling of love, and stop trying to micro-manage every aspect of life. Put your thinking on hold and activate your sense of feeling. Let your unconscious wisdom come through and help you enjoy this experience.

ANSWER: What you are saying over and over again is you do not choose to be alone. You do not choose to be responsible for your decisions and your life. You are paranoid concerning others’ thoughts. You are constantly second-guessing everything that you do. You want the approval and acceptance of others before you can feel good about what you do and where you are. You apply a major significance to the minor interactions that occur within the group dynamic.

It is time to finally acknowledge that no one can affect the way your life is going but yourself. It is unimportant what others think, say, or do regarding your life. It is also impossible for you to know truly what anyone else is thinking or feeling about the way you are leading your life, since you do not inhabit their physical being.

It is time to put a mirror in front of yourself that will not allow you to see anything else. Start living your life by examining the way you react to things from outside you. Take each incident and see how it makes you feel. Ask why you feel that way;  that will show you the problems you are really hiding from. Go into those situations and acknowledge what the facts are within and how you wish to resolve them. Others have nothing to do with the feelings you have about them or yourself. When you work on yourself you will not be fixated on the others.

ANSWER: Leaving him will not teach him how to treat a woman, because he does what he can get away with. He has treated each woman with the degree of disdain that she allowed. You are correct that his behavior is the result of your allowing it to occur. This is a series of lessons you have chosen. You wished to see what it would be like to be abused, disrespected, and treated as an object less than human.

You have no respect for yourself or you would walk away from this instead of letting it continue. You must find the self-love that is in your heart and soul and let it free  you. Honor the fact that you have chosen to place yourself in this position so that you might understand the lesson and move out of it.

No one “deserves” to be treated like this, but people may choose to experience it so that they can recognize the lessons and move on to something else. All souls come from the same beginnings – the energy of Source. You have to accept that you have all the power and abilities of Source in order to easily change the situations you programmed for this life.

Create an aura around yourself of love, respect, power, and independence. Don’t let another tell you what to do or how to behave. When entering into a relationship, tell the suitor what you want; don’t do or say things just because you think it is what he wants. You are just as important. If he doesn’t want to listen, then you don’t need him in your life.

ANSWER: Your fiancé is a wonderful man but you think of him more as a protective brother than a lover. He, on the other hand, is deeply in love with you. Your personal issues of feeling betrayed, not being good enough, and not being able to trust people have kept you from searching for someone to love as a partner.

You have always had a strong need to be needed by someone, and your fiancé was the first one who treated you in that way unconditionally. You allowed the relationship to go all the way to a marriage proposal because he was the only one with whom you felt safe. He felt love for you and you felt needed by him; you had no idea what romantic love felt like at that time.

This new man has introduced you to a pure love attraction and not just a nurturing allure. You will tear yourself up if you do not decide what to do in this situation. Either decision is a winning one for you. Your fiancé will always love and cherish you, and the new attraction will introduce you to unbridled love. Both men have your best interests at heart.

It is impossible to have both of them at once unless they both are aware of the situation and consent. You have a tremendous amount of strength inside you, which you have never used out of fear. Your soul is a piece of Source with all the magnificent powers of Source. Bask in that power and see which life you desire. Tell your fiancé of your love for him but that you have not had a love attraction for him, and talk it out. He may find a way to let you feel the kind of attraction for him that he feels for you.

Talk to your new man about your fiancé, the safety he has brought to your life, and what fear is in the rest of the world for you. You will find he is all about sexual love but not about nurturing. Can you feel comfortable with sex and not being needed for anything else?

It is kind of you to worry about helping others deal with their lessons, but a soul’s journey is a solitary undertaking. It is also impossible to get another to do anything unless they are willing to make changes that you can see from the outside but they can’t from the inside. Not only do some people not know how to resolve their tests, they may not even identify them as such because they can’t see past the ego judgment of society. Those who rely upon the instructions and opinions of others instead of their feelings about things will remain the same.

Unless a soul having a human experience recognizes that they are on a journey and that happiness does not, and cannot, exist in negativity, they cannot redirect their life to rid themselves of the fears and doubts that outline lessons. To understand that learning is all about making choices, one must want to amend their behavior to address it.

A way to change your environment is to first accept that it can be changed. You are not stuck in some deep, dark, bottomless pit. Every time you find yourself in negative energy, ask yourself: what is it attached to? Follow it back to its source and then probe the source until you see why it is there. You can then decide if you wish it to remain or if there is no longer any need for it.

A big part of finding happiness and a peaceful life is to love yourself. Loving yourself is based in acceptance. Accept that you are a magnificent soul who chose to be where you are, faced with what you are facing, and that you need to spend the time to understand and learn from the negativity before you send it packing.

ANSWER: When you reach the point of talking to the essence of your soul, there is absolutely no amount of judgment or negativity present. The soul is just unconditional love. Under hypnosis you may reach your unconscious self, sometimes referred to as your higher self. There are layers of higher selves, depending upon whether all the lessons of the lifetime have been dealt with and there is no longer a connection to the physical third dimension.

The unconscious aspect of your human self contains all the parts of which you are conscious, as well as those that have broken off and are within your day-to-day hidden unconscious awareness. Various experiences during a lifetime may create trauma. If you cannot deal with these traumas on a conscious level, the memories are relegated to the unconscious. If they are horrendous enough—for example, involved with guilt, betrayal, or abuse—a section of your soul or the person you know may become dissociated from the conscious. This can result in split personality, a hidden inner child that never develops with the adult self, or a compartment that remains closed until opened, as in hypnosis.

These parts of yourself may have a very skewed version of fact. They may claim that your conscious self—the part you identify with as Nicole—has done something wrong for whatever reason. What you need to do is reunite the parts of your soul that have fragmented. Procedures such as those known as parts therapy, joining the inner child, or restructuring can bring the divided aspects of your self back together again. You are not in symbiosis because you are not in a unified piece.

ANSWER: You crave recognition and reward for doing your life’s work. That means you are not satisfied with who you are and need to get love from outside of you because you don’t love yourself. Every characteristic that you seek for yourself is a judgment of ego-based factors. It is saying you are not magnificent or sufficient as a soul and must be accepted in the human world to feel complete.

How can any life experience chosen by an immortal soul ever be meaningless? To exist is to achieve something through the use of your intention, so you could never have a moment that was lived disappear from memory. Every day you spend interacting with the world is achieving knowledge for you and the universe.

Your desire is not to take the time to feel what is right for you but to be protected, guarded, and guided into “doing the right thing” by the opinions of others. What you are doing is perfectly all right because nothing is right or wrong. The fear you have is responsibility for making your own decisions. This is a huge barrier to climb over and it is old. You have frequently chosen to be controlled by the whim of those around you. It felt safe, because if others made all the decisions, you could never be wrong.

Find your power. Honor your soul and take charge of your life. You have freedom of choice to do whatever you want to experience. Start looking at the world without looking through someone else.

ANSWER: First, you must understand that there is no such judgment system as the way you are speaking of karma. The concept of things being either right or wrong and souls having to undergo a punishment for what they have done before does not exist outside of the human incarnation. Each soul decides what it wants to experience during a lifetime. This is partially done within contracts that it agrees to and makes with other souls. Such was the case between you and your son.

Within his body, your son is very aware of what is going on around him. He wanted to be an observer in this lifetime to see the reactions of other people to him and to feel the sense of helplessness of not being able to fully communicate his needs and desires to others. This was not the result of any past life but rather a conscious choice that he made.

One of the contracts made between the two of you was for him to stimulate you to find your emotional core and to examine your spiritual self for understanding of this situation. The ultimate goal of an incarnation is to spend the time trying to understand and appreciate the true nature of ourselves. Having a blessed friend, like your son, in a life with you helps you to focus on the issues you seek.

This life and this contract were more for your benefit than for his. Thank him for his sacrifice. He has taught you a lot and allows you to see so much more of human interactions than you could have seen in any other way.

ANSWER: This man, while he is from your same soul group and has shared lives with you before, is not your twin flame. You both chose similar life-lesson patterns for this lifetime so you appear to be identical in many aspects, hence the basis for your belief about the connection between you. He has his lessons hidden under a layer of emotionless personality. Your lessons are hidden under a lack of self-confidence and the need for constant acceptance and validation.

Having him near will not correct your problems or help you learn your lessons. You have to look to yourself for your answers. It is time to take responsibility for your insecurities. You want someone to tell you what to do because you have no confidence in your own decisions. It is time to ask why. You have been programmed to believe that you are not as good as other people and cannot take care of yourself.

All humans have an everlasting perfect soul inside of them. You have to accept that soul as your energy source and believe it will protect you and provide all the answers for you. When you sense a doubt arising about an activity, go into your feelings and ask why that fear is present. If you clear out your usual thought patterns of blame, you will begin to sense the cause. Mostly things that have been done or said to you have planted this fear and doubt in your being.

Once you have an idea about the cause, you then ask whether you feel you need to keep this response alive in you. If it no longer serves you and you want to change your reaction to this type of situation, then choose what way you want to handle similar things in the future. Your soul mate has as many problems to solve as you do but they are not the same, so being together right now will only magnify the problems you face.

ANSWER: In one word – expectations! You have been so close with this friend for so many years that you had your whole lifetime together, with parallel lives, planned out in minutiae. Growing up you had a balance of who would do what and who was leader in various activities.

As you have grown up you now see she isn’t following your imagined pattern for her life. There are certain aspects of her life that you had believed would be yours. You have not achieved these goals and your “traitorous” friend has.

You need to reevaluate what this friend means to you. You can remain in competition with her or you can realize you each have separate lives, and your thoughts and dreams have no effect on her. The way you are finding yourself feeling about her has to do with your disappointment concerning your own life and the things in which you feel you have not succeeded.

It is time to forgive yourself for not meeting your own expectations. It is time to stop blaming her for not doing what you had planned for her to do. She is a very strong soul and exercises her freedom of choice to match her own desires. She does not intentionally do anything to make you feel bad. She is just following her own journey.

Stop imagining that she is intentionally trying to harm you or get you mad or jealous of her. Accept that she is on her own path and honor her journey. Allow her to be herself. Stop anticipating what should happen between the two of you and just go with the flow of the universe.

If you feel you are unable to step away from the drama that has grown between the two of you, then you should consider stepping away from contact with her until you can resolve the anger and jealousy you are harboring. Placing yourself into an untenable situation for you emotionally will not allow you to resolve the conflict.

Examine the feelings you are having and ask yourself why you are feeling the way you are. When you reach the source of the discomfort, you will be able to easily resolve your problems. Give it a try if you want to maintain this relationship.

Bouquets represent the cycle of your life. Within the flowers, the living, breathing essence of nature shows all the stages that you go through in each incarnation. Your need to have living things around is to affirm for yourself that you are alive in every positive way. The flowers are the beauty that is within you that you do not always see outside of you, so you compensate with the flowers. In this beauty, that you love, you feel love.

Arranging the flowers gives you the sense of control in your life of which you feel a lack. With the conscious arranging of the flowers you sense that you can truly manifest the life you desire. It gives you hope and a sense of fulfillment.  But just like the life of the flowers is finite, so is the reality of living through their blossoms.  

ANSWER: You are sabotaging yourself by having created such specific expectations for your life that they hinder every other possible thought. A soul’s sole purpose is to understand and learn from the lessons they chose to face during their incarnation. No one is obligated to do anything for anyone else – particularly not until they have finished their own lessons.

Addiction is a major lesson for you, and the fact that you have not understood why you chose to be so afflicted and have not figured out a way to rewrite that need in your body shows you still have much to work on for yourself before worrying about service to others.

You can continue to assist others through your healing practices, but you carry much negativity in your head about your inadequacies and faults. That is what feels like an anchor on your momentum. Start with increasing love of self. Understand what a magnificent person you are as a piece of Source energy and that, with this difficult life you chose, you should be honored for your perseverance.

Accept that each thing you have accomplished is a milestone toward spiritual enlightenment. You must have faith in yourself and the abilities available to you. Send away the negativity when it approaches and replace it with unconditional love for your life.

ANSWER: Your friend’s lessons in this life include feeling abandoned and unloved because her father, who is nothing more than the person who contributed the sperm to fertilize her mother’s egg, chooses not to have anything to do with her. He does not wish to be associated with the mother, the daughter, or the family in any way; he did not want to have a baby.

This man’s lessons include guilt, thoughtlessness, selfishness, and insensitivity. He does not take responsibility for his actions and chooses to run away from anything he cannot control. Introducing him into your friend’s life would only create more heartache and difficult situations.

The biggest lesson for your friend is to recognize and accept that this is all about learning to love herself and not judge others. Self-love, when it is truly accepted, completes the needs for the human experience. It is not selfish or narcissistic to love oneself. It is merely an acceptance of the soul inside and its status as a piece of the magnificent, eternal Source.

Spending time trying to find your friend’s father takes away from the work that can accomplish learning and love in her life. She has created expectations of a loving individual and he is not it. He will not add anything to her life but sorrow. Whenever she thinks about him she is inviting in negative thoughts, emotions, and feelings. This attracts more negativity, and happiness (positive energy) is hard to find hidden in all of this.

Let her create a life of her own. She doesn’t need anyone else to tell her what she wants. She is looking for answers to her existence and they are all inside.

ANSWER:  You spend a lot of time in your head where you tear about and analyze everything. You expect to be able to have physical, scientific proof for the hypotheses that you explore. You rarely settle something in your life by seeing how it feels or resonates within you. The reason you experience these difficulties is that you do not truly understand love.

Love is the power source of the human race. It drives desires and provides happiness in the physical realm. Your interpretation of love has more to do with ideations of romantic love than the unconditional love of Source and the universe. The way to totally understand love is to experience the degree to which you love your soul. You can only love another to the degree to which you love yourself.

We are not talking about a selfish, narcissistic love but an appreciation of the wonders of who you essentially are in this incarnation on Earth. All souls are pieces of the all-powerful, magnificent, all-knowing Source and therefore have the same abilities and powers. When not in a physical form, all souls dwell in their essential energy of unconditional love. Once they come into a human form they are assailed by negative energy, which hides that unconditional love.

One of your life lessons is to explore all aspects of love. To find your connection with love, accept who you are as a piece of Source. Love everything you have done in this life. Appreciate how far you have progressed in your professional career, and after you spend time in that unconditional love of life, finally go looking for a romantic love.

The only barrier to bringing a sharing romantic experience to yourself is your pre-conceived expectation of what that will be like. Open up to the love you have, send it out to the universe in search of like energy, and be present in the moment when it starts filtering back to you in the form of another human.

Don’t judge what you first feel until you have had a chance for both of you to get comfortable with each other.  Besides your use of the power of attraction, you have to place yourself in situations where you are accessible to others of a like mind. They will not be able to find you if you aren’t in a position to be reachable.

ANSWER: This woman is harboring a negative entity that is influencing everything that she does. Your husband has been enticed by this negativity because it is exciting and feels dangerous. He considered his life to this point to be boring, so he followed this adventurous vixen. He is under the spell of this negativity. What will happen is dependent upon the choices each will make from this point onward.

Your husband was chosen partially because your ex-friend thought it was the perfect way to get back at you for all the years she felt you made fun of her. She has a very fragile self-esteem and felt you could do anything and were always showing her to be a dunce. She is having emotional and mental problems at this time because she is following the suggestions of the entity that inhabits her. The one playing the games is it and not her. She is very weak, in denial of a problem, and enjoying the chaos she is causing.

Your husband does still have feelings for you underneath the negative influence. He will be able to come back to you only if he can free himself from the need to feel the excitement that his actions are bringing him. No one can influence him if he does not want to change. You are going to have to wait and see what choices he makes. It is possible for him to recognize the negative influence and choose to walk away.

You have choices to make at this time, too. Your relationship has been a co-dependency where each of you has been depending upon the other for decisions and actions you should have made yourselves. Take this opportunity to do an inventory of your needs and desires. Are they yours, or are you reflecting what they would be if your husband were still with you? This will allow you to see what you need to work on in your life.

ANSWER: Your current husband is a member of your soul group and you have shared a number of former lives together. You recognized his energy signature when you first met him and it felt familiar and comfortable. You had planned to meet in this lifetime to assist each other with your lessons.

His major lesson is to recognize that he lives in negativity and spends a lot of time pulling it to him. He revels in having others feel as bad as he does and gathers those around him who bring their own negative energies. He is sucking energy out of you, and you are allowing him to do it by not shutting down the connection when he hooks on to you.

Your lesson is to make the decision what this section of your life will be. You have the ability to help him to try to see his constant negative thoughts and change his behavior. Since this is his lesson, he will have to accept and understand what he is doing before he can make the choice to stop. He would have to learn to enjoy positive thoughts and actions. He needs to get out of his constant judgment and controlling ways.

If you cannot get him to see the need to change, your only choices are to continue as you are or to leave his environment so as not to be drained dry. Your lesson is to exercise your freedom of choice to be where you want to be.

ANSWER: Your friends have created their own definition of Wicca. They pretend a lot, saying they are doing things when they really aren’t. Most of their conversation while they are in the “spirit realm” is imagination or made up. To get familiar with Wiccan practices throughout the world, purchase some of the standard books on Wicca or see if the local library has the historical volumes.

No big secret—entering into a realm other than the physical just takes practice. It can be done through your intention with repetition. Begin with learning to meditate to the degree in which you cut off your own thoughts and leave yourself open to hearing and participating with the non-physicals. A first step is also sensitizing yourself to the natural energies around you. Hug a tree and feel its life flow. Place your hand on the Earth and feel the tempo of life.

Your soul is not so young that it can’t open to the universal flow of life-force energy. Something that can help you is learning about Reiki energy transfer. You may want to take a class or just be in the presence of Reiki practitioners. This will allow you to see what energy flow feels like to your human body; everyone perceives it differently.

Your friends are having fun at your expense. They want to find some way to feel superior to you, and they have chosen this way of denigrating and making you feel left out. True friends would not do this. True friends would work with you to help you advance and understand. It is possible to practice Wicca without being part of a coven. If this is the practice you seek, give it a go on your own.

ANSWER: You are completely aware of the lessons you came to deal with, but you are doing nothing to learn or understand them. Your lessons appear to you as fear and doubts, which you run away from or ignore. Daily feelings are a choice one makes. You can be sad and despondent or happy and productive – the choice is yours.

You are always getting injured because you are walking through life in a fog. You are never aware of things around you and crash into them. You spend so much time lost in your negative thoughts of unhappiness and depression that you see nothing around you. To change this, it will take work on your part.

All souls create the reality in which they live. It may be negative and destructive or positive and thriving. Negativity is easy to deal with because it is everywhere. It is the default setting in the duality of Earth. Positive energy also abounds, but you have to take the time to see the negativity and make the choice to replace it with positivity.

You have a perfect way to deal with all the negativity and lack of hope in your life by choosing to concentrate on your artistic abilities. Your overall negative demeanor prevents you from believing enough in yourself to think you can develop them. All you have to do is take that first step into using your talent to change your life.

When you arise each day, look at the world around you. Get an impression of what is happening. Describe for yourself what the day appears to be bringing into your world. If anything is negative – such as a feeling of overwhelm or sadness, or that the weather is terrible – immediately change that concept in your head.

Know that you can face the day one element at a time. Think of the happiest event you have experienced and bring that energy into your body. If it is raining, think how it will make the flowers grow and clear the smog from the air. Then, and only then, begin your day in this positive energy. Each change to positivity will reduce the negative failure feelings within you. Go make it happen!

ANSWER: You have such intense expectations about the “way things should be” that you do not allow for the interaction of other people and family members. You are overwhelmed only because things are not going the way you think they should. You cannot dictate the way others will respond to the same stimuli you face. Every soul is on its own path.

You are very much involved in third-dimensional ego judgment. You are constantly judging, rating, and grading yourself against what you observe and read of others’ behavior. You are not them. They have different life choices that they are following. Your choices are to be able to understand yourself and your motive in life.

You have been fantastic in giving love and support to your daughters, but now as they age, you want to control their thinking and they are rebelling. Let them lead their own lives. They have to deal with their lessons to learn and to see where they will go from here. If anything you are trying too hard to be perfect. Lighten up.

Time is right for you to step back and evaluate what has happened in your life, marriage, and child rearing up to this point. What have you learned from the experiences? Is there anything you would like to modify in your behavior that would make life more pleasant for you? Do it.

It is time to stop thinking and working for others – husband, kids, other acquaintances – and start working on your spiritual growth. Stop plotting, envisioning, and analyzing, and start seeing what actions resonate with your soul. Always ask: How do I feel about this? Get away from the analytical thought comparisons that you have been making.

ANSWER:  Channeling does not always mean “hearing” messages in your language of choice. It is much more common for the message to be delivered in feelings, visions, or some outside indication such as a flickering candle. Your guides are always around you – as they are with everyone else, even those who would deny their existence.

Your happiness is the result of being in the presence of the unconditional positive loving energy of the spirits. The fear and doubts are the remainder of your chosen life lessons, which you have not completed. You are having issues with self-confidence, self-worth, self-love, and belief in your own abilities.

Patience is another lesson you have difficulty with. You have many expectations of what you want to do. Some of them are realistic, while others would be classified as idealistic. The universe brings to all souls those experiences they need to fulfill their purpose. The purpose of all souls is to understand their magnificence and abilities and figure out how to use them in their present physical form.

Your desire to help others should be attempted only after you have helped yourself with your lessons and journey into self-love. Call your guides in when you clear your mind, such as for meditation. Ask them to assist you in finding your way. Since they already communicate through the candle, use it to get yes and no answers to your questions. You might also use a pendulum to start the dialogue. Take your time and have faith in yourself.

ANSWER: You are placing yourself as the supreme judge of what you imagine other people are thinking, when it is impossible to be in their bodies to know what they feel. Emotions are very personal sensations that can only be generated from within the individual. By observation you may be able to get a sense of how another reacts to a situation, but you cannot tell with certainty if your conclusions are correct.

Each person controls how and why he or she loves another. Loving someone unconditionally has no impact on what that person feels for or returns to you. Some people are incapable of understanding just what love is. You may send them buckets of unconditional love and their response may be to feel slighted because you didn’t compliment them on their new outfit.

Don’t try to take on the emotional response of those around you. Don’t feel responsible for how others interpret your loving exchanges. Just be yourself. Do what you would want done to and for you. You can never tell when your words are misinterpreted. Some people thrive in negative energies and only see what comes to them as negative or destructive; you can’t change or influence their reading of a matter.

Each soul is on its own journey. You can’t take a single step or make a single decision for anyone else. You cannot program how others will respond to a situation. Stop trying to direct those around you. They have lessons they chose to experience, and things will happen to them per their choice. Give up your need to control.

A. The animals that you choose to raise as pets serve you in many ways. In the case of a lonely person like yourself, pets substitute for human companionship. You also have very little self confidence and the pets are non-threatening, contrary to people. When you lose one of them, that portion of love in your life is removed, and as much as it hurts to lose a pet, you need to have that love replaced, so you get another pet.

Interaction with pets also reflects the personality of the owner. It represents one’s innermost thoughts, feelings, and needs. Most people have pets to provide the love that they cannot get in any other way. Pets, particularly dogs, love their owners unconditionally, regardless of how they are treated. Who doesn’t want to be adored by someone or something? Other people need to have control, to be able to strike out at something, to get revenge for hurt suffered without having to deal with the cause of the hurt.

Dysfunctional people (in human terms) who cannot deal with others can still satisfy their need to control by training their animals to do what they desire. Seeing that something obeys every command gives a sense of worth to the individual who has a feeling of being worthless. Even having a fish, which eagerly comes to the top of the bowl to get fed, feels good to the lonely and provides the idea of being in control of at least a part of his or her world.

Animals can also keep an elderly person young. They provide a reason to get up and move, to feed, exercise, and take care of the pet friend. They keep loneliness at bay, and are a great way to meet others who share an interest in a similar type of pet.

Because pets do not have the longevity of humans, you are forced to see them come and go while you stay around. This allows you to take stock of how your former pet assisted you with your life’s lessons, and gives you the opportunity to try a new approach to further your growth within a new relationship. 

ANSWER: Organized religions are very important in your world to help those who have not fully accepted that they can make their own choices to get some stability in their life. Take each precept from the religion, and from your life, and see if it feels like it resonates with you; if it does, keep it; if it does not, let it go with thanks for having aided you in your travels.

We have always told our listeners that you are exactly where you need to be in your life at the time you are there. This is your trip and it is a solitary journey for each soul. No two trips will be the same; they may parallel another’s if you are living together, but they are still unique.

We suggest that you may get a firmer idea about the possibilities before you if you accept the nature of your being. You are a piece of Source and, as such, are all powerful, all magnificent, and all creative. After you reach acceptance, act on your belief, knowing that you may use those abilities to bring to you what you need and desire in this life. Then become the power and manifest a reality for yourself.

Your thoughts and words are extremely powerful. You have been sabotaging your finances by bringing up the lack that has been in your life. When you fixate on a condition, your energy sends out the message and the universe thinks that what you think is what you want—hence little money. See yourself with sufficient money and withdraw any thoughts of lack from your mind and conversation.

ANSWER: Your higher self, that part of your soul just outside your consciousness, thought it was time for you to have a reality check—to really see what was going on with and around you. Because you loved that job so much it became a sanctuary for you. It protected you from seeing what your husband was doing, and from realizing what you were not facing on your own spiritual path. Being free from its protection forced you back into the present reality to deal with day-to-day matters.

Since you left that employment you have done a great job of living in the moment and seeing what you had ignored while your sanctuary shielded you. Shedding the fears and insecurities further sharpened your awareness. You are now ready to venture forth on your own.

Go to your former employer and explain that you left because of personal problems that you sensed would interfere with your performance of the work. This is not a story because on an unconscious level that is exactly what happened. Explain how you have always loved the work and know you are now capable of giving them 100% of your attention. This is not the only job out there that will give you that same sense of belonging. Feel for the right place for you and you will make the connection.

ANSWER: The true purpose of meditation is to be able to communicate with your higher self, or unconscious, and to access both spirit guides and a review of your life without the conscious blockages that help you maintain a peaceful third-dimensional life.

In order to meditate, one must be able to shut down their thinking, reasoning mind, which is always “telling” you what to do and think. Some refer to this mind as a gerbil in a cage constantly running around on his exercise wheel, or a group of chattering moneys that won’t shut up. Shutting it down is much easier said than done, since you have spent your whole life depending on that noise for direction.

There are many types of meditation techniques, but some become so restrictive that you only spend time on perfecting the method instead of clearing the mind. These include the numerous breathing techniques, mudra or finger motions, chanting, and visualizations.

Attempting to shut down the thinking process may be accomplished with self-hypnosis or some repetitive body motion that engages the mind while not having it involved in conscious thinking. This type can be seen with walking meditation or possibly doing a labyrinth, washing dishes, or knitting.

Once reaching a meditative state, you may access the life lessons that you are working on. This can result in releasing things you have clung to that you no longer need. Frequently this release brings forth emotional reactions such as crying, laughter, sadness, or elation. It is common to feel “lighter” after such episodes.

When dealing with very emotionally charged memories, even your unconscious will sometimes disconnect so you don’t re-experience trauma; this will manifest as your “falling asleep.” As you have seen, touching your inner self brings about realizations that you could not obtain in any other fashion. You are doing great – keep it up.

ANSWER: Your life has changed. You have accomplished much, but as you have done so, your perspective has also changed, and you therefore perceive a new starting point. When at a new beginning, what is ahead looks daunting and impossible. It is like when you went from primary school to middle school and then on to university or professional school. Each seemed as if you knew nothing and were never going to get anywhere. You sensed that all the prior work accomplished nothing, but in reality, all that work made it possible for you to be able to move on.

You have been completing your life lessons, and that has allowed you to understand about energy and how each soul creates their own realities. Being in the midst of the changes, you don’t see them. You have manifested the changes, as you are aware, but since you don’t know what you can do with them, they appear to be insignificant.

You are at a turning point, or crossroads, where it is time to find something about which you can be passionate. A passion will pull you through each day and make you want to get up and continue with life. You had not planned anything specific before coming so the choice is open.

You have awakened to your essence and the purpose for which souls come to the duality, and you are now in a position to assist others in achieving this awareness. You are very creative, although you have not used this for anything, and it is something that could bring you together with others and allow you to share your remarkable wisdom with them.

Step out of the pattern that has felt so comfortable, albeit inhibiting, and experiment with brightness and light in the world. Find hobbies that please you and bring you joy. Get out of that rut and see the world anew.

ANSWER: It is impossible to help someone if they don’t want to be helped or don’t think they need any help.  Your son and his wife are confident they don’t need anyone—neither your family nor her family. It started out with people commenting on their drinking and lifestyle and then later about their attitude. They chose to behave the way they do and don’t think anyone should comment upon their personal choices.

Once people assume responsibility for themselves, they do not like to have others attempt to make their decisions for them by telling them what to do or what they are doing wrong. This couple is leading the life in which they feel most comfortable. There is no law that states that just because you are related to a person by birth or marriage, they have an obligation to have any contact with you. Everything in life is governed by the individual’s freedom of choice.

Why do you feel guilty? Did you do anything to cause this rift? You are incapable of directing the thoughts and actions of others unless they consent. No matter how bad you feel about a situation, you are powerless—it is their path. Nothing you have done has caused their separatist actions. Stop trying to create a relationship where one does not exist.

You contribute to your own hurt feelings by accepting their insensitivity and nasty comments. If you just consider the source and let the comments roll off your back they will not sting. You have been letting the actions dig under your skin and fester. Look at the events that occur as a horrid drama portrayed by strangers intent on hurting each other, and make the decision not to take part. Help yourself by staying out of their chosen negativity.

ANSWER: Every soul creates their own reality. If you impose limitations on your world you are restricted by what you can understand and learn. It is you who sets the beliefs of possibilities. You already know that one of your life lessons chosen is that of a lack of self-confidence. But rather than addressing this issue and figuring out why it is there and what you wanted to learn from it, you have embraced it wholeheartedly and let it define you.

You have totally shied away from accepting that you are a piece of Source energy with magnificent powers and abilities. You hide in the corner and watch others doing what you have the ability to do if you were only to believe. There is nothing wrong with remaining as you are, but you will not grow in spiritual wisdom by staying still.

With your freedom of choice, you get to define who and what you are. Are you a timid little mouse or a strong elephant charging through life to gather knowledge? Certain factors from your youth made you think you were unable to deal with life. Are you going to let them triumph, or are you going to examine all those erroneous beliefs and reform them into a happier, less traumatic existence?

You are in the driver’s seat. Since you have stayed away from learning to drive, it stands to reason that you fear taking responsibility for the actions in your life. You have no choices if you don’t think you do. You then depend upon others to tell you what to think and do. Want to change that?

To create a new dynamic, you have to accept that your essence is powerful. In the deepest layer of your being, you have to want to change. You have to find out what causes the fear of responsibility. You have to start trusting yourself to make the right decisions for you. Then you have to take that first step outside the comfort zone you have created for yourself.

The universe is huge, and you have spanned its width and breadth in other lifetimes. You are missing so much by limiting your life to your small world. Continue if you wish, but the rest of society is awaiting your debut.  

ANSWER: Everything in the universe is energy. There are only two kinds of energy on the planet: positive and negative, and only two kinds of feelings or emotions: love and fear. They pretty much correlate. If you are in positive energy there is a sense of peace, love, and understanding. If you are in negative energy you sense fear of the unknown and fear in all of its other forms. Anything that feels like a threat, something to be avoided, or a decision you don’t wish to make, is coming from the negative energy around you.

You were on automatic pilot as you went through school with someone else always at the controls. This meant just having to learn what was shown to you without requiring you to take any responsibility or even make decisions. You like this environment and that is why you even see yourself going back to school.

Any position that you would take right now, whether in nursing or some other profession, would create a panic situation as you began. You have to get more in touch with yourself before you can go out into the world. Nursing has taught you that you like to help people and that you are very good at it. But you have also learned that there are some patients that cannot be helped or do not want to be helped, and you see that as uncomfortable to you.

You need to decide that the world cannot be as you would like it to be, but has to be dealt with in its own form. Whatever you decide to do, just do your very best and the satisfaction that you receive will be sufficient for you. If you remain hiding from your fear of taking responsibility, staying home and not getting a job, you will come to a place where you totally despise yourself, which will cause you to be paralyzed by the fear. Get out of this hiding place now!

ANSWER: You have chosen life lessons of abandonment, self-doubt, self-hatred, and victimization. Because you have not worked on these lessons during your spiritual trek, your life appears to be against you. Your path is to discover your superb essence of unconditional love and then use your powers to know yourself, find love within, and manifest that which you wish to experience.

You feel that a partner will change everything that has gone before in this life and make you feel complete. Nothing is further from the truth. The completeness must begin with accepting yourself and shedding the negativity that surrounds you. The sensations of doubt, fear, and devastation, and the need to run away, are all things you have set up for yourself. Address them and your life will change dramatically.

You can get hurt only if you allow yourself to be hurt. Your own feeling in a situation is what imparts the degree of pain. If you see each situation for what it is, a life experience from which to gather knowledge, it cannot give you pain. If you see it as a personal affront to make you suffer, that is what you will receive.

You are anticipating that any relationship will end disastrously, so that is what happens. You are the one programming the behavior you perceive. During your brief interlude with your old friend, you constantly saw it ending badly even as you were in the beginning stages of accepting the love he offered. Your devastation equaled the amount of effort you put into orchestrating its outcome.

You are worthy of being happy in a physical relationship. You are a beautiful person: see yourself in that way. Reach inside to the unconditional love that is your essence and embrace that feeling for yourself. Don’t run away. Stay and work through the negativity you have been gathering around you and send it packing.

ANSWER: You have severe doubts about yourself and your abilities. When you try to visualize something to manifest it into your life, you are also thinking: “Yeah, like that is really going to happen,” or “I can’t possibly do that,” or “I’m not good enough for that.” This is not only a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem but a denial of who you are as a soul – a piece of Source.

As a soul you have all the powers and abilities of which Source is composed. In order to use any of them, you first have to accept that you possess these traits. After accepting that they are within you, you have to believe you can use them for your own benefit. Next, convince yourself that you can use them, and start in small ways, like bringing to yourself specific opportunities for work and finances.

In order to work with your abilities, you have to want to change from the location you occupy now. It has become too comfortable for you to live in the fear and not have to do anything about it. The fears and the doubts are your life lessons, and they will stick around until you face them and tell them to leave.

You can do this by asking yourself where they came from and what is holding them to you. They are all negative in nature and you have to choose to be positive to chase them off. Examine your thoughts about these doubts and state to yourself how you wish things really were. See a positive result and put intentional energy into it.

Money is nothing more than a return for the services that you provide. If you do something for someone or some business, they reciprocate by paying you what the service is worth. Expect and rejoice in your receipts.

ANSWER: You are firmly stuck in a play for which you have written the script. You have the ability to modify your part in any way you want. Right now you have put yourself in a very safe position. You are head-over-heels, desiring a man whom you cannot possibly have at this time. Therefore there is no chance that you can be rejected or get hurt in this relationship. What makes it difficult is your proximity to this man. In most situations of this kind, a woman would pick out a famous person she doesn’t have to deal with on a daily basis.

You do not trust that you deserve someone who has the same qualities as this man, so it is safe to desire one who is already committed to another person. Why do you feel bad? It is your dream, your illusion. You can feel bad only if you accept that you are harming someone. But who is that? The only one feeling uncomfortable here is you. You have made it impossible to find happiness.

Your confusion in his presence is thinking that he might be aware of your infatuation with him. You are attracting him because you put out an energy that you want to be with him. It is not spoken, but can easily be felt between two people. To stop attracting his attention you need to stop thinking that you want him. This will change your self-consciousness when he is around.

Until you rewrite your part to search for another man, you will be stuck in this loop of confusion and heartache. Start with a description of your ideal mate, then your ideal job; you may find that changing your own job is the answer to your problems. You deserve a man who will love you for who you are, and who will want to share his life with you.

ANSWER: First off, no one is anyone else’s responsibility. You are only responsible for yourself. Your lesson here is to understand that words and gestures alone can harm you only if you allow them to do so. Ignore that which does not resonate and feel applicable to you. Your mother is an extremely unhappy person and fears everything. Her idea is that if she can get others around her to be miserable, she will feel better by comparison – the old “misery loves company.”

There is nothing you can do to make her change her behavior unless, or until, she decides she wants and is ready to change. She is not certifiably crazy at this time but has personality defects that make her unfit to survive in normal society without assistance. Look around to social agencies for help in dealing with her.

All of this is coming to you because it is time for you to make some decisions about your future. A soul creates its own reality and brings to itself what it needs to experience and what will show it when it is time to move on. You have become complacent with the ability to live with your mother and have not found any other means of living. It is time to evaluate what talents you have that will allow you to get your own place and take care of all of your own needs – because you are responsible for yourself.

You are in a psychologically abusive situation and it will only get worse. You may stay if you desire, but you will not learn anything new about yourself or grow in understanding of this life. Seek out groups for abused children and they will point you in helpful directions. You are not alone in this scenario; it is all too common, but everyone feels like the only one suffering under the yoke of unreasonable parents.

ANSWER: You are not here for the sole purpose of your parents but out of your own desire to learn lessons. Your primary issue at this time is self-love. You are sensitive to the fact you feel no love— by your own admission you are not even sure your parents love you. Souls can feel and give love only to the extent that they understand love, which depends on being able to love themselves.

You seek love from others by doing things for them, but the love they return to you is not something you can understand at this time. You fight the sense of power and wealth, which to you is happiness, because you possess no power or happiness. Your answer to the lack of feelings available to you is to run away.

You have envisioned two means of hiding: you and your parents, who you think love you, could be the only people on the planet, or you could become insane and not responsible for your actions, which you equate with freedom. You may find liberation in allowing yourself to truly understand what love is. You first must deal with the fact you do not feel worthy or capable of love.

Why? Do you not know that you are a magnificent being that possesses a soul broken off from the Source of the universe which exists in unconditional love? Your very essence is unconditional love—but you must permit yourself the luxury of feeling that love completely. Go inside where your core essence resides and feel that love. Intensify the feeling and allow it to come out and touch your physical being. Now you are ready to love and be loved.

ANSWER: Many energetic patterns are currently making the rounds among souls on the planet. Those who are openly sensitive, such as Indigos, Crystals, Stars, and Lightworkers, are feeling a sense of being ripped apart or picked up by the flow and being blown all over the place. One of the unconscious automatic responses is to weigh yourself down so you are not so drastically affected. Hence, a lot of souls, who are not merely affected by the horrid diets that Earthlings have adopted, are putting on weight to keep themselves in physical reality—or grounded, as you say.

This is, however, an unconscious act. It makes it easier for souls to go through their lessons because they aren’t thinking about themselves, just what is happening to and around them. When they open up their view to include the physical container they are wearing, their human body, they are aghast at what they have allowed to occur. Their response, then, is to hate the physical and retreat more into the spiritual, which is non-judgmental. What is happening is a rejection of the love of self that is an aspect of true enlightenment. Perceived physical happiness and comfort overshadow a healthy physical covering for the soul to continue easily on its journey.

Explore that aspect of yourself which is self-love. Accepting the love within will enable you to take the steps necessary to change your current appearance. Realize that you are a piece of Source and are all-powerful and magnificent. As such, you may create any reality that you wish. In the physical, this reality must include the discipline necessary to see a result. Intention is only the spiritual side; exercise and a healthy lifestyle are the physical side. Love yourself enough to change. Feeling miserable about yourself only makes you seek more physical comfort, which equals favorite foods. Allow only positive thoughts into your day.

ANSWER: Stop over-analyzing your situation and get moving. This aspect of your life is all about you. What do you want to do? What would make you happy? You have no responsibility for anyone else, so you don’t have to consider others in your future unless you feel compelled to do so. No one can tell you what will make you happy because you are the driver of the bus of life and determine its direction. Also, don’t be concerned about what others think or suggest; they don’t know your life as well as you.

The fact that you are so talented doesn’t mean you have to attempt to do everything. You are getting an idea of things that you have succeeded in during past lives. You can redo something or choose something totally different. You don’t have to choose just one thing, either. There is no right or wrong direction for you, and you can start with one ability and then move on to another whenever you desire.

Since you are having difficulty choosing a direction, start by making a list where you record all of the abilities you possess. Second, rate them as to which have the most appeal to you at this time. Feel if the talent that rates highest would fulfill your happiness quotient. If so, give it a whirl. After you begin, if it doesn’t take care of all your needs, try number two on the list.

Stop taking everything so seriously; as the cartoon says, you won’t get out of it alive. Live for yourself, not for others. Trust the universe to provide all that you need and bring the experiences that allow you to grow.

ANSWER: There are hundreds of different applications of physical tools that can be used to understand and bring through metaphysical information from the non-physical aspects. The use of each comes with the accuracy level of the practitioners. If the users are open and have no pre-conceived notions of what the results should be, they have the option of receiving accurate information.

Those who are using any of the various psychic tools should not be concerned with the answers or material that comes through, because it should not be coming from them but from the Other Side. Only if they are influencing the results in some way, as with their own beliefs, should they worry about what they are saying. The reading can only be what the energy is tending toward at that moment, and if people change their direction, either out of choice or after hearing the reading, the results will change. That is not the “fault” of the psychic and does not make the reading incorrect at the time it was given.

Information that comes through should be used for advice only and not as the definitive word on the issue. Freedom of choice should still be used by all. You should always follow what feels right under the circumstances. It is best to stick with one or two methods since ease of getting the messages comes with continued use. As with any activity, whether it be accounting, cooking, or an athletic sport, it is necessary to practice to become perfected in the art.

Practice at every opportunity, even asking yourself yes and no questions about who is the next to call you, or what the weather will be like. You have to become tuned into the energy in order to read it. You will be ready to move on when you feel comfortable with change and a new endeavor. Don’t try to rush things.

ANSWER: Hello! Have you not read or listened to anything that has been said by us in the past about manifestation? Creating your own reality? Bringing to yourself that which you want or need to experience? We are hearing the wail of a victimized person. How do you become a victim? You choose to experience it.

One of your statements is that you suck up the negativity of those around you. That doesn’t happen by chance. You have to make the choice to take energy from others. It is interesting that it is only the negative energy that you take. Why do you think that is? Misery loves company and negative people want just as many around them as they can possibly get because it justifies their feeling miserable!

Planet Earth is a dualistic place-there is as much positivity as there is negativity. Choose to align with the positive. You are well aware what it feels like because you have spent a good portion of your life basking in its glow. How do you do this? When you start feeling down, “suicidal, tired, and depressed,” ask yourself: what is the basis of these feelings? You will get nothing more than “‘it feels bad.” So, why not start to remember all the things that make you feel great?

Jump the gun on the next bout of negativity by planning to be positive. Keep a journal of all the good things you want to happen to you, from your state of health to a prosperous and successful career. Within your journal develop affirmations of the positive events in which you want to dwell. Begin seeing yourself as that normal person you wish to be and you will find that, once again, you are.

ANSWER: Intelligence has nothing to do with making up your mind – it sometimes proves to be a detriment. When you have unusual amounts of input (information gathered from multiple sources), you need to wade through all the material to come to a conclusion if you are just using your thinking process. You get directed one way and then find something in the opposite direction that interests you more. If, instead, you rely upon your feelings for an answer, you are accessing your own experience without going through all the opinions of everyone who has ever given you advice.

The reason things don’t seem to make sense is that you are comparing the contradictory views of all the various contributors. When you convert your thinking into the spiritual prospective, you filter out the negativity and ego judgment and are left with the unconditionally loving evaluation.

Your soul is inside of you. Your soul speaks to you through your intuition and feelings. Remove yourself from the need to judge, and all other negativity, and seek to surround your life with nothing but love and understanding. Always ask “what do I feel about this” instead of “what do I think about this.” Do things only if they resonate with you.

Solicit advice from your guides and follow it if it feels good. You have freedom of choice; no one should tell you what to do, and a spirit who is of the light will never tell you what to do. Honor yourself.

ANSWER: You are placing your trust in the ego judgment values of society and not examining the spiritual reasons for why your life is playing out as it is. All the “difficulties” you perceive as resulting from the actions of others are actually the result of life lessons you chose to appear in your life.

Your biggest, most powerful lesson deals with depending on expectations you have created concerning the behavior of others. It is impossible to get another to act exactly as you wish if they do not want to do so. You look only at your opinion of a situation and never how it might appear to another.

Lessons of betrayal, abandonment, dealing with lies, and not being able to evaluate the intentions of other people are all lessons you are living. You have not learned enough about any of these to be finished with its repeated appearance in your life. You take everything personally, even when the other person does not intend or direct that it apply to you.

Because you are constantly judging the actions of others according to the way you expect that they should treat you, when they don’t do exactly as you expect, you are further hurt and pull away. If you were to go back to the numerous betrayals you have suffered and take the place of the other party, you would see that they were being true to themselves and not your expectations.

You have created a victim role for yourself. Even the judgment of “value” you are so concerned about is meaningless when both sides are considered. Your actions have forced people to move away because they do not want to behave as you demand.

Start looking at situations with an open mind. Don’t pre-judge what another’s reaction to your encounter with them should look like. And be honest with yourself. Don’t do something because you think it is what the other person wants you to do. If you follow these suggestions, you will find that people will stop running away from your intensity.

ANSWER: Everything that you are talking about concerns life lessons that you set up for yourself, starting with finding out who you are in this lifetime by dealing with your interpretation of yourself. You brought this relationship to yourself so that you would have material to work with in understanding some lessons.

Ask: Who am I? Why do I behave the way I do? Why did I feel the way I did about my boyfriend? Why did I allow him to treat me the way he did? Answering these questions will give you a lot of information on how you see yourself.

You are very lonely and deeply desire to be needed and loved. You will do anything to get the attention you crave, even to letting others abuse and betray you. To start a relationship, you do whatever the other person wants because you don’t have enough confidence that you are worthy of being with this person. You allow them to “make” you into their dream person. When you have been pushed sufficiently and uncomfortably into something you can’t stand, you rebel and strike back.

These lessons were never about him; they were about allowing you to see yourself. Every fear and doubt that arises in one’s life is a neon sign that a lesson lies underneath. Go looking for these signposts; start questioning how you feel about each and what it is that makes you feel that way. When you reach back into the onset of these feelings, you will see causes that you can work to understand and then release from ever affecting you again.

ANSWER: Your daughter, with the onset of puberty, became very sensitive to all additives included in foods. She has a tendency to build up toxic levels of these within her system, resulting in the symptoms she displays. These foreign substances in foods are continually stimulating a negative reaction within her body. The headaches are the body objecting to the intruding chemicals.

She can start to desensitize her body to these intruders by removing them from her diet. She has a real sensitivity to dairy products at this time and eliminating them will help with the headaches. Salt reacts in a catastrophic manner in her body as well. The more processed a food, the bigger a reaction it gets.

If she were to begin eating a high-density nutrient diet, mostly fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, beans, and some grains, she would see incredible results. Her body has the ability to completely heal itself if the right fuel is available to it.

ANSWER: These people are in your life so that you might sit back, remove yourself from the dramas created by them, and decide what you want to do in light of the possibilities: in other words, it is a life lesson. When it comes to the rest of the people and family around you, things run smoothly, giving you a sense of what can be.

Part one of your lesson is accepting that you cannot have an influence on anyone who does not wish to give you that ability. Control is an illusion because each person has the freedom to choose how to behave and whom to respect. Your husband’s family does not feel you are good enough for him and, therefore, treat you like dirt. They have to decide to change this opinion; nothing you do will have an effect.

Part two is deciding how you wish to react to their insensitivity. You may let it continue to affect you as it has until now, or you can ignore it, acknowledging that it is coming from people who don’t recognize what a fantastic person you are. Letting their behavior bother you is saying that they have power over the way you think about yourself. They are ignorant, opinionated, unhappy women who seek to win back the affection of your husband from you. They are immersed in negative, hateful energy, and that is what you have to spend so much time getting rid of after a visit.

The next step is up to you. Your husband is unaware of the extent to which they try to influence your life, and also how much their thinking affects him. Have a long conversation with him explaining your situation and your desire not to have to be affected by it any longer. Based on his side of the exchange, make your next decision.

A. Your question reminds us of average people and their New Year’s resolutions. When you are at the beginning of something you always have the best of intentions and great expectations for the outcome. Your house needs to look just like the one in House Beautiful magazine. If you read that self-help book all your personal problems will dissolve on their own. You will be able to look like the most glamorous movie star after you take off a little weight. Right? Wrong!

What happens to derail your efforts? Reality sets in! You have always had the habit of wanting things to be easy, or to have others take responsibility for your life. You also bite off more than you can chew at one time and get discouraged when you are not immediately satisfied. It is easier to lounge back into your wasting time or feel-good adventures than it is to try to move forward.

When you begin any new endeavor you must be truthful with yourself. Your house will look better when you complete those needed changes but it is still your same old house. It will not expand or grow a swimming pool unless you arrange it. Learning new techniques from a self-help book will show you a way to change your life but it will not change it automatically. You must use the book’s principles to change your own behavior. Losing weight will change your size but not your physical features.

Every personal change or improvement takes time and effort. If you start off with too great a destination, you sabotage yourself from the start because you will know that it is impossible to leap the Grand Canyon, so watching a sitcom is more within your means. Make incremental goals and you will eventually reach your original destination.

ANSWER: You are a soul who is having a life within a physical body. All souls have the ability to project out of their bodies and frequently leave almost completely at night. Your basic composition is one of energy that can be felt and interpreted by those who openly sense such things. When your thoughts are engaged in thinking about returning to the unconditional love of Home and ridding yourself of the negativity of Earth, you are sending exactly that information to anyone who is listening.

You have freedom of choice as to each aspect of your existence. You have chosen to bring children into this lifetime to be with you. You are making the choice now to spend time concentrating on your dreams for the future instead of the obligations you assumed by bringing them to life. They can feel that you yearn to be away from them and that they are holding you to this life. The message you are projecting is that your dreams and feelings are more important than anyone or anything else.

You cannot communicate with other people because you are always removed from them by desire to be elsewhere. If you truly want to participate in this life you have constructed, and take the fear and guilt away from the children, you must start living in the moment. Look around you every day and accept that your surroundings are what you have chosen for this short period in time.

See if you can bring the love of the children and others in your life into yourself. Stop hating yourself and where and what you are, and see what a fantastic person you are. Love yourself for what you have accomplished so far. Plan to interact more with those with whom you share time. If you stop chasing others away, they will welcome you into their lives.

ANSWER: What is normal? Since every soul chooses their own path, how can there be a normal? The term is used by judgmental society to rate and grade citizens and encourage them to comply with what society thinks is the way things should be. On the spiritual journey, there is no right or wrong and there is no normal.

A soul may wish to experience a life where they are only concerned with learning who they are and what powers and abilities they possess as a piece of Source. That doesn’t require that they even acknowledge anyone else sharing the planet with them, and they may never need to interact with others.

Families are the way society propagates. People are taught that reproducing themselves is normal because society would cease to exist if no one had children. But if everyone participated in that model, then no soul could learn about homosexuality, transgender love, or abandonment and loneliness. These are all valid life lessons and are outside what society would say is normal.

Following the crowd is saying that they know more about why you came to Earth than you do. How is that possible? Did they plan your soul’s journey for you? I don’t think so. Do what feels like something you can learn from. Explore the possibilities. You can do anything if you have faith that you can.

Stop being so negative. Decide what you would really like to accomplish. Spend some time figuring out the way to do it, and then take one step at a time toward the goal. Everything is a choice, so if you think you can’t do something, you never will be able to do it. Allow yourself to love yourself enough to bring your dreams to fruition.

ANSWER: Hypnosis is nothing more than a guided meditation with subjects who are able to shut off their thinking, interfering, conscious mind to follow down a path as directed. While people will always say they want to be hypnotized, they unconsciously fear giving up what they perceive as control of their life. Some of this comes from having watched stage hypnotists where subjects are made to bark like dogs or act like apes.

Most of the time when subjects presents themselves to the hypnotist, they claim it is for one purpose; then, when going through pre-talk, it is discovered they need to resolve some other issue before they can proceed as requested. Strong willed, controlling individuals find it very difficult to get out of their own heads. They need to be in control and, unconsciously, cannot relax and let another control their thinking.

To assist such people to prepare for a hypnotic procedure, such as a past-life regression, the practitioner must inspire confidence and trust. During several meetings before the procedure, the practitioner should relax the clients with music, meditation, and then pleasant visualizations of places with which they are familiar and in which they feel safe.

Be sure the clients have not consumed caffeine or mood-altering drugs prior to any session. Even an overdose of nicotine from chain smoking will interfere.

Begin any session with taking clients to their safe place and then, proceeding back in time, innocuously asking about changes in their place. If they are peaceful and relaxed, begin to take them to a place in the past where they can learn something useful about their current life. Once they have had a comfortable experience in their past, they will be able to easily return.

ANSWER: The whole question for you is what you will allow yourself to bring into your world. While you have forgiven yourself for the choices you made before coming, you have not gone back to the basics and accepted that you are none other than a soul having a physical experience.

That means that you are a piece of Source energy and have all the same powers and abilities that exist within Source energy. You are all powerful, all creative, and all knowing, but only if you accept and believe that you have those qualities.

One of your lessons, which you have not completed, is that you are entitled to use your essential essence of Source energy to continue living this particular human existence and making it what you will. The first step to clearly seeing yourself as a piece of Source is to love yourself. You don’t have to like everything that has happened and is happening to and around you, but you need at least to love the fact that you had the courage to come to Earth and go through everything you chose to experience.

While you think you have forgiven and made right all the horrific things that were a part of your lessons, you have not gotten rid of the physically embedded negativity that accompanied the human actions. You are still flinching whenever approached, because even under the guise of a friendly exterior, your abusers had malicious intent. You don’t trust it won’t happen again.

Start your new life by visualizing a perfectly safe companion. Be yourself without the armor you unconsciously erect. See others as friendly, harmless, fellow citizens of planet Earth. Remind yourself that you do not have to re-experience any of your earlier lessons. Have a mantra that you deserve to be loved by others as much as you love yourself, and that you can be financially stable. Create what you desire.

ANSWER: You have the wrong idea about focusing on yourself. Your reason to come into a human body is to be able to identify with your essential qualities while in a physical nature, and this is possible only by focusing on yourself. When you begin to capture your essence of unconditional love it will show you the right direction to experience the remainder of your lessons.

The essence of which we speak is not of a physical nature but is rather your emotional and spiritual reaction to the daily activities in which you are involved. In most cases, when you focus internally, physical sensations are felt as an indication of continuing life lessons.

When you experience pain in your mouth you should ask: What lesson is this? Am I not fully enough aware of myself to see that the cause is emotional, such as when I clench my teeth so tightly it causes strain and pain? Negative thoughts are contributing to your stress. Most of these stem from a lack of self-confidence and self-worth.

Once you work on your inner problems, mostly how you perceive yourself, you will find self-love and will not need physical pain any longer to get your attention. Start first by being aware when the first negative image comes forth. Stop what you are doing and project the opposite, positive, idea to blot out the negative. Constantly reinforcing only positive energies creates a loving, gentle aura around you, and stress disappears.

ANSWER: You create your own reality, so what you do and where you go are completely up to you. As long as you are in human form, there will be something more to experience and more from which to learn. You are the only one capable of evaluating your current position – whether you can acquire more from it or need a new environment.

You have not lived up to your potential yet, but it is all right if you want to stay a while longer as is. Look closely at your ideas as they are coming through and see how they feel to you.

You have helped others in past lives, and the knowledge is within you. Stretch out all your awareness to things around you. Feel what excites you and resonates within. Part of the life experience is sensing when it is time to let the old go and pick up the new.

Start to manifest through visualization that which you seek. You have been so busy working with your lessons that your personal life has stayed almost dormant. Time to reward yourself for all the good work you have done. Create what you truly want.

ANSWER: You have done a fantastic job with your children but it is time for them to fly on their own. You have prepared them well and they need to test their wings. To have a meaningful life they need to be able to take care of themselves and exercise their own freedom of choice. If more education is what they seek, help them get started—but then leave them alone.

As protective as you have been, your children are rather naïve about society. They will never be able to take care of their own needs unless they have experience. They can get that experience only on their own. Not all of them will seek to get more education. For those not wanting school, help them prepare for employment. You will not be able to do the job interviews for them, so work through a mockup of an interview.

Their father is never going to change. He will always be totally self-centered. Now, think how much you have involved your father in the children’s upbringing. He is not becoming involved because he feels cut off from them due to your over-protectiveness. Let him get to know them now that they are adults, and solicit his advice on their life from here on out. He has some good ideas.

It is now time to start honoring yourself. Let the kids stand on their own two feet and follow some of your passions—it is never too late.

ANSWER: The question to ask yourself is whom do you want to be responsible for your life and the way you live it? If the answer is anybody but you, and that “they” know what is right for you better than you could possibly know, then you will listen to all those “other” people. If you are concerned with living your own life, following your own life lessons, then only your inner self can provide the answers for you.

Your inner voice may seem difficult to hear because you have your ears trained on all the people around you, and it is almost impossible to filter out their voices to be able to hear your own. You were raised to listen to parents, teachers, and authority figures; then you began soliciting help from friends, resulting in a pattern of living your life by committee. To advance along your path you must step up and assume total responsibility for your decisions.

It is a fact of the universe that people can be hurt only if they allow themselves to be hurt. Your friends will only be hurt if they have expectations based upon what they want you to do. That’s their problem, not yours. You are not responsible for their unreasonable desires. Your life is your responsibility; their disappointments are theirs alone.

Your friends are going to react, whatever you do. The important thing is that you feel comfortable with your decision, based upon your internal senses only. If anyone complains about your choices, explain that is exactly what they are—your choices, and you have done what you feel is best for you. No one can argue with your feelings because they cannot get inside your body and feel what you feel.

ANSWER: You have the ability to communicate through the dimensions, but you have certain conditions set in your mind about what that should be like. When you step away from specific expectations, as you did when a baby and when pre-occupied with driving, the vibrations just fly through. In other words, “lighten up” and go with the flow—just start asking questions of your friends on the other side and take their answers as they come, whether verbally, as signs on buildings or trucks, as flashing lights, as noises, etc.

You are a very strong-willed lady but nothing like your boyfriend’s mother, who is controlling and always right. To have peace in this relationship, your boyfriend must agree before you have children that the two of you alone will decide, without any outside intervention, what values the children will be taught. He is aware of his mother’s controlling ways but has found it easier to give in to her than fight. Be sure he is able to change before you get committed.

You are in a physical body so there is a need for material things. The spiritual path just teaches money should not be your god, your only motivator in life. Let go of ego, which is the base energy in judgment that it is imperative you have such and such amount of money. See wealth as a means for learning about yourself and your abilities.

Spiritual people can be rich as long as they are balanced in life. Money is a prerequisite for a number of life lessons. No one ever said that only the poor are aware of their souls and connect with the higher dimensions. Billionaires have that ability if they love themselves and go inward to their essential, unconditionally loving self. The way you use the money and the way you treat those who do not have money are the learning experiences.

One of your lessons right now is dealing with your intellect. You must have the answers to every question before you begin the journey. With the travel you seek, would it be as exciting and fulfilling if you had someone videotape the entire trip you are going to have so you knew what was around each corner? Boring! Let go, let your life happen. Start letting your feelings be your guide instead of knowledge.

ANSWER: A soul creates the terms of its reality. In the duality of positive and negative energies, it is your choice which one you wish to have around you. If it is raining, you can be unhappy and say it is horrible outside and you don’t want to get wet. Or, you can see the rain, smile, and think that the flowers will grow, the pollution will be cleared out of the air, and you can go splash in the puddles as you did when you were a child.

Once you reach adulthood and become responsible for yourself and your upkeep, you do have to find a way to provide the physical means to sustain yourself. When you look at all the ways to get money, you can just follow the funds, or you can look for something you would enjoy doing while being paid. Life isn’t just about getting a job, but also about finding a passion.

The process is unique to you. You don’t go about finding your passion by asking others what they think you should do. Explore all the jobs about which you get a positive feeling. Then explore the type of training you would need in order to get hired for one of them. Talk to people who do the work you are interested in and see how they feel about the career.

You are not going to be good at a job unless you have an interest in it. Don’t be afraid to change employment if you are unhappy. When you apply for a job, the employer will be able to tell how enthusiastic you are about the position. If you don’t think you will be happy, don’t bother submitting an application.

Choose to be happy. If you are not feeling happy, ask yourself why. Go to the cause of your displeasure, and then you can change how you see life. You have to do some work to change the way you look at life – it is completely up to you.

ANSWER: Why would you be flattered to be seen as a sex object? Isn’t that sending a message out to the male population that you gladly assume that role? You are advertising energetically for those sex-crazed men that you are willing and able to be their sex slave. That is not honoring yourself. When you see yourself as a physically sexual person, you are accepting that as your identity instead of seeing yourself as a spiritual person within a female body.

Pride in the state of your root chakra over your other chakras is saying you crave the sexual act over a spiritual conversation or exploration of where your partner is on his soul journey. Sexual intercourse is a minute piece of the soul’s journey. Exterior love from another human doesn’t connect with the soul, just the body. Finding the unconditional love that is within is vital to self-awareness. Strive for a connection to the universe when you are balanced. Meditate and communicate with your guides.

You are very empathic concerning the energy of others. That allows you to know intuitively how to help them. They sense your abilities and are drawn to you. It is very difficult to pursue this type of work online but could easily provide a good income if you qualified as a life coach and opened a practice.

ANSWER: This person is not a soul mate, nor have you shared lives with him before. He has an active energy of excitement about him. He considers himself a “player”—that is, someone who can get others to do his bidding if he puts a little effort into it. He likes to have a chain of women salivating at his door so he can get them to do anything he asks.

He does not see you as a threat to him at this time because of the interest he can feel oozing out of you. You are someone he is sizing up to see what games he can play with you. His life is all about pleasure and satisfaction for himself. He never considers anyone else’s needs or desires. He can be a bit of a chameleon, changing to be whoever you think would be exciting and loving to you. He even starts out relationships as a meek, mild-mannered, needy person.

Your life has not been very interesting or exciting, and a union with this gentleman would definitely give you some excitement. Nothing is right or wrong in the choices that you make for your Earth experiences. If you feel you need to be in a situation where you can’t trust what a person is saying, and may be lied to and used, this would be a perfect opportunity.

On some level you have sensed this would be a difficult companionship or you  would not be looking for permission to jump in. We will not encourage or dissuade you from going forward. Much can be learned from this person.

ANSWER: First loves hold permanent positions in a person’s heart and memory. This man was the first who reached so deep into your heart that you convinced yourself he was “the one” and had to be a soul mate. He is not really a soul mate but just a soul you had made a contract with to open you to deep emotional love. He doesn’t see himself as a soul mate since he isn’t.

Five months is a minuscule amount of time in a lifetime. You can’t forget him because you do not want to forget him. You have created a fantasy life with him in the center, and you are afraid no one else can come close to your imagined life. There are many more men out there who will give you more experiences and be more of the sharing type. This man was a director who told you what to do, and when he got tired and bored, he just moved on.

He has opened you to relationships based on emotional love, and now you are ready to take responsibility for new choices. All souls have freedom of choice so it is within the realm of possibility that you may get together with this man again – but it will be totally different from the first time since you now understand a relationship better.

Decide what you want in a romance, compose affirmations creating an energy of love coming your way, and be open to whoever appears. Never settle for leftovers.

It is common for siblings to squabble over the things in their lives – particularly twins. You and your sister are so similar that what one has, the other wants the same or better. She was jealous that your beau chose you over her. You were more vulnerable and had lower expectations, so it was easier for him to date you rather than her.

You now have the lessons you learned from the union and are ahead of her in that regard. Talking is absolutely the best way to lessen envy and anger and to create love and an environment of sharing. Boyfriends come and go, but sisters are forever.