Life Lessons

A: Your friend did not willingly leave. He was taken, “dog-napped,” by some very lonely children. They convinced their mother that your dog followed them home and didn’t belong to anyone. She decided he would be a cheap babysitter. The family lived on the other side of town, too far away for your signs to be seen.

Your dog sensed their need for companionship and remained to care for them. They were home alone every day after school and he kept them company and gave them the love they craved. He was turned out by the mother when she decided to move the family to another city, but your dog didn’t know where you were, so he wandered in ever-widening circles until he was picked up and subsequently identified.

For your part, your soul had the desire to feel deep sorrow, abandonment, despair, and betrayal. All of these emotions played in your life for several years, intensified by the knowledge that your dog was out there somewhere. You blamed him for not breaking free and returning to you, but that was a human characteristic you attributed to him, not an animal one. For his part he was torn by loyalty and love for you and the need of the children who took him. As you could see when he got home, he never forgot you.

ANSWER: We would ask you why you are eating meat, sugar, processed foods, and anything unnatural. The entire third-dimensional world is set up for the purpose of learning about yourself and who you really are as a spiritual being by seeing what choices you make that affect your body.

The human body is the means by which you interact with the environment of Earth. Everything you put into the body helps you learn. You learn about nutrition, allergies, beneficial products, and destructive materials.

The soul having this human experience must ingest substances in order to see how the human body reacts to them. How do alcoholic beverages impact the physiological, mental, and/or emotional body? In some cultures fermented drinks allow for a communion with spirit. Some people need them to overcome severe inhibitions or lack of self-confidence. And there are those people who run away from living by placing themselves in a state of unconsciousness from alcohol or drugs.

Fermentation is a natural process that occurs when certain substances come in contact in the presence of heat. It wasn’t invented, just discovered. For centuries humans have experimented with the results of this process. Many different plants have been “smoked” for the resulting taste, euphoric effect, or alteration of the mood and thought process. This again was discovered through experimentation.

Marijuana comes from the hemp plant, a wild weed that was found to be useful in the making of clothing. For centuries it was used to provide bags for storage and transportation. In most cases, the psychedelic properties were discovered when wild fires ignited patches of it or scraps were thrown in the fire and the smoke was found to affect the human body.

Substances within various forms of the marijuana plant do have medicinal qualities that assist patients with side effects of drugs used to treat several conditions. Some strains have been found to affect the brains of children with seizure disorders, and most of these do not have the psychedelic properties.

All of these things to which the body may become addicted are naturally occurring. It is man himself who chooses to experiment and become dependent on them. This is frequently a life lesson chosen in order to learn to exercise freedom of choice.

ANSWER: Those who have Alzheimer’s disease and those who are in unconscious vegetative states all still have a soul. Without a soul the body would not be able to continue life. Your grandma had made agreements with other souls, yourself included, before coming into this life. The nature of the contracts was to be a non-responsive individual who would cause those around her to be exposed to a number of different types of life lessons. Her soul is still in the body you observe.

Just as you are questioning the spiritual significance of a soul without cognitive communication skills, some others close by are dealing with issues of not having completed situations with your grandma for which they feel guilty, abandoned, and angry. It makes all of you question the reality of life and continued existence when the consciousness has left the body. It is a lesson in a soul’s planned experiences for all those involved.

Some animals do have souls. But, since only 1 to 2% of all souls who are normally in human bodies choose to have a life as an animal, there are not enough souls around to populate all the animals on the planet.

Pets are but a small portion of the animals. They are domesticated to behave as humans want them to for purposes of being companions for you. They do have energy signatures that can be felt when they are near you. Most of these feel positive since, unless you give them a reason, your pets love you unconditionally because they are bred that way. That energy is what you are perceiving, not a soul.

ANSWER: Congratulations on seeing that this experience is for all of you to learn and grow. Chosen for this lifetime by your family was the experiencing of frustration, anger, guilt, abandonment, regret, selfishness, and selflessness. You have stepped back and seen each as a lesson that could be learned from and used to enhance your understanding of your own path.

While a physical tendency for genetic transference of Alzheimer’s has been shown to exist, it is like cancer, most prominently breast cancer. One aspect of genetic predisposition is the recipient’s thought process and energy concerning the disease. If you become obsessed with the possibility, you send a message out to the universe that you wish to experience this calamity, and you welcome it on board your body. If, instead, you take the attitude “I do not need to experience this condition,” you tell the energy to by-pass you.

We must give you one caveat: if any daughter previously “signed up” to have this lesson, it will come regardless of the positive attitude attempting to block it. It is possible, though, for her to modify a prior agreement by fully considering everything she has learned since she thought it was a good idea to have the condition, which then makes it not needed or only minimally experienced.

Remind your daughters that they are pieces of Source energy and therefore have the ability to manifest, create, and control their continued lives. If they accept these principles and have faith in their abilities, they are in the driver’s seat of their future.

ANSWER: Soul contracts arise out of agreements determined by the individual’s freedom of choice. They are not permanent and binding; nor are they punishable by law because there is no judgment. Once two souls talk about something they would like to experience, they agree – what most call “making a contract” – that such and such is desirable. Nothing is absolute because intervening circumstances and choices may make the initial agreement unnecessary or contradictory to the current direction the soul is going.

Freedom of choice is the main factor for structuring the soul’s life. There is no inflexible, non-changing path as you enter Earth’s domain. While you started out with the idea you wanted to experience an abusive relationship and made an agreement for someone to oblige, you may have witnessed enough abuse between your parents to understand that is not something you have to experience personally. Therefore you do not need to have that contract fulfilled.

Once a contract is not needed, the soul chooses another direction and lesson to fill the place of the unnecessary one. To have it otherwise would be predestination, meaning everyone follows a preset plan – much like the lines and actions of a play. This would override your freedom of choice. Instead, you have unscripted improvisation.

Once a desired lesson is understood, and additional instances of that activity are not needed, you are free to move in any direction or to any lesson to which you feel attracted.

ANSWER: Since you have total freedom of choice, you can change the way your life plays out as long as you are not interfering with one of the major life lessons from that lifetime. For instance, if you wanted to be an opera singer but your vocal cords could not vibrate in a way that was pleasing to others, you would not be able to accomplish that. The lesson in such a situation would be that you wanted to learn what disappointment felt like and find other abilities that satisfied your cravings.

Part of your desire for a partner is so that you have someone else to make decisions for you. You want to shift responsibility for some aspects of life to another, because you feel this is the way life should be as constantly extolled by society. Well, your major lesson is to assume responsibility for life, to find a way to be totally independent of all others. You have not reached that step because you feel you are not complete until you have a partner sharing the load, and that is contrary to your lesson.

You have choices and can change direction at any time. You can freeze-frame your life where it is and not continue working on your lessons, or you can move ahead since you already know what your desired purpose was in this lifetime. Either approach is possible.

Stopping the forward movement would not necessarily accomplish what you want – a partner – because the energy around you would be one of defeat, and who gets attracted to a loser? First understanding what it is like to be independent does not prevent you from then gathering a sharing partner who will want to share your completed accomplishment with you.

ANSWER: What these counselors say is true if you come down to Earth with the intention to experience most of your life lessons while you have the adult mentality to work through them. Then you will have leisurely spent your early life dreaming of the way you will use your freedom of choice to assist you through your lessons. Your dreams are similar to a run-through of your upcoming trials and tribulations. You envision exactly what will assist your purpose and also make you happy in the way of a job and you visualize these possibilities.

It is different when your lessons start almost at day one of your existence. You are spending so much effort just going through each day that you have no time to spend visualizing an alternate or better solution.

You have been fulfilling your purpose from early on in this lifetime. You have worked through control issues, lack of love, watching family members on a self-destruction path, and you have persevered. You have begun to accept yourself as being different from them, a strong person of self-worth, and are now beginning to honor yourself. You still have to dream forward. That is to say, take the time to feel what you want to do in life. Then go out and do it.

Your choices are boundless, as long as you accept that they are. Meditate on the perfect ending for your difficult beginning. Know that you are capable of doing anything that you desire. Part of your life lessons is to start anew with your dreams as an adult. Create your own future.

A. When you get ready to come down to Earth to learn some life lessons, you decide which ones you wish to encounter. These can be such things as anger, betrayal, romantic love, issues around self worth, being controlled or controlling others. What you do not generally decide is exactly how you are going to experience these lessons.

Let us say that you are working on self-worth issues, and your basic premise is that you cannot accomplish anything because you are poor and stupid. You can continue to replay those identities for the entire lifetime, or you can start to find ways to change your impression of yourself.

The predestined crowd would say you planned to be dumb and poor. However, you might read a book on affirmations and begin to tell yourself you are brilliant, and that your brilliance may enable you to become rich. You start to excel at school, get a fellowship to do research, get national recognition, and win monetary prize after prize. You have manifested a realization about your self worth by using your abilities to become recognized as brilliant and, in consequence, wealthy.

If you follow only your thoughts, you make it impossible to change your feelings about yourself. These thoughts are a combination of dreams, expectations, and what you have absorbed from seeing, hearing, and reading what other people think. You may imagine that these thoughts (although not really yours) are pre-ordained and nothing you say or do will change them.

You acknowledge that your confusion arises from whether to exercise freedom of choice by seizing your own power, or sit back and accept what others plan for you, but you are the master of your soul. You alone are the driver of each lifetime. You alone determine the pathway, whether by manifesting what you would like to experience, or by sitting back and taking whatever comes.

Take responsibility for your actions today—don’t worry about tomorrow. As each day dawns, live in the moment. When you try to figure out what you might have had in mind when you presented yourself with a series of lessons, you are worrying about the past and not living in the now. Choose what feels right in this moment. You are then manifesting what will help you increase your wisdom. That will be creating and walking your path.

ANSWER: You and your boyfriend have made a lot of decisions that were only about you and what you wanted, heedless of what you needed to do to fit into society and be able to get a job and take care of yourself. The initial aspects of your adult life were a continuation of your sense of being privileged and needing others to take care of and provide for you.

You are now in a “poor me” phase where you are blaming everyone but yourselves and anticipating that it is someone else’s responsibility to step in and bail you out. Your sister is playing that role right now for the safety of your baby. Wake up and see your surroundings. There are many agencies who will assist you if you ask, but you have to be willing to commit and work to change your status.

The father of your child is not humiliating himself. He is being realistic and practical, knowing that society will not take care of you just because you want it to. He realizes that, since he did not prepare himself for gainful employment before this, he has to settle for the more undesirable positions in order to provide some support for his family.

You both need to wake up to your situation and work to create a life for yourselves and your family – and it will take work. You can no longer blame others for your situation. It is time to take responsibility for your actions, which have brought you to where you are.

And, yes, you did choose to find yourself in this state. You wanted to see if you were able to recognize the cause of your problems and to get yourself out of them. If you analyze where you are, you will see how to change and be comfortable in this life.

ANSWER: Your true purpose, as is true with every soul who chooses to enter into the duality of Earth, is to learn the lessons you pre-selected and realize who you are as a soul and what that means to your human body. Once you know the powers and abilities that come with being a piece of Source energy, you can then choose to assist others.

First and foremost, your purpose is to help yourself, not others. You cannot help others unless you love and understand yourself. You have experienced loss and grief but have not dealt with their repercussions in your life. Writing or journaling will help you work through these lessons and bring wisdom about the subject. You must understand in order to assist others to also understand.

Aspects of what you desire to do, such as grief counseling, are accepted fields of work, and income is expected for the group leaders. Part of your concern comes from not knowing exactly what services you will be able to provide for others because you are confused and searching for direction.

You have these thoughts because you think you must perform some service to be rewarded with seeing your loved ones again. All souls may return to unconditional love and the presence of their soulmates when they leave their bodies merely by wishing it. There are no entrance requirements; no prior service is needed.

Look into types of counseling or life coaching courses that will earn you a certification accepted by many insurance companies. The money will then be coming from benefits and not the pockets of needy people.

Continue to work on your fears and doubts because they are the lessons you have not completed. When you have defined your path, start a website to draw people to you.

ANSWER: A soul’s mission, purpose, goal in life, or whatever you want to call it, is to complete the lessons they chose for this life, to know themselves as a soul, and to bring forth the innate powers and abilities that being a piece of Source energy provides. Each person’s existence is for them alone to accomplish all these tasks. You have no obligation to have an effect on anybody’s life but your own, because everyone is learning through using their own freedom of choice.

Most people have been led to believe that everyone has a mission to be of service to others. That is a societal and religious belief perpetrated so that those organizations do not have to provide services that they can get someone else to think they must deliver.

Your old goals were specific expectations that you believed were necessary for you to grow in a spiritual manner. Any expectation creates limitations in your life, because unless you fulfill every aspect of it exactly as you envisioned it, you feel you have not succeeded.

Anxiety arises when you believe you have an obligation to do something and you feel you are not able to do it. Relax; go with the flow of the universe. It will present to you those things that you previously chose to understand and will never give you more than you are able to handle.

None of your past lives brought difficulties into this life – don’t use that idea as an excuse for being unable to identify a passion. You are the stumbling block to moving forward. Stop paying attention to what society and people tell you that you should do.

Always rely on your feelings about a situation and a change in direction. Don’t stay stuck in one place. See what the potential is around you and jump into whatever appears. Search for some activity that draws you into it – that will be your passion. This is your life to live and direct. Be concerned with yourself first in all that you do.

ANSWER: As you have suggested, every soul has freedom of choice. That freedom includes whether or not they follow the advice and direction of other souls sharing the planet with them. It is impossible to make someone do something unless they go along with the idea. Therefore, it is basically not possible to “make” someone alter their free will to comply with yours.

The evolutionary, or awakening, or enlightening process is determined by the belief systems that each individual adopts as the governing regulations by which they choose to exist and decide how they will perform their daily tasks. It is their determination if they think that they should do exactly as someone else has told them to – but that makes it their decision and their belief that it is the right thing for them.

As for yourself, it is only through making decisions that resonate with you that you see what you want to use as beliefs. That is the very process of finding out who you are and what potential you possess. One way to discover what you feel comfortable with regarding procedures dictating your lifestyle is to “claim” or voice them to another. That is what you call telling others what you think and feel.

It is not your responsibility to take credit or blame for what others do with the information that you provide them. In any healing session, the results are determined by a combination of the energy you bring through for their balancing of negative symptoms within their body and the way they accept and think about the possibility of a healing.

It can happen that you bring in the most intense and appropriate energy to “heal” a client, and because they have no faith that they will be healed, nothing changes. Or other times, a client will believe in the procedure during the treatment, but when they get home, they engage in the same practices that brought on the discomfort in the first place and snap right back to where they started before you assisted them.

Being yourself and having faith in your intuition, feelings, and discoveries is loving yourself for this life you have chosen.

ANSWER: Your life was mapped out, by you, before you came to be born. You spent a lot of time with your Council of Advisors discussing just what lessons you wished to undertake in this lifetime. You made some contracts with other souls who had chosen, for their learning, to be on Earth at the same time. These agreements were so that you would be able to have the setting within which to go through the type of lesson you wished.

All this pre-planning gave you an outline of things that would appear in your life, but not a blow-by-blow description of how they would play out or what the final result would be. It is like an American football game. You know each team will have eleven players on the field and that each player has an assigned position and job. You do not know how each will match up with the opposing members of the opposite team, and absolutely no idea how the whole game will be played.

When you visited someone who had the ability to sense the unconscious thoughts that contained this proposed outline of your life, he was able to give you a description of this outline. He was reading, among other things, the contracts you had made with people (e.g., the number of children), major lessons you wanted to experience (e.g., illnesses), and the general outline for your time here.

Not all plans come to fruition. You have complete freedom of choice to change your plans at any time. Some of the ideas that were revealed to you seemed so much in agreement with what felt right to you that you consciously then put them into reality. A soul has a totally creative ability to manifest that which it thinks about and wishes to experience.

You may continue to fulfill your pre-planning or decide to go off in another direction from here – you are driving the automobile.

ANSWER: While still at Home, a soul makes a series of contracts concerning lessons that it wishes to experience in its coming lifetime. These will allow other souls, mostly soulmates from his closest soul group, to help him to be presented with situations that trigger lessons. Since most of the contracts are with familiar souls, the very essence of them is familiar when you are both on Earth in human form. You will also have occasion to meet souls from your group with whom you have not made contracts for this particular life. Even though you have no contract they will seem very well known to you because you have shared other lifetimes with them.

This soul does have a contract with you and it has to do with rejection. In the past life that you remember, you tried to learn the wisdom of being rejected and not having it impact your life. You were unable to get past the physical emotional reaction of being turned down. It comes along with lessons about self-worth and the ability to love yourself. You look for an indication of your self-worth in how much others love you instead of being able to love yourself for who you are.

All these interrelated lessons come down to your ability to go inside and find who you are as a soul—not who the physical being you see in the mirror is perceived to be by others. When you think of this physical woman, go into your feelings and see what you are feeling about yourself and not just the fact you are being rejected. This will help you with your lesson from the contract.

ANSWER: The first thing that will help you understand is that the human body is unique to planet Earth. It was constructed to assist the soul with the lessons possible for a machine that exists in a duality and is affected by chemical hormones, emotional distress, and involuntary physical responses to stimuli. These all provide for the choice of going with what is of a negative nature or what is positive, which is the definition of learning life lessons.

On some other environs, the soul never takes a solid form but participates in some activity that is done with thought projection or energetic coupling. Theosophical and philosophical discussions and debates cover many more topics than any human has ever become aware, and there are locations dedicated to each topic. There is no such thing as a life span on many worlds – no need for birth, youth, adulthood, and death. Just come in wherever you want with the knowledge you already possess, and take it where you want.

There are water worlds where the inhabitants resemble Earth’s fish and souls study family units and various ways of teaching and evolving. Crystalline planets have many types. Some souls wish to see how artistically they can create with a crystalline structure. Some play with resonances through many different forms of rock. It is said to be amusing to blend together different types of crystals to construct new hybrids that react differently to the same stimuli.

There are observation points where souls not quite ready to incarnate can watch and see if there is some lesson they desire to experience. It is also possible for them to isolate a series of humans and compare their reactions to the same circumstances.

Communication is an immensely popular study: trying to develop methods of thought conveyance with sounds, energy, colors, constructions, and many other possible tools. It has schools in a physical world, a crystalline world, a water world, a wholly energetic world, and an alternate-reality world.

We have covered only a small number of the combinations that interest souls, but we hope it has given you a way to step out of your “Earth” thinking and imagine the variables possible.

ANSWER: When you choose a life lesson there are many aspects relating to it. When you lost the child in your former life you shut yourself down completely, not working with the grief, abandonment, guilt, and self-pity. Shortly after the event you decided to join her at Home through suicide. Once there, you realized you had missed the opportunity to learn about those characteristics as you had wanted, and you chose to try to do it again – hence your current life.

You and your daughter did agree that she would be the soul to assist you in a second attempt to understand these horrific emotions. She had wanted to come for a shortened life and this fit perfectly into her plans. A soul’s agreements are generally centered around setting up a stage to be able to face what they wish to experience.

An example of once not being enough can be seen in women who marry an abuser. They finally realize they don’t have to put up with the abuse and divorce him. The only thing they know is that type of relationship, because they don’t look into any other, and end up marrying an abuser a second time. They may even repeat this a third or fourth time because they are convinced this is what marriage is all about.

When a soul is working on lessons chosen for a particular lifetime, if they don’t give themselves time to dig into the facts and try to understand their options, they will put themselves right back into the same set of facts so they might complete the chosen learning process.

Analyze the feelings that have arisen in your life. Understand that both of you are eternal souls and will always meet on the spiritual plane. Allow yourself to feel the grief, sense of abandonment, and guilt. Connect it to other factors in this and past lives so that you might fully understand how you can shape the experience to gain wisdom about this human existence.

And don’t forget to talk to your daughter, either directly or through your guides. She will be waiting for you when you have finished this life.

A. All souls come from an origin of unconditional love, and when not having a physical experience, they exist in unconditional love. Were all incarnating souls to only have the memory of living in an aura of unconditional love, they would not be able to have any experience of things that are not love. Fear, hate, despair, loneliness, betrayal, brutality-all the lessons you choose to come to Earth to experience would then be beyond your reach and comprehension.

You speak of an ideal world for your life on Earth, but why even come here if all you want is love? The answer is that you have such strong feelings about love because one of your life lessons is to find that love within yourself. So now you are projecting your need on those around you. You fear that you cannot have the love you crave unless the whole world also has such love.

If you reach inside yourself and connect with the divinity within that is your soul, you will bathe yourself in unconditional love. Then, not only will you stop projecting your needs onto others, but you will radiate that sensation of love so that others will seek their true selves as well. Go, now, and complete your mission with love.

ANSWER: When we give the above purpose we are summarizing the ultimate reason for incarnating. It is by discovering your essence and feeling the unconditional love that is your nature that you are able to complete everything else you wish to experience in a lifetime. You may work hard raising a family, but if you are unable to see a lesson you built into that task—such as dealing with co-dependency, or realizing you could leave an abusive relationship, or even accepting help when things become overwhelming—you are not working on the purpose for that particular life.

Things pop up in a lifetime because you made arrangements for them to be there. They are the situations that present lessons to you. You mentioned a series of things that deal with an individual helping society, but normally the person has to deal with basic life lessons before going into a “service” mode. Service is something some souls have in the back of their mind to engage in after completing their chosen lessons. If your unlearned lesson involved resolving trouble with your own sense of self-worth or a lack of confidence in yourself, you will have difficulty in helping others.

A soul may have chosen to be very involved with others from the beginning of its life, if the person has chosen to work on understanding ego or understanding why people help others. Teaching and creating a community can be lessons in control or discovering one’s own power or creative ability. A soul may also be having a relaxing life where lessons are not the primary reason for being here. Bottom line though: incarnation is for the soul to learn something about itself. Being totally altruistic tells you only what you can do for others, not what you can learn about yourself. It could also indicate that you are doing things to feel good about yourself because you don’t have enough love for yourself.

ANSWER: The planning for an incarnation on Earth is accomplished while in spirit form at Home with the advice of your council of twelve advisors. All details of what you seek to experience, and the means necessary to set it all up, are discussed. You may find when you return Home that you have learned more about an Earth lesson than you thought and don’t want to spend additional time repeating it.

There is nothing that says you can’t start your planning now, but it may be like the child who sees themselves as a fireman, lawyer, doctor, or dancer as a career in their future. You may find those professions don’t draw you to them when you are mature. Or you may find you don’t have the physical or mental capacity to be successful in one or more of them. So, it can be a lot of time wasted with no substantial benefit.

You came to Earth to learn lessons and to understand who you are as a soul and what powers and abilities that gives you. You must be present in the moment to learn and take full advantage of the situations you have drawn to yourself. If you are day dreaming about an imagined future, which may never come, you are wasting time and missing what will help you in this life.

Your cat is one of the 1 to 2 per cent of animals with a soul. The two of you have been together before and switch roles in each life. You have been the animal and it your human, you have both been animals, and you have both been human – both friends and enemies. Each incarnation brings different plans for learning something new without needlessly repeating the same events. It is also up to that soul if they wish to be with you again.

ANSWER: You are being very specific in your analysis of what you feel love is all about. Your husband loves you as a soul sharing a lifetime with him. He respects your path even though the romantic aspects have faded from your relationship. You think only of a romantic physical love which you have been craving and have now experienced for another. For this reason, you have convinced yourself that your mission with your husband is finished.

Your rationalization has extended to thinking it won’t matter to the children if you leave their father because they are more attached to you. Yes, they are highly evolved and can sense the light has gone out between their parents, but they still love their father and will suffer the pain which will come to him when you leave.

Part of the draw towards this new man is the fact that he needs assistance. Your husband does not depend on you for his emotional needs because he is balanced while your new interest is not. You need to have someone need you. Both your twins and their father can survive on their own; this new one cannot.

You have no mission or prior agreement with the new person. Your physical attraction to him is the only motivating factor for you. He is a user and a player. He will tell you what you want to hear so that he can take advantage of your good nature. He does not love you as you think you do him.

You are correct that it may be time for you to move on from your current situation in order to learn more about life and yourself, but if you are going to do this, be sure of why you are doing it. Don’t justify your physical reactions to another by using spiritual plans and meanings. Examine your inner feelings and what you seek to get from the encounter. You will find sex alone will not sustain you for long.

ANSWER: Johnny Depp is the only actor who has portrayed Captain Jack Sparrow on the golden screen in five movies over fifteen years. He will be there no longer. Twelve separate actors have been James Bond in the twenty-six James Bond films, and there may be another in the near future.

The person playing the role does not change the personality and actions of the character being presented. Hundreds of presentations using the depictions of Captain Jack Sparrow and James Bond have employed hundreds of actors, but the audiences’ observations were the same.

A soul seeks out circumstances that will allow it to experience situations it needs in order to have the lessons chosen. If a soul witnesses an event that has all the elements it desires to have being carried out by another soul, it can choose to enter that role and play out part, or all, of the lifetime it desires to live, even though it was done by another.

That is one way two souls can share one lifetime – but it really isn’t one lifetime since they are doing it separately and not at the same time. Another way to get the information of the lifetime is to energetically run through the life without entering into a body. It would be done in a dreamlike state where the soul is projected energetically, but not physically, into the body of the original portrayer.

ANSWER: All souls incarnate voluntarily, and a large number choose to help the planet and its inhabitants in finding themselves and healing their problems. You have first to work on and complete the life lessons you picked before you can enter into service work. First is assuming responsibility for the situation you created in your life.

The one you believe is your twin flame is only a soul mate with whom you contracted traumatic activities to see how you could deal with them. No curse, per se, was involved – just the planning you and he had chosen. The miscarriage was something you wished to experience to see if you could emotionally and mentally handle the results. Assigning blame to an imagined curse is denying the facts. Go into the energy around the event and see why you have been unable to forgive yourself.

You did not plan to reunite after the miscarriage but it is always possible since both of you have freedom of choice. He has moved on, but you find it impossible to do so. What you have lost is the sense of self. Who are you? Who do you feel you are? You rely on something you were told instead of doing the work to ferret out your true essence. You are the only one who knows who you truly are.

You must start by loving yourself. Accept that everything that has occurred was for learning. Being a walk-in would mean entering a different body with its own memories and prior events. Someone who walked into your body would have your history and continue on with this present life.

Your successful mission is to get as much out of this life as possible. You have no responsibility for anyone else, just for you. Don’t think about others until you know exactly what your lessons taught you. This is your journey.

ANSWER: There are all different kinds of lessons that a soul may choose to experience on Earth. Yes, Earth is the only planet that has a dual energy setup, with both negative and positive conditions. Our lessons appear as negative energies and it is for the soul to determine how to deal with those situations and make them into positive experiences to learn about themselves and their issues—if they can.

Taking your question, it would seem, for example, to imply that even a soul who chooses to be a doctor is interfering with the patient’s life lessons. But life is much more complicated than that. The doctor cannot go out and drag in patients off the street and force them to receive medical treatment. All healing has to do not only with the actions of the healer, but with the intentions of the patient as well. If people do not want to be healed they will find a way to remain out of balance or at dis-ease with their body. Part of their lesson may be to acknowledge that they need the help of another. So, if people realize why they are suffering from a condition, they can go and seek out a healer who can assist in remedying the state.

In another example, good Samaritans might go to countries and help bring clean water to the people. After they leave, the inhabitants must maintain the water system; their lesson may be to take care of themselves.

Only in a situation where people are trying to force their beliefs and lifestyle on others can there be a case of interference. But don’t forget freedom of choice—the recipients can always ignore the offered help. In a case where souls may be diverted away from their lesson by the assistance of others, they will have the ability to try again to learn the lesson in that same lifetime or another.

ANSWER: Every soul has total freedom of choice in all aspects of their human existence. That means that they may choose to change an agreement they made with another. It is impossible to get another soul having its own physical experience to change their mind unless they agree to do so.

If one party to an agreement chooses not to fulfill the agreed actions, the other party had some forewarning before entering this life that that might occur. Of course, coming down with amnesia, you would have no recollection of such an eventuality.

Your major lesson this lifetime was being able to work through difficulties once you had set upon a course of action. Your consternation arises from your having created such strong expectations and having convinced yourself that nothing else was worth considering.

You have fixated on this individual to such a degree that you are certain you had a contract when you did not. She wanted a life of ambivalence toward sexual orientation and abhorrence of pushy, controlling people – which you have become.

You are on this life journey by yourself. Nothing anyone else does should make you feel you have been betrayed and abandoned. You are the only one responsible for your life and your lifestyle. There are no absolutes in a spiritual journey – just infinite possibilities.

Step away from your “hurt” and evaluate where you are now. The only person you can rely on is yourself. There are any number of people out there from whom you can get love. You must, however, accept and love yourself first before they will want to have anything to do with you.

Also, examine how you define yourself: “Who” are you? Are you sure of your identity? Or is this just another expectation that is limiting you in life?

ANSWER: First, you have to stop what you are doing and start thinking and feeling for yourself! From what you are saying you are running your life by committee: you, your husband, and all your advisors. “He said,” “she said,” “karmic spell,” “karmic debt”—do you believe that a soul has complete freedom of choice in each life it undertakes? If you do, then start writing your own script.

Karmic beliefs suggest there are rewards and punishments for past, present, and future activities. That implies predestination instead of freedom of choice. If you wish to experience that sort of a life, go right ahead and ignore what we have to say here. You have the freedom of choice to live your life by whatever rules you want to experience. Life is all about feeling different ways to go through things. Nothing is right or wrong; you get experience on both sides of the coin.

In this life you made a series of interesting contracts to be confronted with complicated interconnected personal relationships. You agreed to have a wonderful husband who loves both you and a different great gal—while you still love him and a person with whom you can only share your romantic inclinations on the non-physical plane. Doesn’t all of this seem a bit complicated to you? Your response is to blame karma, on someone else’s word, as the reason for this puzzle.

All of this is happening for you to step up and sort it out. Let’s hit the channeling first. Receiving advice: it should never be orders if it is coming from the astral plane. It is to be taken as advice only, to help you decide how to use your freedom of choice. A soul who is currently incarnate with you CANNOT be a channel from a higher dimension. You are soul mates with this individual but you are not twin flames. You are so psychically connected with him from all your past lives together that it seems to you as if he is channeling, but it is only your familiarity with him that you sense.

The future will be determined by the choices each of you makes and how they affect the others. Karma has no affect. Nothing is guaranteed or prohibited in the future, except by your own choices. Feel what is the path you desire and start down it without following the signposts other people want you to obey.

ANSWER: First, let us clear up the societal and religious guilt that accompanies a suicide. Most societies have always condemned or outlawed suicide because it diminishes the work force needed to keep itself going. What you refer to as “god’s law” does not exist in the spiritual universe since each soul has total freedom of choice as to what they do and when they do it. And nothing is right or wrong; it is just undertaken for the lesson it provides.

Religious organizations have displayed for their adherents “laws” that they attribute to their godhead or supreme being. These rules and regulations are the tenets by which they exert control over their members. Punishment and reward are assigned to these requirements and judgments about behaviors in general. These actions can only exist in the duality of Earth, using the ego as the yardstick. Once outside the confines of the body, the soul is in unconditional love.

Souls engage in suicide for one of two reasons. Some have chosen too much for a single lifetime experience and are completely overwhelmed. They return Home so that they may evaluate what they have been unable to finish and see what they wish to experience next. Others have completed all they came to Earth to do, and they communicated with other souls, sharing the time and space, and agreed to help with some of their lessons. This would be the making of contracts.

Many were involved in your son’s contracts, some directly and some tangentially. His soul knew when it would be leaving that body and inquired how best to accomplish that in order to give you and the others who remained behind a series of lessons. The lessons centered on guilt, a sense of abandonment, betrayal, and an awareness of the continuity of life.

At a time like this, some relatives, for the first time, explore their feelings about the physical death cycle, life after death, and reincarnation. They search for their sense of what exists for each soul besides the short time it spends on Earth. This is for you to explore who you are and why you are here, and why your son came to be with you.

ANSWER: Most suicides are preplanned among the individual and family and friends. The lessons may be many. The survivors have guilt that they could or should have done something to prevent the action. They may feel grateful they did not choose the same path. They may also have planned to learn about abandonment, betrayal, or immense grief.

Rarely, suicide occurs because the soul is overwhelmed with the amount of lessons it chose and wants to go back and start over again. In such situations, those around the individual had thought they might like to learn the emotions that accompany suicide and have the deep mental, philosophical, and spiritual discussions that arise from being a survivor.

A soul who is planning suicide will put itself into a life situation that makes it easier to go through with the act. Many nationalities, with their internal racial pressures, make suicide appear to be a rational thing to do when all else has failed, or to save face within society.

When a younger person is taken with the person committing suicide, the child had usually wanted to come to Earth only for a short period of time. In the instance you cited, if the father had not killed the boy at the same time, the child would have had an accident or illness to terminate his life since he had not wanted to stay longer.

There are no accidents in your world. Everything happens for a reason – mostly to fulfill the lessons people have chosen or to start a pattern that will lead to a lesson.

ANSWER:  Suicide is a life lesson. It may be a single soul’s or it may be part of a group lesson, which is the situation in your son’s case. It is hard to imagine the facts at this time, but your whole family and many of your son’s friends agreed they wished to experience the sudden loss of a loved one. They wanted to feel abandonment, betrayal, survivor’s guilt, general guilt, and other lessons. Your son volunteered to be the one to leave.

The easiest way to affect a large number of people at once is through the event of suicide. You not only have the emotional upheaval from your thoughts but are bombarded with all the prejudices and lack of understanding from society. Religious beliefs condemn the person, and the survivors have to see how they feel about the judgment of others.

Your son easily transitioned back Home because he had planned the departure and was met and welcomed by friends and relatives. He has tried to let you know he is there, but everyone is still so traumatized that they aren’t able to relax enough to listen. Don’t have any specific expectations of how he will communicate; just let it happen.

He sends the message that you were all quite brave to have been a part of this type of lesson. He had rather the easiest of the parts. Once he was here, he would rather have stayed, but he had agreed and felt that there was good reason for the rest of the group to be able to experience all the emotions and lessons that are now possible and ongoing. It is because he loved everyone so much that he was able to leave.

ANSWER: When Source energy was the only thing that existed, it was all knowing, all powerful, all creative, and all magnificent. In the realm of Source energy there is no judgment, only the presence of unconditional love. At one point this magnificence wondered what it was like not to be perfect and in perfection at all times. In order to understand imperfection, Source had to have a place where the opposite of all its qualities could be experienced.

Source broke off pieces of itself to be test subjects to undertake this experiment. These pieces are what we call souls. They are the essential energy that animates the human bodies, like yourself and society around you. Earth was created for the purpose of giving souls the choice to remain in perfection or to use judgment to decide each step of their lifetime.

Positivity is unconditional love demonstrated with times the human body sees as blissful. Negativity is everything else. Negativity is the default setting on Earth because that is what the soul comes to experience so that it might understand what it is and decide to reject the negative by choosing the positive.

Human society is controlled by the human ego. The basic premise of humankind is that you should judge all things against each other and compare yourself to others to see if you “measure up” to what others want of you. Morality is the term society uses to impose its standards on the majority of people; it is based on judgment.

Souls come to learn about themselves – no one else. Any relationship with another has to do with life lessons that need outside stimulation. Your purpose is to “feel” what is happening to you and decide if it is something you wish to continue experiencing or if you don’t like it and need to move on.

Lessons are given to you via negativity. It is for you to see they are not loving and to choose to find the love. Thinking about it, instead of feeling, allows all the thoughts given to you by others to take charge; then you are following the standards of society, not exercising your freedom of choice.

Welcome fellow souls! We are glad you have come to join us. We begin this message speaking of lessons. This brief definition will help to bring you into synchronization with us.

The way souls gain wisdom is by experiencing things. As we said last week, the sole purpose for souls breaking off from Source (the Supreme Being) is for them to gain experience outside of Home, the dimension of unconditional love. This we do with lessons, for souls to experience the positive/negative duality of the physical plane in which you live. Lessons are not undertaken in a chance “whatever may come” fashion. They are pre-selected by each soul before it embarks on its journey to Earth. We all have advisors, guides, and a council who help us decide what to experience, but each individual soul makes the final selection of the lessons it wishes to learn.

We will review the duration of a lesson from planning to completion, taking the example of control, at its extreme, by one soul over another. In the comfortable energy of Home, we discuss what would be interesting to experience. To know what it is like to be controlled by another, we have many different choices, slavery being one. For most of you, slavery brings to mind what happened in the Americas in your past, where a group of individuals went to impoverished nations, kidnapped people there, and forced them into servitude.

Slavery is only one form of personal control exercised over another, the taking away of what an individual soul believes to be its freedom of choice. Adult control may be exercised when a parent refuses to let her child choose a favored course of study at school, or engage in an after-school activity. It may even begin with the consent of the one wishing to have the experience of being controlled, a perfect example from your past being indentured service. In this, souls gave themselves up to be the bonded servant of another for a set period of time so they might trade having no hope for their future for the chance of re-building their lives and bettering themselves.

A control situation frequently happens within your families when a child expresses an interest in a particular sport—tennis, soccer, or football. The parents think ambitiously and when their offspring shows talent, they become like masters dictating that, because the child is so proficient, he must continue to practice, even though he may not wish to continue the experience. So there are early morning practices, and then more practices, and body-building, and a forced nutritional regime, all much beyond what the child ever sought to have. That sort of control is a type of slavery.

How does this equate with the lessons we mentioned at the start? The soul has chosen to experience being controlled and giving up responsibility and freedom of choice to another. It may have given up control to avoid having to think or to be responsible for what happens. Can this soul learn anything in that scenario? The simple answer is that it can learn only if it realizes that it really does have a choice and can change the direction of its life by backing out of the agreement to be enslaved or, in the sports example, by taking responsibility and telling the parents, “I do not choose to do that.” The slave in chains may escape (as so many did). The indentured person may fulfill the contract and then move immediately to another location.

Death is a way to escape if the incarnate soul is constantly fighting the experience. They might learn why they have experienced that particular harshness if they go inside themselves to find the strength that is within and, having tapped into that strength, they will know it was a choice they made that once experienced does not have to be repeated.

It can be physical, mental, emotional, or transitional (i.e., by going Home—death). Many times when a soul, having experienced being controlled, is given the opportunity to move into a position where it is in charge of its own life, the fear of having to be responsible for itself keeps it in the same situation and it does not choose to move on.

The lesson for the soul is to recognize what it is doing in this lifetime, what it has experienced, and how it has the freedom of choice to learn not to be controlled by others. It can also recognize that it can make decisions and move out of fear into acceptance of itself as an individual. After that it can complete the lesson by assuming responsibility for itself, heading off the control of another, and then advancing to the next chosen lesson. Every soul on your planet in human form who is enslaved, whether in chains, or indentured, or under the mental and emotional control of another, freely agreed before entering body form that it wanted to have that experience, wanted to know what it felt like, wanted to know how it could change the tides and learn that it alone is responsible for itself, where it goes and what it learns.

So, although it may appear that those who are in chains have no choice, they actually chose to be born into that situation so they could experience that harshness. Within such lessons there are categories, control being the main one. Underlying that can be learning self-worth, for those who are enslaved frequently think that they deserve to be physically enslaved, until they learn that all of us, being part of Source, are the same.

Similar teaching experiences include souls having to rely on other people. They may also involve aspects of illness where, because of despair over their situation, people cut off the energy flow through their body and become critically ill. (They have the ability, if they go inside themselves, to learn that they can with their intention reverse the blockages they have created.) Each of these experiences constitutes a lesson. Unless your soul taps your inner knowledge to find the basic experience you wish to have, and then completes it, you will not gain the wisdom of that experience—and you may need to choose to return with a different example of the same lesson in that present or a future life experience, until you have finally mastered it.

ANSWER:  Every soul chooses its parents and the circumstances surrounding its birth and what it will immediately be able to learn from its home environment. Both you and your sister knew the inability your parents would possess for normal parenting and wished to see how you would be able to deal with that.

Many of your lessons included situations about controlling what was happening. Control is really an illusion since it always involves more than one person and each soul has to be working toward the same goal for it to be successful. In your mind, everything that you did was for the best even when it prevented your sister from having to face and deal with the problems created by your parents.

All you accomplished was to delay the time when she was required to deal with them. You did provide sterling examples for her, by watching you, for manners in which to cope with their actions. She observed how she needed the degree of confidence you displayed in your decisions. You never succumbed to their uncomfortable and harmful interactions.

Most young girls have dolls with which they practice and envision how to take care of a youngster; you had your sister. During this time, you also discovered that this journey you were on was all about you and that to move forward you had to prepare yourself. The first step was getting an education. The choice of staying near to your sister was your intent to support her.

Do not feel guilty; she chose her parents just as you did. She would not be the strong, confident young lady she is today if not for all the experiences she went through. Each soul draws into their world the things they want to experience. You  both drew to yourself lessons that you desired and completed. Congratulations

ANSWER: Aphantasia, or the inability to form mental pictures, does not prevent one from connecting to their guides. What if you had chosen to be born blind and have no reference as to what a cat or a chair looks like? Would that prevent you from knowing what they are? Absolutely not. You rely on your other senses.

You can use your ability to feel energy or see the appearance in another form such as your heat rising. What is preventing you from going forward is your expectation that visualization is a necessary element of communication – and it is not. Open your other senses and begin a dialogue with your guides; you don’t need to know what they look like – their essence is nothing but energy anyway.

Your way of “visualizing” is by “knowing.” It is more specific because it is something apparent to your entire physical and nonphysical being. A mental picture is just that – a picture created in the brain. A knowing is a comprehensive sensation announcing the physical presence of another and not just your idea of what they would look like if you could see them.

You assume that most people can visualize clear mental images, and this is not true. As a matter of fact, most people never even get around to trying. As to the term being used, aphantasia, it can be a part of your life choices or occurring because of a traumatic injury or neurological malfunction.

To establish contact, allow yourself to go into your knowing. How large is the feeling? Where are they located in relationship to your body? What sensations are they giving off? Confidence? Merriment? Caution? A sense of approval? Work on perfecting the classifying of what you sense – this is a very strong way of communication.

If you need something more, try auto writing or typing. Sit in front of a computer keyboard and ask a question. Let your fingers work the keys and see what happens. More information on this physical trait can be re-read in our teaching of July 9, 2017.

ANSWER: When a soul makes an agreement with a soul who is leaving its Earth body to take over that body, it does so with the history that that physical countenance has compiled during its growth. In other words, when you walk in to a previously occupied body, you inherit its past obligations and actions. The benefit to you as the walk-in is not having to go through birth, early schooling, and learning a profession—you just take over for another who has already done these things.

The walk-out, or departing soul, had planned to leave its body at the time of the exchange and really doesn’t care what happens to the body. It does care about a continuation of things begun or obligations assumed. Had the walk-out’s body died (ceased to function), governmental agencies would have taken responsibility for its mother. Since the body continues to function with you on board, the state assumes you will take care of “your” mother.

She does not like you because she can feel you are not the child she raised. You do not like her because you have no emotional attachment to this woman. This is a lesson for you about greed (wanting an easy fix just walking in), tolerance (living in the now), and reliability or truthfulness (keeping your word to the departed). Start planning your future, accepting the limitations upon this life until she passes on. You had asked to be the “you” of the present; relax and learn from the feelings each step engenders.

ANSWER: When your beloved leaves before you, it begins a soul-searching examination about why things changed so drastically – which is the process you are enduring at this time. Souls come to Earth to learn about themselves, and this can only be done by experiencing the negativity that opposes unconditional love.

This man was a soul mate of yours who has shared many lives with you and with whom you made a contract before this life for you to experience gut-wrenching emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical pain. The idea was for you to tap into the internal strength provided by the soul energy that is your essence. It is in recognizing that you are, first and foremost, a soul – a piece of Source energy that is unconditional love itself – that you complete your reason for leaving Home and coming into the duality of Earth.

Your soul mate and you have existed together for millennia and will do so for eternity in your energetic forms. He has not left you, as he is watching over you and sending you love energy to work through this struggle. All the plans you made with your physical, ego-based, third-dimensional minds were for the purpose of setting the stage for your time without his physical presence.

The love that is the most important for you to feel right now is the love of self. You have chosen this path as a way to better understand the concept of physical and emotional love. To accept that fact is to have love for the person you are, the one who has the strength to continue and to learn more before returning Home to reunite with your beloved and all your other soul mates.

ANSWER: Your first statement is the conclusion that human society has imprinted on your kind, but motherhood is “the natural way” for women only in that men cannot carry and deliver babies. Every soul has freedom to choose all the experiences it has in each of its lifetimes. Choosing not to be a mother starts a series of lessons that are different from those of a soul in a female body who has chosen to be a mother.

Don’t let other people tell you what is right for you. When you attempted to get pregnant and did not, it had as much to do with the desires of your soul for the type of life you were living as anything else. You were undecided when you entered this life whether to have children or not, so you just went with the flow of the other lessons you undertook.

You have been a mother, and at times a father, in many past lives. The lifetimes were mostly pleasant. You worked with having the responsibility of raising and teaching little ones. It was not of primary importance in this life. You wanted to spend the time motherhood would have taken to get to know yourself better and to try different things that would have been difficult with and for a child.

It is possible to be a “mother” to children without being the biological source of their birth. If you desire the experience of carrying for others in this life, then adopt, marry someone with children, volunteer to help a child, or commit to a pet.

Since you had not determined to have children, you did not contract with any souls to come to be your children. There are no absolutes in a life. You have total freedom of choice to change any plans you made before coming. Just use your intention to manifest what you wish to experience.

ANSWER: Your husband is an egomaniacal, abusive, manipulative beast. He fancies himself the center of the universe and will not hear anything that does not agree with that definition. In the beginning he could be charming and said the things to you which you wanted to hear, but it was all to get you into a position of committing to the life he chose.

You were in a vulnerable position when he first approached you, and this led you to create your expectation of the wonderful and respectable life you imagined being his wife would provide. Right from the start he was clear about his demands of you and you acquiesced. He didn’t hide anything but you thought he would change.

No one can make you do something you do not choose to do. You are not taking responsibility for your choices and are trying to pass off the blame to the source of your prayers. No spiritual entity can change the physical choices you have made – you have to do that yourself.

He is not going to change. You either have to make the decision to continue putting up with his abusive behavior, which isn’t stopping, or walk away from the situation. You are not going to be rescued by changing the “prayer” to one hoping for a different life. You have to take the initiative and create the life you want.

ANSWER: You are putting a lot of pressure on yourself to be something you are not, at least at this time. The work you have done has been extremely valuable to your clients. You have been an introduction to spirituality for a tremendous number of people. What you provided for them is really all they were capable of assimilating into their current being.

It is only human to want to be in contact with the “top of the line,” “best of the best,” but those are really ego/third-dimensional strivings. That is not to say that you cannot establish these connections; it is only a caution to you to do it for yourself and not for what you can do for others. A soul’s personal journey can outshine what they can tell another about the process.

If you desire to communicate more completely with your guides and other spirits, you need to practice without expectations. The most important step is being able to totally clear your head of your own thoughts and concepts. If you are imagining or thinking about what you want, the spirits cannot transfer their thoughts to you – they just get muddled.

Go into a deep meditation with the intention that contact be established – and only with beings of the light. Don’t push; don’t get bored; just wait patiently. Do this also when you fall asleep at night, with the additional intention that you remember all that happened while your body slept. This is information, first and foremost, to assist you in your enlightenment.

Once you have connected and regularly communicate with the spirits, ask them to show you how to get into the akashic records and what benefit they can have for you and others. Be careful, because not all people are ready to know too much about their history – it can be as harmful as it is helpful.

ANSWER: You desperately want this person to like you, but that will never happen because she is jealous of you. She is the one who is spreading rumors about you not being a good enough worker because she knows you are sensitive and will hear about it and be devastated. She purposely “misunderstands” what you say so she can blame anything that goes wrong on your lack of communication. Her desire is for you to quit so she doesn’t have any competition.

This is a lesson for you in having faith in yourself and not listening to what others say about you. What is said can hurt you only if you let it. You know you are a great worker and have no trouble communicating with anyone besides this person. Don’t let her influence you. Your boss thinks this is just a personality conflict and that it will go away.

The more time you spend thinking and worrying about this person, the more impact it is having on you. Choose to ignore her. Be specific in your contact with her, and if she intentionally claims you have said something different from what you did, just let it go. Do not engage her in any type of conflict. If she sees she can no longer make you feel bad, she will stop all her nonsense.

Dealing with ridiculous people is mostly a matter of ignoring them and not letting them have any effect upon you. You know who you are, so don’t let her imply that you are anything else. Choose to be your own person.

ANSWER: You are bored. You are looking for something new and exciting. A totally spiritual life is fantastic. You sit back and watch the flow of the world around you and everything you need is brought to you. The problem is that it only works for a single soul. When you have others to whom you have committed yourself, such as spouse and children, you have to obey the laws of the third-dimensional world to some degree. You must function in Earth’s positive-negative duality.

You are in the midst of learning your life lessons. What are they? They are shown to you by the fears and doubts that spring up in your life. If you do not trust your spiritual abilities and the power to manifest, a fear will stare at you everywhere you look. Clear out the fears and start programming in positive energy for what you seek.

The market is down, but you could bring buyers who would be willing to invest at a decent rate to cover your mortgages. What does your business mean to you? Right now it is the way in which you have been identifying yourself. Are you ready to let that go and begin again? Why does an eco-friendly business have such an appeal? Can you convert your current business into one? You need to find a new way to reinvent yourself.

Spend some time in quiet with yourself and go into your inner feelings to see if you even know what you want to do. Without some type of direction you are sending mixed signals to the universe. “I want to do this, but I’m not sure; maybe I should go here, but I’m not sure.” Is there any doubt that you are getting back exactly what you are broadcasting?

Define your needs, desires, and wants. Know that you can bring them to you. Send out the mail and wait for a reply.

ANSWER: There is always something to be said for being your own boss and making all the decisions concerning your progress through life. You know all about freedom of choice, and you have mentioned the various physical inputs contributing to your world and the way you may view them.

Now is the time to exercise your freedom of choice. Neither option is right or wrong for you – just different ways to proceed from here. The ego that brings up all the fears and doubts is powered by the opinions of society, which judges everything and everybody. These thoughts are based on what has happened to someone else who has chosen a similar path. But that someone is not you, and that should have little or nothing to do with your potential success.

Spirit will tell you all about the power you have within and the ability to manifest that which you desire. You have to accept your power to create, and know that you can use it to bring the financial abundance you desire. Your heart is that little inner voice that will tell you if you are ready to make a move and when.

Your inner essence will help you decide the path. There is nothing wrong with remaining as you are, where you are easily able to fulfill the requirements of the job and therefore have spare time to investigate other pursuits. Happiness is different things to different people. Money is one, satisfaction of accomplishment is another, and mastering a new quest – business or personal – is another. The choice is up to you.

ANSWER: You are doing a fantastic job of avoiding life. You have had four years to go inside and see what resonates with your soul, and instead, you have spent most of the time in a “poor me” mode, feeling sorry for yourself. You are embracing negativity and failure. Wipe your work slate clean as if you had never been employed.

Since your sick pension is coming to an end, it has been decided that you are fit to go back to some type of employment; what that will be is to be determined by you. Your purpose in life is to find out about yourself as a soul and to use the powers and abilities within to have a great life.

Find what interests you. Find what feels good to you. You are a very intelligent person, but you are sitting back, wanting the world to come to you and tell you what to do. It doesn’t work that way. Each soul has freedom of choice. Enlightenment comes from making decisions and assuming responsibility for the consequences of those choices.

Put aside the fears and doubts that come with venturing into a new direction. Remember, you are starting again, so there is no history that has to be dealt with. Don’t wait until the end of the year – explore now what the possibilities are for you. You can deal easily with people; even though you have gotten away from it, begin with that as a central theme. There are many types of professions that will give you satisfaction. If you invest your time and ingenuity, you will share your skills and love with others.

ANSWER: One of your desired life lessons during this incarnation was to understand who you are as a soul and be able to create a meaningful life. Every person creates their own reality. If you don’t believe that something exists, it doesn’t. If you don’t think you can be loved, you will block any love that is sent to you from others. If you think it is raining even if the sun is shining, then for you it is a miserable, rainy day.

Since you lack self-confidence, feel you do not desire to be loved, and have not been loved up until now, you are incapable of opening yourself to love. Additionally, you feel sorry for yourself so you will not allow yourself to be happy even if things go right for you. Here’s a flash for you: You are capable of turning your life into a wonderful experience if you desire. Do you?

Even during your volunteer work, you are just going through the motions without engaging your emotions with what you are doing. Since society looks favorably on volunteering you tried it, seeking to get the appreciation of society. Things don’t work that way. The act of helping others is really for the purpose of helping yourself understand the situations others are going through so that you won’t have to experience them yourself. It is not for receiving gratification from those served. Do it because you love doing it, not for any other reason.

Put together a list of things you believe will make you happy. Form them into affirmations, stating that they already exist as you picture them. Repeat them to yourself every day as if they already exist. Before long you will see that they begin to become the experience that comes to you – your new reality.

ANSWER: You live in your emotions. You let judgment of what the world thinks is right and wrong control your daily thoughts. The default energy of Planet Earth is negativity because that is the only place where it exists, and people cling to it to have the lessons they chose. Lessons come in negative patterns, and learning them means figuring out how to turn the feelings into positive events.

When you concentrate all, or most, of your energy on negativity—what can go wrong or cause you pain—you reinforce the negative energy around you. Thinking negative thoughts brings negativity to you because the universe perceives it is negativity that you desire. On the flip side, if you see success and positive outcomes, the universe showers you with positive feelings and people.

You must make the choice of the type of environment in which you want to live. Imagine a positive result in school, finances, and a beautiful beneficial career. Have faith and the vision that you will succeed in all aspects of your life.

When it comes to your son and boyfriend, they have their own lives to lead. Your son must find his own sense of responsibility for his actions. With your boyfriend it is only you who sees a marriage. He truly does not want a commitment, so you need to decide whether to stick around and see if he will ever change his mind.

ANSWER: We always say that it is important for you to watch out for the specific expectations you create. Your dreams and imaginings must be in alignment with your life lessons and possible within the venue where you wish to apply these manifestations. To bring to you your desires, you first have to believe in them with your whole being and have nothing else that stands in the way. You have only dedicated yourself to this dream when it was convenient for you.

The literary world is very complex. To be successful it doesn’t make any difference what you think is good; it only matters if you produce something that is desirable to others. To have a best seller (over 1,000,000 sales), you must have a million people who want to read what you have written. Agents who are constantly in the field are aware of what is selling at the moment. They suggest changes that make the material more appealing to others; such editing may differ from your ideals but it comports with what is selling. If you are not willing to listen to their ideas, they are not about to handle you as a client.

You are also faced with a print market that is declining. Book stores are closing across the world. Digital books are the future. To the book purist this is horrid, but it is fact. The return on digital books is a fraction of that on print books, so to make a lot of money you have to write something that is desired by two to three times as many people.

Nothing you do is a waste of time. You always learn what will work and what will not. Depression can be a choice. When you envision one course of action and won’t conceive of anything else, depression is the result. To defuse this disappointment you have to step back and see all the factors involved. Don’t just see what hasn’t happened, but rather choose to see that ruling out non-functional things has pointed you in the direction of success.

Find ways to use your talents to create a profitable business. Begin to see other ways to bring in money. Get rid of the poverty mentality in which you fixate on lack, and allow plenty to replace it.

ANSWER: Most all life lessons have an underlying difficulty of having to learn to love yourself before you can work your way through the morass created by the individual problem. A loving attitude begins with an acceptance of the chosen life pattern. When you cannot accept your path, you find ways to avoid it or blunt the effect it has upon you through the use of depressants—your alcohol and drugs.

When you are unable to feel the things you do not like, they cease to trouble you. However, you miss whatever else might be occurring at the same time. Then you go through a period of guilt for not having an experience that you think you should have had, or for neglecting a responsibility to which you had committed. It is always easier to run away from unpleasantness than to stand, face it, and work through it.

You are going through a period of feeling sorry for yourself. Your desire to keep drinking is the easiest solution to dealing with your life. You are running away. It is only when you are sober that you rationalize what the running away is doing to you. Then you feel guilty, hate yourself, and have to drink to forget. It is a vicious cycle.

This will not change until you can find love for what you see as your imperfect self. You must see the essence inside, which is perfect and unconditionally loving. In your spiritual experiences you know that you are a piece of Source and therefore are magnificent, perfect, unconditionally loving, and able to create everything you need to get yourself through this lifetime. It is time you started to work with those qualities.

First it is necessary to rid yourself of self-doubt. Whenever a fear or doubt pops up, ask yourself what you are feeling. Then ask why you feel that way. Once you bring up from your past the cause of your distress, you will be able to get rid of it. You will then be able to bring only positive thoughts and feelings into your life. You will no longer have anything you have to hide or run away from. You will no longer need to self-medicate.

ANSWER: Each soul determines what lessons it wishes to learn in each lifetime. You chose to experience discernment, having faith in yourself, taking responsibility for your choices, and not being afraid to change direction when it is necessary to accomplish what you wish.

Whenever you make a major directional change, you are starting all over again. Returning to Brazil to take care of your responsibilities for your family, you chose to start all over again in your professional life since, after marrying your wife, you did not return to where you had found financial success.

This all happened so that you would examine your choices and see if there was some way, out of the belief system under which you grew up, that would benefit you better. You had learned how to break out of the financial struggle that was the pattern of your family when you removed yourself from their influence. Back in Brazil, you took up where you were in your youth.

It is not imperative that you leave Brazil, but you must rid yourself of the beliefs that have gotten you back where you started. You create your own reality, so manufacture a life where you are successful. There is no spiritual restriction that says you are limited in your successes in one life.

Every time you make a decision, question why you are making it. If it doesn’t seem to resonate with you, then you are choosing based on old patterns and beliefs rather than because it will accomplish what you want. Always ask: Why am I doing this? Why am I staying with this job? Why are we living where we are? What are the possible choices for me that will increase my finances? You can have it all if it resonates with your life.

ANSWER: Get off your “poor me” platform and evaluate where you are. You have many talents and abilities, but you always want someone to tell you how good you are instead of just doing something because it feels good to you. You look to others for guidance and direction so you can say it was their idea when things don’t go as you would like. It is time to start taking responsibility for your actions.

You pick up on trends that others are following because you want to be accepted. It is easy to get caught in the negativity of others because you cling so closely to them that you cannot miss being included in the negativity when they wallow in misery. This is not being vulnerable because you seek to learn – this is getting caught on the firing line because you don’t want to miss anything.

You could be a lightworker if you were making your own choices instead of hanging on to others. You need to work at getting rid of your ego dependence on praise from others – what you call your arrogance. Other lessons include patience, starting to rely on your intuition, not being so lazy and manipulative, and accepting responsibility by exercising your freedom of choice.

You know that you create your own reality, but you don’t work at it. Start with affirmations concerning becoming independent of others’ advice. Visualize how you want to behave in your reality, what you seek to accomplish. Live only in the moment with what is observable with your own eyes. Be your own soul.

ANSWER: (Candomblé, or “dance in honor of the gods,” is an African-derived religious practice in which music and dance are integral parts.) While you state you have moved away from any religion, Candomblé is a religion. When you became involved in it, you were directed during the practices to change your life into where you find yourself right now.

When you come out of a depression, where you have no impression of who you are or what you should be doing, you are susceptible to believing things you would normally take time to consider before adopting. Those who were around you as you started making a new belief system to regulate your existence were totally engrossed in energy and plant healing – so that seemed the way to go.

In any new profession, the practitioner takes a while to become known and therefore to gather clients. Flower therapy is not accepted by the general population – nor, for that matter, is Reiki. This limits the number of potential clients as well. If you were to look to fellow members of your belief system, you would have a ready-made base of clients. However, there are a number of practitioners of Reiki and flower essences who have been working in the field for some time and are therefore your competition.

It is common for humans to wish to engage in fields for which they do not have the qualifications to make them immediately successful. You could still make a career of these interests, but you must have patience and research all the possibilities to advertise yourself and gather people. You could not become a doctor or a lawyer without schooling and internships. Try finding a current practitioner who will let you work with them for experience.

ANSWER: You have lapsed into a “poor me” state of thinking. You learn as much from what you consider as failures as you do from the successes. Not feeling “connected” to things is an indication to you that you intended for parts of this life to be done solo. But your desires are to be a part of something, a family, a country, or a soul mate combination. You feel a need for security, which you believe can only come from a union with others.

All souls are part of the Creative Force and have all the powers that entails. You don’t need anyone else. You can bring to yourself whatever it is you wish to experience. The energy in that part of the world is not the best for the body which you inhabit. The feeling to move elsewhere is due to this discomfort.

To successfully move you must see it as a solo event in which you set all the parameters. Visualize what it is that you desire, send that picture out to the universe, and then start looking for advertisements that fit your description. Accept that you can create this move and new employment.

Also, start spending more time loving the person you are. You have looked for love outside yourself and not tapped into the incredible source at your fingertips. You can only love another to the degree that you already love yourself. Start practicing connecting with that love within; it is extremely powerful.

Not all members of the opposite sex who would make fantastic life partners are members of your soul group. They may simply be traveling on the same path with the same objectives that resonate with your soul. Feel those that you come in contact with for this match.

ANSWER: All souls bring to themselves what they had planned to experience during their lifetime. You create your own reality by what you think, desire, and do. When you are living a lie, you are projecting the energy of your deceit outward and feeling it as it comes back at you.

You are hiding your affair so that no one knows, but the way you are acting is creating negativity around you. People sense that you no longer are the obedient and loving wife. You no longer see your husband as desirable, and that makes him respond by being standoffish and restrained. He doesn’t feel love being directed toward him, so why should he respond with a loving attitude?

Just as you have not been honest with people about your desires, you seek to hide from your own actions by talking of suicide or running away. Meditate on your life. What do you want for your future? Do you wish to live between two different lives, not feeling comfortable in either one, or do you want to choose one and dedicate yourself to it?

Talk to your lover and see if he desires to commit to you. Ask yourself if this is a future with which you can live. Stop living two lives that are incompatible. Stop spreading negativity with your deceit. The negativity all originates from you.

ANSWER: You are a very strong, controlling, somewhat selfish, and often manipulating individual. You have commanded to you what you want and have not found a compliant male. Your expectations of your needs come from the demands you envision and never take into consideration the other person. This has resulted in your history with men.

You start out a relationship displaying what you think the man wants and withholding what you demand from the affair. This has resulted in tumultuous outcomes and frequent changes in partner.

You must first identify your own definition of “love.” Start with asking if you truly love yourself. You can only love another to the extent that you love yourself. You can only share, and have another feel love, to the degree you accept yourself.

You have an intellectual understanding of this because you stated you are aware that love and happiness are not linked to the presence of another. Your misery and depression at being alone come partially from not having an audience to play to and control. Draw in a person who is open to the spiritual side of life. Give up your need to control and just start by discussing what you want out of life.

Being alone is not part of your destiny, but fulfilling your life lessons is. When you work through the issue of what love is, you will be able to share with another. Your success in finding a suitable mate is up to you and the amount of time you invest in finding love for yourself.

ANSWER:  All souls having a human experience draw to them that which they desire to learn from; this creates the scenario they see and accept as true. People’s reality is based on their beliefs. No two realities are exactly the same because some beliefs will not resonate with a person and therefore are excluded from possible consideration.

A soul who is consumed with Earthly third-dimensional reality will judge everything that comes to its awareness because that is what the ego requires. The soul following a spiritual path will know the only thing of importance for it is the lessons it set up to experience before coming here.

There is a segment of the human population that spends its time providing entertainment for the others. Some of these methods to expand your thinking come in positive ways, but the majority come in ways that titillate you with fear, excitement, and dread. These purported events capture your imagination and cause you to fear or anticipate that the reported activity might happen to you.

A lot of what you have read is not factual and has nothing to do with a soul’s journey for knowledge, understanding, and wisdom. Spending time on your own justification for the stories of others is like trying to explain why a person turns to the right at an intersection instead of the left – it depends on what they wish to see.

Your ex-partner was having visits from his associates in the nonphysical world. As he got older he no longer “saw” them because he didn’t think he should. Go with your feelings and intuition to accept what you sense is true or to make contact for yourself if you desire. Don’t worry about the tales others tell.

ANSWER: Have you finished throwing your little temper tantrum? There is no need to blame anyone but yourself for the life you are living because you planned it before entering that body. No one makes decisions for a soul’s journey but that soul. Once on Earth, each soul, now a human being, creates their own reality.

A reality is controlled by the beliefs you choose to have regulate and control your life. In the beginning these come from parents, teachers, and society. You have to learn that they can be exchanged for something you desire. Creating a reality occurs by accepting that you have the ability to manifest things necessary to complete your chosen lessons.

Your first job is to accept that you are a piece of Source energy and are beautiful and deserving of love. The problem is that you can only love another to the degree that you love yourself, and with your current state of self-hatred, no one wants to be anywhere near your energy.

You are wallowing in self-pity and insisting that someone else has caused all this and they need to change things immediately. Others don’t have to listen; it is up to you to just believe and take action. Your attitude is like saying you don’t want to watch what is on television, but you are waiting for someone else to come and change the channel instead of getting up and doing it yourself.

“Good” changes cannot occur in negativity. For this reason, you must learn to step away from negative thinking and activities and bring in positive, loving energy. Your essence and the rest of the nonphysical universe is composed of unconditional love. Every time you start getting depressed, upset, or condemning of your condition, stop and relax into unconditional love because it is available all around you. In that state, examine what is happening. Send away the negative feelings and replace them with loving energy. This will – and you can – change your environment.

ANSWER: There is no right or wrong way to do things. Messages are constantly being downloaded to those who are open to receiving them. Information comes from several sources. If requested, messages may come directly from the Masters or your personal guides. Your higher self, the unconscious part of you that has all the information of what you have learned in prior lives, also answers questions when you shut down your conscious thinking mind and let it be heard.

Whenever you relax and have no agenda or expectation of the nature of the message, you open a pathway from the nonphysical world to assist you in your inquiries. If you are “thinking” about what you want to hear, you are letting your ego mind from your conscious memory tell you things. All reception from nonphysical sources is a form of channeling – whether it is words, feelings, or healing energy.

The messages you are receiving are coming in vibrational waveform and your body is translating them into your language. Translations depend on your prior knowledge of the meaning of things, how clear the broadcast, and what your state of mind is at the time. In other words, channelings are not constantly 100% accurate translations of what the spirits are saying.

The most important thing is that you not be concerned about the messages you are delivering. They are not coming from you – you are only the relay station. Do the best job that you can without inserting your own opinions into the missive and let it go.

Healing is the process of balancing the physical body’s energies back to optimum condition. This is accomplished in the spiritual realm by the use of universal life force energy or the unconditional love energy all around you. Attunement is nothing more than an introduction to the feel of this energy. It is needed with a lot of people because they don’t believe it exists until they sense or feel it themselves.

When you clear your mind, reach out and see what you feel around you. Can you sense the love of Source? If you can, you have no need to get “attuned”; just use your intention to help direct that energy to those who need it. Again, remember it is up to them what they do with it. If people do not really want to use the energy for their well-being, you cannot force them to.

ANSWER: You didn’t receive the job because someone more qualified was offered the position. You are not the only one in the universe and therefore cannot predict and demand for yourself alone when others are involved and there are multiple variables at play. It is like deciding you want to win the lottery and there are 100,000 other souls who all have the same desire and are working to create the energy to make them the winner.

Manifestation is a very real power, but it only works if you have control over all the variables in the situation. Having a single expectation, or any expectation, concerning the outcome of an event is limiting and often disastrous, just like this job search.

Say you think that you need a salary of 20,000 dollars and that is what you ask for. Then inflation hits, and you really need 30,000. All your expectations for 20,000, if they are fulfilled, would leave you wanting. It is always best to seek not what you think you absolutely cannot live without, but something better than your belief. Then the universe will provide for your needs.

Spirits and guides cannot make something happen. They are prevented from interfering with the living taking place on Earth. Their purpose is to assist with advice and possible alternatives to your single-minded direction.

Pick yourself up out of your depression and start working on that “perfect” job. Define the minimum of what you want. Then send the energy out to the universe for that or something better. And, be open to all possibilities. If you are thinking only of a specific job, and a hybrid that has much more potential comes along, you will not give it a look. But if you look at everything that gives you an energetic twinge, you will make the right connection. Don’t give up on yourself.

ANSWER: You are not returning because of spells cast upon you by anyone but because you have little faith in your own abilities to make decisions. Any time that things don’t go the way you think they should, you put your tail between your legs, like a beaten puppy, and return to a place that is predictable to you. It is called a comfort zone. Although you don’t like what happens there, at least you know the extent of the displeasure to which you will be subjected.

When you return, you play into their manipulation of your life. You cannot be in their presence without being surrounded by their negative characteristics. They are not even attempting to understand why they feel the way they do, and everything is as they choose. They do not know that there is another aspect of life, which is unconditional love and spiritual growth.

Souls create their own reality by the belief systems on which they choose to structure their lives. Since your relatives are on the opposite side of the duality from what you seek, you have to decide what you want your life to be or just accept that you are going to be under their control.

You are a piece of Source energy and, as such, have all the powers and abilities of Source. But until you accept that as a truth, you will continue to feel as you do right now. First accept it as a possibility. Then believe it can be used by you to change your environment. Visualize what you desire and then know you have the ability to manifest and create that vision. Then start acting to put it all into play.

Put your fears and doubts aside and step up to take the responsibility of your decisions. This is your life – not an extension of your relatives’ life. Make it so.

ANSWER:  It is time to take responsibility for yourself. All souls spend their lifetime looking for a passion – something that pulls them through each day and gives meaning to their existence. You have found just such a desire. Cooking allows you to express your love and personality without having to deal with the prejudices of others.

The problem is that lessons you chose to deal with can conflict with a passion, and this is happening to you. In order to move ahead with your dreams, you have to have the confidence in yourself. You don’t have faith that what you know you can do is good enough. You don’t think you are good enough to succeed.

You are creating barricades to success by listening to what is being said to you and about you. Take an inventory of your beliefs – this is not your ego. Ego is judgment, and because you don’t have the self-reliance to try anything, how can it be leading you astray? Someone has put that idea into your head.

There are many around you who have accepted your belief that you are damaged goods, that you cannot take care of yourself and need the help of others. Where did they get that idea? Why, from you! You are always asking others what to do. You solicit advice from people before you make decisions about any major phase of your life. Time to take charge, if you want to.

Now is an appropriate time to accept that you can do anything you set your mind to. To be in charge you must believe you, and you alone, know what is best for you. Whenever you start getting negative thoughts like “I can’t do that,” or “I’m not good enough,” stop and ask yourself why you think that. These are thoughts others have told you. You can accept they know you better than you know yourself, or you can say, “Sorry, but I want to do this and I’m going to do it.”

Create a plan of action. Write positive affirmations for how it will all work out. Remind yourself daily by repeating these affirmations – and you will see it can become reality.

ANSWER: Humans have a need to be accepted and to do what they think society wants of them. This generally puts them into situations where they give, give, give always to others without a whole lot of thought about themselves. A scenario like this one allows some who are the recipients to avoid having to take responsibility for their own actions. They merrily go their reckless way while others come along and pick up the pieces strewn in their wake.

Your friend and her children chose each other knowing the characteristics each would have. When you step in, thinking that you are rescuing the children, you are enabling the mother. She never thinks out the consequences of her actions because someone will come and bail her out, or at least keep her afloat. The only way for her to get the picture is to sink on her own and find a way to come back to the surface. The children are observing how their mother behaves and are taking notes for later in their lives.

During the time you have been working to know your true self, you have realized some of the actions taking place. Each soul is responsible for learning the lessons it predetermined to experience. Each person must come to his or her own realization about those lessons, and really can’t do that unless the facts are faced. It is a lesson for you to decide how to handle the situation from here on out.

Honor the lessons she has set up. Send your best intentions to her for an easy resolution. She is going to have to take some tumbles before she can see what others have been keeping her from tackling.

ANSWER: You have terrific powers of manifestation; unfortunately you get so involved in what you think you want, that you can’t see the other possibilities that exist. Your guides cannot tell you that something more fulfilling or enlightening exists than whatever you have been investing all your time and effort into producing, so they have the alternative appear at the same time as your expected result. This is to show you there are choices to enrich your life and not just one direction.

Instead of expectations of a particular result, start projecting a basic goal or destination. During your journey, have your eyes open to see if, as you become more aware of your abilities, it would be better to alter your destination. You see a change from your programmed goal to be a distraction; we see it as giving you the freedom to decide that something else might be even better than you imagined when you began the journey.

Go with the flow of the universe. This will allow you to be in tune with whatever you elected to do during this lifetime. Make life easier on yourself. Let the return of your projected energy (your manifestation) come to you without effort. Some aspects of life can be very easy if you don’t fight them each step of the way.

ANSWER: You misunderstand manifestation. You have the basic principles down but it is not 100 percent effective 100 percent of the time. You will not be able to manifest something if it will interfere with some life lesson you are avoiding or have not completed. If you had to spend so much time on your intention, it shows that you had some doubts about completion; that alone could have stopped the result desired.

What about all the other people who bought lottery tickets? There was only one house and hundreds of hopefuls. What if even a dozen of those knew about manifestation and went through the same procedures that you did? Should the house be divided by all those who were manifesting ownership? Or was the winning possibly a life lesson previously set up by one of the candidates?

Manifestation is also hindered by expectations. If you put all your work into one and only one destination, anything getting in the way, like other conflicting manifestations, will prevent yours from materializing. Saying you wanted that particular house and none other was very restrictive. If instead you had said you wanted a house just like that, and had given the universe some time to work on it, you would have had the option of having it made available through a lottery (either for a house or the money necessary to purchase the house), by way of an inheritance, or some other way.

Don’t give up on manifestation—it works if all the right factors are present. To see if you have lessons you need to clear, look to your fears and doubts and dig into them to find the cause. Don’t give up on a house; just don’t fixate on one house when hundreds of other people are doing the same thing.

ANSWER:  With your studies and spiritual awareness you understand the concepts of creation and manifestation. Instead of using them to bring someone with the desired characteristics into your life, you have created him in your dreams in place of a flesh-and-blood man. The primary reason for this is fear. You have very little confidence in yourself and believe you are not worthy of the type of man you want.

You desperately crave having a physical relationship, so you create one in your dreams. The problem with your plan is that the message energetically being sent to the universe is that you have this fulfilling partnership going on at night so you don’t need a human. It is time to censor your dreams if you want the real thing to come to you.

The correct start to finding a mate could be to visualize exactly what you desire, but if you carry out both parts of the relationship, your body and mind think that is all you wanted and you already have it. Take your visualization on the road. Go to places and meetings where you have the opportunity to meet and get to know new men. Replay your picture of the desired type of person so that it projects out from you like an advertisement for a partner.

Your sleep schedule is not that varied. Between 2 and 4 a.m. is when your body has  rid itself of its regeneration cycle for physical needs, and your mind is wandering around for excitement. Your dreams reflect what you are occupied with while awake. If you read a book, you may find yourself playing one of the parts in a dream. If you are preoccupied with a mate, that will be the subject of your night exploits. If you want to change dream to reality, you have to do the leg work.

ANSWER: You have given up on yourself and now think that only someone else can give you your solution. Nothing is further from the truth. Each soul creates its own reality and manifests its destiny. You were well aware of that before but have lost all faith in your own abilities.

When you were in touch with your Higher Self you felt the connection to the entire Universe and the unconditional love of Source. That union is still within you. You have to have the acceptance, belief, and knowledge that it is still there and an active part of you – and then step forward and think, feel and act as if it is so.

How can you do that? By remembering who you are. You are a piece of Source energy that is what makes you a soul who has chosen a human experience. A big part of the journey is learning to maintain that connection through acceptance of your essence.

You have allowed third dimensional ego judgment to creep in and take over your thinking. The first step is to stop thinking with all the ideas which have been placed into your head by society and start feeling with your soul. When you are aware of negative thoughts trying to take over and depress you, bring the most positive loving visions into your head to displace that negativity.

Meditate on your higher self or soul and recapture that love that pours forth. You have to believe in yourself and then take the steps to reunite with the universe.

ANSWER: You have explained the manifestation process, but you don’t understand that the sole purpose is for that individual soul to create the circumstances that provide the necessary environment for their chosen lessons. Not all lessons are positive. Each soul is on their own journey and, therefore, only able to manifest for their lifetime, and sometimes the lessons may be negative.

You have mentioned some different human characteristics that enable the soul to experience learning. A soul’s lessons are not dependent upon any one else. Souls who are sharing a timeline with others chose that period because they were aware of what the others were going to be working on. Some chose to be there because they wished to observe the opposite of the traits they embody: a meek person watching an overconfident one, for example.

What one soul is doing influences another only if they allow it to do so. There is no ranking of one lesson as any more important than another. The soul varies their choices from time to time, and sometimes works with other souls to allow them to experience a dynamic incident. It isn’t causing suffering, only the dynamics requested. The one affected wouldn’t be present if they had not chosen to place themselves in that situation.

ANSWER: First, and foremost, the spiritual journey is a solitary thing. You cannot do anything for your husband. He must do it for himself. Your manifestation and creativity must relate to your needs. If either of you has a life lesson that involves an aspect of poverty, as a couple, you will not be able to manifest wealth until you deal with that energy. You chose each other because you were aware of the other’s choices in life.

It is important to examine your feelings about money. It is an energy exchange for the amount of effort put into producing it. Money is not a human entitlement. Being energy itself, money senses all the energy surrounding it. If either of you sends out negative or doubting energy concerning its connection to you, it holds back the return of finances. Thoughts and actions are very decisive in the results of your work.

You have the power to bring to you that which you desire if it does not interfere with a life lesson. You have no lesson in poverty preventing wealth from accumulating in this existence. Your husband has no issues with money, either, but he has lessons around self-worth and confidence. His ego-based concerns about what others think of him and his business prevent him from escaping the belief systems by which they expect him to live. To move forward he needs to examine why he feels, thinks, and performs the way he does.

ANSWER: For the first time you truly understand unconditional love—the love of mother for child. This eclipses any other feeling in the world. It overpowers negativity and ego-based judgment. No wonder you don’t want to have to return to the third-dimensional world where everything is about who is better or is in possession of more than anyone else.

You chose to be in the position you find yourself so that you would be having the thoughts and struggles you are. Since you chose to have a child, you have the responsibility of caring for it until it can take care of itself. In this world that means making sufficient money to provide food, lodging, and education. This would be easier if you returned to your company until you can substitute something else for earnings.

You are a healer but you are untrained and lack confidence. This is something you can work on in your spare time. Find a teacher who can help you feel comfortable in a healing profession. This would give you the possibility to work into a business on your own.

Art is a wonderful way to help people heal by putting your energy into your work so that others may receive and feel. This is also something you could start to practice on a small scale while returning to your employment. Baby steps in any of these new directions is necessary. It doesn’t have to be that long—just until you feel comfortable.

ANSWER: You have to understand that a spiritual journey is a solo effort. You, and you alone, determine what you learn and understand about life. You have no responsibility for others and they have no need to listen to you telling them what to do, no matter how well-intentioned you think you are. You are a very opinionated person and can’t always see others’ point of view.

Each soul creates its own reality, which is perfect for it viewed from its perspective. You know your abilities but you cannot let go of your expectations for those with whom you come in contact. You cannot stand rejection, which is how you interpret people’s choices to make decisions that vary from your ideas.

Stop taking yourself so seriously. Go with the flow of the universe and let others do the same. Your trust issues come from differing with those you do not control with your suggestions. Try going into observation mode and watching how people behave when you are leaving them to their own devices.

Establish a positive relationship with someone where you just listen – no suggestions and no criticism. See if you can understand their reasoning. Be honest with them about your feelings but not your need to control. When you are comfortable, let your emotions open so you can see how it feels. Solicit their opinions on the things you would have “shared” with them in the past and see how it impacts you, for this is a new way of living for you.

ANSWER: A soul creates its own reality and also draws to itself those circumstances it wishes to experience. It is possible to stay in one place and never learn or grow, but that is against all the plans a soul has before coming to Earth. You wished to discover a spiritual approach to understanding and accomplished this through searching for those paths that resonated with you and explained life lessons for you.

Your inner self knows that only through working on the signs that your life lessons provide – fears and doubts – are you able to progress. These appear to you as a conflict between stability and empathy or your inner essence and sensitivities. But for you, these are tools that will take you through your tests and result in education and wisdom.

You are being too critical with all the fantastic success you are actually making. Step back for a minute and see how much you have absorbed and now understand. It has not been comfortable, but then hard work never seems to be.

Voids can be good places because they allow you to observe what is around you without interfering with the view. Voids are nonjudging, sterile places where new ideas, directions, and belief systems can develop and thrive. Embrace the opportunity.

Dispassionately feel what is happening, and don’t make any rash judgments about it. Go with the flow of your life and the universe, visualizing the place you wish to be. Have patience with yourself and the old paradigm in which you have existed for so long. Change is on the way.

ANSWER: Several prior lives involved performing or acting. Acting is not connected solely with performing on a stage. There are aspects of acting that allow the actor to reach out, teach, and assist others to find their way in the world. Your new career of teaching is an extension of acting. You stimulate your students to learn and to get excited about the subject matter. Being an actress at heart is the easiest way to accomplish this.

In your daily life you fulfill many roles needed by those with which you come in contact. To the students you are teacher; to your family you are the provider and sometimes disciplinarian; to your friends you are one of them – which could be school chum, exercise pal, or confidant. You find it very easy; as a matter of fact, you are not even conscious of changing roles. You are the star in a lot of people’s lives.

What has brought you the unhappiness in your life is your expectation of the glamor, success, and awards a movie or stage career would have brought you. Your life is much more fulfilling than if you simply appeared on a stage or on screen. You have more time to yourself than the “actress” would.

Truly examine your passion for acting, disregarding the awards and stardom, and see if you can become aware of all the acting you have manifested into your world. You did not want the type of life that you associate with “regular” actresses but rather one where your influence is more far reaching and beneficial to others.

ANSWER: You are on Earth to go through the life lessons you chose before coming. This journey is yours alone. You don’t have to have any interaction with others unless you so choose. The first step is to find out who you are (a soul with fabulous abilities) and then to go about defining and accepting the wisdom your lessons provide.

Your lessons have signposts around them to let you know where they are – those notices are fears and doubts. Your reaction to others alerts you to the fact that you wanted to deal with the way the actions of others make you feel.

You need to ask yourself what it is you actually fear; is it what these people are saying and thinking about you? If it has to do with anyone but you, why are you giving any of your life over to it? You can never make humans change their mind about something unless they choose to do it, so why bother?

And how do you know what they are thinking or saying unless they tell you? If you are guessing, you are doing yourself a disservice by thinking only negative thoughts. If they are really saying negative things to and about you, simply ignore them. The words cannot hurt you unless you let them by believing anything negative you may perceive. Stop listening and interpreting what you think they mean.

Your anxiety is an expectation that what you are thinking is going to happen or is true. So what? Get rid of the expectations; they are toxic and confining. Live in the moment. You have the ability to create your world within the observable area of your being. Fill all your thoughts and feelings with the unconditional love that is your soul’s essence.

There is a lot of negative energy in the world. Keep it away from you by drowning it in positive love energy any time it appears. Stop when you feel attacked and bring in love from the universe. You will no longer be able to feel the negativity.

ANSWER: You both started out creating a fantasy world to your liking. You each convinced yourself that what you had was exactly what you thought life should be like. When your husband told you something, you heard only what you wanted to hear, never questioning what was actually being said. Living in your own world you couldn’t be affected by his.

Your lives have been on parallel paths during your marriage but not on the same roadway, which has allowed you to exist as a couple and seem to be compatible to others. Don’t fault yourself for this predicament because it is the way a vast majority of relationships play out. Most individuals just never become aware of the gap between their vision and their partner’s.

Communication is the great awareness tool, but few people impartially examine what is being said. It is hard to justify the reality you have created for yourself if you must also see what those around you perceive as the shared truth of the situation. Complicating talking to one another are the emotions you bring to the mix.

At a young age, infatuation overcomes a meeting of the minds and appears to be true love. You both loved each other to the extent your lack of experience provided. In point of fact, if you look back, you will see you really didn’t have that much in common. You had no foundation upon which to build a lasting relationship, and ignoring what you sensed about your husband is the only thing that has kept you together this long. 

It is now time to honor yourself. What is it that would satisfy you on a daily basis? How can you find out what your truth is, and how can you live it? You will remain in your rut only if you choose to do so. You have used your creativity all these years; now use it to create a life of your own, whether you remain in the marriage or not. Forget the past – it will be an anchor preventing you from moving forward.

ANSWER: These boys are soul mates of yours with whom you have had a number of lifetimes. You three designed a beginning to this life that would introduce you, through the amnesia you all had, to the energies of recognition. You didn’t carry your plans beyond re-introduction. You were not sure where you would want to go from there. No specific contracts or connections were planned.

You liked the human feeling of recognition of “old friends” and have found it to be stronger than any connection you have made with anyone since. One reason you are so fixated on this feeling is that you have not allowed yourself to be open to anyone else the way you were to them. At your early ages you did not have any disappointments, denied expectations, or negativity between you. Later in life others have not met your expectations, so you remember the time when all was positive and well.

There are too many variables—yours and theirs—in the process of occurring to be able to say whether or not two or all three of you will ever reunite. You go to your dreams to recall all the things you did together before you came down here. You have also created a fantasy world on Earth, and prior memories that comfort you in your current unhappiness.

They are on their own journey. You all have freedom of choice for your futures. Plan what you desire for yourself; you cannot influence others unless they wish. If they are thinking the same thoughts as you, you will be together, but don’t count on that happening, or place your plans on hold until it does. See yourself as part of the world around you. Create the type of experiences you need to understand your life and fully integrate into this human situation. Stress self-love and confidence in your abilities. Bring others into your life from whom you can feel warmth and love.

ANSWER: Your chosen major lesson is all about rejection and how far you allow it to impact the rest of your existence. Your mother never really wanted to have a child, and when you arrived colicky, she had a reason to reject you. When you wished to bond at a later age, she was afraid you would take too much time and make too many demands of her, so she physically forced you away. Her rejection turned into a sense of abandonment.

You choose to carry a stigma of rejection, which all are able to sense. It’s as if you are announcing: “It is my lot in life to be rejected, particularly by those I desperately need to love me.” Your friend picked up on this vibe and subconsciously thought: “Hey, I can have some fun with no repercussions because this is what she feels she needs.” His not being honest with you only added to his dose of rejection and deception.

Until you understand your lesson and remove the impression you project of your desires, nothing is going to change. More people will appear to treat you in the same fashion. As a soul you do not have any negative energies, so it is time to let your human self also shed them.

You must first accept that this path was a chosen one made by your fantastic and all-loving soul. Your essence is nothing but unconditional love that all seek to share with you, but it has been hidden behind the lesson you allowed to cover your magnificence.

You must understand that everyone creates their own reality and their own definition and illusion of their world. It is time to erase the negatively accepted picture you project of yourself and let others see you.

See yourself as the most desirable, loving person in the world, who is ready and willing to share that love. Envision a relationship based upon shared love and truthfulness. Open yourself up to a partnership where you don’t anticipate rejection. Let rejection, abandonment, and deception become a thing of the past. Manifest that vision and enjoy your true happiness.

ANSWER: First, for those unfamiliar with the term samskara, it is a Sanskrit word and equates to what we call your belief systems, which control all your actions  during a lifetime. It is through the process of understanding what motivates you that you can learn the life lessons that created the imbalance in the first place and are the things you wished to work on while on Earth.

Fear is always around during a human existence because it is the neon sign showing you what you chose to work on in that lifetime. There are only two emotions or energies a human faces: love and fear. Anything that isn’t love is some form of fear. To not have fear is to have completed all you came for and to be able to exist in unconditional love. So don’t chide yourself for your fears; let them show you the way to growth and understanding.

Self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-love are interconnected lessons for you. Stepping back and examining when those feelings come to you will help you pinpoint what it is you desire to learn. Both these traits and the remorse, or hatred of yourself, can be more easily addressed if you stop giving them so much power.

You give power to a problem when you concentrate on it and acknowledge its existence. If you ignore the past and choose to be only in the present, where nothing has occurred yet until you set it in motion, you are simply dealing with a single situation instead of dragging along the whole history of your life. This is the concept of living in the moment.

To resolve the strings holding you to past issues, you first have to deal with your interpretations of the resulting energy. This is accomplished by taking each negative energy and following it to its origin, observing the trigger point, and choosing how you would deal with it now based on all the lessons you have learned between initiation and today.

You are doing great work – keep it up!

ANSWER: We are souls broken off from Source energy just as you and your mother are. Some of us have spent many lives on Earth working through the same types of life lessons as you now face. We have learned all the possible aspects of some lessons and have earned the title of master of that particular form of living. We also include a number of angels and archangels who have never gone into a physical body but have worked for millennia as guides for those souls on Earth.

All souls, when they are not in human physical form, have the ability to be back here at Home in total unconditional love and to observe everything that is happening all over the physical world. We do not call this heaven because that is an Earth term that has an opposite energy of hell. Duality exists only on Earth; everything here is positive.

Your life lessons dealt with feeling abandoned and searching for love, trust, and someone to take care of you. This lesson was set up between your mother and you before coming to Earth so that you might work your way through the ability to find your own powers and to connect to those in nonphysical form.

You have strong intuition and feelings but you question them. You establish expectations of the way you want things to appear and be, and if the facts do not comply with your wishes, you deny that they are real.

Where your mother is now is a nonphysical world. Things do not appear as they do in the physical arena. It is impossible to duplicate the physical from nonphysical materials. You will not be able to see your mother in the physical form she had before, but you can feel her energy, her love, her happiness. This will only happen if you open yourself to the possibility. If you deny it exists, it does not exist to you.

ANSWER: Your soul’s task, as you call it, was established by you before you came to Earth in order to learn various lessons. It is not set in stone, so you have the freedom to change the choices you thought you would benefit the most from learning. Where you go from here depends on what more you seek to experience.

Being a religious is just like any other employment one can choose for a profession. How long you desire to stay in one job depends on the experiences available. Within your current position you could get more responsibility, wider influence, and a different variety of work. Most of these things are all about control. If you feel you need to have more time in controlling others, then this is the right path. Everything about this direction is in judgment, graded by the ego and society. All these activities put your beliefs directly in your face constantly—that is, if you are open enough to see them.

Backing away from your position allows you to exit judgment and enter into a life of feeling rather than thinking. You are a healer and have been doing it somewhat as a priest. Your words and energy are very healing to those with whom you interact. You could continue along this same line with counseling, coaching, or direct energy healing.

The attitude you have about any future work will determine what you achieve for yourself and others. Remember, this lifetime is yours, so take your next steps with that in mind. Rely on your intuition, which you have been placing on the top shelf out of reach. It is very strong when you listen to it.

A. First, take a deep breath and give yourself the time to think and feel. A time like this puts you on auto-pilot and you are programmed by those around you. You have been told what is expected of you and so you believe that you have no choice but to meet the expectations. We ask, why do you give your power away?

We agree that you have no choice of action when it comes to your time at work—at least if you want to keep your job. But outside of your obligations to the wage providers, you do have a choice concerning your actions. If you do what your spouse and children require of you without asking if it is what you want to do, or what you feel is really needed, you allow yourself to become their puppet.

No one can force you to do what you don’t want to do. That’s what freedom of choice is all about. But understand you will not truly feel you have a choice unless first you accept that you do have choices. When it comes to your spouse, your vow “to love and honor” points in many directions, not only to each other but also each to oneself. Before you can honor another person you must know how to honor yourself and practice it.

As you are taking that deep breath, ask yourself, “What do I want to do this season?” If you truly feel that your family doesn’t need all the material things they want you to provide out of the pay check you work for, talk to them; tell them that there are such things as greed and selfishness. Let them see they gain nothing by keeping up with the Joneses. Encourage them to examine their motives and their true needs.

Your sense of hypocrisy comes from an inner knowing that you are being forced by your situation to be untrue to yourself, your wants, desires, and beliefs. So now you have two choices. Proclaim how you really wish to be able to deal with the situation, or remain on those puppet strings and continue to be hypocritical. Regardless, because neither choice is right or wrong, understand your feelings about the situation so that you can stop hating yourself, which will allow you to accept whatever you choose to do, and feel better about it.

When it comes to decorating for the holidays there is no law which says “Thou shalt decorate.” Decorating is used to get into the mood of the season and to provide a little cheer for those around you. It should not be a top priority, but if you have the time, let it be a piece of the gift of you that you give to your family. Exit the fight mode, go with the flow, and have a happy, wonderful holiday.

ANSWER: When you think of associating with another individual, you analyze all the possible implications and reactions you think they might have. You have a need for control, or at least knowing everything that is about to occur. This keeps you so involved in your theoretical mind that the opportunity to interact with the other person passes before the union is realized. Your “quietness,” as you call it, is a hesitation to take yourself out into the world.

People are perplexing to you because you see them doing things other than you imagined they should want to do. Again, you are overanalyzing and attributing traits to others based on your own beliefs. Lighten up. The difference you perceive between you and others has to do with the restrictions you place on yourself.

Start slowly in approaching others. Find a comfortable location – a social group, library, bookstore, coffee shop – and exchange friendly greetings at first. Continue to frequent the location until you have exchanged pleasantries with several people multiple times.

Next, start a conversation; if you have noticed they engage in a particular thing, talk about that. Don’t judge them; don’t rate or grade them in comparison to your beliefs, either. After a while it will begin to feel comfortable, non-threatening, as if you have known them for a long time.

Each person creates their own reality. It does not just “come” to you; you have to work at it. All the buds are present; let them start opening.

ANSWER: The first step in progressing through any phase of development is learning to be realistic. It is great to lie in bed and dream of having everything exactly the way you desire it to be – but that doesn’t happen without a ton of work.

You have already admitted that you are lazy, so how can you even think that you could accomplish something before you are willing to invest all your time and energy into making it happen? It all starts and ends with your efforts.

When you are in school enrolling in a course in a subject that interests you, it doesn’t automatically make you an expert in the area. You have to spend time investigating the entire topic, learning what is necessary for success, and then continuing to study and work until it becomes second nature to you. You have done none of that.

You are just exiting the stage where everything was done for you as a child and you had no responsibility to fend for yourself. The idea that your mother is preventing you from leaving your comfort zone is ridiculous. Of course, she is doing what she thinks you need, and what she feels you are capable of handling on your own. But, buddy, every soul has freedom of choice to be where they want to be and to do what they want to do – they just have to act.

Imaging bigger dreams with more particulars isn’t sufficient to have it appear. It is continued work and faith in yourself that will get you to where you want to be. Manifestation is about using your intention and effort to complete the desired accomplishment. Manifestation does not jump from imaging to finished product in one felt swoop. Just as a building has to be erected in stages, so does an intricate life.

ANSWER: We would ask you to consider delving into your life-lessons. Everything that you have mentioned being concerned about has to do with your chosen life-lessons. Picking up some kind of discipline to distract you from your purpose will only intensify the energy around the avoided lessons.

As you well know, your biggest problem, or lesson, at this time is the issue of self- worth or being good enough. Have you ever asked yourself: being good enough for what or whom? You have a belief that has an iron grip upon you that you are not worthy to be with other people, happy and creative. Where did that come from? It isn’t part of who you are. That should be your search.

All souls come from the same Source. All souls, in essence, have identical capabilities. If you see yourself as “less than” other people, you are making the choice to be less than those around you. Selecting and staying on your current path will give you a lot of experience of being controlled and stepped on, but not much about making your own choices.

It is time for you to start questioning where your ideas and beliefs have come from. Why do you have such negative feelings about yourself? Why do you accept them as being truthful? Start questioning everything negative that pops up in your life. Every time you think negatively about yourself, stop and ask: what am I feeling right now? This will give you an idea of the origin of those thoughts. If the origin, such as something somebody said to you in the past, does not seem to fit the way you want to feel right now, then reject that feeling and change it to a positive one about yourself. Allow yourself to love yourself enough to work on chasing this negativity out of your life. Periods of bliss will be your reward!

ANSWER: The employment dilemma can be resolved with manifestation. If you don’t know what you want to create, however, you will not bring offers to you. You are putting out mixed energies to the business world. You feel comfortable applying for what you have done in the past, but you don’t want to do that type of work. You are getting a little desperate to make a connection because you need money, but you are hesitant to start a job that will not allow you to grow.

Stop vacillating about future work and decide what it is you desire. Using your experience, do some research into ways you can help others with self-help courses. Examine motivational techniques and explore entrance into the field.

Create a “dream board” where you cut out pictures of things you would like to see yourself doing and places you would like to be. This will help you define your desires. Include the monetary rewards from the third dimension as well as the spiritual accomplishments from the fourth and fifth dimensions.

Use what you have learned about yourself from the above exercises and create affirmations you repeat several times a day. This will take you from a place of wanting, through accepting, into manifesting. You create your own reality with the assistance of the universe if you are clear enough to tell them exactly what it is you desire.

ANSWER: You and your husband, while a good match when you first got married, have moved away from each other in ideals and beliefs. He resents you at this time, thinking that you and the children are what are causing his discomfort in his job and life. However, he still does love the idea of being married and having sired a wonderful family.

He spends a lot of time in a “poor me” mood where he revels in his misfortune and blames it on everything and anything but his own actions. Since he is always looking at the bad, or negative, side of things, he is unable to find happiness, which resides in positive, loving energy. How you look at life is a personal choice, where you can choose to be happy.

Your dalliance with the other man was to show you the possibilities. It was not the right time for you to make a change, so the circumstances prevented it. Your current state of mind results from an acceptance that things can’t get better. You dictate your reality, so choose the world you desire.

Every soul is extremely powerful and can bring to itself what it wishes. But, first, you have to believe that you can. You have to decide exactly what it is that you want, visualize it, and then bring it to you. There are no rights or wrongs during a spiritual journey, just choices. See what resonates with you and start in that direction.

ANSWER: You two are co-dependent upon each other and fear breaking those bonds. Neither one of you wants to have to find another who will put up with your immaturity and lack of taking responsibility. The longer you cling to your living arrangement, the more impossible it will become to break apart.

You and he were never a good match, but you put up with each other because you are so much alike. It is while living together that each of you really saw what the other was like. You have grown in a spiritual sense and crave an openness and a way to further your understanding. He is happy to remain as he is, without growth, as long as someone will take care of him.

You all create your own worlds by the choices you make. If you will not take that step to separate from him, it will become harder and harder. You sense that he is your only chance for love, which is definitely not true, but you don’t want to take a chance on the unknown.

He knows that you do not like conflict but in a way are drawn to it to try and explain it away. That is why he is constantly “misinterpreting” your statements. You have the urge to make him understand exactly what you mean, but he doesn’t really care as long as it keeps you coming back.

If you really desire to find someone who will love you and share your life, stop procrastinating. It is impossible to make a connection with someone else while you are still tied down to this dysfunctional situation. Visualize what you desire in life. Picture the characteristics of a man who will love you. Project that out into the universe and then be ready to make a connection when someone new appears.

ANSWER: The human experience has many phases. It begins with contracts made before incarnation concerning what particular lessons you wish to learn during your lifetime. That is the first layer of intention concerning the reality you may create and is mostly hidden from your consciousness. Once involved in a human life, you have freedom of choice as to the specific mechanics you use to create your reality. Your underlying intention is almost always to experience the highest and greatest good in your search for knowledge. This may match a third-dimensional (earthly) view of prosperity, or it may be the exact opposite. If your lesson is to deal with a condition of want, no amount of intention is sufficient to create any other reality. You will not be able to manifest prosperity until, first, you have come to appreciate and understand why you needed the energy of want.

If your life plan calls for you to learn your own power and self-worth, you must do that before you can manifest the ability to create your reality unhindered. Once that lesson is learned, you can visualize your intention with total faith and confidence in success in order to fulfill your desire. There is a universal law that you draw to yourself whatever you need to experience, so it is very important that you monitor your doubts and fears because their energy will return to you as the manifestation of those same doubts and fears.

The simplest way to a desired reality is to see it before you with the intention of achieving this or something greater. Let go of the absolute need to have things exactly as you think you want them (an expectation that limits the possibilities). Set aside your (ego) judgment about what is happening, and go with the flow of the universe. With no interfering pre-incarnation intentions, or present-life doubts, fears, or limiting needs, you will see your reality materializing.

ANSWER: Where do you get the idea that you had planned to have a life anything different than you have experienced? Not everyone will be able to attain everything that they can possibly imagine within their lifetime. The important thing is that you have learned the lessons you came for and understand who you are as a soul.

Dreams can be totally unreasonable, and what happens for someone else may have been done merely for you to observe and learn from the observation. You chose the situation in which you find yourself. Making the best of what you have will bring you happiness if you allow it to.

Wisdom is the result of understanding what something is and why it has occurred. It is not just a knowing of the possibilities but the probabilities existing within your environment. It is an examination of the results of your choices and what you have learned from understanding them.

Your present situation does not have to continue unless you keep seeing it as the extent to which you can grow. When you consistently tell yourself you don’t have what you desire, the universe thinks that is the way you want to live, so it accommodates you.

When you retire, explore the possibility of volunteering in other lands. Study up on customs in places you would like to visit so you will fit right in. Express to your children that they do create their own realities but they have to have the building blocks before they can build it.

ANSWER: Various life lessons that you chose before coming to Earth are helping you create your illusion of life. Each soul establishes its own reality by deciding what traits and beliefs it wishes to use to shape and interpret that reality. You look at your world through the tinted glasses of your chosen belief systems.

Everyone decides how they want to interpret their surroundings. If it is raining, you can be sad that it is not sunny and bright, or you can rejoice that there will be moisture to make plants grow and clear pollutants from the air. The choice is yours. The perspective is of your making. You do this with everything in your life.

Whether your choices shift to the negative or positive depends on your ability to love yourself. Loving oneself is as simple as accepting that the life you have chosen is for learning more about yourself and gaining knowledge to make your life more bountiful. If you can understand that every action presents potential wisdom, you can congratulate yourself on a job well done. Rejoice in your success even if it is not what is happening with those around you.

It is when you question everything and see all as negative that happiness, fulfillment, and a sense of accomplishment cannot exist. Whenever you accept that you are unhappy or lonely, that is exactly what you experience. If you accept that you can be happy, that is the first step to seeing your life as happy.

Right now, you fear that people will criticize or not like you, so you shy away from contact with them. Know that you are a wonderful person with whom others would love to spend time, and you will draw people to you. Create the world you desire. If things look negative, shoo them away and bring in positive loving energy.

ANSWER: Things are perceived as confusing because you are trying to get them to fit into your idea of what they should be and do. You have an intense need to control through knowing exactly what is coming next. You need to let go of control and enter the flow of energy that is your life. As you engage in the need to know, you live in the future and the past, for comparison, and never in the now.

Living in the now allows you to see what is around you and how you can use it to create the world you desire. You are sure that there are specific things that must come into your life for it to be complete—that is completely false! Yes, you did decide to have some life lessons during this lifetime, but you left a lot of things up in the air to bring into your existence as you encountered them.

There is no pre-determined beloved, exact track you were to follow, even whether you would have a period in your life where you would serve others and not just your family, or any of the many things you feel you have missed in this life. Throw out your imagined game plan of requirements and just live.

Follow the intuitional feelings you have that are getting stronger. There are no absolutes in this world, just possibilities to play with while you are here. “Peace in the sanctuary of God”—again this is merely your desire. The sanctuary is within yourself. Find the total peace and quiet that exists in the unconditional love of the soul.

ANSWER: You have already demonstrated to yourself your manifestation powers. You have drawn to your project the integral pieces needed for success of this phase. Where you can go and what you can do is limited only by your desires and imagination.

Why are you now questioning what has occurred so far? Have faith in the process. When you came down here you had many ideas of what you wanted to experience. You did not have anything written in indelible ink—it was all just penciled in so that it might be changed as you felt good about something.

Your life task, as you call it, is to explore the strengths you have perfected. From the past you bring determination, confidence, and a charisma that draws others to you. No one is only a housewife. Most men do not have the organizational abilities, counseling skills, and ability to combine together the right pieces to complete a puzzle which running a house requires—this is your forte.

Some of the people in your life are soul mates, with some you have contracts (not all involved in this project), but what is the difference? Part of finding your strength is going with your instincts, following the flow of the universe, and trusting in yourself. These people would not have been drawn to the power you are creating if it were not something they needed as a part of their journey. Forget your desire to know and go with the energy. If you don’t keep raising questions, things will progress much more rapidly.

ANSWER: The main problem you are having with your creative process is that it does not always work for another person. You can create your own reality but others may not choose to live in that reality with you. Your husband is resisting your desire for happiness. He has some lessons to work out regarding control issues. He sees your desires to make things work out for the two of you to be your desire to control his life. Right now, if you say it is raining, he will say no it’s not.

Perception is another difficulty that exists between the two of you. To one person a nice sunny day will make the flowers grow, bring fresh air with the smell of spring, and make them feel delightful. To another person a sunny day is horrible because it causes the weeds to grow that have to be pulled, they will get sunburned and peel, and the air will bring pollen to make them sneeze. Same day – but totally different interpretations. You are both seeing things from different points of view.

The only wishful thinking you have engaged in was your lucid dreams. You needed something you were not getting from your husband. Unfortunately, he felt this as a threat since your dreams could provide something fantastic that he was unable to provide. Now, he does not want to let you have something for comparison that might not stand up to inspection. He needs to work out his own inner demons. You are a reminder to him that it is possible to be happy if you allow yourself. He doesn’t think he desires it at this time.

ANSWER: Your major lesson for this lifetime is discovering all the aspects of love. Love is not just a romantic pairing with another; it is also the love of family, colleagues, associates, your path in life, and most importantly love of self. There are many layers to love, such as physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.

One of the signs of love is being in total acceptance of all the phases of union with another, or in the case of self-love, accepting that everything that appears in your life does so for you to learn that which you desired.

The “love” you are experiencing at this time is composed of mental, emotional, and physical parts. Your thoughts convince you that this person is for you. You have an emotional reaction, a sense of giddiness, and warmth in your body whenever you think of or have contact with the person, which involves your physical body as well as your mind.

This soul is also trying to learn about love because of having been unfulfilled. You have created a co-dependence of essential learning. The situation of exploration is the reason you have met. Both of you are experiencing sensations of “love” for the first time.

You are not a difficult or selfish person, just one who is learning lessons. One problem you have is the intense expectation that your life can never be complete until you are in a loving and sharing relationship with another. You can love another only to the extent that you love yourself. If you do not love yourself you cannot love another, and therefore no other will present to you for the purpose of a union.

Get rid of your negativity concerning relations, learn to love the work you are doing on understanding yourself, and then manifest a partner for yourself.

ANSWER: You have chosen to deal with lessons that constantly make you over-analyze what you are doing. Whenever you start to “feel”, you step back because you don’t have control over your feelings like you do over your thoughts and it scares you. You then stop everything and run it over and over again in your head instead of following your heart and living what is possible.

One of the problems last year was facing too much all at the same time. With each new step you rejoiced in it, and then when the next came along you did not maintain the energy of the prior. You judged what you thought was more important.

Part of spiritual enlightenment is to disconnect from the third-dimensional ego and enter pure, loving evaluation. In order to do this, you have to release all societal judgment, which is controlled by the ego. No longer grade, rate, and judge everything in your life. Nothing is better than, worse than, more important than, or inferior to anything else. They are all just part of the experiences of life that provide the fodder for exercising your freedom of choice. Can you learn from them or not? That is the only thing that need concern you.

Material things, including physical love, are not needed on the spiritual journey of a soul, but they do provide lessons with which you may understand your purpose in coming. Use your wisdom to exercise freedom of choice between negative and positive energy, which is the basis of all learning on Earth.

Another of your personal lessons involves self-confidence and self-love. You are more comfortable allowing someone else to make your decisions for you rather than taking responsibility for them. Self-love involves accepting that what is happening to you is by choice – and loving yourself for setting up these lessons.

Don’t shy away from the fears and the doubts. Don’t let them stop you dead in your tracks. Face them and see why you called them to yourself.

ANSWER: Your life is about acceptance of yourself and others, and being able to love yourself even when the world seems to be against you. You chose to be affected with ailments that make you stand out in society. How you handle people’s reactions to you is a major lesson. This brings up issues of self-worth, self-confidence, shame, fear, and anger.

You are very concerned about what others think and say. You even imagine negative reactions to you coming from others when they have not said anything overt to you. This arises from thinking you are inferior due to your conditions. What people think or say cannot hurt you unless you let it. Assigning negative reactions to people when you really have no idea what they are thinking or saying is projecting your unhappiness and condemnation onto them. Learning to love yourself will prevent this from occurring.

When you can love yourself for being a terrific soul who has come down here to deal with unpleasant situations, you will find you are not as affected by the thoughts of other people. You are on the path you chose before incarnating and are drawing to yourself those things you wished to experience.

Step away from judging your life against those of others. See only that you are doing a fantastic job of living your life, and it will get better as you push away the negativity. Work on creating affirmations of the courage and success that are coming your way as you get more comfortable with yourself.

ANSWER: Your son’s intolerance has a multifaceted cause. One aspect has to do with a life-lesson in which he sought to confront difficulties during this part of his life to teach him discipline. Without vigilance to the ingredients in the food he consumes he incurs the consequence of a digestive upset. His body’s reaction has taught him attention to detail and to stick up for himself within his peer group, where pressures can be fierce to eat what everyone else is eating. He has also garnered a sensitivity and sympathy for those who are different-not only in relation to him, but also to others in the crowd. This discipline will be used later in life for his life’s work. He has developed an inner strength that he will use to teach others to overcome adversity.

A second contributing cause is a lesson from a past life that he had not completely resolved. This issue is for him to discover and work through. The third cause is the contracts between you and him. You are both studying obsession at the moment. You are trying to control something by an act of will when there are other factors needing to be worked out first. You have very strong feelings about things concerning him and he may not have the exact goals that you envision. Let him complete his lessons without placing additional pressure upon him.

All the nervousness surrounding his digestive problems is exacerbating the timing of his puberty. Don’t worry, all will be fine. He is still well within the time frame of normal male development. It is time for both of you to relax and enjoy his youth. Worry creates clouds and storms and makes the journey tedious; flowing with the moment brings out the sun and illuminates the enjoyment. Sit, sunbathe, and let the inclement weather become a memory.

ANSWER: Every soul creates its own reality. Your creation, until recently, was a happy, optimistic, beautiful life. Then you decided that it was too difficult to push aside the negativity that rules society and allowed yourself to become depressed and desperate for someone or something to come rescue you while you adopted the “there is nothing here for me” attitude.

You came to Earth with a whole list of things you wanted to do, and you haven’t even completed half your choices. How can you say that you have experienced everything that is possible in life? Have you visited everywhere that interests you? Have you watched a sunset from the middle of the ocean? Have you spent time with each of the species of animals who inhabit the planet? Have you held someone’s hand while they transitioned? Have you found a passion that makes each day magnificent and draws you through life?

What has happened is that things were so easy for so long, and now that you have to put a little effort into achieving something new, you have decided you want to quit. It is your choice what comes next because each soul has complete freedom of choice. You never envisioned yourself as a quitter, but of course, that doesn’t mean that you can’t become one.

You have stopped loving yourself. as well. All the time that went as you desired allowed you to love and accept and move forward with your life. Now that energy has shifted, and it appears to be too much trouble; you hate yourself where previously you loved all that you had chosen for this life.

There is no “turn to suffer” – or, for that matter, to be rewarded. The same situation looks different to someone not involved in it, and each person decides their point of view. Is rain something to complain about, or something to rejoice in? Time to evaluate your perspective.

ANSWER: Your memories, or rather feelings, are correct. You suppressed most of your youth, at least during the time of the sex acts, and have held them firmly closed because of the warnings you were given. Your father blamed everything that happened on you and told you all kinds of nasty things that were going to happen to you and the rest of the family if you told anyone.

During this same time period, a friend of yours also divulged sexual activities in her family and the whole neighborhood took sides. Your fiend was discredited, the parents got divorced, and she went off never to be seen again. You didn’t want any more of your life to be disrupted. You began living in the shadows.

It is very common to block out unpleasant experiences, particularly those where you felt you were to blame. You must first examine any sense of blame that still remains. Ask yourself what makes you feel uncomfortable because of anything you have done. If that doesn’t work in the beginning, try to open your feelings concerning when you stopped trusting your decisions.

Your intuition is the secret doorway into the past. Run everything that feels unsafe or uncomfortable by your intuition. What is causing the sensation? What do I need to shine light upon? Follow those fears and doubts, as you would do for any life lesson. Try going into a deep meditation and asking your higher self to show you the blockages. If you know a good spiritual hypnotherapist, that could be a very fast way to access that time period.

ANSWER: Nothing went wrong in your life. You wanted to experience the lesson of discernment, and the consecutive marriages gave you plenty of choices. Discernment is examining all aspects of a situation – in this case romantic relationships and living with someone – and using freedom of choice to benefit your learning by the choices you make.

Your first marriage included a lot of imaginings that it was, or should be, perfect. You so desperately wanted to be a wife and companion that you overlooked the negativity that pervaded the union. You were so intent on maintaining the marriage in accordance with your dreamed situation that your husband could not stand your being out of touch with reality and left to find someone who would communicate with him.

As people learn about themselves and go through the lessons of life, they frequently change so much that they cannot remain with the first person they wed. You reexamined your life during the therapy and believe things would be different if you rejoined your first husband. You are still in that perfectly imagined dream world, still believing that everything would be as you want instead of as it is. That would not happen.

Stop trying to live in the past, accept the wonderful man you have now, and look to the present and the future you can make together. Look around you, see how blessed you are, and drop all this about a perfect, though imaginary, fantasy love life.

ANSWER:  “Who is responsible?” is a question asked by the ego-the earth master. It arises in situations where judgment is used to assign rankings and blame to every phase of life. But it may well be exactly the question that you need to investigate to see why you chose that particular scenario for your life.

For those involved in any aspect of this financial crisis you must ask yourself, “What was my motivation in the action I took?” As the home owner: Did you realistically look at all possibilities concerning the debt you committed yourself to? Or were you trying to get away with buying something you knew in your heart you could not afford, thinking that since they were willing to lend you the money, it was their problem and not yours? As the lender: Did you stretch the rules a little to make another commission, knowing that the loan was secured with the property, so how could you lose? Just let that buyer beware! As the government regulators: Did you  look the other way and let the lenders dance their merry jig, imagining that they would police themselves and act ethically in their dealings?

This all sounds like a giant horrid fairy tale to most people, but to us it is a massive life-lesson session where souls wanted to teach themselves about responsibility for actions taken. In the aftermath, in order to learn why you choose a financial disaster, you have to examine the beginning, middle, and end of the process. Acknowledge what your part was in each phase of the story. How did you feel as each commitment was made? Did you give any attention to the warning signs? Did you look carefully at the documents that came with your money? Or did you disregard the negative and see only the positive?

All the parties choosing to wear blinders were the cause of the current dilemma. The cure is to continue on with your life-lessons knowing that a soul never brings to itself more than it is capable of handling. Take a realistic inventory, evaluate what you need to do to bring your life into balance, then act. This will clear up the mess you perceive.

ANSWER: You are wise to see a problem with someone caught up in negativity. The Masters, Angels, Archangels, and all beings of the light do not spend any time in the negative. Humans spend most of their time there, unless they are working to understand life lessons and moving toward enlightenment and unconditional love.

Negativity is the default setting of human beings. If you enter a room where there are a number of people and listen to their conversations, 99% of them will be about negative things: pain, illness, difficult relationships, lack of finances, and anger. In that same room if you bring up something positive, like a beautiful sunrise you saw that morning, the talking will stop; they will stare at you and then ignore you.

All people create the reality in which they choose to live. Your acquaintance gets a lot of reinforcement from those who feel at home in negative thoughts. This gives her the power that she craves. Control dramas, in the form of arguments, allow her to take additional energy from others, increasing her sense of being in control. Since she is creating that reality, she is the only one who is right about what it contains. Her ego is the ruler of her kingdom.

Be glad she wants to exclude you from this negative world; it does not consist of any masters or beings of the light. Learn to love yourself more and you will never be drawn into anything like this again. Love is the universal energy.

ANSWER: All these memories are life lessons from various past lives. Their common factor is being in a tight place that resulted, directly or indirectly, in your death. They are haunting your current life because each contained life lessons that you didn’t understand or learn from, and you carry the negative energy into this life in an attempt to resolve them. The intensity is increasing with age because you are remembering more and more facts and re-inserting yourself into the events.

The lesson is not dealing with confinement, but understanding the accompanying factors that resulted in your confinement. In the cistern situation you were dealing with betrayal and being controlled by others. You were a high-spirited indentured servant who was always questioning authority. Other servants were tired of you getting all of them in trouble so they decided to dispose of you. They told the master that you had run away. You died with a sense of defiance and betrayal. You need to release the anger and forgive your murderers for protecting their own interests.

In the life with the cats you were mute and could never get your thoughts across to others. It was decided you were good only for taking care of the animals at a zoo. Hard times hit the area and money was short for food. When you went into the animal enclosure with insufficient food for the cats, they panicked and went for you. You died with a sense of frustration for having no voice, which equates to being controlled by others and not having any power. The lesson is to learn to take your power back, speak up, and have confidence in yourself.

You were buried alive when you ran away and hid from tormentors. They teased you because you had a harelip before the common surgery to correct it was perfected. This lesson is to accept yourself for the magnificent soul you have inside your body. The outer shell means nothing.

If you understand and work on these old lessons, you will no longer feel confined by things beyond your control. You will see planes and cars as means of transportation, and small places as simply that – small spaces.

ANSWER: You are suffering the aftermaths of the shock to your system occurring during your run-in with the cyclist. It has triggered “possibilities” that your unconscious self has taken very seriously, creating this panic of “what could have been” to impact your bodily systems.

The seasonal allergies intensity arose from the body being shaken up and not controlling invaders as well as usual. Your mind is in constant running mode in the background and you are not even aware of it. When the tension builds unconsciously, it finally tips the scale so that the body reacts. You are sensing this in the area of your chest where your breathing and heart rate are being affected as your body clenches up. This produces what society calls panic attack syndrome.

Until you consciously investigate the causes, this will continue to occur. An easy way to deal with this would be to work with a hypnotherapist who could take you back to the triggering incident and let you examine how your mind reacted to the possible consequences. You could then work with the fact that none of these consequences actually happened, so you are holding yourself in a perpetual state of anticipation. If you retain this expectation long enough, it will cause some of the negative activities to play out for you.

You could also start delving into this energy through deep meditation or consciously priming yourself to bring it up during your dream state. As you start to fall asleep, or when entering into a meditation, ask yourself to show you why you are having these physical symptoms and what you can do to lessen them. Above all else, when you start to feel tense take a moment, do deep breathing, and counsel yourself to relax.

ANSWER: Your abusive childhood formed a pattern in which you feel trapped. Your mental issues and the self-deprecating and self-sabotaging behavior have kept you from developing a sense of who you are. You still identify with that fearful, controlled child who could make no decisions for yourself.

Your purpose is to accept that you are a piece of Source energy with the powers and abilities to be all-powerful, all-magnificent, and all-creative. You are not naïve, but rather overly sensitive to the way you think other people see you. Your desire to please others to avoid being punished has shaped your entire life. You can see this in your interactions with, and avoidance of, other people.

When you were working, you were so conscious of other people and their demands that you let that direct what you were doing, even if it was not what you had been hired to do. This sabotage further complicated the way you felt about yourself, seeing only that you were unsuccessful in everything you tried.

It is time to understand yourself, who you are: a soul having a human experience and finding out ways to enjoy this life. The Spiritualist Church could be of great assistance in discovering what your journey could be like. Since you shun making decisions so as not to be responsible for anything, replacing old indecisions with religious dogma is a gentle transition.

But with this new step, don’t do anything or accept anything unless it feels like it resonates with you. If you follow certain procedures and then they become burdensome, release them and go on to something else. This is just a beginning – your training wheels, which you will not need forever.

ANSWER: From the way you are allowing yourself to be treated, it is apparent that your man-friend is not the only one suffering from anxiety—take a look in the mirror. He is very indulgent, selfish, spoiled, and controlling. Are you enjoying your life? You are making the decision to remain in that untenable situation so as “not to upset him.” Well, dear, what about you and your needs?

A person can get away with being a bullying, demanding bore only if other people sit back and allow it to happen. The fact that his father has passed over does not give him the right to be nasty to you. The fact that he has failed in school before for lack of dedication to his studies should not obligate you to be his slave and put up with his atrocious behavior.

You can be as patient as you wish, but he is not going to change until he gets called on his discourtesies. He, and only he, is responsible for his life. By trying to act the victim, he excuses his mistreatment of you and thinks it is all right because you stick around and take it and never really say much about it. The rock is this inconsiderate individual and the hard place is your indecision to honor yourself.

You have complete freedom of choice to remain in this nightmare or to decide what other way you would like to spend the rest of your life. You are not responsible for anyone but yourself, particularly not for him and his actions. The choice is yours.

ANSWER: The world is split into positive and negative in equal amounts. Negative attracts negative and positive attracts positive. When you think negative thoughts, negative energy joins your interaction. Additionally, there are negative discarnates, souls who have left their bodies but not chosen to return to unconditional love, who are around looking to steal positive energy from souls still in their bodies.

Discarnates may attach to a body but may not enter unless they are invited. Negative people and those practicing black magic and things such as voodoo may send negative energies to attach to their enemies. The attachments may be removed, most of the time by the action of the persons themselves. You flood your body with positive love energy and the negativity cannot remain. Choosing to be surrounded with love repels negativity.

Most human default thoughts are negative. Making judgments about your own importance, how others take advantage of you, and getting even for slights from other people draw massive amounts of negativity to you. Watching the daily news broadcasts, reading argumentative materials, and observing violent actions are all based in negativity.

The easiest way to be in positive energy is not to allow negative thoughts to stick around. Find the positive aspect of everything in your life. Love life and all people even if you don’t agree with what they do. All beings of the light who are raising their understanding of their spiritual journey are beacons attracting negativity. It is similar to moths attracted to a light bulb. Negative energies want to feed off of positive ones. Simply cut off the supply by turning all your thoughts to the positive.

ANSWER: Change will come when you make the effort. You have been riding along on the events presented to you and saying there is nothing you can do. Once you get depressed you bring more negative energy and events to you because the universe says, “Oh, she likes to be sad and feeling bad; let’s give her some more issues to work with.”

Once you start in a situation, even if it is terribly uncomfortable to you, you stick around rather than making a move. After you separated from the first partner, you mentioned you felt so bad about yourself and why he had left that you blamed yourself for the breakup. You moped around until your employers had enough of your negativity and made things so unpleasant for you that you ran away.

From the beginning, the relationship with your new partner should have sent you screaming away from him. But for you, he was someone who was there. He was using you and you allowed it. His troubles became your troubles and you still stayed around. Even violence didn’t give you the idea to move on to some more positive place. You listen to others instead of making any decisions yourself.

If you begin to accept that you have the right to be as happy as the next person, and not be used or abused by anyone, you will be able to move on. Do not let anyone tell you what to do. Do things only when you feel like doing them. You don’t like your life anymore because you don’t like yourself. Take the things you can’t stand and start replacing them, one at a time. Give yourself permission to be happy. Allow your life to change into one where you can feel safe and comfortable. Get help from the various women’s organizations out there that can help you get settled into a new life style. It is never too late.

ANSWER: He is not your twin flame. He has enchanted you as he does many others. His desire is to possess and control as many women as he can. The intensity of his energy is due to the fact that part of it is negative. He uses this aspect of himself to create a longing to have sex with him. It feels compelling, exciting, and at the same time dangerous. This goes along with the beat of the music, which is mesmerizing. Like a siren song, it is hard to deny.

He has gotten into your head—that is why you dream of him constantly. You are a conquest for him and he is setting you up. He will use you and then discard you. He created a link by staring at you and attaching some of his negative energy to you, also called an attachment. This reinforced the thoughts he was able to convey of wanting you. He used the word “love” as a lure. His only love is the love of conquest.

You are a basically positive person. The cause of your stomach ailment was getting too near to all his negative energy. You were sensitized to his effect by the attachment you carry and his presence amped up the power. You have freedom of choice to go forward with his planned triumph, or you can accept it for what it is and back off. If you choose to refrain from seeing him, go to an energy healer who can help you remove his sticky negativity.

ANSWER: Your son chose a difficult addiction problem which he somewhat blames on you. He, with his wife’s insistence, believes if you had prevented him from drinking when he was so young, a fact which allowed him to become so dependent, then he would not have this problem today. He sees his childhood as the cause of all his problems, and you as one of the orchestrators.

When you removed yourself from his abuse you were honoring yourself choosing not to accept his actions. You must let go of the anguish you feel. He has to decide to change. Nothing you do will make him decide it is time to change. The effect his actions are having upon you is the result of your blaming yourself for not being able to fix the situation.

You can be affected by the actions of another only if you accept that you should. Understand that he is living his life the way he has chosen. He can change if he desires but he is too angry to see that he can. Release the hold he has on you and the hurt he is causing you. Let him go his own way and restore your health by using the energy you use worrying about him to help energize yourself. Take care of yourself; he is not ready to listen to anyone else.

ANSWER: Each soul chooses in advance the lessons that it wishes to experience during a particular lifetime. It may well be as the abused or as the abuser. You selected the situation and made the contracts to enable your teaching to take place. Most cases of abuse are about learning the limits of your own power, self-worth, strength, and choices.

The lesson is much more powerful in the climate of a religion because it also has overtones of faith, trust, and the sense of betrayal. One of the first elements of society which contributes to the belief system by which you live your life is the faith within which you are raised. Your parents presented their religion to you as a place as safe for you as they themselves-presided over by an ever-loving God who protects you.

Under this seemingly protective bubble, children do what they are told without ever questioning. It is not until later, when outside influences let them know that inappropriate behavior has occurred, that doubts, fears, and anxieties begin.

Children first blame themselves for questioning the behavior of the trusted clergy, frequently having their parents call them liars for accusing such a pious person. When the accusations surface, there may be condemnation of the children by the rest of the members of the church, who believe them to be incorrect. Unless the children can connect with their inner strength, power, self-worth, and purpose, they are crippled for life.

You must realize that “God” has nothing to do with these lessons. Each soul has total freedom of choice. Pedophiles are living their own hell on Earth, as are the victims, until each awakens to the lesson within. On the soul level, they are assisting each other in their progress. At Home there will be thanks all around for the assistance given. If you hold on to the negativities-anger, guilt, hatred, loathing, inability to forgive-you will remain stuck and will be unable to move away from that lesson and on to your next.

ANSWER: You are living in a duality of positive and negative. Positivity is everything that feels good to you and makes you happy, while negativity is everything that causes you fear and pain. It is difficult to remember your pleasant experiences, but everyone remembers the painful ones.

You learn about life through conquering your negative lessons. The default energy on Earth is negativity, because without its presence no one would learn anything. Negative occurrences gather other negative activities to them—the old “misery loves company.” Everyone wants to share their bad experiences, because they feel horrible and want everyone else to be there with them.

Life is a series of choices: what do you want to learn and experience? Your primary choice is a negative experience or a positive one. A soul can choose to reject negative thoughts and move toward positive ones, bringing in a fresh place within which to reside.

You did not have an encounter with a discarnate; you had a dream reflecting thoughts that had recently occupied your mind about negativity, and your feeling that it is too overpowering for you to overcome. You created a “villain” to explain your hesitance to work to remove the negativity and replace it with positive energy.

Every time you think or feel a negative energy, stop what you are doing and ask: why is it there? You are bringing to yourself that which you need to experience. You can learn from the event by taking the negativity and choosing to replace it with a positive solution. This process will also make you aware of one of the lessons you chose. Once you repel negative energy, make the choice to replace it with universal unconditional love—nothing is more positive.

ANSWER: Having your future or your reputation based upon the negativity of another person is a very difficult situation indeed. It is impossible to influence the thoughts and beliefs of others unless they consent to changing their basic way of thinking. This works two ways. Your tormentor will not change his constant assault on you unless he decides, on his own, to relent. At the same time, inhabitants of your community will not be easily influenced by his doings because he has a reputation for being a small-minded, negative individual. He always has someone about whom he has a complaint, and soon he will switch his vehemence to another.

In the meantime, you can easily see the effect this lesson is having upon you. Your lesson is allowing others to have power over the way you feel about yourself. If you loved yourself sufficiently, it would not matter to you what others thought or said about you, because you would know that is not the person you aspire to be. When you rely upon others to determine what you feel about yourself, you are saying they know more about you than you do.

Take responsibility for your own life and the way you choose to live it. Don’t worry about the thoughts of others or the attempts of those who seek to control your life. Thank this unhappy, fearful person for permitting you a glimpse of your own fears. You have no need to worry about what is being said, because it cannot hurt you unless you allow it to do so.

ANSWER: You have experienced several lifetimes in which you lived in a family where the father was abusive to the mother and to you. While there is not a direct connection between your father in this lifetime and the father in those past lives, the need to be able to do something to correct the old circumstances before anyone can be hurt is pushing your emotions.

It did not get “triggered” to appear in your consciousness until around the age of eight, when you were exposed to the domestic abuse condition of an acquaintance. The child in the family was so fearful the mother would be injured that you popped back into a former life where you had not been able to assist your own mother because of your young age.

When a very physically emotional set of facts occurs in a lifetime and you blame yourself for not doing anything about it, it frequently stays in your “memory” and, when triggered, becomes “real” in the current life. It was a lesson you set up to learn how to deal with – or at least to understand – all the implications, and you did not.

To start to understand these feelings, whenever they appear, go into the energy that they produce and ask yourself why you feel the way you do. This should allow you, with some persistence, to find yourself back in the other life. Step back from the events and see that you were unable to do anything because of your age and your father’s overwhelming size.

Let go of the blame for what your mother suffered; it was not your fault. Understand also that this was a lesson for the two of them in abuse, and for you in knowing you had no ability to intervene. Release all the emotional ties to that lifetime and see the three of you as souls having a human experience. Feel the three of you in your essence of unconditional love

When you think of your father, envision him as a spiritual traveler who chose some very difficult lessons. Respect and love him for his hard choices.

ANSWER: You value the opinions of other people more than your own feelings. You were raised to believe in the ideas you fear. To see a different outcome to your day-to-day actions, you must change the beliefs you have about them. You lack confidence in yourself and cannot see what a fantastic person you really are, so you rely on the opinions of others. All you are aware of is a need to exceed what is humanly possible because someone thinks it might or should be so.

We would ask you what perfection is. Is it even obtainable by a typical human being? And who are the people who judge this perfection, particularly if they cannot reach it themselves? Perfectionism is an illusion because it constantly changes based upon who is doing the judging. You can see, then, how you are setting yourself an impossible task.

Your value as a person comes from your making the attempt with the attitude that you will do your best at whatever is in front of you. No one succeeds on a first try at something new. Babies fall all the time when trying to walk. Runners don’t go very fast until they have built up their stamina. Reading and mathematics were impossible until you learned the rules. Stop being so hard on yourself.

People who criticize others do it for two reasons: either to help someone see a different way around things, or to be nasty and spiteful out of jealousy. The things others say to you, or about you, can hurt you only if you allow them to. If you know you are putting in your best effort, then that is all you are capable of, and what others say is not based upon fact. You are not a miracle worker, so realize your limits and don’t let others claim you can do more. Ignore their unnecessary comments.

No one in human form is perfect. When you feel you are a failure, because you don’t consider yourself perfect, you are just kidding yourself. Doubts and fears are the signposts of life lessons on which you need to work.

ANSWER: People can only hurt you if you give them permission to do so. All these instances have had to do with lessons you wished to learn. When you forgive an incident between you and another who you feel has intentionally hurt you, the realization has come to you that it was a lesson and you no longer need to have the events repeating in your life. You find peace from the tests to which you no longer react.

Your husband is another case completely. He is not in your life just to have you learn about how another can impact your existence. He is there for you to find out about yourself and to learn how to analyze, discern, and deal with your own abilities.

You are a soul with incredible abilities, but you have not used any of them to fulfill your life. You have continued with the idea that those older, and/or to whom you feel you owe allegiance for one reason or another, have to be obeyed. This last lesson has to do with accepting yourself and claiming what is yours. You need to learn to honor yourself, love yourself, and stop being everyone’s punching bag.

The only thing you have left with your husband is to tell him you are not going to put up with his selfish, egotistical behavior any longer. You planned to discover yourself and your power – so get busy.

ANSWER: Negativity exists only on Earth. When a soul is preparing to come into a body for a human experience, it chooses all the circumstances surrounding its human life such as sex, location, propensities for the family, etc., so it prepares the staging for its chosen lessons. If a soul wishes to experience all aspects of negativity, it could have the energy waiting for it at birth.

The soul itself is unconditionally loving energy, so all negativity must come from the physical outside and be attached after entry into the Earth plane, possibly even in the womb or immediately after birth. It is very rare for it to occur in that fashion, but it is possible. Normally, having set up to become enmeshed in negativity, a soul will be born to parents who are negativity lovers themselves.

After birth, the human experience starts with the soul creating a belief system by which it will live. The human who is in an atmosphere of hatred or negativity accepts that that is the way things are, and their beliefs become shrouded in all things negative, including meanness, hatred, disrespect, and betrayal.

Once the beliefs are set, they shape the personality of even a tiny child. Until the person reaches an age at which they are aware of the difference between positive and negative energy – if they ever reach that state – they act based on their beliefs. This is what you have observed. The soul is still unconditionally loving, but the human façade is pure negativity, and it can occur at any age.

In the human society, negativity is the default setting for humanity. Everyone listens to their ego and wants to be better than, richer than, more powerful than everyone else. It is only those studying a spiritual path who recognize the fruitlessness of a negative lifestyle and strive for a positive loving existence. Give the children a chance to see if they can do away with their parents’ beliefs and find goodness.

A. Love is everywhere; you just have to allow yourself to see and feel it. As a child you lived in the moment in your own world, blocking out negativity, so that it was easy to receive and feel the love. As you got older you became concerned with the world around you as you related to those within it. You have identified with titles you have earned: wife, mother, businesswoman, church supporter, and so on. With each one of these identities came an individualized set of responsibilities that you assumed. You are barely able to peek over the top of all your self- accepted requirements. They are barricades that prevent you from feeling the love outside of you.

What catches your attention now are all the sensational headlines relating to atrocities throughout the world. Your reaction to all this negativity is to pull your head into your shell and peer skeptically at your surroundings. Those around you feel the fear and magnify it so that it reinforces your own feelings of the lack of love.

There are only two emotions in your world: love and fear. They are polar opposites, and one cannot exist in the presence of the other. Anything that you do not love, you fear in one form or another, be it hate, jealousy, revenge, or plain mind-numbing fear. Many, many souls come down to planet Earth to experience the battle between love and fear as a life lesson, so you are definitely not alone.

To return to that feeling of love you must let go of the fear. You must examine in your life anything that is not love and see what lesson it is trying to teach you, so that you may learn it, and move back to love. Inside each human shell is a magnificent, all-loving soul who gets buried in life lessons. Dig yours out and relish the unconditional love of the universe.

ANSWER: Another person cannot hurt you unless you allow them to do so. What people say to you cannot affect you unless you give credence to their words. You must accept that they know what they are talking about for it to have an impact. To be bullied, you must believe others are better, more knowledgable, or stronger than you. All souls come from the same Source and are made of the same material; some have just chosen to test that fact in differing ways.

Negativity attracts negativity, so examine your own feelings. You thrive in a negative environment because that is what you believe you deserve. You don’t see yourself as loveable and don’t return love to others. That creates a negative atmosphere, which draws more negativity into it. Right now you don’t accept that there are positive, loving people anywhere near you.

Start meditating and placing yourself into a safe space where no one else can enter without your permission. Within that space, invite your guides and ask them to help you protect yourself from any negative energy being directed toward you. Have them help you feel the unconditional loving energy of the universe. Then practice filling and surrounding the area with it and letting the positive love energy draw more positivity to you.

Start envisioning that same unconditional love being directed to the people with whom you come in contact. Supply the intention to them that they too might wish to live in positive love.

Do not engage in any arguments with others, because that is the way people pull your positive self away and replace it with negative hatred. Everyone creates their own reality. What do you want? Start shaping a world of positivity.

ANSWER: You are correct: on a soul level we do not judge things to be good or bad. That does not mean that your soul while incarnate on the planet cannot sense the energy of society in judging things thusly. But it also means that a soul has the choice not to get involved in things outside its lesson plan. Such a non-interactive choice is not to be confused with refusing to be concerned or absolving oneself from any blame for not jumping into the fray.

The soul cannot have the full human experience unless it has an aspect of self that is ego based. If the soul remained completely bathed in unconditional love it could experience nothing. Some of the lessons that a soul chooses to learn deal with an interaction in the physical and emotional traumas impacting people around them. However, many soul lessons involve only the soul’s personal interactions with those around them.

When the soul lesson involves a larger group of players, this may lead to an investiture of time and funds to support one side or another in a conflict, actively protesting the actions of one group, or even diving physically into the conflict on behalf of one party. These must be the tests along the soul’s path or they become a diversion and will slow down the soul’s journey to wisdom. Some souls become so involved in this fashion they do not face the challenges they came to Earth to complete.

Remember, each soul makes its own choices. One soul cannot make choices for another. To get entwined in a conflict, speak out about it, or protest the actions of a group, may be part of a lesson in self-worth, or a recognition of your own power, or a refusal to be controlled by another, or even the experience of getting sucked up in a group hysteria.

Whatever the true reason for a soul’s activity, the worth may be evaluated by going inside and asking, “Why am I doing this? What do I seek to gain myself out of this action?” If the answer has to do with a lesson or emotion you are trying to understand, it is part of your journey. If the answer is to “show” those people, examine your motives because you are mirroring something you need to face about yourself.

ANSWER: A soul cannot make others be or feel anything they themselves do not want to be or feel. You are not the cause of other people’s apparent problems. You are not harming anyone just by recognizing the lessons they chose for themselves. Honor them for the difficult task they took on and choose not to interact in their lives.

You chose life lessons around negativity, which raises emotional issues within your body. They are very base feelings concerning hatred, anger, hostility, and disrespect. You have had many experiences with them. They have affected you only because you chose to acknowledge that they should have an impact upon you.

Most of your responses have been to fight back or to bury the moment and not explore why the emotions rose up inside you. People cannot be hurt by the energy of others unless they take the words or actions to heart and identify with a truth contained therein. Since you have within yourself unresolved issues of anger, hatred, hostility, and being disrespected, you pull those experiences to yourself like a magnet.

It is time to start asking why you feel others hate you. Isn’t it because, on some level, you hate yourself for who you are and what you put up with? Ask where those feelings originate. Go to those early-life traumas and accept that you do not need to hold on to them or allow them to still have an effect on you. Do this with each of these hurtful negative feelings you are holding. Once you have seen why you draw these emotions to yourself, you will be able to free yourself from the need to have them near.

As you clear each incidence of past disrespect, hatred, and hostility, allow yourself to replace it with self-love for all the hard work you are doing to learn the lessons so you do not have to repeat them. The more love you build inside, the less space there is for any negativity to creep inside. Examine, release, love!

ANSWER: You are dealing with a series of life lessons. This all starts with your low self-esteem and sense of worthlessness. You attracted your husband because, in the beginning, you agreed with everything he wanted since you thought it would make him love you. You desperately need to be needed.

The current health difficulties are your body’s response to your hesitation in life. Your first reaction to adversity is to freeze and hide. This causes the energy within your body to stop and create blockages for protection. To restore the balance in your body, you need to feel more comfortable with yourself. Accept that you are a soul having a physical experience and have the ability to call upon all the powers and abilities of the universe.

You cannot change your husband unless he chooses to change, because he too is a soul with total freedom of choice. You have identified several of his issues, which was possible because you allowed yourself to analyze what was causing difficulty in your life. Congratulations – this is part of your spiritual growth.

It is time to continue your analysis. How do you feel when conflict arises with your husband? How does your body react to the tension? Is there something you can do to make yourself more comfortable? You have the ability to create your own future with your freedom of choice.

Meditate on what you feel is the best situation for you. Then do it.

ANSWER: From a spiritual perspective, nothing truly happens by accident. You plan your upcoming life while at Home. This includes what you wish to experience and the group events in which you plan to take a part. The situation you mention was a life lesson not just for the child but for the family, the rescuers, and the public, such as you, who all feel the emotional result of witnessing such a proceeding.

The soul of the child wanted to assist others in examining lessons such as futility, guilt, helplessness, frustration, and loss. This soul had only grown into a tiny human but was an eternal soul who had experienced many, many previous lives. In most of these cases where the soul is providing such a traumatic exercise for those around them, they had planned a very short life and flipped out of the body before having physical traumatic sensations.

The reason you felt so impacted by the event is that you have some life lessons that you have not understood and worked with that were emotionally triggered by the situation. To find and work through them, ask yourself: What was it about this that first made you well up with tears? What did you want to be able to do to help with the rescue? How did you feel about not being in control – and not having any control?

The answers to those questions will lead you to lessons that you have not recognized and also some you have been ignoring. Other things that can trigger disregarded lessons are books, television, and movies that duplicate the causes of your distress. Always start your healing by asking: What is it that is touching your heart?

ANSWER: Stop thinking so much! You are concentrating on these conditions you have become aware of and have given them strength to take charge. You are accepting that nothing can be done to control them. Rely on your spiritual training. The first step to spiritual growth is getting rid of judgment. You can’t be uncomfortable unless you accept the cause. You can’t be full of negativity unless you accept it and think you can’t do anything about it.

Fear is a sign you are confronting a life lesson. It is normal. It is neither right nor wrong; accept that and you will be getting rid of judgment. You need to go into the feeling that comes with the fear and ask, “Why am I feeling this way? Where does it originate?” If you judge that it is wrong, you will run away from it and it will intensify. Instead, see that there is another way to look at it; you can see it as a lesson to learn from and then banish. Any time negative thoughts or feelings arise, decide how you want to feel, and then picture yourself in that energy.

The blockages within your body are issues you are failing to face. Ignoring a problem does not make it go away. Just like the fears, you have to go after the cause. Meditate and ask your body what you are missing. Your dreams are trying to tell you to become active in your own spiritual life. Learn the lessons, go to the positive, send the negative away.

ANSWER: Anything that causes a soul within a human body to lose control over the ability to stop a particular physical action is experiencing an addiction. Addictions are a common life lesson in the book of soul lessons. Souls use human bodies to have senses with which to partake in physical actions and to feel the effect each has on the physical nervous system.

Many of your life lessons involve emotional stimulations such as fear, lack of self-worth, and lack of self-esteem. The totally physical sensations you have, which include anything to do with the pleasure senses, are the strongest things a human can feel.

When people are having problems accepting themselves and their progress in life, they engage in something that will take their mind off what else is or is not happening to them. Sexual release blanks out everything else, and for the moment makes everything seem perfectly wonderful. That activity, done other than with another consenting adult, is seen by society as deviant. If you are still in the midst of ego judgment, you then condemn yourself for partaking.

You are feeling so miserable because you don’t understand the need for your addiction, and the addiction itself makes you hate yourself. Work first on accepting yourself. That is, love everything about yourself, since you are a soul gaining experience by undergoing lessons. When you can love yourself, you will not have the need to make yourself feel good physically because you will feel fantastic on an energetic level.

ANSWER: Your ex never matured. His world is all about himself and what he wants. He feels no obligations to anyone else. He maintains contact only if he feels he can get something in return. Your children chose to have him as a father so they could observe one way of treating others and to make choices based on that experience for their own learning.

Your children are learning the ineffectiveness of expectations and relying on others who have only their own interests in mind. Let the children decide how much contact they wish to have with their father – do not push the interaction. They need to have some discretion in their lives.

There are no right or wrong answers to this situation, only variables to be explored. Let him and the children find their own balance of participation. Forcing the issue empowers your ex to think he is important in his children’s lives, and he is not –  except to let them see what they could become if they followed the type of existence he has chosen.

Teach your children that they are responsible for their future by the choices they make. They have no obligation to anyone but themselves. They have freedom of choice in every aspect of life. They can choose their friends and their contacts, even with parents. They are old enough now to appreciate their choices.

ANSWER: Your dreams and your life are intertwined. You live in fear of people not liking you and telling you what they want you to do that you do not want to do – yet feel compel to perform. You are not able to say no to those who ask you to do things for them. You are not in control of your life.

The dreams show how everyone is chasing you and seeking you out to get you to work for them. It isn’t just society but everyone who comes in contact with you. How did this come about? You gave them permission to control you because you lack confidence in yourself and your abilities. You have convinced yourself that doing for others is because you are kind, giving, and charitable.

There is no problem with living your life this way if you so desire. Nothing is right or wrong on the spiritual path to wisdom. If you wish to have a say in your own life, then learn to say no to those requests you do not really want to fulfill. People will be upset at first because you have always been obliging and a slave for them, but honor yourself and do only what you truly want to do.

Your wife found you to be a puppet whom she could control, since you always did what she wanted. You weren’t being yourself when you first started dating but chose to be who you thought she wanted you to be. The two of you have never been honest with each other. You established a relationship based on the lies of a person who was subservient (you) and one who was controlling and manipulative (her).

It is time to decide if you wish to be truthful to yourself. What do you really want? Do you wish to control your own life or continue to let others direct it? The choice is up to you.

ANSWER: It is always up to the individual soul to respond to the energy being directed at them by someone else. It revolves around lessons for one, or both, of the parties. If you are the one being dragged down, it can happen only if you allow it to occur. The process is that you feel responsible for, or identify with, some or all of what the person is saying. You are in fact acknowledging in your mind that they know more about what you need, or how you are going to react, than you do.

The “emotional impact” you mention is caused by your accepting blame for some of the actions of your daughter. Becoming distant is one way to deal with her, but you are cutting off any chance to talk and work with her concerning the reason she is acting the way she is. These are choices she is making, not automatic chemical or psychologically controlled behavior.

She is also enjoying how upset you become with yourself during these times. When you don’t engage in her drama, you are actually helping her, because she can control her emotions but is having too much fun seeing you miserable and guilt ridden. However, you sometimes over-react afterward and allow her to dictate her desires because you believe your tiny action of disengagement means you love her less.

Ask yourself if you would allow her to harm herself. Demand that she examine the result her actions are having upon others. Why are you treating her manipulation as different from a child’s unruly behavior? She is sucking all your positive energy so she doesn’t have to work to get her own by releasing the negativity in which she dwells.

Refusing to allow her to affect you is not withholding love or loving her less than you do at other times. You could also try surrounding yourself with unconditional love for her whenever she starts her manipulations so that you give her love, which she doesn’t have to try to wrest away from you. She will easily tire of her games if she no longer upsets you.

ANSWER: You have given all your power to this “friend” and she has taken total advantage of you. You have gotten her so spoiled that she thinks all she has to do is ask something and you will respond without thinking. This is happening only because you are allowing it to happen.

You are finally sensing that this is not something you want to continue, but you have gotten into such a pattern that you feel you cannot stop being the servant slave. What you are saying to her, and to yourself, is that she is more important to you than your own desires and needs, and you are giving her control of you.

Do you feel she is more deserving than you? If so, why? If not, why are you still allowing her to dictate to you? This is all about how you see yourself. You desperately want to be loved, and you felt that if you took care of her she would need you and you would feel complete. Instead, you have given up your life for hers.

To change the situation, you need to take back your life. That does not mean that you cannot help her occasionally. It only means that you should assist her only when you truly want to give your time to her.

When you first stop being her doormat, she will be upset because she no longer will control every aspect of your life. But keep asking yourself if you really want to do as she asks. If the answer is no, tell her you do not feel you can do what she wants at this time and then walk away. Gradually she will stop trying to control you.

ANSWER: Your depression should have told you immediately that something was not right with the relationship. When people are depressed, they have no strong impression of who they are or what their choices for life may be. They are more easily controlled by others and give those others their power to decide things.

Why are you still allowing this insensitive, cheating, narcissistic oaf to remain in your house? He is still using you even though you have disowned his ménage. He does not have the means to provide for himself because he is too busy finding ways to use women instead of securing decent employment. We appreciate that you had feelings for him and feel sorry for him since he cannot afford his own place, but why don’t you just bring in any homeless, penniless person from the streets? Some of them would be so grateful they would treat you like a queen, not a possession.

Start to honor yourself – love yourself for who you are. Make the rules for your own house – you pay the bills. You don’t recognize yourself because you are letting him define you. Create the type of person you desire to be. Don’t give any more attention, time, or money to this jerk. Go out and meet someone who will respect you and want a singular sharing relationship. You deserve it and are worth it.

ANSWER: Let’s get the bullshit out of the way and take a good look at your situation. You put your proclivity down to injustice, and to what did you surrender during the five months you had control of yourself? You certainly seem to function only in fear and the lack of love of self. Let’s break down what you have said.

You have devoted yourself to “addressing injustice in a harmonious way.” The concept of judgment is a product of the human ego that assigns a degree of rightness or wrongness to every act that takes place in physical form. To address injustice you have to step in and be judge and jury over everything you see. That is to say, you and you alone can determine what is right and wrong for other people. This is an impossible activity because everybody has freedom to do what they choose. Unless you have the consent of each person, you cannot change their actions. You have therefore been fooling yourself that you have had an effect on “injustice”—whatever that is, anyway. That will make you feel worthless.

“Surrendered completely” to what? Did you accept the knowledge that you couldn’t affect things, as discussed above? Your ideas about God (a judgmental force outside of yourself) are important only for their influence over whatever freedom of choice you accept as having in your lifetime. To take charge of your life, look at yourself and get rid of even the tiniest degree of judgment. Instead, start evaluating the world around you. Start accepting responsibility for your own actions. Someone outside of you cannot make choices for you that will feel good to you.

What should you evaluate? Decide whether you like what you are doing or not. Don’t spend any time at all thinking about what anyone else thinks of your activities. You are the only important person in your life. How you feel and think about your life determines the quality of your life. Pornography is a lesson with which you have chosen to deal.

Love is first accepting yourself exactly as you are—not necessarily liking everything you do but accepting your desire to do it. Then love is using your freedom of choice to change your behavior into something that feels appropriate for you, or accepting that you do not wish to change. Don’t blame your lack of making your own decisions on some outside source not causing you to change. Only you control you.

ANSWER: You are what you project, think, say, and present to others. They assess your personality and whether they want to have anything to do with you based upon the energy you push at them; hostility or aloofness results in their running the other way and not wanting to have anything to do with you. Unconsciously you are judging what you believe the other people think of you and responding before you realize what you are doing.

The first thing you both need to do is an internal evaluation of what you think about yourself. Arguments and anger arise due to frustration that things are not going as you want them to. You get jealous that others have it the way you want but it doesn’t seem to come to you. You are constantly fighting within yourself to be something you are not presently. You have to work on what you think about yourself so you may project to others the energy you want in return.

Anger and loneliness, feelings of unworthiness, or fear of interacting with others when you don’t know what they want all send danger signals. When you see a red flag, you avoid the area and person for fear of harm. When you see people fleeing from you, it creates even more unhappiness and anger that they just will not take the time to get to know you.

The change must occur within you. You have to love yourself enough to think, feel, and act as you want others to do toward you. Do not judge the behavior of others; accept it as an example of who they are. You do not have to be with those who make you feel uncomfortable. Pull people to you who have the same desires as you do. It is judgment that creates the angers and sense of not fitting in to a group. Change your feelings about yourself; others will come to a calm, loving, willing-to-share person in order to feel as that person does. Become those feelings by choice.

A. All souls have many layers of feelings and the sensation of many different dimensions within which they co-exist. When you are without judgment and ego, you are living outside the plurality of the Earth experience and are in touch with unconditional love where all is “heavenly.”

As you get more comfortable in being free of those duality lessons, which all souls come to Earth to experience, you open yourself to deeper levels of suppressed emotions and lessons from both your current and past lifetimes. As these deeper layers of human emotions emerge you react to them as you did to the surface emotions which you worked through and learned from.

What you need to do with these recently dug-up feelings is to go into the thought process that accompanies them and see why you have returned to negative feelings. You are re- experiencing incidences of worthlessness and guilt – very common Earth lessons.

You have worked through these many times before and will easily do so this time. You simply have to confront the feelings that come along with the emotions, take back your power to decide what effect they are going to have upon you, and reclaim your own identity.

These experiences can only be had in a world of judgment where some things are good and others are bad. Either see them as just an challenges that you wish to have again (so you can keep them around), or learn why you never want to go through them again (so you can send them packing). 

ANSWER: Your anxiety comes from a fear of the future. You have been more at peace with this flatmate than at any other time in your life. You sense that if her affair gets more intense, she will be leaving you and your world will fall apart.

When he is not around you can ignore the possibilities, but when he is there it is living proof of the potential change. You also envy the aura you sense around your friend. Their love is a true and pure love that anyone would desire and all are able to feel. Your sensitivity enables you to put yourself in your flatmate’s position and drink in the love. But then you realize it is not your life but someone else’s.

This has nothing to do with territorial feelings or being judgmental. If any judgment is coming into play, it is your being disappointed with yourself that you have not been able to find a similar available mate. The best thing you can do in this situation is find a mate, or at least a new bunch of acquaintances with whom you can spend time and share a mutual sense of love.

ANSWER: Time to get to the heart of the problem – you hate yourself. You don’t think you are worthy of being loved unless you are better than or greater than everyone else. Recognition is your way of judging if you can be happy.  You enter into these fantasy situations because they don’t hurt like living in reality.

You question everything you do. You have the ability to be a leader and have senior positions, but you don’t have enough confidence in yourself to make the moves or get the education and experience necessary to attain them. The more time you spend dreaming, the deeper you get into the impression that the real world is the dream. It keeps you from having the time to make changes, to change the way you think.

This is accepting the negative or non-real aspects of life. Ego is judgment. Ego is controlled by your conscious mind. Ego always comes with choices if you accept that you have choices. All souls have complete freedom to choose that by which they desire to shape their life.

To change your way of life, and your physical body, you have to have enough love for yourself to step up and start a new journey. Become aware of the world around you. Look for the opportunities to be happy within the physical reality. Any time you feel yourself slipping into dreamland, stop and thank yourself for the recognition, and love that you are in control.

Take a hold of the way you see the world. Put together a series of affirmations about loving yourself. Include that you have the power to change. Accept that you can be the person in your dreams – then go ahead and become that person in real life, not just in dreams.

ANSWER: One of the biggest fears a human faces is the fear of the unknown. People always seem to want to know what is coming and what will happen before they will venture out of their comfort zone. Even when a soul is extremely uncomfortable, such as being in an abusive situation, it will remain where it is-in the known-rather than chance the unknown and scurry to possible safety. Self- doubt, worthiness, and trust issues lead the list of causes. These lessons sometimes take many lifetimes to learn, as you have found out.

To move out of this fear (and the most prominent sign of all these lessons is fear) requires an awareness of who you really are. We refer to the fact that you are an eternal soul that is a piece of Source with the same powers and majesty. To stop the self-sabotage you must accept your nature. In this acceptance comes the power to know that there is nothing to fear.

The only thing stopping you from moving forward is your old belief system, placed in you by others. It says you are not good enough. Isn’t it time to leave that at home with your old childhood toys? You are as good, as worthy, and as powerful as every other soul in existence. Who would not trust in the creator, Source? Accept that you are a piece of Source; there is no one better to trust.

Once you learn your true nature you will not repeat this lesson again.

ANSWER: You have just listed a number of the life lessons you chose for this incarnation. You wanted to deal with various types of love, betrayal, lack of self-worth, the need to be needed and recognized for who you are, being able to forgive yourself and others, and the fact that each soul makes its own choices.

Your father was a man who in this life feared everyone and everything. He put up a front of being in charge but aloof from those around him. This prevented others from engaging him in conversation that he felt would show his fear. He also feared your self-confidence and forthrightness. He stood behind the wall of fatherhood to assume a place of superiority and control.

Your father did not know how to carry on a conversation with others, particularly those he thought were better than he. He felt if he seemed to ignore people that they would just leave him alone. This was one of his first lives in human form and he was working on very simple lessons of fear, insecurity, and lack of love.

He did not know how to be a father so he stepped away the role and just watched from afar. His soul did not intentionally hurt you but did allow you to experience the lessons you had chosen. You felt his inability to love, and your choice was: to hate him for it, to know it was his lesson alone, or to explore what love was. In seeing love as the energy that exists for all in nonphysical form, and to which all return when they leave their body, you could love both yourself and his soul for choosing this uncomfortable Earth task.

You still have to work on understanding your lessons of forgiveness – to him for the human way he acted, and to yourself for holding on to this negativity for so long. Your sense of betrayal was just his not working on his life lessons, giving you a sense of being insignificant and unworthy. You know that is not true, and those feelings will recede as soon as you let go of the identification with them.

ANSWER: It is a universal law of spiritual awakening that you draw to you what you wish to experience, and you are always exactly where you had decided to be when you are there. Stop trying to make things more confusing than they already are. Start accepting the path you tread, and live in the present moment without re-examining the past or trying to micro-manage the future.

No one is going to tell you what to do. Observe what is around you and go in the direction that feels the best to you. Anger, negativity, and hatred are choices. When something confronts you, you always have two choices: you can fight it or sit observing it, learning what not to do.

It is time to put your ego, which is what causes you to constantly judge things, out to pasture so you can learn without negativity. You can be hurt by the thoughts and actions of others only if you accept their opinions as true. Constantly ask yourself if you believe they are right in their judgments about you. When you know they are not, just ignore them and think positive thoughts. If you think they have some credibility, make the decision to change by becoming more positive.

If you do not judge you can never be angry, hateful, or negative. You are having problems changing because you allow yourself to react to others without thinking. Stop before you do anything in response to others, and ask yourself how you want to respond to them. Take your time with life and you will see it in a whole different light.

ANSWER: You have done good work on going through some of your lessons, but after you rid yourself of the unproductive ones, you have left the area they filled empty. That makes it feel like they should come back – and they often do. What you need to do is start filling those voids with unconditional love for all the work you had to do to accomplish banning the patterns from bothering you.

Pulling in the unconditional love of the universe is a way of loving yourself for all the work you have done. You are giving yourself a pat on the back for getting rid of unneeded lessons. It is easy to accomplish. Say you have just banished a sense of guilt over a decision previously made: you see it no longer serves you, and…poof!…it’s gone. But there is that spot it occupied. Quietly meditate on positive loving energy, congratulating yourself on the good work – the love flows in and takes up the space.

Examine each and every belief that controls your behavior. Anything that generates doubts or fears should be addressed and examined to find out why it is there. You can replace those negative beliefs with a love of self, and this will open you to connect with your higher self and thrive.

You choose what your reality looks like by the beliefs you allow to remain and control your actions. Change any that run counter to the things that resonate with you. Don’t be afraid to have a continual rotation of beliefs so that you learn all you came here for. Remember, you are in charge.

ANSWER: Your higher self is giving you hints to help you deal with identity of self. You are very opinionated because it was expected during your upbringing. You find it difficult to listen to what others have to say without breaking in and giving your ideas to “clarify” the situation. You are thinking about what you are going to say instead of really listening to what is being said.

You are not “seeing” what is going on around you. You are trying to control the situation. You don’t “see” the moment and what is occurring. Start by observing the events around you. Do not try to contribute to the conversation or anticipate what is happening next. Go with the flow of the energy and feel what is being done and said. Get out of thinking about everything and start feeling what others are saying.

Your former workplace made you feel invisible because you did not have confidence enough to participate in the social scene. It was where you experienced the lessons of self-confidence, self-worth, and accepting responsibility for your behavior. These were difficult lessons for you; you still have doubts about your abilities even though you learned quite a bit there and it is where you first began to believe you were worthy.

When you have fears or doubts about a situation, that is like a sign post telling you this is something you want to learn. Go into your feelings and ask: Why am I feeling this way? Where do the feelings originate from? You could also use this technique on your dreams.

ANSWER: Spiritual love is easily acknowledged in your life when you totally accept yourself exactly as you are at the moment. Sound a bit strange? To accept that you should love a body grossly overweight such that it is creating medical problems? What about accepting an addiction numbing you to your surroundings and separating you from the rest of the populace? Yes, we mean to accept all that is you! That is self-love. Self-love is unconditional love mirroring the Source energy of the universe. To not love the problem is to deny either that it exists or that you can learn enough to get rid of it from your life.

Self-love is relishing the reasons you have chosen to come into human form. That, simply, is to acknowledge, bring to your awareness, your life lessons. It is only when you can step away from fighting what you are here to confront that you can begin the journey that gives you the knowledge and wisdom required by your soul.

Self-love is to accept—but definitely not to “like”—the result or outward appearance of the lessons. This dislike becomes your motivation. You love that you have the strength to learn all about your lesson so you may reverse its deleterious effects upon your body. The love allows you to withdraw from the drama of the disliked task so you may dispassionately learn about it and find a solution to balance out the energy.

When you love yourself your lessons pop into awareness as difficulties in life—things you don’t like, but for which, by jumping in and rummaging around, you may find the cause and, with that, a solution. It may seem elusive, but it is really right there in your face! As your “dislikes” lessen, your self-love thrives.

ANSWER: Congratulations on all the work you have done so far. When a soul chooses to experience the entirety of a life lesson such as you have with guilt, you explore every iteration of it. There are two factors figuring into this life for you. First is the realization of guilt as a lesson and the solving of the pieces you experienced during this time period. You should have noticed that each reappearance was created by a slightly different set of facts, and was generally more difficult than the previous one, until you dealt with the energy holding it to your life.

The second aspect is that you have had a series of lives in which you continued to deal with guilt, but it was caused by extremely different situations. You have spent several lives in holocaust-like conditions where you blamed yourself for things occurring to you and those around you. In these lives you were also dealing with a subset of lessons concerning the need to be in control, and you felt that you were responsible for the others who shared your lifetime.

The important thing for you to put all these energies behind you, so that they do not continue to shadow your existence, is to concentrate on who you are as the soul who is having all these human experiences. In other words, you are a piece of Source energy with all the powers and abilities of Source. You create the reality within which you choose to live.

Once you walk away from judgment, which is the power of the ego, you will be able to free yourself from all negativity and exist in unconditional love. Life lessons do not occur in unconditional love. You will be able to connect with your unconscious self – your soul – and remember all that you are, how and why you have experienced lessons in the past, and also all the wisdom you gathered so that you would not have to face them again.

ANSWER: You chose many lessons for this lifetime, and included therein was addiction to drink, anger, control, and self-punishment. You need to examine the ability to release self-loathing and allow forgiveness to permit self-love to return. You are causing all the restrictions you see as mental health issues by choice.

You have control over your reactions to events in the present, but you continue to chastise yourself for the one incident that highlighted all your learning processes. One activity does not sentence a person to a life of constant upheaval unless they keep reminding themselves of what they believe they consciously chose.

Both of you needed to be more aware of the impact that your words and actions have upon others – it was a lesson for you both. Going back over what happened, can you see that it was not an intentional act on your part? The stress, the escalation, the drinking, the unhappiness you would not allow yourself to realize – all those led to the explosion that you used to escape the inevitable physical harm directed against her.

Nothing of a permanent nature took place except setting your unyielding mind on a course of self-condemnation. You have the power to begin anew. It was only a lesson, not an indelible tattoo branding you a dangerous uncontrollable menace. Let the guilt go!

Part of the depression is the result of releasing the concern and love you had for your partner and letting that space fill up with loathing for yourself. Chase out the despair and fill the empty places with unconditional love for yourself and this difficult life you chose. It took a lot of courage to face your past. Rewrite your future with the understanding that you are love. Feel that beauty and accept that it belongs to you – but you have to let it in!

ANSWER:  How many times do you need to allow yourself to be duped? How many times will you see that your wishing, wanting, and hoping will not make it so?  Accept the situation for what it is. You really wanted to be able to believe him and not have all the time you invested in the relationship go for naught.

The pain you are feeling is more from your disappointment in your decision to trust him. He is incapable of feeling remorse or sensing the depth of your pain. In his life everything is about him and what he desires. It is time to forgive yourself and see this as a life lesson you chose in order to understand that you can be responsible only for your own actions.

It is time to stop living in the past and to begin a new life from this day forward. Accept that each of you is working on your own life lessons. Forgive yourself for being such a trusting, good-hearted person. Accept that his path is egotistical and self-serving. He doesn’t know any better. His judgment is all about his wants; he has very little, if any, pain from his choices – just a little inconvenience. Make the choice to create a wonder world for yourself.

Life lessons are usually short-term situations you pass through and then go on to something else. Unless you cling to this experience, in a while it will just be a thing of the past. There are other romantic potentials out there. Don’t judge what either of you did. There is no such thing as karmic rebalance; each of you uses experiences to gain wisdom, and that is all.

ANSWER: For life lessons this time around, you chose to study various ways to accept yourself, honor your decisions, develop faith in yourself, and not have concern for what other people think of you. This current situation is presenting you with the whole gambit of conditions that will assist you in this study. Human life takes place in the duality of the Earth world where the ego rules, and judgment is the way society determines “worth” and “success.”

Within this existence, each soul creates its own reality using beliefs that they accept as their truth. What is one person’s truth, based upon the beliefs by which they control their life, may be totally foreign to anyone else. If part of one’s belief system is that something can or cannot have occurred, then they are literally bound by that determination, unless or until they make the decision to change their set beliefs.

The people around you who are “remembering” things in a way other than they happened are being controlled by their own beliefs and also acceding to the beliefs that society has accepted as truth. When people want to be a part of something, they give up their own ideals and merge into the group to be counted as one of “them.”

One of your lessons, as mentioned above, is to not let the opinions of other people impact you when you believe that you are right and they are wrong. To stick with your knowledge and not be bothered by others is to honor your spiritual journey. You can be hurt by another only if you allow yourself to be. Don’t waste your time on disappointment because they don’t meet your expectations; just go with the flow of the universe and live your own life.

ANSWER: You create expectations about how things are going to come out and then think they will change to conform to your dreams. You don’t know what love is because your imaginings of it arose from movies and books. One of your life lessons was to deal with abuse and violence and to realize you did not have to remain in those situations but could remove yourself from them.

In the past, instead of facing these lessons, understanding them, and choosing to honor yourself so you could move on, your response has been to hide from the facts in alcohol or depression. You are awakening to alternatives through your groups and will now be able to create the type of life you desire.

The loneliness will remain until you accept yourself as the controller of your existence. When those around you are sad, you join them because that is what you have always done. Change your thoughts to positive, happy, loving things and you will immediately feel the difference.

Love first comes through acceptance. Just as you accepted your son as a beautiful person, you need to accept yourself likewise. Look at all the strides you have made recently and congratulate yourself on your progress. Rejoice in no longer thinking violence is what you deserve. Love that you now direct your life.

You bring to yourself what you need to experience, so decide what you want. Imagine the companion you deserve in this new life. Go inside of yourself and search for that unconditional love Source has for all and a mother has for her child. Spend time in that energy and then choose to make it your default emotion.

ANSWER: Earth is a duality, and it is controlled by a belief system that says everything must be judged by the ego to determine its value. Souls come to Earth to learn to understand and use their essential powers from being a piece of Source. All humans are all powerful, all magnificent, all knowing, and all creative, but they don’t know it as they enter their bodies with amnesia.

Once on Earth, souls work on the pre-selected lessons they wished to explore. The first purpose is to discover who they are (souls) and what abilities they can use to experience this life. As you mentioned, the main turning point in life is when you learn to love yourself. You don’t have to love everything you chose to experience, but just love the fact that you undertook the journey in the first place.

Once you accept and love your potential, you then work toward manifesting the lessons. They will be apparent by the fears and doubts that present themselves. Being gay was a choice you made because you had decided to experience bigotry, hatred, and ambiguity. You also wanted to find the power within yourself to ignore the judgment of others and accept the love within.

Until you love yourself, you will be unable to love and share a life with another. It is easy from a distance to pick a person you think you might be happy with, but that is not how relationships exist. They must be mutual. Similarly, it is easy to dream of having a powerful car or a magnificent mansion, but it is not possible unless you have the means.

To manifest something, you have to have faith in yourself and the ability to tell yourself you deserve it. You then have to bring a person into your life who fits the parameters – in your case, single, gay, and looking for a relationship. Concentrate on the qualities and send the message out into the universe.

ANSWER: You chose this life lesson so that you might examine the issues and ask the questions you are grappling with right now. You see that there is more than one way to look at any situation and that you do have freedom to choose what you put up with. You are trying to identify what strengths you have within you and whether you have the self-confidence to make the decision that will change your life and the life of your child.

You wanted to experience being controlled by someone and to see if you would figure out that remaining in this scenario or leaving it is completely in your control. You fear him, but there are organizations out there that will help you to separate from him and to protect your child, whose personality is starting to change under this stress.

You think you are alone in this dilemma, but it is an all too frequent occurrence. You just have to decide to speak up and do something – that, too, is part of a lesson. You are a piece of Source with all the powers and abilities that arise from that origin. To use your innate abilities, all you have to do is accept that they are there and that you can use them to determine your future.

Someone who thinks they are spiritual but acts as an energy vampire and lives a life of negativity is anything but spiritual. Don’t listen to the stories you are being fed. Depend upon your inner feelings for the direction you need to follow.

You can visualize and manifest a different life for yourself if you bring the courage that is within you to the outside. Have faith in yourself and what you see as your next step. You can change, but only if you are willing to make the decision yourself.

ANSWER: This is an example of what we have said many times: the universe brings to you what you need to experience. Out of fear you did not take yourself out of an untenable situation, which would have helped you grow faster, so the action was taken out of your hands by your husband leaving you. The rock bottom you hit is called the dark night of the soul, where everything you believed in is yanked away and you have to start all over again.

You may see this as a failure, but it is really just an alternative way of accomplishing what needed to be done. When you chose to deal with your lessons of self-worth and self-confidence, instead of self-love, they kept you firmly planted in the marriage. Your higher self and the universe saw you needed a push to get moving and accept the reality of your husband’s betrayal, so they “encouraged” him to move on.

Once you are at the bottom you have nowhere to go but up. You can create the type of world you desire. And don’t think it has to be alone because it does not have to be. What you do need to decide is whether you need additional time dealing with the type of abuse your husband gave you, or whether you understand you do not have anything else to learn from it and that it is time to move on.

There are no right or wrong answers to the way a soul learns their lessons. It can be by their action or through the circumstances that throw them into a chaos they have to survive. Don’t let your mind, prompted by society’s view, convince you that you immediately have to jump back into a relationship. From now on, do only what “feels” right to you.

ANSWER: As you may have guessed from what you put yourself through, you are a very old soul who wished for a divergent and difficult lifetime. If you look back on each thing that happened to you, it is now possible to see how you have learned from each step and been able to move on to the point you inhabit at this time. You are in a place of knowing who you are and have identified all of the strengths a soul may exhibit within a human body.

You first dealt with feeling an obligation to others and that they were more important than you – to the extent of giving up your dreams and future to placate another. Gathering self-confidence and self-worth, you moved on to taking responsibility for yourself and your life with the realization that each soul is on a solo journey through the human existence.

You do have a very strong intuition, but as you say, you didn’t always listen to it. You can go back and see where it would have led to different results. Your business was the point where you started trusting that you can manifest things you desire – when you have the time and lack of interference to do so. The physical roadblocks gave you time to analyze how strong you were, how much you wanted to be in charge, and how the only thing that was really important was the moment and what you did with it.

You never truly gave up acting. Through all the trials and tribulations, you have shown those around you how to live life with dignity and a sharing heart when there seemed to be nothing worth going on for.

In your future, live each day to the fullest, choosing what makes you happy. Share your fantastic spirit with family and friends, and show everyone how older souls never let their humanity get in the way of their spiritual journey for wisdom.

ANSWER: Often souls come into human form to see how long it will take them to accept their own powers. All souls are broken off from Source energy and have the same fantastic properties, but some don’t want to accept that fact. They will generally start out with a life where they have been taken care of by others and have not had to assume responsibility for their own actions.

In the beginning they believe this is just how their life is supposed to be and that there is nothing they can do about it. If you don’t think you have choices, then you don’t have any. You must be able to see what else you can be doing and that you can take care of yourself, or you will be convinced that you can’t.

You had feelings for your husband at one time but you have both changed and now have very little in common. He is happy having you take care of the house while he provides the finances. The therapy didn’t help very much because it did not address the real problem, and that is how you feel about yourself and your need to be taken care of.

Your degree of self-confidence is the answer to all your problems. The fear is that you will fail in any effort to live without your husband. If you truly feel that you will never be able to separate from him, just get used to the fact that you will continue to have a lonely, loveless existence. If you accept that you have the same abilities of every other soul, then start creating the life you desire.

Take some courses where you have to depend on yourself for their completion. Volunteer at a day-care, museums, or senior centers, where others will be dependent on you. Try on responsibility and see how it feels.

ANSWER: You are describing the major life lessons you chose to experience in this lifetime. You are examining all aspects of love and hate between two humans. You made it more difficult for yourself since you also decided to deal with a sense of self-loathing and lack of self-worth and confidence.

In order to work through the love/hate issues, you need to first resolve your personality traits. You are accepting the thinking of others when they have said to you that you are worthless and will never amount to anything. You are a piece of Source energy and cannot move beyond where you are right now unless, and until, you truly accept your own powers and abilities as a piece of Source.

The essence of your soul is all-powerful, all-knowing, all-magnificent, and all-creative. Nowhere in your inner being is there a lack of anything. You deserve everything that will allow you to experience the chosen lessons of your life – if you allow yourself to accept that as a fact.

Whenever you start to think that you are not worthy, stop and ask yourself why you think that. Your unconscious will bring to light the origin of such thoughts. You will then be able to face them and see that they do not apply to the person you are today. If you believe they apply to you, then you create a world where you cannot escape them.

Once you have gotten to the point of knowing you can deal with anything that comes your way, you will then be able to understand the positive/negative energy that creates the love/hate dichotomy. Souls possess the freedom of choice to determine how they deal with their lessons. Humans experience things in society and deal with them using ego judgment.

The spiritual approach is to step away from the negative energy needed to judge actions and just observe through the use of a positive energy love filter. You will be able to see that your hatred of your mother is merely in response to her actions toward you. You may either mirror her actions or choose to love the fact that she is a soul who has chosen negative lessons and honor her right to do so even while disliking her choice.

ANSWER: Your flashbacks are actual memories from your earlier life. It is not that the agency did not believe you but that their schedule was full. You should go back to them if you wish to pursue this. When you did not continue your inquiry they thought you had given up and didn’t want assistance.

In addition to the abuse that occurred, this series of lessons is about taking responsibility. You have a sense that you should have assisted your little brother, but you were not in a position or old enough to do so. You have carried guilt for things you could not possibility have done.

It is time to release the guilt, forgive yourself, and see the fear as the indication of being in an unpleasant situation where you had no control. Your confusion and humiliation were aspects of the events and what the perpetrator threatened you would happen if you did not comply. Accusations were made about your brother being hurt if you were uncooperative.

You learned to partition off those happenings in your life and placed them into the darkness where they couldn’t be seen. Your subconscious knows it is time to clear up these fear lessons and feel better about yourself. Whenever you start to recall some of these situations, ask what you are feeling at that time. Go into the feeling.  Replace the negative, fear-based energy with positive love energy for having understood and accepted the lesson. Let that positive energy fill your whole being with self-love.

Your brother was more of a pawn used against you. Do not involve him in your journey unless he requests that.

ANSWER: You have spent a number of different lives exploring the ramifications of being in the military and going to war in particular. These had various issues attached to them: betrayal, cowardice, self-confidence, and guilt, just to mention a few.

It is no wonder that self-hypnosis doesn’t allow you to step back far enough to deal with the strong emotions. An easier way to resolve and release each issue is to follow an emotion back to its origin. When something in daily life triggers a feeling, ask your higher self to take you to the cause. This should be a single incident that you can then understand, learn from, and let go. This will work well when you don’t see anything and are only feeling the emotion.

If the emotions become too intense to work with, use the technique of stepping away and going into observation mode. If you are a witness seeing things from the outside, you are not so affected. You can then examine and work with the situation to understand and dispel it.

Have patience with yourself and these events. They are hanging around because they were too overwhelming for you when they occurred the first time. You have much more information now about how life lessons work. This takes the fear out of facing them. It does not, however, reduce the intensity that you will feel.

ANSWER: You are very rigid in your expectations concerning anything that comes into your life, particularly when it deals with relationships of any kind. You have a need to be in control, so in new situations, even meeting and sharing interests with someone you have never met, you are hesitant because they are the great unknown. After an affair has begun, you then want to hide behind your walls so as not to be vulnerable to their analysis and potential criticism.

You lack self-confidence and self-worth. You don’t believe you are good enough or in the right position to be loved, and you have no idea about self-love or even romantic love. Love is an acceptance of who the other person is – not what you want them to be.

To be fulfilling, a relationship must be open and sharing so you can find a mutually satisfying bond. With your current emotional deficits, you are unable to comply. To reach a state where you can experience love, you first have to rid yourself of limiting beliefs. You need to develop a confidence that who you are is perfect for someone out there.

All souls are wonderful, loving, magnificent people if they allow themselves to be. Whenever one of your fears or doubts pops up, stop what you are doing and chase it down. Why is it there? Where does it come from? Why have I allowed it to take charge of me? Answering these questions will banish the restrictions and open a new world of possibility. Accept that you are an unconditionally loving soul with no constraints.

ANSWER: Your “mission,” purpose, or whatever you wish to call it, is to know yourself. Know and understand that you are a divine soul who has come to Earth to experience negativity and to work through that negativity to find the unconditional love of your soul, which is your true essence.

Negativity is the judgment that allows the ego to function. Without trying to rate or judge who and what is “better” than someone or something else, the ego ceases to exist. When your ego asks “who do you think you are?” what do you answer? Do you answer that you are an unconditionally loving soul who is spending time learning to evaluate what you experience, so you may determine if you understand the activity? Or do you take the question as a judgment—a condemnation that you are not functioning as your ego thinks you should?

And who controls the ego? All those outside of you who give you the standards they wish you to compare yourself against. When you allow yourself to make a judgment, you are giving up to them your power over your mission. Your lesson can only be learned internally. Ask if you can feel what direction you wish to travel.

If you are true to yourself, you cannot be a fraud. To use that term, you are saying you have to make a judgment that something is wrong. There is no right or wrong on the spiritual journey. Therefore there can be no fraudulent use of your learning unless you insist on judging it in an egotistic fashion.

No one has “gifts.” Nothing is given to you for being on Earth in a body. What you have are abilities that you have previously learned in your past lifetimes, or some particular lesson that involves what the spiritual community thinks is magical. All souls have the ability to use energy to balance, heal, and manifest. It only requires the faith in oneself to make use of it.

ANSWER: Humans have many ways in which they both earn their living and learn the lessons they came to Earth to experience. Boxing, for the talented few, may be a noble profession. In a world where a large percentage of employment involves working indoors, frequently behind the confines of a desk, boxing looks barbaric but also exciting. For that matter, those who are able to earn their money as professional athletes of any ilk engender the same sense of awe and jealousy.

The casualties of physical confrontations are senseless to many whether they arise from boxing, football, rugby, bull fighting or motor racing. The same or worse injuries, however, may come from coal mining, firefighting, steel foundries, or bridge building. Even office workers can have dangerous pastime activities when they enjoy mountain climbing, hang gliding, skiing, and scuba diving.

People are drawn to the professions and leisure activities that help them learn about themselves. Are you reliving a life as a caveman after being killed seeking food in the form of a bear? Confront another in the ring and deal with the anger, fear, and self-confidence issues from that life. Are you trying to feel a sense of trust in your own decisions? Work as an accountant for money and spend it trusting your decisions on the steep face of a mountainside.

Everything that you experience in life is there to teach you something about yourself. You draw to yourself what is important for your growth. During your youth, boxing heroes told you of success and that “might makes right,” both very important in shaping your ego-based early life. As you continue awakening to your spiritual self, see the boxer as a soul finding his self-worth, assuming responsibility for his own actions by taking back his power. Any injuries he may receive are also a part of the lessons he chose. Get out of making judgments and only make evaluations; this is something you do not need to experience but the fighter apparently does.

ANSWER: As you may have concluded, self-discipline is one of your major life lessons this time around. You may more easily find your discipline by increasing the amount of your self-love. People cannot sabotage themselves when they love everything they do and have a firm idea of the overall intention for their life.

Your old habits are the belief systems you permit to control your daily life. Since you have freedom of choice, you, and you alone, determine which rules and regulations you choose to use to direct your life. It is comfortable to sit back and slide by with the rules others gave to you, so that you can blame them for not accomplishing that which you desire.

Discipline is assuming responsibility for your every action. Laziness is not caring about yourself and your direction in life. Concentrating on judgment is fine if you have already done your work on self-love. Falling backward may be considered as laziness but it is more the lack of self-confidence. You have a fear of the unknown, and the old that didn’t work is still more appealing than a future of unwritten outcomes.

The negativity that is blocking you is of your own making. Emotionally it is easier to stay still than to move forward. Start by examining how you feel about the way you are handling your life. Ask why anything you do not like is there. Ask where it comes from. These are your hesitancies, your blockages. These are the lessons. Learn that they don’t have to take center stage; push them into the background by thanking them for calling attention to things you had to work on, and get moving.

Work on loving yourself—not just for all the successes in your life, but for the failures or lessons, as well. Everything you do helps you grow in understanding and wisdom. Love that you allow this to happen. Work slowly and get comfortable with all the feelings life brings to you.

ANSWER: As you must have concluded from your past experience, trust is your major life lesson for this lifetime. Since you came down to Earth to learn about your essence of unconditional love, which is accomplished by finding your life lessons and getting to understand them so you might feel the love inside, we cannot tell you the answers to your questions.

It is imperative for you to first deal with the past so that it may stop haunting you. Fears and doubts always highlight the lessons on which you need to work. Go back to your trauma with the assistance of a hypnotherapist or some other practitioner who can allow you to go into your unconscious and deal with the factors that are still hanging around. In total relaxation you will be able to go through the events, realize they can no longer affect you, forgive yourself for clinging to them, and then move on.

Your husband is a truly good man. He loves you dearly but is a little tired of your paranoia. Handle this problem before you drive him away. He is a soul mate who agreed to help you through this tough lesson but is not your twin flame. You have had three past lives together in which you have switched roles back and forth.

Your need to know has to do with not wanting to have to feel in order to find out about people. In your case, knowing whether or not you can trust your husband will only present trust issues to appear in another fashion until you stop letting people take advantage of you.

A secondary lesson for you is developing a sense of self-worth. You defer to others and do not love your self enough to think you can have an opinion or can say no to others. You have a piece of the Source (your soul) animating you, so you are fantastic. Acknowledge that and use your strength. Once you accept your powers, you will know immediately what the people around you are trying to do in their relationships with you. Come out of the shadows of fear and be heard.

ANSWER: You will be stuck in this loveless, controlling marriage until you give yourself permission to leave. You have no self-confidence, self-worth, or self-love. You have always been everybody’s punching bag to let off frustration and steam. You are hiding from the world because you have never had a connection with a loving individual. From childhood, you always did what others told (ordered) you to do and never made any decisions for yourself.

To change your future, you must find out who you are and what you want. At a basic level, you are a soul who is having a human experience. You chose to come with all the “lacks” mentioned above and no memory of your innate powers and abilities. In order to move out into the world, you must overcome the fear.

Your fears arise from believing everything everyone has told you in the past: you are worthless, you are unable to do anything, no one likes you, and you will never amount to anything. If you truly believe these things define you, then you are lost. If you decide that even one of those things is not who you are, you can start on the path of changing your life.

As a soul, you have all the powers of Source from whom you originated. Source is all-powerful, all-magnificent, and all–creative. If you can feel your soul inside, the unconditional love of Source, you can use these powers yourself. Have faith that it is so. Make your first decision to change an aspect in your life, change it, and never look back.

ANSWER: Like all fears, your fear is an indication of life lessons that appeared and were never completed by you. This one has spanned several lifetimes and has several facets, which is why it has been so stubborn.

In this lifetime you have a lack of self-confidence in your decision making and fear anything that contains elements of the unknown. You have been controlled by so many people that you no longer want to engage in any activity where you are uncertain of the outcome. In a vehicle, which moves upon open highways, you fear the actions of others: Will they stay in their lanes? Will they turn in front of me? Will they hit me from behind or from the side? Can I trust them to do what they should? Will I do the right thing to keep from getting hurt?

Some of the origins of these fears lie in a time you were responsible for a number of children. Against the advice of others you bundled them into a rickety bus during a thunderstorm. The bus was washed off the side of a mountain with the loss of all lives but yours. The amount of guilt and blame you suffered has carried through several lives in which you have refused to take responsibility for transportation of even yourself. Understand that all parties chose to participate in that event.

To remove this fear you have to deal with what you can control. All you can ever control is yourself. You start by examining the elements of this fear. What do you sense when you are in a car? Ask why you feel the way you do. The answer to the “why” is what you are holding on to from your past.

Accept that all people have freedom of choice in all things happening to them – so you chose to set up these fears. Very simply, that means you can choose to take away the fear and replace it with something else. Replace all negative fear with unconditional love for accepting yourself as a magnificent person. Accept that you came to Earth to experience this negativity and can get rid of it by changing the way you see it.

Undergoing a hypnotic past-life regression will allow you to re-experience the bus accident and see it as just that – an accident. Forgive yourself for holding on to the guilt for so long.

ANSWER: Your former girlfriend is not “popping” into your dreams; you are refusing to let go of the memories. You are comparing everything that is happening with your new girlfriend with experiences from before. You had created a whole world around that former lady, most of which was untruthful imagination. She did not feel the same about you as you did about her.

The soul draws to it that which it seeks to experience. Your main lessons this lifetime are abandonment, betrayal, and self-worth issues. All of your romantic endeavors have revolved around these principles. You have not been able to figure out that these ladies are all living a human life while working on lessons they have chosen. Those lessons are giving you the situations you need to learn about yourself, but you have only seen the relationships as romantic, not interpersonal learning experiences and definitely not lessons for you.

You spend most of your time thinking about the other person and what she expects of you instead of just being yourself and seeking a sharing relationship. Being alone is a time for you to examine your life and see if you can feel your connection to the universe.

You need to see that you are not being truthful with yourself about the nature of these pairings. Also, begin your examination with the question: Do I love myself? If you do not love yourself, the answer to your unhappiness is finding out why.

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ANSWER: There are only two kinds of energy on planet Earth: positive and negative. Positive energy is love in all its magnificent sensations. Negative energy is fear in all its permutations: anger, hatred, doubt, loathing, betrayal, revenge –  anything that is not love. You have been holding on to negativity and not letting love replace it within your being.

All people have freedom of choice concerning the actions in their life. Most people in this third-dimensional Earth plane cling to negativity because it is what they feel most. Life lessons come to everyone in the form of negativity so people are more comfortable with it. Don’t the people you come in contact with spend most of their time talking about what is wrong with them, lack of money, illnesses, trouble with family? Few talk about beautiful sunsets, possibilities, or successes.

As for you, when things don’t work out the way you expected them to, you feel angry. When others don’t perform the way you want, you feel angry. You are harnessed to your expectations. That is a need to control, and it is impossible to control others unless they consent. Your comfort level also has to do with your expectations of what you want others to do and how you want to be treated. If you were not so demanding in your expectations, the world would flow around you and interact peacefully with you.

You first need to set aside your expectations. Stop and observe the world around you. Find the beauty and discard the ugliness. Feel the love that is inside you and let it grow to cover the negative anger you have built around you. See that love extending out into the universe – it will become a beacon to draw loving people to you. Relax, and whenever you sense negativity – anger or otherwise – turn it into love for the magnificent journey you are undertaking.

ANSWER: “Karma” is an excuse for blaming all your problems on an invisible and unreachable source. What you are dealing with are the life lessons you chose before coming to Earth.  You elected to experience abandonment, betrayal, a lack of love, and issues concerning self-worth and self-confidence. You have shied away from taking responsibility for your journey and have looked to others for direction.

You deferred to your father and cousin while making major decisions in your life and now have no one to take their place. Going to all the spiritual classes could only show you the way others have handled their problems. Nothing was discussed on dealing with your own difficulties. You feel more confused because no one shared your set of lessons.

The remaining lessons that are still affecting you come to you as fears and doubts. Instead of facing them, you back away and talk of them as karma that some say can be cleared through chanting. In fact, what you need is to face them down and find out what is keeping the fear in front of you. These are your lessons.

When you sense fear, ask yourself why it is there. Your unconscious will give you an indication of its origin. Go to the beginning and see what you must do to rewrite your memory of the cause. You can then remove it as a hindrance to your future.

When your soul leaves the body, regardless of what it has done or completed it returns to the unconditional love of Source, which many call heaven. You don’t have to do anything special to return; it is Home – where you belong.

Resolving your remaining lessons can be done in a short period of time if you work at it; you don’t need fifty years. But you also don’t have to do anything if you don’t desire. You will still find yourself in unconditional love when you return Home.

ANSWER: For our readers, we would like to say that atheists simply do not believe in the existence of deities or gods. From this definition you can see that the majority of our teachings would fall into this classification since all souls are the same with none being any better than any other. Reincarnation is the process souls choose to go through to occupy their time since they never die. God-Creator as the religions teach is a judgmental ruling deity who punishes those who don’t follow its teachings. Brahma is a deity who is a creator.

When a soul chooses to incarnate it selects a series of lessons to help it understand what powers it has the ability to bring to Earth if it can remember its essence. The first decision made before entering a body is what gender it wants to experience. The world is predominately male oriented at this time because of the fact that most government and business positions are held by males. Non-emotionalism is seen to be strength. So those souls in positions of power stress the male, macho parts of themselves, suppressing their emotional or “female” aspect.

Your “job” here is to work with the position in which you find yourself and see why the situation angers you so much. You chose lessons of self-worth: not being good enough, not accepting your position in life, being discriminated against, and holding on to anger. You must understand why these things affect you so much and turn them into positive learning experiences. Don’t let other people’s lessons of control, domination, and negativity influence you. You came willingly into Earth’s duality of positive and negative; use it to your advantage.

ANSWER: Society prepares everyone to anticipate that the whole world will function in a pre-determined fashion. As your daughter grew up you shared your beliefs with her, and now, to her dismay, you are changing your beliefs! What this is doing is rocking the foundation of the rules she has come to live by, and it is very scary for her.

Your husband thinks this is just a fad that will wear off and you will return to the person he married. It now becomes a freedom of choice issue whether you live your life for yourself or for those members of your family and friends who are upset about your choices. You may see this as protecting the ones you love, but it is really depriving them of the opportunity to make their own choices.

If you continue to follow the feelings that began your journey, you are honoring yourself. If you revert to your old beliefs or limit them by what others say, you are in fact saying they are more important than you are. You would be giving control over your decisions to those who have no idea how you feel or what resonates within you. Neither choice is more right or wrong than the other. It is a matter of following your internal feelings and not the external world.

Most humans fear change regardless of how small or insignificant it may be. They want certainty in their life, but if you don’t change you don’t evolve. The speed of evolution is left up to the individual.

ANSWER: Enlightenment must be defined in order to answer your question. Every soul comes into a human body in order to work through the lessons it chose before coming into the duality of Earth. Understanding and gaining the wisdom of a life lesson is a form of enlightenment, but it may not be completely understood until the soul has returned Home.

The term “enlightenment” equates to wisdom – the total acknowledgment of all aspects of a human lesson such as fear, hatred, guilt, abuse, etc. from both the positive and the negative angles. Lessons are all presented in negativity so that the individual may work out the experience and choose either to allow it to continue or to turn it around into a positive experience.

Each journey is a solo trip. No one lets someone else determine what to learn unless it is part of a lesson in self-confidence. To learn about hatred, for instance,  you must first find out what hatred is. You must feel hatred. You must hate others. You must make the choice as to which you want as a part of your reality.

Souls do not consider how their actions are going to affect others. They are not concerned with what others may think. They wish only to accomplish their mission of learning and understanding. Those who have feelings of disdain for contemporaries are working through lessons of judgment and ego thinking. In the spiritual realm, nothing is right or wrong.

Remember: During a human experience, people can be hurt only if they allow the actions of others to harm them. They do this as part of a lesson they, themselves, wish to undertake. Nothing happens by accident, and all is intertwined for the desired lessons of those involved. Evolution is not apparent until the completion of the experiment (life).

ANSWER: You are missing the trees for seeing the density of the forest. When a husband and wife split up it has nothing to do with the children and everything to do with what they mean to each other. A couple who are inseparable when they first meet may grow apart as they mature and have absolutely nothing in common 20 years later. In this case they did share the parentage of you but that was insufficient to keep them together. They were not in the marriage for you.

The way you related to your father was not a lie. The connection between the two of you was a bond of love. His relationship with you was independent of his relationship with your mother, his wife. Severing the marriage did not void the fact that he is your father. You feel abandoned by him, which is a lesson you wished to explore. Examine that sense and see that it brings up emotions of worthlessness and self-doubt. That is what you are rebelling against: your own feelings of inadequacy.

Ego makes a human being judge everything in an arena of right and wrong. The spiritual world sees things only in the light of what you can learn from the experience: is this something you want to repeat, or do you know now it is not part of the reality you wish for?

The person you need to forgive is yourself. You need to accept that your whole life is a spiritual journey of dynamic events designed to stimulate introspection and, thus, learning. Your father is following his own lessons. You don’t have to like or agree with what he has chosen, but do accept his right to have chosen them.

The next step for you is a matter of exercising your freedom of choice. You can remain in the same powerful negative place you have fallen into, or you can take the initiative to explore the person you know as your father. He is hurting from the responses he has generated in you. But nothing is right or wrong, so proceed with what your heart tells you to do. It is important that you let go of the negativity that is poisoning your life. Learn again to live in love.

ANSWER: Every soul chooses which major lessons it wishes to experience once it has incarnated on Earth. Some of those lessons are singular to that soul, and others involve many people who are sharing that timeline with the soul. With your human consciousness, you will always say, “No way would I, or any soul, have chosen such a horrible life.” But in reality, you did. Your son, who has had many fantastic prior lives, wished to try one in which he would be dependent upon others and restricted in what his body and mind could do. This future is what he chose.

You don’t need to get forgiveness from him because he planned the life with you. When you two—and many others who are involved, including your husband and family members—agreed to the situation, it was with full understanding of what the results would entail. We know it is hard for humans to accept this concept, but that is part of the journey of the soul. Without trials and negativity, the soul is unable to make the choices it needs to understand its magnificence.

Your major lesson for this lifetime was to understand the journey. You are experiencing massive amounts of regret, guilt, persecution, “why me?” syndrome, and Monday-morning quarterbacking. You are also projecting into the future with the most horrible scenarios possible, for which you already blame yourself. Watch what you think about, because thought is very powerful energy and the universe may believe that what you think is what you want to produce.

Stop looking at this as a disaster and look at it as a challenge to find your strength. The only person you need forgiveness from is yourself. You are a soul having a human experience, and you can see it as such if and when you step out of the drama, connect with universal unconditional love, and accept that this is simply a role to give you a different type of lesson from any of those you chose in your past lives. Paint the future in positive thoughts; your son will never be normal, but you can help create a wonderful life for him.

ANSWER: Your friend has never had confidence in his “readings” of situations, so he has developed an imagination that always makes him the hero and makes any other participants lacking in grace, sincerity, truthfulness, and sharing. Whenever a situation arises where he has misread or mishandled an event, where he should accept his faults and apologize, he instead shifts all the blame to the other party and demands validation of his own actions. As we have said many times, each soul creates their own reality, and his does not conform to anyone else’s.

One of your life lessons was to accept that all people are different and may not agree with you. The lesson, therefore, involves how you handle such situations and what you can learn from them. In a situation such as this, you can confront him, as you have done several times with your truth; you can argue and fail to see that he is steadfast in his recollection; and you can walk away, which you did.

Another way of handling the matter is to say to him that your point of view does not jibe with his, but that you honor his right to his own view and that it is time to drop the discussions and move on to other things. Arguing with him over the matter serves no one. Back away and refuse to fight.

Dealing with the control dramas that come about during disagreements of this type is why you were directed back into this scenario. Without reaching a comfort level in dealing with disputes, you are missing a sensitization to the feelings of others. You don’t have to love the humans you are spending time with, but you need to honor their souls for the choices they have made.

The “betrayal” had more to do with your not wholeheartedly agreeing with your friend’s conclusions than any specific activity in which you engaged. Don’t spend any of your time worrying about it. The version he holds dear to him has changed over the years to match the insecurities of the moment. When you learn to not let his singlemindedness affect you any longer, you are ready to move on if you choose.

ANSWER: The best way to “be there” for him is to let him go. He is trying to learn to ride a bicycle and someone is always holding him up instead of letting him perfect his balance with a couple of falls. Definitely be there to pick him up when he falls, and to offer advice from your experience, but only when he asks.

Humans do not spend their entire lives in joy and total clarity. He is finding his way. His elders have always shouldered some of his burdens so he has never carried a full load until now. He is more than capable of being his own person. What he is doing right now is looking pathetic to everyone in hopes of being bailed out yet again.

Let him sink if he must; that is the only way he will learn to swim his way through adulthood. This is all part of his life’s plan and lessons.

ANSWER: All souls come into human bodies in order to have lessons. Only the Earth allows for a decision of negative against positive, choosing fear or love, living in confidence or uncertainty. The first lesson to understand is the law of freedom of choice. You, and you alone, choose how you face each situation.

The physical body is in a precarious balance. Anything that makes the body, mind, or emotions uncomfortable unsettles the body and creates a physical reaction. The first place you feel this is in the vibrations of the internal organs. Have fear, and your stomach hurts; feel stressed, and you get convinced the world is against you.

Humans when young are told what to think and feel. They want to please everyone and place a lot of pressure on themselves to be what others want them to be. No one ever mentions that you have the right to do something other than what you have been trained to do. You have freedom of choice.

To balance the body so that illness dissipates, you must turn away from all things negative and choose the positive, loving aspects within your life. You must come to an acceptance that all souls come from the same place—the Source of all things. No one is any better than any other, and all are magnificent.

Understand that the basic energy of everything in the universe is unconditional love. To turn to love, to bring it into your life, is to return to who you really are.

ANSWER: It was decided that the soul would come to learn about lessons in a human body with all its marvelous nerve endings. Denying the materialistic pleasures would be saying they have no connection to the lessons you learn, which is not true at all. The lessons you learn, with their freedom-of-choice decisions for choosing your direction, are driven by your physical senses.

Fears and doubts, registered within your body by these very senses, are the signposts of your lessons. Learn why they exist and you will see what you came to learn. Ask yourself what you are feeling when you become aware of a fear. Then ask yourself why that feeling exists and where it came from. The origin is your lesson. It may be issues of self-worth, not understanding your connection to Source (that you never cease to exist), learning all about responsibility for yourself and not for others, or many other things.

Continue working as you have but push away any negativity that comes your way. If you fear a disease, you are saying it has strength in your life and you need to experience it. Do you really want that? Say: “Thank you, but I don’t need to experience that disease,” and then STOP thinking about it. This chases away the negativity and you can think positive thoughts about being healthy.

ANSWER: Each soul has its own set of life lessons to be handled using freedom of choice. You have chosen to work on increasing your awareness of the universe and your spiritual side. Your girlfriend ignores anything that she cannot see and have everyone agree with. It is as if you have gone on to do post-graduate studies in life, and she is still working on understanding grammar school subjects.

You can try to explain to her what you have learned but she has to be open to hearing and understanding. She is not at this time. You can never make others do something unless they consent to the change within themselves.

You have several choices at this time. Consider that all your work has raised your vibration so that you are not as affected by negativity and can spend more time connected to unconditional love. Your girlfriend, like the majority of society, is drawn to ego judgment, which is imbued in negativity. This is the state you were at when you began the relationship, so you and she saw most situations in a similar light.

There are no right or wrong choices for a soul in a human experience. You may choose to continue to try to get her to raise her vibration. You may continue to live at her level, which will drag you down to her level – the backtracking that you are feeling. You may also find that in order for you to continue to grow into awareness, you should reduce the amount of time you spend in her presence. Or you may even see that finding someone more at your level of development will speed up your growth. The choice is yours.

This is the first life the two of you have spent together.

ANSWER: You were connected with her in another life where you went through a similar situation of control and abuse. Neither one of you learned the lesson at that time. That is why you replayed the same situation in this life.

While you have become aware of the destructiveness of this situation and that you both need to grow internally—which is just another way of saying that you can work out why and how you came about to experience this connection in this lifetime—you have not seen what else is involved in the energy of this activity. It keeps repeating itself to you to say “wake up and look at everything that is going on here and why it is happening.”

You got into this situation because of fear, lack of confidence, low self-esteem, and a feeling of being trapped. Your response to fear is to strike out as you are running away from the emotions involved which overcome you. While you have physically removed yourself from this situation, you have still not allowed yourself to feel that sense of being trapped. You cannot understand why you are compelled to act as you do. You feel both shame and guilt but figure that separating yourself from this woman will just resolve the issue. It will not.

It is time to go in and examine the sense of guilt you have. Why could you not control your striking out? You never saw what was happening until after you returned from running away. Go into the shame and the low self-esteem that made you respond as you did, forgive yourself, love yourself for who you are; then you will be finished with this scenario.

ANSWER: Spiritually, Alzheimer’s disease is the same as any other debilitating disease that is chosen for a life lesson during incarnation. The afflicted souls wished to enter into a phase of their life where they first became aware of their failing memory, which they could not influence in any fashion. Most were independent or fairly independent and found themselves becoming totally dependent on others for the simplest of daily tasks. They were then trapped inside a body that they found foreign and difficult to deal with.

The soul has usually also entered into at least one contract with another soul who wished to experience the “living death” of an associate or loved one. This person could be a family member, business associate, or close ally who is struck by the visibly vibrant loved soul whose mind has gone on vacation, leaving the house unattended. The friend, at first, watches the house, awaiting the return of the mind, but it never comes back permanently. Flashes become further and further apart and of shorter duration.

Many lessons may be part of this scenario. The “survivor” may have wanted to experience feelings of survivor’s guilt, abandonment, forgiveness, relief, disgust, or fear—or may have needed to complete an emotional closure or some other pattern of conduct or lesson now no longer possible with the patient. Each, the patient and the observer, has personal reasons for being there.

The soul is on a solitary journey with total freedom of choice directing it. It has no responsibility spiritually for anything or anyone besides itself. Let your feelings tell you what your lessons are and, therefore, what you need to do in dealing with a situation such as this.

Welcome, fellow souls! During this past weekend (on your planet’s timeline), we were very enthusiastically received, and were pleased to meet a lot of you personally at the Body, Mind & Spirit Expo in Chicago. It was our pleasure to be able to answer individual questions and give personal advice to almost one hundred people through our channel Toni.

We wish now to address a frequently asked question: “How do I know that what I am doing in this life is what I am supposed to be doing?”

As human beings it is very common for you to need validation of your actions and decisions. As you entered life upon the Earth plane, you began each new chapter by deciding in advance the specific lessons you wished to make a part of your soul’s wisdom. You planned the particulars of some of the lessons, though with others you just had a general idea of what you sought to accomplish. Once you entered the physical structure of the body you inhabit, however, you always did so with no memory of any of these prior decisions.

Initially, your physical body is helped by being raised within an array of belief systems contributed by parents, teachers, society, and religions. The purpose of these belief systems is to define for you how other people feel you should behave and what they feel you should believe.

A parallel illustration of this idea is the operating system running the program on which this message has been recorded. A programmer wrote the program to do a multitude of tasks and to prevent certain functions from occurring. If you do not assess the correctness for you of these functions, you blindly adhere to the programming without question, and may well discover that you are unable to carry out certain of the plans you formulated. It is the same in your physical life. By failing to question why you cannot do what you have envisioned, you are giving away to other people your power to determine your direction in life.

In your daily life, if you merely intellectualize the decisions and directions you take—using only your brain—you will accept the beliefs and directions imbedded in you by others. All the information within your brain comes from outside of your self. It is implanted within you by the words of others, either told to you orally or read by you visually. You are completely cut out of the decision process as you follow along like a little lemming.

The belief systems that have been your guide for a large portion of your life are not permanent and immovable. You may remove them from impacting your thinking by taking each statement in turn and “feeling” if it represents the right path for you to venture down. If you believe, say, an implant that Mrs. Smith put into your head in third grade that you are “stupid,” then identify with it and let it direct your life! But if, instead, you know that you are not stupid (because of everything you have been able to accomplish successfully within your life), then erase all trace of that negative energy from your memory and rewrite your mental program to say that you are a brilliant physicist (or whatever else you may have become).

There is another aspect of this physical experience which most people ignore. You are aware of feelings or intuition coming from the knowledge and wisdom of your soul. If, whenever you have an important decision to make, you say, “What do I think?” you give the power to others. But if, instead, you say, “What do I feel?” you are searching inside for your own inner knowledge and wisdom, and you are taking responsibility for your own decisions. This is the only way that you can truly learn your lessons. It’s the same if you always only watch sports on television and never participate in them yourself—you will never have the experience of the exertion and the elation of that accomplishment.

To respond to that question we began with, “How do I know that what I am doing in this life is what I am supposed to be doing?” we have two questions for you: “Are you listening to your intuition and feeling what you want to do?” and “Do you feel that what you are doing is what you should be doing?”

These are really just rhetorical questions because now we have a statement of universal wisdom to give you. It is: “Your soul ensures that you always do exactly the right thing at the right time to gain the experience that you sought to have.”

Take the time to laugh at yourself for all the choices you can’t now remember making—while you enjoy this wonderful journey of unique experiences.

Have a fantastic week filled with love, light, and laughter. We love you dearly.

The Masters of the Spirit World

ANSWER: You have just become aware of the situation in which you have forced your wife to exist during the period of your marriage. In the past it was all about you and what you wanted, to the exclusion of your wife’s desires. She had always sought to be in a loving, sharing relationship, but you were too unconscious of anything but your own happiness to see that she was not benefiting from your union.

Your lesson was to realize that you were being selfish, boring, and totally self-centered. You were only concerned about yourself and what your friends thought of you and didn’t care about the needs of your wife. Her lesson was to learn that she was just as important as you in every aspect of life, and that she had the freedom to choose to exchange her situation for one that respected her desires. She overcame a lack of self-worth and self-confidence issues.

The two of you had not made a contract to present the lessons to each other. Each of you just had the desire to draw to yourself a person who would give you the lessons you desired. Each of you has completed the lessons that could only come from the other. It is time to move on and, using the lessons you learned, to create a life that will give you different situations from which to become more aware of who you are and why you came to Earth.

If you want to learn more, live in the moment, being aware of all others around you and how your actions impact them. Love the fact that your awareness is becoming more acute, and let that grow into a love for yourself and for this journey you are undertaking.

ANSWER: Awareness of all aspects of one’s human shell is a phase of enlightenment. Everything that people experience is by choices made prior to coming to Earth and is therefore part of their spiritual path.

Interpretations of physical afflictions are misunderstood by most people, who just want someone outside themselves, such as a medical doctor, to take responsibility for treatment and tell them what to do. It is generally a lesson in self-exploration and understanding to be able to connect physical problems with emotional and spiritual practices to bring the body back into balance.

There is no such thing as ancestral karma. In a human lineage the DNA carries various potentials for physical illnesses and deformities. A soul may choose to enter into a particular family in order to experience the weaknesses of that strain of cells, but it has nothing to do with a punishment (karma). Your son shares some physical weaknesses carried within the DNA that are shaping his spiritual path and lessons.

Your son’s difficulties are present for him to see what is there, decide what needs to be done, and have the confidence and fortitude to carry through with the process. This is the journey of enlightenment. It is up to him to decide the methods for processing his voyage.

Share your expedition with him, not as the only way to reach completion but as an example of what worked for you.

ANSWER: You are trying to battle the life lessons you chose for this lifetime instead of understanding and working through them. Any time a situation repeats, it is because it is a lesson and you did not learn from it. You can work through an event and then just drop it without examining what happened. The lesson is then thrown out without learning enough to prevent it from recurring. And it will come back until you acknowledge what it is you wanted to learn.

Life lessons are demanding; they must be acknowledged, understood, learned from, and turned into wisdom, or the underlying cause returns again and again. One of your lessons is patience. Another is learning to live in the moment so that you observe and are aware of what is happening in your immediate surroundings and to you, yourself.

You see a situation beginning to happen, anticipate what will come next, and don’t wait to see how it affects you because you are too busy moving on to something else. You have to participate in the actions you draw to yourself for the purpose of learning. Your frustrations show that your “anticipations” about life are not coming true. But you have no control over things around you, only your reaction to them.

Anticipations are detrimental and limiting to a soul. They force you to look at a situation in the way you decided things will play out, and only that way. You do not see why the situation is there, how you can work with it, how you can change the outcome, and how it applies to the rest of your life. You miss the whole reason it occurs.

Try to stop having anticipations. Go with the flow of the energy of an event without predicting or directing where it will go. This will allow you to see all the possibilities, and then, using your freedom of choice, you will be able to complete the task you desired and learn the lesson.

ANSWER: You decided what lessons you wished to experience and set up the situations which would allow them to play out; so, yes, you did plan the accident with the acid. One of your desired schoolings was to have an outer covering that could be displeasing to people so that you might recognize yourself, and help others learn, that what’s inside is the only thing which matters.

Having come down to Earth many times before with simple tests, you were a little bored with non-complicated life lessons and wanted to be challenged with a multilayer life. You had difficulty stepping away from the comments of others and accepted the nasty things they were saying about you as true. Your lesson was to know your own inner beauty and let others see the “you” inside.

You didn’t choose many other heavy plans. Figure out that the negative feelings you experience are partially coming from the negative thoughts you have about yourself. If you cannot accept your appearance you send the message, through energy, out to others that they shouldn’t or don’t have to accept you either.

The answer to all survival of life lessons is leaning to love yourself. Love that soul of yours who has the tenacity to work through this life. Love the magnificence of the soul and bring out the unconditional love which is its essence. This allows you to see the positive in all that negativity and to reach to push the darkness aside.

You don’t have to like everything about yourself but love that you are completing this life. Know that inside you are perfect and you can let others feel that perfection by the positive energy you project. Reject that negative sense of damage and shame and replace it with the positive wonderment of being a soul who can accomplish and work through the most difficult of lessons with love.

ANSWER: The way humans learn lessons is by experiencing the opposite of perfection and unconditional love. If you only knew joy, love, and acceptance, you would not be able to learn anything about this life. The first premise of learning is that the soul has freedom of choice to decide what it wants to do, feel, and experience.

When you begin to feel sad or unhappy, rejoice that you are facing another life lesson that, once learned, you will understand and then not have to go through again. The emotions are the outward indicator. Ask yourself why you feel the way you do to get to the lesson underneath. Most people get so bummed out by the sadness that they sink into the negativity instead of understanding and banishing the lesson.

A lesson in itself is acknowledging sadness and choosing to turn it into happiness. You are a very powerful soul and can create any situation you choose. Get up each day and see all the things you have to be thankful for, a roof over your head, food to eat, clothes to wear. Look for things that make you happy. Laugh every chance you get. Laugh at yourself for being a sourpuss. Laugh at yourself for taking life so seriously when you have the ability to change it at will.

Every time you perceive a negative thought, make a game out of finding the opposite positive idea and choose to work on bringing it into your day. As you chase away the negative beliefs and emotions, fill yourself with the remembrance of your most happy, loving, cherished emotions. Go inside and bring out your self-love to fill any voids. Don’t give negativity a chance to take hold; replace it with positivity.

ANSWER: Until this stage in your life you have been living in your head, always thinking, thinking, thinking in the physical world. You recently had an experience where you were opened to the rest of existence, the non-physical world. This also awakened in you an awareness of energy vibrations in other people that may be sensed and balanced by those who are open and sensitive. This is the ultimate in healing of the physical body.

You have been a healer in many of your past lives and you sense the satisfaction that helping another can bring to you. Your engineering career was something that family and society drove you into. If you look back, you can see that you were convinced by others that it was the right thing for you to do. That was the reason you were never able to get passionate about your work.

The blockage you feel is really singular. All the negative energy is coming from your wife. She is used to being the wife of an engineer, a very prosperous, respected profession. She does not understand hypnosis, the unconscious mind, and the need to balance the energies within the body. You would be able to bring to you all the money necessary to support your family, but you would not be viewed by your wife as a professional person any longer. She feels she would lose status among family members, society, and her friends. Her fears cannot be overcome.

It is time for you to exercise your freedom of choice. If you are miserable in this current job it is time to ask yourself: what do you feel like doing? You have completed all of your life-lessons that you went to the UAE to learn. You will not find any additional spiritual learning experiences there. Remember there are no right or wrong answers to your questions, but it is vitally important to honor yourself.

ANSWER: A soul has only one “awareness” at a time. It is impossible, if the soul is tied to a physical body, for it to be in more than one physical place at the same time. It may reincarnate as soon after leaving its body as its awareness allows.  Sometimes it takes a while for a soul to realize it is no longer a part of the physical life it has just left. It needs to have total awareness to make the choices necessary to set up the next living life lesson.

In order for a medium to channel a soul as the person it has been, so that it would be recognized by those remaining, it must be unattached to a physical body. Once it enters into another body it assumes the characteristics of the newly chosen body, in other words, a baby!

We have repeatedly said that you can love another only to the extent that you love yourself. Self-love is uniting with the essence of our self and the Source energy. Worshiping someone or something is to acknowledge their worthiness with respect and reverence. Worshiping oneself is an acknowledgment of the Source within.

The higher vibration you have felt is the uniting of the unconditional love within you with the universal unconditional love of the Oneness. To celebrate who and what you are with song, dance, and exaltation is to rejoice in your own identity. It is not vanity but rather acceptance of who you truly are.

ANSWER:  When you were a child learning to walk, you were not upset when you fell because your balance was not yet perfected. Learning the new language and local customs of a new place is just like learning to walk all over again. The problem you cause yourself is your expectation of knowing exactly what to do in each situation before you have the knowledge you need to be at ease.

You are hyper-sensitive to the imagined reactions of your co-workers. Some find your attempts to fit in very endearing, but you are not giving them the ability to tell you so because you shy away from contact. This reaction comes from deep inside you, not just from this instance. You have been beaten down and told you are nothing and will never be able to fit in. That is the truth only if you allow it to be.

You are a beautiful soul, but you have never been able to accept that fact and love yourself. The imagined thoughts and taunts of others can affect you only if you allow them to. What is vital is how you feel about yourself. Are you accepting of the wisdom you contain inside? You need to become comfortable within your own body. Love yourself for being who you are – the one who has the awareness of your inner beauty.

When you accept yourself, and disregard what you believe others are thinking or saying about you, you will find it easy to share yourself with others. Have confidence in who you are and what you think. Don’t let others tell you what you should be able to do. Relax and enjoy contact with others. If you feel embarrassed with your degree of language skills, ask people to assist you – they will be delighted.

You have created a self-imposed prison. It will remain as long as you hold the door shut. Know that you mean only to communicate and learn. Take the first step toward integrating into the workplace. If you don’t try to be a part of the group, it will never happen.

ANSWER: When you have worked through most of your life lessons, you bring to yourself the next ones you wish to work on. Your daughter is there to let you work on responsibility concerns, anger issues, self-worth and self-image perspectives, and energy vampirism—taking your positive energy and replacing it with negativity.

You still feel responsible for your daughter even though she is an adult. She wants you to feel that responsibility so that she does not have to deal with such issues. When she is rude and abusive she is testing her power over you and what you will take—the limits of your lack of self-worth, which allows her to treat you the way she does. Her behavior would not be able to affect you the way it does unless you thought you deserved such treatment or were not worthy of anything better.

You react badly to the abuse because you hate yourself for not sticking up for yourself. What someone says or does to you can hurt only if you accept there is truth in what they are telling you. If you don’t know yourself, you have to rely on the rest of the world to tell you who you are. This is what your daughter is doing.

Wouldn’t it be easier to know who you are so others had no control over you? The first step for you is to rid your life of negativity. Any time a negative thought creeps in, a negative emotion rears its head, or you feel anything other than total positive energy is the time to act. Begin by replacing anything negative with a positive thought or emotion. If your daughter gets rude, remember her as a sweet baby in diapers. If you start to lose your temper, think of the most pleasant thought that occurs to you. Start each day with the affirmation that it is a beautiful, fantastic day.

Once you live in positive energy and refuse to let negativity in, you will see what actions of yours allowed your daughter to take the upper hand. You will see that you do not deserve to be treated with disdain, because you are as worthy and beautiful as all unconditionally loving souls—which is who you are.

ANSWER: Understanding, resolving, and integrating these difficult situations is the reason you come to Earth. The soul “gets it” because it started the whole process. The heart is dealing with the physically emotional aspects of the lesson. And the mind is dealing with the repercussions of the lesson as it tries to delineate the learning factors from the ego-driven compulsions of the body as dictated by society.

Without the negativity, souls have no reason to come. Their purpose is to discover who they are as a soul and to see if they can figure out what is negative and how to shed that for the positive opposite. Once a lesson is recognized, that is just the first step. The next one is to make the choice of how you are going to integrate it into your life: embrace or repel.

If you see the test but refuse or don’t bother to work through the steps of finding out why you chose it to be there, it will be impossible to resolve. Judging the “goodness” or “badness” of the event holds you in the ego-based, societal judgment realm. Instead, if you “evaluate” what it means by its presence in your life, you can make the decision how to treat it and it no longer keeps poking you to react.

The “bothering” part of learning is the edge between seeing the lesson and learning the lesson. All lessons come into awareness through the process of producing doubts and fears in your life. If you understand why you chose a particular lesson, you can eradicate its hold and it no longer has any effect upon you.

Letting things roll off you is a sign that the desired lesson has been comprehended. Still feel a pinch? You have more to learn from the situation. Most of the time a continued connection to the lesson involves a belief that has been given you by society – e.g., “That meant I was betrayed or taken advantage of and I need to get revenge.”

Congratulating yourself for getting past the sense of being used by another and into the knowledge that you chose to experience these things, and no one else is to blame, will let you release any lingering emotions. If they devastate you, it is because you are allowing them to do so. Just let it go.

ANSWER: You had a traumatic occurrence when you were a child and then you suppressed everything that happened to you from then on. All those memories are packed and hidden within a very tight container to keep them from surfacing. What is getting out is the energy of hurt, guilt, and relief.

Your tears are a combination of fear, sadness, and happiness. Your unconscious is completely aware of the cause of the waterworks, but you haven’t allowed yourself to let it into your consciousness. It is all right to leave things this way if you desire, but you could always go after the memories and get rid of them faster than the slow release happening now.

An age regression would permit you to visit your childhood and youth. If you had the intention to gain knowledge of and understand your problems, you could be steered directly to them. Breaking the stranglehold you have maintained on these memories all these years will make you feel better and stop the constant release of teary energy.

Hypnosis with a spiritual hypnotherapist would be the easiest way to accomplish an awareness, but you could try scratching the surface with a deep meditation aimed at the hidden past. Also ask, as you fall asleep at night, for your guides to assist you in reaching back into the cause of your distress.

Keep in mind that all this energy is involved around life lessons you chose to experience. You need feel no guilt for their appearance or for the delay in addressing them. Step outside the pain and observe what it was that you sought to understand about life. Decide what was learned and whether it is necessary for it to remain within or if you can thank it for its lessons and kick it out of your life.

ANSWER: Your existence is a perfect example of working through life lessons. Unfortunately for you, you have jumbled them all together in order to have a massive simultaneous experience instead of doing them one at a time. The premise you are working from is one of what you think about yourself. How do you accept who you are? Do you honor your own abilities or do you always acquiesce to the other person? And when a new example of the same lesson reappears, do you recognize it or have to start all over again at the beginning?

You have a need to be needed. It stems from not accepting the strengths that are within. The belief systems of your childhood have been closely guarded and retained by you. It is time to examine them and remove those that are no longer serving you. You cannot move forward when you cling to the past.

This man does not love you. He has never loved you for anything other than the gratification he receives from having you at his beck and call. He gets satisfaction from control and fear. He can sense when you have doubts or fears and it turns him on. He loves being a puppeteer. You took his communications as love and concern. This fulfilled your need for attention. But all you received was reinforcement of your built-in guilt and unworthiness. He was never a victim—you are.

Renew that strength which enabled you to break free before. You have nothing you can learn from him except how to distance yourself from his demands. Start ignoring him and any attempt to contact you. Erase the guilt he is trying to lay on you; see his actions for what they are: a desperate plea to allow him to further control your life. If you want a new existence cut him off cold—NO contact whatsoever, no acknowledgment that he even exists. He will eventually get the message. It will help if you block his emails and phone, and return any written communications. But it is still your choice.

ANSWER: To this point you have been desperate to be in and stay in a relationship. This “need” is what precedes you and tells prospects you will do just about anything to start a connection with them. In the beginning you present yourself to be exactly what you think a good candidate would want in a woman. You morph into a perfect person. You are looking for someone who is worthy of you, so he must be successful, able to take you to nice places and introduce you to great people and situations.

If you look at those requirements, you have a person completely playing society’s game of survival of the fittest and the one with the most toys wins. This creates an egotistical, selfish individual concerned only in advancing himself so that he may have more money and more toys; oh, and you as his trophy woman. This is what you have been looking for—and found! You don’t recognize what a jerk you have picked up until you get tired of being who you are not and relax into your own non-egotistical, non-judgmental, loving self.

You will bring a different type of man into your life if you begin each relationship exactly as you are. Don’t say or do anything you do not completely feel or believe in, unless you wish to change into that kind of a person. You draw to yourself whatever you project outwardly. If you project a mask, a false image of yourself, that is what you get in return. If you ask the universe for a caring, sharing individual who will listen and love you, that is what you will encounter. Stop being so desperate. Start being choosy. Settle only for someone who, from the very beginning, gives you a good idea of his ideals and way of life. This is the only way to change your pattern.

ANSWER: Souls make agreements to come together on Earth for specific purposes. Once they have finished those agreed events they sometimes find they no longer have anything in common. This is what has happened to you and your husband. The beginning of your relationship found both of you assisting each other and learning a ton of lessons. Things then began to slow down as you had less and less need for the other’s input.

You are now trying to find reasons to interact. Since you don’t have any previously planned things left, you each are seeking totally different things; this creates a conflict. While before it seemed to be a seamless path from one lesson into the next, now it is a struggle even to find a connection.

Decision time has arrived for the two of you. Remember, nothing is right or wrong in your Earth journey. For each of you to continue to grow you are going to have to change, because your current activities are interfering with progress. You may have to be apart for each to find solace. If you remain together you will have to have an agreement, or ground rules, as to behavior in the house. In all things, each of you  should honor yourself and the life you are living.

ANSWER: Every soul enters a body on Earth to live in a positive/negative duality to experience, and experiment with, freedom of choice. Most of the lessons involve a single soul, but sometimes you have pre-arranged for a soul who is sharing your same time line to present situations to you that will allow you to face a life lesson.

You and your child agreed to be together. They wished to experience homosexuality, with all the societal difficulties that engenders. You wished to deal with the belief systems you have gathered throughout this life, with all their prejudices and judgments.

Your child’s life is theirs to live, not yours to control. The fact that something they desire to do is repugnant to you does not make it wrong for them. You are not within their body or psyche, so you do not know how they feel. Your beliefs are accepted by you as a way to live your life, but that does not mean you can impose your beliefs upon them.

There is one caveat here: While a child of yours lives in your house, you can make certain rules and regulations they must abide by, or you can bar them from the house and no longer provide for their needs. This will probably not change the way they feel about things, and they may choose to leave the house as soon as possible, but it is a means of getting your way.

You also need to deal with the intensity of your reaction to this announcement. Why is it affecting you so severely? Does it remind you of some other situation from which you have been hiding? Or are you only concerned with what “neighbors” or church members will think? Examine your thoughts and the reasoning behind them to help you see what the issue really is in this situation.

ANSWER: When a soul decides to have a particular experience, it sets up the necessary background for it to be part of its life. Whenever you are dealing with life issues that are not in compliance with society, such as homosexuality, choices are  made very carefully to ensure you will get the experience.

The lessons involved here are tolerance, faith, confidence in yourself, honoring where your human genetic leanings take you, and listening to your heart and soul and not societal prejudices. You wanted to see how you would handle being in a sometimes persecuted minority and if you had the strength to carry on through adversity.

Your partner is from your same soul group; you planned to come together to enable a smoother lifestyle with someone who is so compatible with you. You have shared many incarnations, and all the last ones have been “experimenting” with controversial issues: black in a white area, homosexual in a strict religious country, and handicapped where perfection is glorified. This life is a “piece of cake” after some of those.

The two of you frequently act as instigators for each other’s situations, helpmates in difficult lives, and partners, so you have someone with whom to discuss the philosophical as well as theoretical implications of what you are doing. It has proven to be very beneficial in your learning process.

When multiple homosexually oriented souls exist in the same biological family, it is by the choice of all involved. It may be related to tolerance, intolerance, comfort with exploration, or the knowledge that another soul chose that particular family with the intent of exploring homosexuality. Some souls who have not had a lot of lifetimes on Earth are sometimes hesitant to “go it alone,” so they will tag along with an older soul to watch them.

ANSWER: You were infatuated with something you could not have. She never saw you as anything other than a friend, like a well-loved brother. You have issues of lack of self-worth and haven’t been the recipient of much love in this life. Because she unconditionally accepted you, although it did not include romantic love, you saw her as your salvation.

When she was gone you felt an emptiness and were starved for affection. Your wife saw the potential within you to be useful to her in her caring for her brother. Your life with her has been consumed with meeting their needs. Her true concern is her brother and not you. You are a means to accomplishing a comfortable living for “her family.”

She does not love you as you seek to be loved. She does love you for what you can provide for her. Your lack of self-confidence and self-worth make you see her as much more loving and compassionate than she really is. Her life has been hard but no harder than your own. She convinced you that you needed her and should get married so that she could have security for herself and her brother.

You have always let others tell or convince you about what “you wanted to do.” It is now time to honor yourself and start making your own choices about life. You are just as good and worthy as any other soul. You have the ability to create a world where you may welcome in a truly loving companion who will share the rest of your life with you.

Spend some time alone asking yourself what is happening around you. How often do you make the decisions concerning your life? See how you feel about the way you are being treated. Imagine what your prefect life would be like and then start  manifesting it.

ANSWER: During the time you were free of your “devil” you were thinking clearly and living in the moment, taking responsibility for your life and actions. That was the only time in this life you have been in that state. There is no spirit outside of you that is causing you to act as you do; it is inside. It is your denial that you can make the choice to live without your addiction.

It is so easy to be addicted. All your cares go away and you exist in a state of oblivion. You don’t have to take responsibility for anything. It is a totally selfish existence. You now have decided you can get out of your predicament by getting help from guardian angels to defeat this spirit you blame. But you are the only one who can make the choice to change your life—and you can do it.

You have never been able to love yourself, so it is easy to abuse yourself. You will not be able to do anything that requires discipline until you love yourself enough to go through the pain of withdrawal and of admitting that you have allowed all your problems. You are weak and have never thought you were good enough to go through life without being numb. You can’t stand the pain so you hide behind the drugs.

You are a soul who was broken off from Source with all the same abilities to create and manifest as Source. Create a world for yourself, you beautiful, magnificent being. Find the love within that will empower you to be and do whatever is needed to return to that one time in your life when you were really living. Start today, right now!

ANSWER: Every soul comes to Earth for their own reasons, which we call life lessons. No two people, even biological identical twins, share the same plan for their existence. The lessons are as varied as the population. Some people are studying what it is like to be controlled by others and to see if they can figure out that they have the ability to take control of their lives for themselves. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this type of challenge.

Sometimes out of fear, or the need to deal with an even more important chosen lesson, souls will allow themselves to be controlled so they can go on with their desired business without having to worry about day-to-day necessities. People draw to themselves the situations that will allow completion of their desired tasks while human.

Sometimes a soul has been too exuberant with their choice of lessons to be accomplished in one lifetime and may be so overwhelmed that they just want to go back Home and start all over again. That is their choice. This may be seen as escaping life, but it is still their choice.

Escaping, or suicide, is an accepted action within spirituality because nothing is viewed as being right or wrong. All things are undertaken for the ability to learn from them and to evaluate their need to be done over or completely ignored if the information is no longer viewed as desirable.

Honor the choices of other souls and don’t judge their decisions. What you are doing may look as unimaginable to them as their choices do to you. Ask yourself why these particular questions are of interest to you. It means that somewhere within your consciousness is a desire to understand, evaluate, and learn from these actions.

ANSWER: Humans are very curious and needy beings. Even though their fathers were in their lives, your daughters still wondered what it would be like to live with them instead of just with their mother. Your youngest was definitely influenced by the actions of her sister. This is not a reaction to anything that you have done except to have separated them from their biological fathers.

Both girls heard about the “cool” things that their friends shared with their fathers and wished to have the same experiences. As they have neared the time to start dating, they have wondered what to expect from the male behavior pattern. An all-female environment can be stifling to a teen. There is a small degree of rebellion over your rules and regulations and the hope more freedom could be had elsewhere.

Your daughter refers to her stepmother as mom as a way to fit in more easily and to feel that she is in a “perfect family” environment. The estrangement comes from the difficulty of trying to live two lives simultaneously. Give her some time.

Your children both love you, but you are only half of the parental pool and they want to swim in the other half. Let them do their experimenting and learning. You have raised them as beautiful young ladies, and when the time comes, they will maintain contact with you and share what they have learned.

ANSWER: It is humanly difficult to imagine why your soul, or any soul for that matter, would ever choose the lessons this young lady did. Her soul had been involved in prior experiences with torture and man’s inhumanity to man in general. She wished to find out the extent to which a human body could exist without losing their mind. Past participations included the Holocaust, the Spanish Inquisition, genocides in a number of African nations, slavery, and the Salem witch trials.

An additional incentive for this lifetime stemmed from a desire to have the citizenry examine and decide to revamp the Japanese judicial system. She wished to generate a social outrage to shake up the nation and even the world. So much goes on in the world where groups, and even entire societies, prey on individuals or whole subsets of people that she wanted to throw a spotlight on atrocities. This is an easy task with the influence of today’s social media – nothing seems to occur in a vacuum any longer.

Evil, despicable, psychotic, inhumane, sick, insane, and so on are terms attached to the men who perpetrated this event. But they, too, were carrying out the events they wished to experience during their tenure on Earth. These concepts or definitions concerning their actions are all judgments that third-dimensional ego minds require to separate their own actions from such atrocities.

To delineate what each man desired would not help anyone understand what happened. It is often the case that someone not engaged in the actual event cannot conceive the reason for its occurrence. Even when having the idea behind the action explained, the reasoning cannot be grasped or understood. Just appreciate that every soul is in charge of their own chosen lessons.

ANSWER: Most of the time when deciding on a partner with and from whom you wish to learn, you do not choose a soul mate. You “know” your soul mates at an energetic level that extends beyond the duality of the positive/negative Earth plane, and therefore interactions take place without a conscious learning aspect to them. No freedom of choice is needed because you just exist.

During this lifetime you wanted to experience different facets of human relationships, exploring the reaction of others to your actions and the stimulants needed to bond to another. You chose to practice with someone of whom you did not have intimate foreknowledge – i.e., not a soul mate.

Your soul mate, on the other hand, is an easy person to be with since a large portion of human interaction is built into your contacts. It is like enjoying a vacation where no work is necessary. This is the crème da la crème of human relations. But no decisions are made and nothing is learned.

Nothing is right or wrong in a spiritual sense. You may do as you choose. This situation has appeared for you to learn about spiritual clarity and discernment. In comparing the two, you can observe the difference in the need to engage in a dissimilar set of interactions to maintain a unified, loving, cooperative status with each person. Discernment then enters your life for you to decide what it is you wish to make of this situation. Where will you go, and what will you do?

ANSWER: You have total freedom of choice. You are compelling yourself to return time and time again to this relationship because you know what will happen within it. Knowing that takes all the fear out of starting a new relationship. As long as you feel that there is a connection between the two of you, you will be unable to stop this cycle. Working together further complicates your situation.

It is not wrong to continue on with this “on-again-off-again” routine if you choose. It is time to ask yourself: what are you looking for? Are you looking for an abusive relationship where your partner is in total control and does not share anything with you? Or are you ready to find someone who can share your life and the decision making with you?

You were correct to assume that the past has been an indication of lessons that you chose prior to incarnating here. One of your life lessons is to have faith in yourself and your decisions. You need to realize that you are as important as he, and you are right to have a say in day-to-day operations. He has a way of convincing you that you need him, and your lesson is to see if you really do need him or if the decision to leave him is the completion of that lesson.

There are no invisible ropes binding you to him, as some people feel souls have between them. He is definitely on a mission to learn all about ego and control. You have assisted him and you can now decide to let him go his own way or continue to be of assistance at the risk of not completing your own lesson.

ANSWER:  We need to define relationship in order to answer your question. Any time you have an interchange with another being you are in a relationship, whether that presence is human, animal, or energetic. You are a very developed soul who has had hundreds of lifetimes in which you were restricted in the exchanges you had with others because you planned for long-term, committed relationships.

This life you decided to experiment with all the different types of relationships that humans could have. With each partnership you have had, whether in marriage, business, or friendship, you have learned how to read, understand, and share with those others for your mutual learning experience.

The relationships have been to facilitate life lessons. Take, for instance, your marriages: you needed to understand how strong you were and how not to be controlled by another. Every situation you have drawn to yourself has increased your wisdom. Your friends have been beacons lighting additional lessons by observation. You have experienced most of the possibilities.

You have had many wonderful relationships – some joyous, others painful, and others merely informative. What you think you need is one with a companion who adores you and constantly tells you how wonderful you are and that he/she can’t live without you. If you truly want that, start creating the energy to manifest such a meeting, but don’t be disappointed when it turns boring. You are an explorer.

You are never completely alone because your soul is connected to the universe. You can go inside and feel that shared unconditional love at any time.

A: It is refreshing to hear from one who is as open and honest about the human experience as you are. Even when you are aware of the finer aspects of a lesson it does not guarantee that you are going to be able to integrate the feelings with ease.

Your introduction to abandonment was met with a lot of issues related to your tender age. Those around you wanted to guard you against the angst of the situation and this resulted in your burying some of the experience. Other components of the event—your sense of guilt, and inability to forgive them or yourself—contributed to this situation and you were unable to work through the abandonment sensation fully.

During your current bout of abandonment you are also dealing with the need for nurturing. You have an urgent need to assume total responsibility for all the issues of your life. You question from a physical standpoint the spiritual implications of this whole human life cycle. The reactions of family and friends to this loss have also been heaped upon you.

You are now truly embracing the energy of your experience. You are not running or hiding from it. Know that any experience brings with it companion issues that are equally significant even if they do not appear as earth-shattering. Part of the reason this situation is facing you again is for the companion issues and not solely to completely integrate your feeling of abandonment.

Once you complete a lesson of this kind it does not just disappear. When you chose your life lessons they came as a set, some dependent upon the others. You learned the alphabet as a child, and though you don’t now revisit it as a set, that knowledge is necessary for you to read what is written here.

Follow the feelings of your heart and soul as the director of your play. Don’t try to over-analyze what you are experiencing; just feel it, cling to what will help you at the moment, and release the remainder into memory.

ANSWER: While the work you have done has made it possible for you to function again in the world, it has not gone far enough to allow you to trust anyone. You fear being vulnerable and subjected to further abuse. The abuse you suffered was one of the life lessons you chose before becoming human. It came with a whole set of other tests.

To be a victim you have to allow it to happen. Just as you finally came to realize you did not have to remain in the abusive situation and walked away, you have to deal with the accompanying situations. You have secreted a piece of yourself in a closet so you won’t be harmed. This creates a natural blockage from being open, or even presenting yourself, to other men.

The door keeper to your hidden emotions is your former abuser. When there is the chance you may allow that closed off portion to be alive and interactive again, your tormenter appears in your conscious mind. He is able to do this because you closed some of his negative energy up with the part of you that you felt needed protecting.

You picture glowing eyes because that is what makes him feel alive to you. He is your demon. Unconsciously you associate him with any other relationship with a male. To clear him from your unconscious you need to cut your ties to his energy. Bombard the thought of him with unconditional love. He is no longer to be feared but rather thanked for helping you to find your strength which has allowed you to move on.

If you no longer fear his memory, but see it as a learning experience which has taught you much about yourself, he will have no control over you or your dreams. If he appears in your dreams again, face him and tell him he is no longer needed, he has served his purpose and now should just move on since he can’t affect you any longer.

ANSWER: Your daughter is stuck emotionally at about ten years of age. Her adult body makes her think she knows what she is doing. She is in a constant state of fear – fear that she will be forced to take responsibility for things beyond her desire or that she will have to be on her own.

She has responded to these fears by finding that she is capable of manipulating her parents into doing everything she chooses not to do, and you have gone along with her program. You have been facilitating her dependence on you by always coming to her rescue. Her philosophy has become: “Why try to understand life when I can get someone else to take care of everything for me?”

Yes, she has used her parents’ greatest fear: that something will happen to their precious child if they don’t capitulate to her demands – the old “I’ll harm myself” threat. Your daughter has been using some variation on this theme for years. And you, not wanting her harmed, have copied the fraternity initiate’s paddling request of his brothers: “Please, sir, may I have another?”

She is still the carefree child allowed to go out and play with no regard to having first done her homework or her chores. She is not living the life she planned before coming to Earth because she refuses to learn anything about her life lessons. If she does not at least start on the lessons, she will have to do them all over again in another life.

She is really spinning out of control lately and it is time to apply the brakes. If you want to salvage this lifetime for her, set some firm guidelines on her behavior. She has to make the decision to change; you can’t just tell her to do so. Communication, where you get your full message across without stopping for her histrionics, is the answer.

ANSWER: Daydreaming is a practice that humans use for many purposes. It is a way to see yourself in situations which are not, or cannot occur, in your current life. It may also provide a link to your higher-self memories of past lives, both completed and uncompleted life lessons. It is a way to test out emotions that have not come to pass in the present life and that the soul is yearning to experience or recall.

You have not become a mother in this lifetime even though by your own admission you are naturally quite maternal. While you say you have not really craved kids in a long time, it was a pot that was simmering on the back burner with the fire never completely extinguished. You have uncompleted “mothering” and emotional lessons from a past life.

Your daydream was your unconscious desire to deal with these issues. You envisioned the optimal setup to complete your unfinished business. The daughter you brought into your daydream is the soul with whom you had a contract in a past life, where you blamed yourself for her untimely passing. You have open lessons of forgiving yourself, respecting the lessons of other souls, dealing with abandonment feelings, and being able to love yourself.

You may move through these issues in other daydreams where you allow yourself to be totally open to the facts of that past life, or by revisiting this life in a past-life regression. Search for the facts that bring up pain and then ask: “Why do I feel that way?” The answer will allow the lesson to surface. You may then make the choice of letting it remain or learning the lesson you left undone.

ANSWER: Life lessons have many layers to them. You are studying many things: romantic love, familial love, sexual attraction, emotional love, and energetic love. Your reactions to all of these can have beginnings, middles, and ends. What is fantastic for a while becomes boring, or the other person changes, and you find it time to move on to something else.

You also are dealing with control issues, how you let others dictate to you, and accepting that you have freedom of choice for what actions you take. Accepting that you can make choices brings in the need to feel comfortable with the responsibility for the outcome of those decisions. This is something you are just now realizing.

You are drawn to your husband because of the energy of past lives. In all those situations you were completely controlled by him, and since it worked then, you feel it is what you should do now. Don’t blindly agree to let this color your current decisions. The lessons you had in those lives had to do with realizing your own powers and taking your decision-making process back from others. You did not learn it then, and unless you make the move in this life, you will be seeing the same pattern in the future.

This new person is not your twin flame, but he is someone who cares for you without the element of trying to control you – that is why it feels so different. He is around to give you the sense of love without control. He is dealing with issues in his committed relationship that are similar to yours. You each have total freedom of choice, so what comes next is up to you.

This new sensation is love without demands. There are others who can elicit this same feeling from you if you give them the chance. It is time to evaluate your position with your husband, considering that he controls your world. Nothing is right or wrong in the process of learning, but you don’t have to stay stuck on one track; the future is up to you.

ANSWER: Your life journey is the path you are traversing at any given moment. It can vary from day to day depending on what you need to experience. Stop trying to over-think what particular lessons you set up for yourself. Just deal with them as they appear.

You have chosen a series of lessons that deal with everyday life and accomplishing something you have started and for the completion of which you have taken full responsibility. You fear that which you do not understand or know. You will not easily enter into anything unless the outcome is pre-determined. This is the result of a lack of confidence in your own feelings about things.

You listen to others because it is easier to follow their opinions than to assume responsibility and make the decisions yourself. You go back and forth, and that is why you have the reputation of not being able to make a commitment.

Your lack of decisiveness is nothing but fear. Face those fears. Ask what is behind them, and get rid of it. Mostly you will find a lack of self-confidence hiding in the background. Let yourself recount everything you have successfully completed, and know that, if you put effort in to it, you can do anything.

You need to start trying new adventures to learn more about your own abilities. Should you go to Boston? That is for you to decide with your freedom of choice. But stop selling yourself short just because you haven’t tried something before.     

ANSWER: There is much misunderstanding about the word karma. Within Eastern religions and practices, it implies that one who acts in a way that is considered to be negative is responsible for balancing that energy with performing a positive act of equal strength as a type of punishment.

In the spiritual practice, where negativity only exists on planet Earth, nothing is right or wrong and no one carries over punishments from one life to another or one act to another. The only type of punishment that exists is what society enforces against one whose actions go against the laws established to protect the majority of the people, and then that takes place in the same existence.

Souls come into a body (incarnate) to be able to use their freedom of choice to learn lessons. This is done in negative settings, since lessons are presented in negativity, and people have to see that they can learn by choosing the positive opposite of this negative test. If their choice has them going against the law, such as murdering another to see what ultimate control feels like, they must pay the consequences of Earth justice by going to jail. But that is not karma. They were aware beforehand what society thought about their actions and knew the resulting payment that would be required.

All souls undertake their Earth voyage as a solo journey; they aren’t connected to the actions of another and no one is dependent upon them. In other words, you are not indebted to anyone, and no one owes you anything. Be truthful and honest with yourself in the lessons you work through.

Understand and establish a strong degree of self-love for the difficult tasks you decided to come to Earth to perform. Acknowledge that you may involve others along the way in your travels, but the spiritual journey itself is your responsibility.

ANSWER:  A number of things have occurred here. First, you are dealing with a life lesson in which it is up to you to figure out why your unconscious believes you need to experience this pain. Hint: it has to do with guilt from some of your actions in a past life where you inflicted pain on others. Second, you have had difficulties with your body integrating nutrition, and that is why the maca worked only until your life lesson overpowered it. Be kind to your body.

When you have a powerful lesson and try to circumvent it by finding some way to cope with the alert signs in another fashion, your unconscious higher self will not let you just ignore it. At first, it thinks maybe you are dealing with the warning signs so that the problem is easier to see, but then when you don’t attack the initial cause, it helps reinforce the issue.

This is a spiritual, or life-learning journey, puzzle. The way to approach understanding is to ask yourself each time the pain appears: What is it that I am feeling deep inside? What am I fixated on? Go beneath the physical sensations themselves into the mental, emotional body. If a picture, a saying, a memory pops up, follow it to its origin.

Finding the causative action may happen during a deep meditation, a brief flashback, a déjà vu experience, or under hypnosis. Examining your state of mind at the time of the initial incident will allow you to see what has stuck around to cause you this reaction today. You need to examine forgiveness for yourself, removal of guilt, and other issues such as betrayal and abandonment.

The pain is like a ringing telephone. The noise is to get your attention and have you answer the call to see what you might be missing. Find the connections, understand them, and then you can reset your body to stop being a signaling device.

ANSWER: The symptoms you describe are some indications letting you know that you are facing, or have just gone through, one of the life lessons you chose to deal with during your lifetime. Doubts and fears are also signs of lessons.

With each experience you draw to yourself, you have total freedom of choice in what you do. If you ignore it and divert to something else, you have not dealt with it and learned what it was you wanted. The same situation will either stay around or come back with more force in the future until you pay attention to it. But spiritually nothing is right or wrong.

“Sinking into it,” as you have said, is one way of looking at a means to examine and understand what caused this feeling in the first place – i.e., your desired lesson. But if you only wallow in it and don’t work to find your options, it is a waste of your time. The time that understanding will take can be anywhere from instantaneously to never. Don’t set time limits or expectations concerning results.

Realizing the possibilities for dealing with your lessons will make you more vigilant about these important events in your life. You have a tendency to over-think your actions instead of just feeling what the answer is for your problems and how to settle them.

Step back from the suffering and sadness and ask yourself: Why is it with me? What is connected to it? How did it originate? Answering these questions will help solve what lesson these physical characteristics represent. When you know the problem, you can then start working on a resolution. Once you understand, you will see the pain and suffering disappear.

ANSWER: You and your mother are dealing – and in your case have dealt with – almost identical life lessons. The difference here is that you worked on your doubts and fears and integrated the knowledge into your life. Your mother still allows hers to haunt her and make her miserable. She will not be able to change unless she allows herself to modify her beliefs. She raised you in this fashion since she believed it was the way things were with both you and her.

One’s life is controlled by what rules and regulations they “believe” apply to their life and behavior. From a very early age, you and your mother were both told that you were dumb, lazy, and worthless, and would never amount to anything. You accepted this at first, but then you evaluated it from the way you had lived your life and knew that what you had been told was not the truth. You then deleted the defeatist beliefs and replaced them with the positive, successful abilities that you use today.

Your mother has difficulty accepting what you are saying because in her mind you are that damaged, worthless person she sees herself as being. What you are doing with showing her examples that defy her beliefs is one of the only ways for her to accept her erroneous feelings about herself.

Her only other hope of changing is to go on a spiritual quest to explore her beliefs about herself and her life. Right now, her life is surrounded with fear that she will do something wrong, which she anticipates and even expects to occur. To her there is no such thing as freedom of choice but rather everything is pre-determined and she knows her “lot in life,” having been told it often enough by others.

A spiritual venture would allow her, if she can accept it, to believe that she is as good as everyone else and that she determines her own rules and regulations for life. A hypnosis session, where she is introduced to her guides and some of the spiritual teachers, will soften the blow of how long she has kept herself locked into someone else’s beliefs. There is hope for her to accept, but the choice is still hers.

ANSWER: You chose what, to most of society, is a very interesting series of life lessons. There is nothing wrong with your choices, and it is just for you to decide what you can be comfortable with during the remainder of this cycle.

Your major problem is a lack of self-confidence, self-worth, and understanding all the implications of your conscious and unconscious desires. You can dream all you want, and nothing is wrong with that. It is only a problem with society if you jump across the line that demarcates what is considered criminal. Thinking about it, talking about it, and engaging in it with other consenting adults is perfectly all right.

Seeing someone sleeping or unconscious removes all the fear from you that they will not respond as you desire. As you have found out from your research, you are not alone in these attractions. Many want a safe environment for their sexual outlets, and a non-responsive person provides that. Unless you force yourself on an unwilling individual, there is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about.

You have never chosen this type of lesson before. It was chosen by you to spend time sensing the feelings involved and working out a way to accept and live with them. Enjoy the bodily reactions that your dreams allow you. Before you ever decide to act on your fetish, find other like-minded people with whom to do so.

ANSWER: How a person responds to an environment is completely within their control. Your sister-in-law is part of a lesson you chose requiring patience, honoring yourself and holding your own in the midst of negativity, and exercising freedom of choice.

You have to ask yourself what causes your violent reaction to her. You are not subjected to physical harm from her, so what is it that triggers your response? The actions of a person can harm you emotionally, such as she is doing, only if you allow her to have that effect on you.

There is a part of you that envies the attention focused on her and the fact that the rest of the family caters to her. Why is she any better than you? Well, she isn’t, unless you assign that label to her. Toxicity must be permitted to permeate your exterior for it to cause damage.

Accept that she is no better than anyone else. Accept that the opinions of other people all play into the life lessons they are working on, and honor their choices even when they are in opposition to your own. In the presence of negative energy, don’t react to it because that will only call more to the moment. Instead, fill your life with unconditional love for yourself first, and then for all the others so that they might understand the frivolous antics of your sister-in-law or the ones generating negativity.

Don’t judge what others are doing – that only plays into the ego workings of a non-spiritual person. Reject the negativity and bring in the positive love. Become an observer, just watching how everyone is making their decisions. This will help you not only to learn your own lessons but also to see if there is some other lesson out there you would like to study.

ANSWER: It is never wrong to wish to learn in whatever fashion seems the best for you. The decision to remove yourself from what is dysfunctional activity for you is never a bad one, because it will allow you to see from the outside what you have endured from the inside.

You have been drawn into your sister’s life lessons, actually being a part of them, and you do not need to remain. You can watch what happens to, and around, her and understand what you could learn from, and in what you do not need to partake.

She will move through her lessons only to the extent that she is ready. She craves love, and her assistance to others is how she feels she can obtain it. Being a victim is her “fallback” plan when she senses people are fed up with her or not noticing her the way she desires. She is very lonely and hates herself. Without any self-love, she finds ways to demand it from others.

This is her journey and all the decisions have to be hers. There is nothing you can directly do to, or for, her. Send unconditional love to her soul that she might recognize the lessons that plague her – or at least that is how she sees them now. This extra positive energy might open her eyes to her behavior.

It is important not to engage with her in any arguments because that fuels her energy of attention. Just say: “I know that is your opinion, but I don’t feel that way.” She can argue with what you think but not with what you feel, because she is not inside you.

All your future choices are yours. If you wish to create a distance between you, by all means, do so.

A. World traveler, what you are doing is remembering a locale where you have spent time in a previous life. Your soul recollects places where it has lived before and, if you allow yourself to be open to the experience, you will feel right at home. Since you were on vacation, you had no expectation of what was going to happen or what you wanted to observe, so you were “open” to all the energies associated with that particular location in your current time space, and also in all your past linear ages.

When you expect to travel from one location to another and reach a certain destination, your conscious mind only focuses on the things that you expect to be there. So, either you don’t see things that you do not expect to be there, or you do observe something but cannot recognize it. This is a common human trait. Your mind constantly lives either in the past, re-examining what you have done, or in the future, where you spend time building up expectations for the next moment or encounter.

What happened to you in Italy was an example of living in the present—the “now”. This state enables you to use your senses to their fullest extent because they are unoccupied with things you have no control over (the past and the future). Stay in the “now” and you will have a sense that you have become psychic because you will see, feel, smell, and taste things that did not exist for you before.

ANSWER: Your reflections were periods of pure meditation. Know that the time you spend replenishing yourself through meditation does not have to be a large amount of time; you just need to stop the flow of the negative thoughts and actions from the ego world and rebalance in positive loving energy.

The first step is to analyze where you are at the moment. You have made a number of decisions concerning the direction of your journey, so merely keep doing this. Nothing you have done in the past is wrong. Each and every thing was learning what you feel you want to do, and not what others are telling you to do.

Your biggest problem is the urgency to hurry, hurry, hurry. Your expectations do not allow for the learning process to be completed—you want results right now. You are letting the judgment of the ego world determine for you whether you are happy. No one is happy 100% of the time if they are on Earth. The planet has an equal amount of negativity for the great positivity you seek.

You are also never going to be able to increase love and happiness for others if you do not have it for yourself. You are blocking the free flow of energy. You are trying to dictate the way you want things to go instead of stepping into the flow and just letting go. The flow will always take you where you need to go.

You don’t need a huge amount of time to enter your previous reflective states. Shut off the chatter that is the world around you and listen to the silence of the love enveloping you. When negative thoughts or doubts arise, stop them in their tracks and envision the opposite positive effect. Don’t fight your work; see what you can learn from it or how you can change it to accomplish your goal.

ANSWER:  Your boyfriend chose very difficult lessons for this lifetime. The important concept here is that he was the one who chose these lessons before he came to Earth. He wanted to experience being controlled in many different ways – through the legal system, his mother, and even his love for you. His means of setting up most of these encounters was through the use of rebellion against the rules of others.

He chose his mother because she was controlling of all his actions from the beginning. His trouble with the authorities arose as he tried to “show” her that he could do whatever he wanted even if she didn’t like it. The law then showed him there were penalties for not doing what society wanted. After his release from prison, when he had thought he would be free, he found himself under the control of his mother again, and the parole authorities, and decided he had learned enough.

He never intended to spend a long life under the thumb of another. His suicide was so he could go Home and evaluate what he had learned and set up for his next desired experiences.

You agreed to be in his life to be where you are right now. The lessons from this are what it feels like to be abandoned, to explore the guilt you feel for not doing more or being able to prevent his departure, and finding the strength within you to move on and live your own life.

You can communicate with him from the Other Side but cannot establish a physical relationship. He is currently going through the debriefing process in which he examines all the things that happened and figures out what he learned and what he would do differently. He will be engaged in numerous projects when he finishes.

Souls do not sit around and pine for those left behind – and those left behind should remember what they had but move on to connect with others who are still physical.

ANSWER: Nothing is right or wrong. The way you approach your life is up to you. The lessons and the journey are different for each person, but remember, the journey is yours alone. No one else is having the same life lessons as you. No one can determine how you complete, or fail to complete, what you had chosen for this voyage. You all have total freedom of choice. The primary lesson all souls embark upon is understanding that they do have freedom to choose how they are going to live their life.

When you give your life up for others by always assenting to their demands, you are saying that their life is more important than your life, their lessons more significant than yours. You want others to like you, and you have convinced yourself that will not happen unless you do exactly what they ask of you. It is fine to live that way, but you are not using your freedom of choice so you are not learning the lesson you chose about responsibility for your own growth.

Someone can control you only to the extent to which you allow it. If you want to take back your power to learn your lessons, you must learn to say no. You find it difficult to say no because you do not love yourself; that is why you feel you must have the love of others.

Spiritual growth is defined by how many of the lessons you came to learn have been completed. It is also about how you have accepted and been able to use your core essence of unconditional love, manifestation, and creation. Decide what you want to accomplish in this life: being a servant for others, or learning about yourself and growing spiritually. They are mutually exclusive. Whatever you don’t do in this lifetime you can always come back and do again in your next life.

ANSWER: Souls come into the duality of the planet in order to have a physical body with which to help them find out what powers and abilities are intrinsic to their essence from being a piece of Source energy. They had decided before coming to Earth what particular lessons they desired to work on while here. Those tasks were not elaborated specifically but were general in nature.

For instance, if one wished to study addiction, they could have set themselves up in a family where the parents were addicts and the temptation of following their example was prominent. How is this a lesson, you might ask? Well, the soul has total freedom to choose what actions they are going to take in life. Are they going to follow society and use ego judgment to determine their place? Or are they going to turn inward, using their energy to evaluate the alternatives to decide what they may learn from and what is destructive?

Having decided what lessons to work on, a soul will always be in the right position to have the choice of direction. Thoughts are completely human. In this instance, they come from what the person believes is true from the input presented by those around them. If they don’t want to make decisions themselves, they will follow the thought patterns of society, in this case other addicts, and never follow a non-addictive route, therefore not learning their lesson.

The only way to work through lessons is to set aside the group mentality and go inside to the inner wisdom. Feeling, not thinking, is the only way to move forward spiritually. Since most humans work through their actions in their heads, it is important that they are relying on the feelings coming from within and not just the opinions of others. Thoughts are not pre-determined. This is the laboratory classroom space for working out the answers.

ANSWER: There are two ways to look at your dilemma. No matter how much you understand the abilities of your essential soul, that does not give you any inkling into the particular lessons you chose for the life you are currently living. Also, knowing that you are a piece of Source energy will allow you to approach the “mysteries of life” with a little less sense of overwhelm but won’t give you any clues as to why you are incarnate.

Until you uncover a lesson, the amnesia still rules. You are forced to follow the signposts of the doubts and fears announcing it to you. The help knowledge gives you is an affirmation that you do possess freedom of choice in being able to change your status and belief systems. Many people never understand that they have that power. And even some who are made aware of the fact disregard it and look to others to continue making choices for them, just as their parents and teachers always have.

With some souls, their choice of lessons includes becoming aware of their divine status and using some of those incredible abilities to shape their Earthly existence. That is the ultimate human mission. Mostly, one wants to merely understand what a trait such as betrayal feels like and how it can affect one’s entire life.

When a person seriously attacks their doubts and fears and reaches a realization of their chosen lessons, they still might flounder with accepting and working through and with a lesson until no aspect of it continues to interfere with their life. Knowing the process doesn’t speed it along, because you must attack the parts in a sequential manner.

It is rare for a soul to complete all their chosen lessons and become conversant with their essential powers and abilities in a lifetime. It is possible, though, for a soul to choose to come for the purpose of “knowing” their true self without also choosing lessons.

I hope this comforts you and allows you to see that, with or without knowledge, you aren’t cheating or getting cheated in life.

ANSWER: You are asking for a way to get rid of all the indications of your life lessons without learning the reason for their presence. Negativity is the outward way for you to know you have an issue with which you have not dealt.

Spiritual growth may be undertaken while there are still lessons to be completed. It should make it easier for you to understand that each task must be handled separately. It is possible to let go of ego and judgment and still not have recognized a lesson signal in your physical being.

You are dealing also with beliefs that you feel you cannot overcome. Your foot is showing you that your movement in life is being hindered. Since the problem appears in your left foot, you are hesitating in moving forward with a project because you fear you will not succeed. The headaches are a reflection of internal balances that vacillate each month, and an indication that you feel overwhelmed with your life in general.

Your son and all the others you mentioned are facing their own difficulties. It is up to them to discover these issues and decide how to manage them, and to learn about themselves from uncovering the answers.

Have each ask: “Why am I feeling this way?” whenever a problem arises. By going into the feeling, you can arrive at the cause, which is the lesson you are trying to understand. Once you know the message, you can resolve it and not have to face it again.

ANSWER: One of the lessons you came to Earth to experience has to do with learning all about the different types of love. When the body thinks that romantic, sexual love is the ultimate, all else pales by comparison. Granted, the momentary physical bliss that may be experienced at the time of orgasm is one of the most dynamic neurological sensations of which the body is capable, and one of the reasons some souls incarnate.

The Earth journey is not just about the ability to achieve stimulation of the nerves in the sexual parts of the body. Many life lessons occur with bodies that are incapable of any sensations in that area, and working through the angst that fact   creates is the test.

A total love between two people is one that is unconditional and sharing and in which sexual sensation is unimportant. The purest of loves is the kind experienced at Home with the Source. There you have no body and therefore the sensation you crave does not exist—being incapable of being produced anywhere other than on Earth. Yet at Home you are continually in bliss, not just for a few moments, without needing a physiological response.

There are a lot of things each human sees or hears that others have done and would like to duplicate. Many people dream of being a star athlete, yet their bodies are not designed for sports. They are still complete humans and dedicate their life to other activities such as music or art.

You have fallen prey to all the hype about romantic love being necessary for a fulfilling lifetime. You planned, however, to see what it would be like to be different from the masses. Your lesson is to accept who you are and find ways to satisfy your needs in some other form.

ANSWER: Souls are eternal pieces of Source energy existing solely in unconditional love. They are not affected or influenced by negative events in which they engage while having a physical experience. Therefore, an abortion is something with which their physical shell deals while the essential soul observes and learns. The only long-term influence is the soul’s acquisition of knowledge and perhaps wisdom.

A soul having a physical experience is aware of everything their human body is doing. They watch and gain the knowledge arising from the lessons, such as abortion, that they had chosen to enact. There are, it is true, mental, physical, and emotional effects on the human body from a lesson such as abortion because of its historical energy in the societal thinking. It can be more or less egregious depending on the religious affiliation of the mother having the abortion. This, however, is an Earthbound event; it does not transmit any of its physical energy into the nonphysical existence.

When the lesson of an abortion is decided before coming to Earth, the soul choosing that event will make it known that they want to go through the emotional turmoil of the act. For that reason, if it is definite, no soul will be assigned to the fetus. If it is possible – maybe or maybe not, then the soul assigned to the fetus is well aware of the fact that their body might be aborted prior to viability.

Since the incoming soul is aware of its possible interruption, they are prepared for that eventuality. The human mother is the one who deals with the consequences of her actions. This is a chosen lesson, and it has to do with working through the negative/positive implications of aborting a fetus while she is still in her physical form. The resulting energy does not carry over after leaving that body unless the soul chooses not to understand it as a lesson to work through and wishes to return to it in a subsequent lifetime.

“Healing” is a matter of understanding why the abortion was chosen. Going into the subconscious and finding the causation allows the human to decide how much they are going to allow the act to continue affecting them. A hypnosis session visiting the decision process before birth, or a deep meditation doing the same thing, will provide the answers you desire.

ANSWER: Don’t worry about choosing an unencumbered, less-difficult life for once. You are an elder soul who has incarnated hundreds of times, and sometimes you choose to work on very difficult issues that you were unable to understand in a prior life, or something you have not tried before. Rarely, after a series of hard lives, you choose to come to share your wisdom and have a little rest and relaxation on the only place where you can enjoy the physical sensitivities of a human body.

You are learning and expanding your understanding and wisdom – as you have noticed – when you reface a previous lesson, remember how you handled it before, and send it on its way without difficulty. Your environment would be devastating to many, but because of your use of essential powers and abilities, it seems almost tame to you.

Observation allows a soul to learn many things from varying viewpoints all at the same time. And guiding others from your knowledge is a sacred task you have chosen throughout many lifetimes.

When we advise others that older souls choose more difficult lessons, we mean that they often want to complete something they started and were unable to finish in another incarnation. You are taking the time to step back from individual tasks, observe other possibilities you may not have considered, and pass on what you have learned to those in need.

Life is so full of love because you allow it. Continue on with this blissful existence – you never know what you will choose if you decide to come back.

ANSWER: You are a soul having a human experience. Your soul never dies or changes; you simply make different choices of what you wish to experience. You are, therefore, like the protagonist in a series of plays or video games. Each life on Earth is a new part in which to fit the situations you wish to face for your learning.

Most people don’t think of their battles to learn lessons in the negativity of Earth as entertainment, but when your soul returns Home, it frequently would agree with that assessment.

All souls have access to all the knowledge experienced by other souls living their own series of human lives. In the physical, knowledge is found in books, videos, Wikipedia, and YouTube. But how much of that knowledge is understood by people unless they have experienced it for themselves? They have the knowledge, but not the wisdom to apply that knowledge for their own use.

You can read all about running a marathon, about the “wall” you reach after a great distance, about pacing, about hydration and nutrition, but until you actually run the race you do not have the wisdom of the process. Each human life is a search for wisdom that can be used and applied to subsequent lives.

Source and the pieces of Source know only perfection; they have not experienced activities in life to allow them to know what to do when faced with a particular situation in physical life that is not perfection. If you have only ever lived in a moderate weather zone, you do not know how to deal with super-hot, freezing, or cyclonic conditions.

You can dress as if you understand the situation, or talk as if you have done the deed, but until you have the experience, you can’t duplicate the results or feelings of a participant.

ANSWER: You are thinking that there should be more to your life then you are experiencing. Your work in both fields is tremendously beneficial to those you serve. We cannot tell you what is right or wrong because that interferes with your freedom of choice but we would encourage you to find a way to continue to pursue both of these beautifully fulfilling talents.

Regressions are becoming more popular as the media is recognizing the validity behind the concept of reincarnation. Word of mouth is the fastest and best way to become known. Short demonstrations at hypnosis events, spiritual fairs, and even at libraries and community centers go a long way to spread awareness, interest, and a demand to partake.

Within your mental health work there are ways to bring in the hypnosis to lessen otherwise untraceable problems plaguing your clients. Discussions and workshops for your associates will introduce them to all the benefits available. If you take a few of these steps you will find you have created a demand for your expertise.

Understand also that there may be some people who seek your services that will resist your efforts regardless of what they tell you. That is their problem alone and there is not anything you can do about it. Don’t be vested in the outcome of your work. Your intuition will assist you in finding the direction necessary for the progress of your clients.

The universe, your guides, and the guides of perspective clients will enable people to learn of your services. When you are ready, place a virtual signpost out into the universe that the “office is open and ready” and your phone will start to ring.

ANSWER: You are a very old soul who has come to Earth many times and now came to experience advanced lessons combining a lot of minor things you learned before. This is true also of your children. Each of you had different things planned for this life by way of mental, emotional, and spiritual challenges.

Some of your lessons were so intense that the energy of one of you had an impact on the others; that is why so many things repeated, such as the hospitalizations. Your major task was the discovery and understanding of love and all its aspects. This life has been a search for love and the unconditional love that is inside you, creating your essence. You have not gained a connection with this aspect of self-love, nor an acceptance of the reason you came to be a human.

When one does not have a connection to their soul, they strike out with anger or retreat into depression. Depression is merely not having any idea (or impression) of who you are. You lack a sense of your purpose and direction.

Giving up or running away through suicide, being rejected by someone you desperately want to love you, bringing diseases and illness into your life to create a dependency on others are all prime life lessons. All this human “suffering” is to gather more wisdom about finding, dealing with, and gaining knowledge of the powers and abilities you have as a soul when you will allow yourself to accept those possibilities.

ANSWER: When you are in an environment of instability, loss, sadness, and constant change, it is difficult not to be affected by it. You have been bombarded by one disaster after another. With each event your world was rocked and split apart. It was impossible to keep only positive thoughts in your mind. The friends and family around you aided in intensifying the negativity by constant condolences and reminding you of your misfortune.

You now have the ability to reshape the rest of your life and the way you see and feel it. You cannot deny or ignore what has happened, but you can put it in the past and not dwell in its energy. The way you feel about and observe your daily life is a choice. You can pick up the past sadness, or you can look out on the world as a new day that has yet to be recorded.

Take each moment of each day and find something bright, happy, and cheerful to say and think. When darkness, unhappiness, and insecurity appear, stop what you are doing and examine the causes of those emotions. Replace each with a positive intention for the moment.

You don’t have to rewrite your entire life right away. Take baby steps. Your son is still in shock and he is trying to recapture his father’s presence by denying that anything has changed. As you redirect your thoughts and actions, he will begin to accept the truth of your situation.

You have the ability to create and manifest whatever you wish for your future world. It may be one of enjoyment or sorrow – you are the person who decides.

ANSWER: Positive energy drives things as well. Negative energy is the one that drives society and you are very conscious of things around you, so you have focused on the negative. It is also the way lessons are learned – to choose positive over negative.

You are pinpointing several of your life lessons. They basically deal with your self-concept of responsibility, with guilt being the result of perceived failure in both how you feel about what you perceive you had agreed to do and what you were able to accomplish due to human restrictions.

First remember that all souls are where they incarnated for the experiences that particular environment is able to provide. Each soul is on their own path and is not dependent upon any other – even those sharing the same experiences. So, your siblings chose to be here to experience what they have chosen as lessons. You were placed in the situation of responsibility because you chose to work through the emotions you are now dealing with. No one would have been presented with these factors except through choice.

The guilt you are now feeling arises from a misguided belief that you had a responsibility to them, which is not correct. You created an obligation because of a need to make their life better than yours. That was not why you came; it was to see what you could do with your lot in life. You have done this type of lesson in the past and have never accepted that your life is for yourself and not others.

The way your siblings and son feel about you is a reflection of how you think about yourself. They are all looking at things from their selfish perspective, which is one of their lessons, and seeing it mirrored in you because you blame yourself for their not being able to complete their chosen lessons. Each soul has only itself to bring into awareness. When you accept yourself by understanding why you came, you will be able to move forward.

ANSWER:  Every soul’s reason for coming to Earth is to recognize who they are and why they are here. You choose to help with this by having life lessons dealing with self-doubt, confidence issues, lack of acceptance with an overall need for constant validation. Secondary to these, you are searching for your passion in life.

You are very energetic and souls “feel” your strength whenever they are near. This draws them to you to learn what wisdom you have already gathered about this Earth existence. This is the reason those who are searching along the spiritual path come to you wherever you are.

It is true that not all people are ready to explore their nonphysical attributes. You worry this will jeopardize your job within the professional boundaries of the very ego-based physical community. No one will criticize your beliefs as long as they do not interfere with the performance of your employment.

You are projecting onto others the fears you have of discovery. You have not totally accepted all the wisdom behind the knowledge you possess. Your answer to this dilemma is to run away and not be in a position to share your spiritual awareness. This is your right, but it goes against your sense as a teacher and guide.

You need to decide what you want to accept about yourself. Your understanding is spot on and you instinctively know how to pass it on to others. A conversation with co-workers that does not interrupt your work is not against any work policy. Examine what you are giving to those who come to you, and see the benefits you provide.

Do you wish to identify yourself in this fashion? Then use this to validate the great job you are doing. Stop running away because you think you will be reprimanded, and accept that you are fulfilling a desire you came with. Love that you have found a type of passion that serves so many.

ANSWER: You are getting glimpses of past-life situations in which the lessons have not been completely discharged. You need to go into the feelings that are deep inside this phobic reaction. What is the exact feeling that you get at the time the response begins? This is your answer and your solution.

You have had many lives with this person and each has ended with unresolved issues. First one of you has tried to control the other and then you have switched roles. In the presence of the other, neither one of you can feel your individual power because you have constantly given it to the other, allowing it to be taken away from you.

You must become totally aware of your own power and not let anyone or anything remove it from you. When you are comfortable with keeping the power to yourself, go into the presence or thoughts of this other person and feel them pull against your power. Confront your feelings on the situation and you will be able to work out this old rivalry. It is as though you are part of an invisible tug-o’-war with the rope being pulled back and forth. One of you has to feel enough to let go of the rope.

ANSWER: Your boyfriend shielded you to a large extent from the negativity of the world. It was always there, but you just didn’t have to deal with it. You two had  agreed that there would come a time when he would depart so that you would be forced to step up and make your own way through life without protection. He is a soul mate of yours and you have shared a number of lifetimes together. He is watching over you and trying to give you advice from the other side.

Your sensitivity is both a gift and a curse. It is a curse because you cannot hide from the negative experiences, and a blessing because it points you to the things on which you have to work. The human incarnation is a schooling in using freedom of choice to take the lessons desired, shown to you through negativity, and turn them into positive understandings that can then be used on other negative situations.

Used properly, it is a win/win affair. Take each fear and doubt, ask why it is there, go into the process that brought it to you, understand that it is only a lesson, find a way to defuse the constant aggravation, and make it a positive learning forever. You rebuild one step at a time. Each conquered fear makes your burden less. As you strip off all the difficulties, you will feel the beautiful unconditional love energy of the universe.

Go slowly as you alter your life. You will find it is not as difficult as you have allowed yourself to feel it to be.

ANSWER: Your major problem is your expectation that you have to allow everything into your consciousness in order to be “in the now.” You are a hyper-sensitive being who picks up on the energies around you. What you have to do to balance up your life is learn to focus your sensitivity.

Start with separating the negative and positive energy in which you find yourself. Take anything you perceive as negative and block it from coming into your awareness. You can do this by surrounding your body in a white bubble of positive loving energy. When you seek refuge in sleep, it is usually to escape the negativity, which is like having a loudspeaker blasting irritating music at you constantly.

You are frequently under observation by negative beings because they envy your positive energy and want to feed on it. You can chase them away by intentionally sending unconditionally loving energy to some inanimate object. They will be drawn to that object to snack, and you can direct your attention elsewhere.

During meditation you will only go as far as you allow yourself to travel. You have not set any limits. When you begin your session, have an idea of what you want to happen during your trip. Do you want to go someplace to meet a guide to have a conversation and learn more about being a soul? Travel to an interesting place? Re-experience a past incarnation? You are the driver – you just have not been conscious of the fact. Map your destination and you will go only to that place.

ANSWER: You are hiding behind the definition you have attached to yourself – that of being hypersensitive. To be affected you have to allow yourself to engage in the energy around you. You always have the ability to put up shields and have that energy bounce off you. You have an intense curiosity and feel that if you are not aware of everything going on around you, you will miss something or get taken advantage of by someone.

In your practice of healing you have convinced yourself that in order to be of the most help, you need to take on the problems of your clients. Nothing is further from the truth. Healers are conduits for the Universal Life Force energy to cycle through you into the client. The rest of the process is up to the recipient to decide what to do with the healing. Stop being vested in the outcome. If they do not become “better,” it has nothing to do with you.

All these “feelings” you describe are lessons you wanted to understand. Some did come from past lives where you were unable to completely deal with them, and some are new to this life. The way to find the source of these emotions is to clear your mind of anything else and, taking one of them at a time, ask your unconscious where it first appeared in your life.

You will find they are each connected to a life issue with which you have avoided dealing. Examine the issue as if it belongs to someone else and advise yourself that it is only a lesson to be learned and understood. Once you see that it is nothing magical or controlling over you, then you can proceed and never have to see it again.

ANSWER: Your beautiful son has chosen a most difficult journey this lifetime. You, your husband, family members, associates, and medical personnel are all part of the learning lessons surrounding his condition. It is a three-part lesson: first the anguish which the disorder and fears for the future immediately bring forth. This is to be dealt with by learning to live in the moment and embrace what is happening now. Look at his existence as a challenge that allows you all to find out more about yourselves. No one is alone in this play; everyone has assigned roles.

The second part of the lesson is in deciding what is best for him both from his and from your perspective, not what your interpretation of society’s wishes would have you do. It is, for example, futile to try and get him to reach a normal height, because that is not a possibility. To subject him to procedures that are potentially harmful with a promise of a few more inches is society’s theme; what is yours? Accept the materials you have to work with and move forward.

The third part is to be aware of improving his physical condition, as long as you are doing it for his sake and not to try to make him normal. He is beautiful just as he is but some intervention will be necessary with his physical growth complications. Initially you will have to make those decisions for him until he is old enough to make them on his own.

Live this life fully with him by letting your heart, not your head, make your determinations. Your head is merely filled with the thoughts of others, things that they have talked or written to you about. Your heart is connected to your soul and to the universe; it will give you truer indications of your son’s intent for his life.

ANSWER: As hard as it may be to accept, your daughter chose the lessons she is living. Trauma and discomfort highlight her emotions. You saw this from the way she struggled even through her birth. She is sensitive, but she is also very strong when she wants to be.

It is important not to over-react to her difficulties because she senses the anxiety of those around her and believes she has to add their fears on top of her own. There is no such thing as “normal.” You create your own reality, and if you think something should occur in a certain way, anything but that is considered abnormal.

Everyone is different and approaches life in their unique way. Your daughter sees the fear those around her express, and for that reason she feels she should respond in kind. Encouraging her to find things at which she can excel will alter the “broken” title she has attached to herself.

She will find music to be very soothing. Expressing herself in any of the arts will bring her into the mainstream educational system. Through her natural talent she will gather a group around her who have similar interests. She does not have to be a cheerleader or a sportsperson to succeed in life.

Right now, she is her own worst critic because she tries to compare herself to her classmates. Let her understand that she is special and doesn’t have to follow the boring path that everyone else has chosen.

ANSWER: Your see yourself as a dependent type person who does not wish to take responsibility for your actions. That is why you crave to have someone lead you and make the decisions for you so that if you are unhappy with the results it is not your fault but the one who led you. This is a possibility but it is the opposite of spiritual growth.

To grow in awareness of your soul and your journey here to Earth you must first accept that you have total freedom of choice for all decisions in life. Without exercising these choices you are not learning the power that is within.

You were drawn to the literature, not as a unique pattern for the development of your soul but merely as an example of one way it may be done. Everyone’s experience is different. It is for that reason that each soul must make their own decisions in order to grow in understanding and wisdom.

The person you need to be helping right now is yourself. You cannot help or love another beyond the extent to which you help and love yourself particularly the man to whom you are drawn. Find that peaceful place you seek inside you in the unconditional love energy which is the soul that animates your human body. Shut off all distractions and noises and search within for that quiet place. It takes work, solitary work. Someone else is not going to be able to do it for you. Once you find your essence you are part of a bigger thing – the universe!

ANSWER: A lesson that presents itself to you does not mean that you have to follow through with the difficulties after you recognize it and make choices concerning it. Your choice here was to continue to let yourself be abused or to do something to move away from it. You chose to separate yourself from the problem and therefore completed that lesson.

Your feeling horrible is only because you have a desire to help others, although you have no spiritual responsibility to do so. Send love to your friend that she might understand her lessons and take the time to work on them. That choice is hers alone.

Finding happiness comes only when one can love the life they have and accept that they have an opportunity to fill it with joy. She has a long way to go to reach such a point, but there is always the possibility for awareness.

You understand that it is important to love oneself, which is why you have no problem being alone and your friend can’t stand being alone; she hates herself and her life. She also depends upon her interpretation of what she believes others are thinking for her own piece of mind.

You appreciate that to enter fully into your spiritual potential, you need to walk away from ego judgment and into loving evaluation. What you have done here is to evaluate that you could no longer subject yourself to her demands and negativity and needed to walk away. That does not make you a “bad” person because there is no judgment here.

ANSWER:  When a person has specific expectations concerning all aspects of their future, they are asking for frustration and disappointment. These lofty goals are all done consciously with no knowledge of, or consideration for, the unconscious choices of life lessons your soul made before coming to Earth.

It is all well and good to demand that things occur in a particular fashion because you have consciously decided they should be so. However, life does not work that way. If you as a soul had determined that you wanted to experience a life of poverty until you learned lessons of initiative, hard work, and the true value of things, your wishing as a human will not allow you to be rich until the lessons are completed.

Attaining enlightenment about the journey of the soul depends on being fully aware of the challenges and opportunities around you. You will unconsciously draw to yourself the things you had said you want to experience – such as a particular set of circumstances or a location. Where your thinking convinced you that you wanted or needed to be may not have provided the situations you needed to have in order to fulfill your path.

Your “mess” contains all the lessons you chose. Stop fighting your surroundings just because you didn’t imagine yourself there, and look for what is there to gain knowledge from. Live in the present moment and not in the dream future you created. Once you open your eyes, inside your “mess” you will see doorways through which to exit with the knowledge it presents.

While it is very true that you have the ability to create and manifest whatever you want, it can only happen after you have understood your lessons and freed yourself to then choose something different. You are being a little like a spoiled brat stamping their foot and saying I want everything my way right now. Your eternal soul is much more powerful than the unhappy child you are portraying, and it was the one who determined the direction of this lifetime.

ANSWER: This is a life lesson for all those involved with your brother-in-law. He chose this as a particular lesson in lack of control and acceptance of all possibilities. His choice of leaving at this time has nothing to do with the journeys of his family and friends. Many of them signed on to experience being abandoned, having guilt for an inability to be of help, and anger for his perceived selfishness in leaving. He is only responsible for the lessons he is learning in this lifetime.

The positive attitude that all members of the family are showing is another lesson. They are not going into the negative and giving up on possibilities. All things are possible when faith in oneself is involved. This situation has brought together this family like nothing else has ever done. This, too, is a lesson in co-operation and caring for others and not just oneself.

When your brother-in-law is ready to transition, it will be because he has finished the lessons he came to Earth to learn. The family and others will continue on with their lives, recognizing how much strength they have that they have never used before. Several have never taken responsibility for their own actions, relying on him to carry the whole burden. This is part of their continuing lessons to hold themselves up and take care of themselves. If he stayed they would never learn their own lessons.

A question must be asked of all involved: Who are they concerned with in this situation, him or themselves? This is a primary lesson. Can you only see how his illness is affecting you? Or are you concerned about what is the desired path for him? Lessons will continue to arise as the event unfolds further.

ANSWER: Some of the most spiritual people of our time—Mother Teresa, Gandhi, Sai Baba, and Pope John XXIII—were truly humble individuals. Being humble, which is to walk away from your ego, has absolutely nothing to do with bashfulness or embarrassment. A humble soul is not arrogant, proud, haughty, or assertive, but moves forward in a state of reflection and inner peace.

To be embarrassed or bashful, one must think one is supposed to be something one is not. This is a judgment of the ego. Your feelings do not result from humility but are actually life lessons you are not confronting. A very essential ingredient of being humble, and understanding yourself as a soul, is to love everything about yourself. Your being embarrassed or bashful demonstrates your belief that you are not all that you should be.

But who is telling you that? It is coming from your experiences and memories inside. Whenever you sense any discomfort, stop and say “what am I feeling?”—not just the discomfort but the exact sensation. Once it is identified, ask why it is there and/or where it came from. You are going to find that beliefs given you by other people during your upbringing are now influencing the way you feel about yourself.

Your life lessons can be learned, and then the next step is to find if there is anything else that is preventing you from loving yourself. You came from Source and are as magnificent as it is, so you don’t have to be anything but unconditionally loving and humble. Use that training which creates a reflective state resulting in true inner peace, and be at peace with your life.

ANSWER: When you walk the spiritual path, you do straddle the third and higher dimensions. You have to have some contact with the third because you still inhabit a physical body and need physical things to nourish, clothe, and care for it. You are in the higher dimensions because you choose to reside as much as possible in the unconditional love found there.

When you begin the transition into more and more time spent outside the duality of the third, you leave behind those who choose only to reside in the arena of the ego where they can “prove” themselves to others through constant comparisons. Judgment rules here. Above the third, judgment falls away and all that is used is a sense of evaluation whether you need to re-experience an act or if you have learned all you need to know from it.

The speed of growth has to be an individual decision. A soul comes into a body to learn about its essence of unconditional love and eventually to bring past wisdom in to use in the current life. If you ask those stuck in the third, they will tell you that you must stay with them. Your ego will assert that you need to remain because you have obligations there. On a spiritual level, the only obligations that you have are to an understanding of self.

As people get more education, they are less interested in spending their time with those who do not understand the concepts they spent so much time and effort to learn—they have to move on. But, as always, a soul has complete freedom of choice.

ANSWER: Sometimes when one has a dream like this it is because they are having a spontaneous past life remembrance. This little girl is a piece of your soul, otherwise called by many, an inner child. When one sees an inner child running around in their dreams it is something they have frequently set up before coming into that incarnation to help with a life lesson.

An inner child gets fragmented from the conscious soul in many different ways. Most instances are from the present life where a traumatic incident has caused the person to break off a fragment of their self to protect their senses from dealing with the trauma. The inner child then holds on to the negative feelings and keeps the whole, or the consciousness of the individual, from having to deal with the fear associated with the event.

In some cases inner children may have so much emotional disturbance surrounding them that they prevent an aspect of the soul from uniting with the soul essence between lives and therefore the separation carries over into the next reincarnation. This is what has happened to your soul. In a past incarnation you were traumatized to the point of hysteria, ran away by compartmentalizing that fear within an inner child, and did not reintegrate during that lifetime. Your inner child is trying to get your attention to get you to work out this energetic prison so you may become whole.

To reconnect you must delve back into that past experience. This can be most easily done through a past-life regression, a hypnosis session tracing back the energy trail of extreme fear, or going into deep inner heart work that allows the terror to surface. It would be almost impossible for you to do this on your own since the pain is so deep and severe. Contacting the subconscious mind during hypnosis will speed up your soul retrieval.

ANSWER: Your mother had very basic lessons for this lifetime about love, hate, self-confidence, self-worth, and sharing with others. Her whole life has been lived in fear that she would be discovered as being worthless. Her early life was a constant message of not being good enough and not being loved.

When she met your father she thought she could change the way people saw her. She didn’t know how to do this, so she decided to go it on her own by existing in the midst of everyone else. She did only what she had or was forced to do for others, and the rest of her existence consisted of her alone.

She does not know what love is and definitely does not know how to love anyone else. She cannot sense or feel emotions, so everything is black and white with no dimensions.

Many of her lessons have been combined with things you wished to learn. Love is a big lesson of yours, as is taking back your power from those who want to take it from you. Understanding that the only soul you have responsibility for is yours allows you to not feel guilty about the choices she made and your lack of a need to maintain contact with her.

She has not succeeded in completing most of her life lessons so she will have to decide to do them again in another life and another fashion. This was one of her first times down here to Earth so she had little experience in working through her lessons.

Thank her for the opportunity she has given you to learn from observing and dealing with her. Love her soul for the fact that it chose to come at all and work with what were difficult lessons for her.

ANSWER: You have examined persistence in detail, and there is no longer a need to stay in this position for more such experience. A soul creates its own reality by the choices it makes and the beliefs by which it lives. Sometimes you find yourself lured into a situation just for you to realize (1) that it is something that does not serve your learning process and (2) that there is nothing wrong with admitting that and moving on to something else.

When you admit something isn’t working, or right for you, and you change direction, you are taking responsibility for your life and, by default, adding to your knowledge. It is time to do only what “feels” like it resonates with you. It is time to work on those goals of self-confidence, independence (being responsible for your own decisions), and finding something about which you can become passionate.

There is no hierarchy in the lessons you chose. Once you have recognized and worked through a particular lesson, you can let it go if you can see similar situations before you get too wrapped up in them. That is not to say that the universe may not plop another example down in front of you – like this job – but you will not learn anything new by repeating the process over again.

The only priority a soul has with its lessons is that it attempts to completely learn the basis for choosing as many as possible in each existence. But there are no rules or requirements. Create a life that will allow you to be yourself and acquire as much wisdom about human living as you desire.

ANSWER: Everything occurring within the duality is a life lesson. Negativity only exists on Earth, so it is the only place where one might experience the hideous events you mention.

A soul chooses the various categories of experiences it desires. Generally there is not a determination of exactly what will occur – just that they want to be in control in situations involving others. If one’s journey includes all aspects of sexual activities, that might lead them to rape or sexual enslavement. If they are studying loss of control, it would contain acts of rage possibly leading to murder.

These facts are their lessons; they are not something they fall into because a gentler lesson has not been completed. All lessons are undertaken in negativity, which is why they can only be engaged in while in the duality of Earth. It is using one’s freedom of choice to move from a negative lesson into a positive love phase that shows the soul understands their journey.

An incarnate experience is taking that anger, violence, and hatred and recognizing that there is another way to live and interact with others. This is the trip through your lessons. All the negative possibilities involve the ego judgment of the human mind. It decides that it is the better, the badder, the only one who can make decisions for all. 

The knowledge of the chosen lesson is accomplished when the ego is put aside and the soul comes out and turns to loving evaluation. This can occur with any person who is truly working toward self-understanding. You can assist in this transition by sending unconditional love to all who are struggling with their work, with the intention that they might see what they are doing and choose to embrace the positive.

ANSWER: You are in the midst of a cyclonic maelstrom of emotions originating from your life lessons. Your concern about the origin of your voices stems from not wanting to have to listen to anything that is approaching you. Your life is a mass of fears and doubts and nothing seems friendly.

You first have to examine the lessons: betrayal, abandonment, lack of confidence and respect for yourself, all overlaid by the sense that no one is ever telling you the truth. You feel everyone is out to hurt you and that is what you deserve. You put up barriers so that no one can get through; the barriers may be indifference, fear, or striking out to chase people away so you don’t have to deal with them.

Your solution to all these problems is accepting who you are. Accepting that you are as good as everyone else, and people can hurt you only when you allow them to affect you. You are constantly living in the past, redoing all your past experiences and believing that nothing has changed. And nothing has changed because you have not allowed it to. You are clinging to what you have known, and you fear that the unknown will be worse than the past.

Within the power that you possess is the ability to bring to you what you need to experience. Since you have already lived through all these hurtful things, you don’t have to go through them again. Stand up and acknowledge that they happened and you learned you don’t need them in your life, so you can now move on to something else.

Create what you desire to be your future. The voices you talk about are your lessons coming to you through ego, higher self, and acquaintances’ words. Make the controlling voices yours. Decide what you want to see and do. When you deviate from the plan, tell yourself to return to it. Believe you are the creator and manager.

ANSWER: You two had many plans to assist each other in this lifetime and, as you have come to realize, have completed all your agreements. It now becomes a time when, to spiritually advance beyond where you are, you need to find stimulation from other people.

Your souls have let each of you know this, but all the wonderful times and learning experiences you have shared make it difficult to think of doing your life all over again with someone else. You have freedom of choice, and you can stay exactly as you are or you can split, still remaining in contact, and partner with others trying new experiences.

Change is very difficult for most humans. You spend so much time in one situation that it becomes a comfort zone – you always know exactly what the outcome of every event is going to be and you have no fear. When you think about doing something totally different, of which you do not know the outcome, you feel out of control and fearful of the results. This makes a lot of souls hesitant to move out of that comfort zone.

On the spiritual journey nothing is right or wrong. Everything you do is for the learning occurrences. Think abut it, talk it over, and then decide what your next step will be – alone or together.

ANSWER: All souls have total freedom of choice to decide what they are going to do and when they are going to do it. When you are in a human body, your soul’s decisions are not known to you. What your human consciousness (from its limited third-dimensional perspective) thinks will happen doesn’t govern the actions of your soul.

Most humans, because of the lessons they have endured, believe or adamantly proclaim that this is their last human existence. But what if, as a soul, you were to see something you would like to experience and simply must engage in, and boom! – you are back on Earth in another body? You haven’t decided what you will do once you return Home.

Twin flames hardly ever incarnate at the same time. They would be so intertwined with each other that neither would be able to work on any lessons. You and your twin have had different experiences. Your twin is not as advanced as you are, so the chance it will want to come to Earth in the near future is very good. At this time it is completely in the nonphysical world.

All souls are different, even twins, with various ideas about what they want to master. Your daily conversations are not always with your twin. Some of your other soul mates – and even some discarnates – engage you in discourse. Whenever one of them says that you have to do something, or that something is definitely going to occur, it is not a spirit of light because spirits of light cannot interfere with your path.

You will find your remaining time in this life to be much more rewarding if you stop spending so much time on the future and live in the moment, absorbing all the lessons around you. Each segment of time lasts for only a second. If you do not catch it as it happens, it is gone and you cannot benefit from it ever again. The human world is a fantastic place to experience; don’t miss anything by thinking and plotting too much.

ANSWER: What is plaguing you is the result of negative energies that surround you. Being gentle and kind has been seen by many as being an easy mark or pushover to be taken advantage of. These negativity-loving people find it fun to antagonize you.

You have no true sense of who you are. To find happiness you first have to bring self-love into your life. What other people think or say about you is not important; the important thing is what you think about yourself – this is a form of self-love. Worries, doubts, and fears are all indications that one of your life lessons is present. To combat their interference in your life, look them right in the face and see why they are there.

You create your own reality through your choices. Stop letting the thoughts in your head take precedence. They are other people’s opinions that you have heard, that you read, and that you accepted without asking how they made you feel. From this day forward, never do something just because it has a place in your memory. Do something only if it feels good and resonates with you.

You chose the lessons you are enduring to see if you could understand them and find a loving way to deal with them. Don’t let others dictate to you. Look upon your mother’s care as a blessing in love that you may share with her – but don’t let her force you to do anything you don’t wish.

Every situation is a choice as to how you perceive it. Is it something that enriches your life? Can you feel the love in a meeting? Pick the positive explanations for everything and send the negativity packing.

ANSWER: Reality is what you choose to make it. Dreams are stages where you can plan how you want your life to be. The places in your dreams are of your own making. They are the way in which you can feel better about the other aspects of your life and create a system of comfortably being able to accept the difficulties in your day-to-day life. The beings represent your guides and associates who are assisting you in finding peace.

The way you are treated by your family makes you sad and you want to remake your world. Your dreams provide you with the means. You can take the suggestions in the dreams and create a new way to react to the unpleasant feelings coming from your sister and mother.

Neither of your family members can accept that you fare so well in this world with the difficulties you have faced. They are jealous of your success. You are a marvelously resilient soul who is an example to others of learning life lessons. Don’t let the way they act discourage you. When you need assistance, continue to ask for it but don’t accept the negativity they deliver with the help. Love them for the journey they are on – they haven’t learned to deal with adversity as you have. Send unconditional love to them with the intention they accept themselves as beautiful people.

ANSWER: All souls have one major choice while in a human body: do I choose negativity or positivity? You have brought to yourself the decision to change the negative past and live in a positive future. You are the one creating this magnificent world. The initial choices to shed the darkness were relatively easy once you began the process and saw the great results. Replacing despair with love sheds a whole new light on your world.

As you have finished with the major aspect of your thinking, which has changed the way your whole world looks, the minor hurdles have become your immediate future. It may seem as if you have gotten to this point swiftly, but your spiritual awareness has been building over the years. You just reached a critical mass of all the information making perfect sense at one time about a year ago. You know you created everything you want, so it is time to redirect your creativity.

Plan out what you need and what you want. See what is needed to achieve these results and then start the creative process all over again, directed at these new goals. You had such success in the beginning; never doubt you can do it again. Realize it is going to take a bit of time to get there, and have patience.

ANSWER: Your major life lesson has been to analyze what love is about and how different people experience it and what they see as “love.” To your husband, love meant you would do exactly what he wanted you to do and nothing else. At first you accepted his definition and were enslaved to the relationship. This took all of your power and energy, which made you ill.

When you realized that love had none of these characteristics, you divorced him and moved on. You still had no idea what love was, so you interpreted the compassion of your lover as love. You accepted that he did not offer unconditional love because he spread himself around to others, but it was definitely better than what you had with your husband. When he left you, it was for personal financial reasons and how he could benefit from a marriage to his other woman.

The experience you had in the hospital – the light, the voice, and the feeling of love – was a connection to your soul, your higher self, your nonphysical unconscious. It is always with you; you just need to choose to go back inside and bring it out.

You can’t let go of the spiritual connection you feel you have with the one who walked away because it felt so good. But it was not him – it was you! You only believed it was him because he happened to be there when you first connected with it. Create a life where you are the center of your universe, where you bring out your love. Then you can do whatever you want and can have the love you seek.

ANSWER: A very simple answer is a resounding no! But when did we ever stop at that? All jesting aside, each of these individuals is dealing with different lessons that are using the same tool, sexuality, to allow the person to see the symptoms of the deeper problem.

Your relentless lover is looking for love—not romantic love but the love of herself. She hates everything about herself, the way she is compulsively driven into the arms of anyone who will have her, the self-loathing of being out of control and not being able to do anything about it, and the fear that she is not good enough for someone to remain in a single relationship.

The woman who always puts herself in situations where she cannot be completely satisfied, feels she is unworthy of a lasting union. She does not want to commit to a marriage because she also fears being dominated, so she insures that cannot happen by becoming involved only with married men. She feels that her actions provide her protection, but in fact, they prevent her from awareness of self.

Your gentleman voyeur has a fear of intimacy. He yearns to have personal and physical contact but he fears that he will be ridiculed for some reason. He loathes what he feels is his image. Once told he was dorky and ugly, he fears rejection. To him, if he were ever rejected by a hot-looking babe, that would be the ultimate condemnation confirming his lack of being normal. He cannot accept himself.

To a majority of humans, interpersonal relationships culminating in sex are the supreme determination of a successful life. The energetic state at the point of orgasm approximates the shear elation felt within the energy of Home. Is it any wonder then that so many of the lessons, as enumerated above, are worked out in the arena of sex?

ANSWER: There are two ways in which souls interact with their environment. They may be intertwined with a situation because it is a particular lesson they chose to experience, or they may have decided to be a witness to observe a lesson to see how it is handled by others. The latter situation could be because the souls wish to see if they might want to choose the experience on another occasion or because they have done something similar and wish to see if anything more can be learned from a variation.

In order to be called a Master, a soul must have experienced every possible aspect and variation of a particular human trait. The soul incarnates numerous times to work on obtaining the wisdom that can come only from using the freedom of choice provided by the duality of Earth to explore all this information.

Conflicts create something called control dramas. Parties are constantly juggling to better themselves and direct the action of others. All conflicts need an ego to arise. The ego thrives on judgment and uses it to determine every aspect of living. Once souls have worked through dramas, understanding that judgment is counter-productive to enlightenment, they move into evaluation – where they don’t participate, choose sides, or cheer on the conflict.

The evaluation phase of human existence allows one to accept that each soul is on a unique path. It leads to honoring the journey of the other souls while not declaring them to be right or wrong. You are entering into this phase. Your intention here was to observe and witness only – but the choice is yours. You have to ask whether you are vested in the outcome or not.

ANSWER: You have been to Earth many times and have done most of the simple lessons. This time you wanted to be challenged in a couple of different ways. Your ability to manage the earlier part of your difficulties did not mean you were finished.

Your first problems occurred in your childhood, and now you have the holdover into adulthood. The antagonists this time are your boys. You are dealing with it as you dealt with all other problems – slowly and methodically.

You are able to get into meditation, but you have yourself convinced – right now, anyway – that you are unable to. Start with giving yourself enough time that you will not be interrupted. Begin by visualizing a quiet place where no one can find you and interfere with you. Gradually spend more time each time you do this, and soon you will be able to spend as much time as you wish.

You are tired because you are not getting rid of the negativity of others around you. Any time you feel sadness or negativity, consciously push it aside and fill its space with unconditional love for all the hard work you have done in this life. Honor the accomplishments you have completed. Survival is a huge success.

You are overly sensitive right now, and that is why the negativity of your coworkers  is affecting you to such a degree. Don’t pay any attention to them. Always bring in unconditional love for the great job you are doing and ignore everything else.

Happiness arises from within. You have to allow yourself to see the beauty and happiness in you. Be very present in the moment, not worrying about the past or the future, just enjoying the magnificence available in the present. Love yourself, and that love will gather universal love to you.

ANSWER: Your lessons involve learning you have freedom of choice in all aspects of your life. Your home situation was one of being constantly told exactly what was expected of you. You were never asked your opinion or given a say in what happened. You were unable to develop a sense of self-worth or confidence. You were controlled until you found a way to break away from the control.

Your marriage was another kind of control. Your ex-husband is not in love with you; he is mourning the loss of a prized possession that he seeks to regain. He is not even aware what true love feels like. You have some difficulty there, as well, since you have never experienced it.

You need to go in search of love. First comes knowing what love is by getting a feel of self-love. You may experience it in the connection with your soul that lets you sense your own unconditional love. Once you know the “feel” you will not allow yourself to settle for anything else.

It is also time to let the past go completely. Don’t let any lingering negative feelings from your mom or your ex cling to you. If they come into your mind, accept that they are examples of what you do not wish to have, delete them from your memory, and move on to better and more pleasant feelings. Choose to have a new life that is filled with loving events you choose for yourself.

ANSWER: Your dear friend is one of your soul group. Whenever souls wish to have an in-your-face experience, where they are forced to confront something they have shied away from, they ask a soul mate to be the ignition that sets the fire ablaze. You are a master of evasion. Simmering beneath the surface is a need to be always in control. Most of the time you contain it, but when your friend comes around she knows the right buttons to push to let it surface.

The lesson of controlling others has been a recurring one for you. Many lifetimes you have tried to learn and understand this lesson without success. You decided this life was the one where the details of unconsciously pushing and directing others would become a thing of the past. Your friend was to be there to keep prodding you until you stopped and figured out what causes your need to know what is coming next, and what each person around you is going to do.

You need to understand that control is really an illusion. It is impossible to control others unless they allow you to have power over them. Your friend first lets you think you can call the shots and then plants her feet and says “no way,” at which point you erupt because your plan is foiled. Go into the energy within your reaction and see what the feelings consist of which are emerging when you are challenged. That’s where your lesson lies. Acknowledge them, confront them, defuse them, no longer need them.

ANSWER: You had made the plan to have a number of varied experiences in a relationship mode. Your lessons included the clarity of understanding when you reached a place where a partnership had become non-functional and almost destructive. This was your sign that you had learned as much as you could in that union and, if you wanted to continue learning, it was imperative that you moved on.

The feeling of guilt comes from the influence of some of those around you, and society in general, saying you didn’t give it enough of a try and marriage is forever. Boredom had nothing to do with your realization that it was time to go somewhere else since your experiences had stagnated.

The sense that your life is less harmonious comes from getting out of a comfort zone where you knew what was coming next. It is more disconcerting to face the unknown and wonder how it is going to come out. As we always say, you are exactly where you need to be when you are there.

When you enter a new partnership, there is a learning curve and bumpy, uncomfortable roads until you settle into the new scene. Give it time. You and your son have had lives together in the past and have always been close. This is all part of your spiritual path. Your questions demonstrate that you are spiritually aware and moving along your desired path.

You do help people, but you should be more concerned first with taking care of yourself. You need to connect more with Source and feel that unconditional love within. When you have achieved full self-love, you may then choose to be concerned about others.

ANSWER: Take a good look at what you are saying. You have accepted the words of a woman about things that don’t even make sense. You were told you have a major physical condition that is not apparent to any of the medical experts, and you don’t display any issues. A total fear has been created by this woman with no evidence of any proof that a problem exists. What most people refer to as the energy body is the soul. A body without a soul ceases to exist; therefore, you have your essence within you, not a hollow space.

Astrology, or using the positioning of the planets at the time of birth or conception, does not determine a body’s life. It merely shows what energies were/are present and, if the person does nothing to change the effects of those energies, how they will perform. But – and a big but it is – each soul has freedom of choice. You can take and believe only the characteristics the charts report, or use your creative abilities to bring to yourself what you desire.

How you see yourself is the determining factor. If you see yourself as a failure, then you are condemned. If you see and believe you are a success, and put in the necessary work, you will accomplish your dreams. You are the director of your life by creating the beliefs by which you want to live. Don’t let anyone tell you who you are. Find out who you are by manifesting what you came to Earth to do.

ANSWER: Your situation is all about the life lessons the two of you chose for your time together. Your husband wanted to experience the trials of feeling “less than a man” because of his fertility problems. In the world, masculinity is often determined by procreation abilities. This affects what you think about yourself and what others think about you as well. It is society’s judgment and has nothing to do with a man’s productivity or self-worth, and definitely nothing to do with the magnificence of his soul. The situation does force people to determine how they evaluate their existence—or, if they are spiritual, how they can find the unconditional love inside that makes them feel complete.

Your lessons center on your self-image notions. Is my weight preventing me from being something that I choose to be? Why am I not able to lose? Is it a lack of discipline? Or do I not love myself enough to be able to produce results? You have hidden behind your weight in the past to run away from unpleasant situations, and now that you don’t need it, you are not sure how to proceed. One way would be with hypnotherapy or self-hypnosis.

Your past-life regression showed you a life in which a child was stolen from you. This brings up the feelings of being taken advantage of, betrayed, and cheated out of something rightfully yours. That energy did carry into this life—but not the energy of having no children.

It is possible for each of you to resolve the issues, which could then permit conception. Examine all your motives and experiences surrounding this and see if the expense and heartache for something that may not be accomplished is worthwhile. You would both make terrific parents. There are a lot of children out there who need good homes. What would you think of putting all that “possible” energy into a sure thing and starting to be parents sooner rather than later or never?

ANSWER: Earth is a place for battling negativity. You decide what degree of difficulty you wish to experience in a lifetime and then come into a body that will help you experience what you desire. The parents you choose, the area where you are born, and the frailties of your body bring you the lessons you chose.

The medical difficulties you have experienced all relate to how you think about yourself. You lack confidence, respect, and love for yourself; you don’t think you are worthy of success or happiness. You need to connect with your soul, the essence of unconditional love inside of you. The only person you have to please is yourself. Allow yourself to do what is necessary to be happy.

Just as you did with your father, you want people to tell you what to do. You hesitate to take responsibility for your life, and if others direct you, you don’t have to make any decisions. Your father left when he did so that you and your sister could start thinking for yourselves and be forced to assume responsibility for your lives.

Your father is always around you in spirit, encouraging you and trying to help you find strength. He wants you to know that you can take care of yourself. You are a strong person inside. Start to have faith in yourself.

A baby will show you how to have responsibility for another so you can take more into your life. Your egg, or someone else’s egg, or even someone else’s child who would not have a home but for your adopting him or her—it doesn’t make any difference. Your purpose in life is to recognize who you are as a soul and to help others find their way after you have done so.

ANSWER: Life lessons are the reason that souls become human to live in a duality where they can learn through the choices they make. It is not possible to fully appreciate the powers and abilities that Source has given to souls (the pieces of itself that it broke off) while the souls are existing in the unconditionally loving energy of Home. That can only be done when souls are presented with the positive and negative sides of any human characteristic.

Life lessons are chosen before the soul enters into the human body. They are not specific – that is, not exactly as the testing will appear. This is partially the choice of the person and how they are leading their life during this time of study. Whether the lesson is accomplished depends on the individual, and what happens after that is also up to them.

If a lesson is not completely comprehended, the soul can choose to try it again in that lifetime or in another lifetime, or just move on to something else. There is no obligation to carry an incomplete lesson on through that life or into another. Nothing but the memory of what was chosen, and the results attained, affects the soul because no negativity exists outside of Earth.

Karma is a belief that the person will be made to pay for something they have done. This is the punishment aspect of society’s ego judgment. Since judgment requires negativity, it can exist only within the duality of Earth. It does not travel back to Source, nor does it hang on to the soul and require retribution.

The action of “karma” is frequently blamed for bad, or negative, choices made by people. It has also become an excuse for lazy people who do not work hard to understand their chosen tasks. It is not an actual energy, just a belief based upon a thought provided by others in society. In spirituality karma does not exist. 

ANSWER: Your pet did not suffer its whole life – it lived a loved comfortable life. When one has a disability, it does not miss what it does not know it should be able to do. When animals lose a leg to an accident or illness, they adapt and live very full lives. Once it leaves the enclosure of a physical body, all energy returns to unconditional love.

Your problem with the life of your pet was the fact that you identified with the animal and saw yourself in its body. You have always felt handicapped emotionally and physically when compared with others. This is a lesson you came to learn how to deal with. You have a tendency to see all things as negative and bad instead of as blessings leading to fulfillment. You cared for this pet as you desired to have others treat you. Your whole existence became the care of your child.

You carry guilt of your own creation for the transition of your pet. Returning to unconditional love, where energy exists without encumbrance, is perfection. The manner of transition is immaterial to the energy once it is free of the body. It was time for your pet to move on, just as it is time for you to re-examine this encounter and see the lessons it brought.

All souls have freedom of choice to live as they desire, and to take each instance of negative conflict and choose to reject the negativity and replace it with positive love. All lessons come to you as negative experiences. You then decide to keep the negatives (disabilities) around or to find the way to deal with them and work with your abilities until you only see the positive possibilities.

ANSWER: “Nothingness” would be existence within a sterile environment with no outside contact and without even the awareness of anything but yourself. You chose to enter this life with the desire to learn as much about human interactions as you could. A lot of these lessons involve observing others and how they deal with another person. If you have too much emotional involvement in the scenario, you will not be able to evaluate the exchanges without having personal feelings for the event, which would influence your determinations.

That deep peace you feel when shutting out the world is your soul’s essence of unconditional love. The sadness and frustration is a conflict between what feels good to you and your expectations of what should be occurring in your life according to society’s input. You have to be very clear about the desire of what you want to create within your world.

Personal interaction with others, while you are studying interpersonal relations, will create even more conflict and the sensation of being overwhelmed. You do have freedom of choice to stop your current life lessons and/or to rewrite what you want to learn.  In order to do this you must look at the belief systems with which you are controlling your everyday actions.

Right now you have a section of fear-based regulations that separate you from people for one reason or another. You fear what they say, how they think about you, whether you are good enough for them to love you, and whether the decisions you make are valid. If you wish to change your environment you have to start here.

If you want to continue with your lesson, but not have the sadness and frustration, establish a place inside you where you are totally in charge – a place where the love from your soul, which is connected to the entire universe, is more than sufficient to give you the happiness to continue your observations.

ANSWER:  You chose this life plan to learn that it is impossible to control anyone else unless they allow it, and that you have to respect what others choose as their lesson plan. Your mother is a very insecure woman. She thinks that others will like or love her only if she does things for them. This does not relate to you in her mind because she thinks a child will always love his parent, so she has always catered to her family members over you to get their acceptance. Your father desperately wants her to be happy, so he defers to her wishes.

Your decision right now is how much interference you want to put up with in the family dealings. One of your lessons is self-confidence and not caring what others say about what you do. You have a history of despising your mother’s family because they got what you felt was your entitlement. You are jealous of the past and are overly sensitive now to the present.

Your mother feels she will lose the love of her family if she doesn’t continue what she has done in the past. She does not realize the financial situation has changed because of your father’s condition. She is like a river that is firmly in its channel. The spring floods come and it tries to stay where it has been in the past but is gradually being edged into a different path. Give her some time.

How firm you are with her is up to you. This is a lesson for you, and you have total freedom of choice as to how long it lasts. If you feel you are in the right, since it is now your responsibility to take care of things, don’t let interference push you out of the required track. This is not a carryover from a past life. This will come to an end for you when you resolve not to let it bother you any longer.

ANSWER: You set yourself up for a complicated and sometimes contradictory set of life lessons. Your wish was to have a body that would provide a variety of difficulties and ailments, as a result of which you would have to exercise freedom of choice, manifestation techniques, and acceptance of your inner powers and abilities.

As you work through each lesson – among which have been issues of self-confidence, faith, acceptance, betrayal, depression, and self-love – you make yourself available for the next lesson. And, as with all of life’s challenges, you will be re-tested at times to make sure you have truly learned the lesson. You will rarely see the exact repeat but rather a variation on the theme.

You had planned all of the lessons, just not how they were going to play out. You are continuously ridding your physical body of negativity and emotionally resolving any attachments or residues that have remained. Keep on waging your war; minor battles and skirmishes are still on the horizon.

Your guides are with you always and cheer on your efforts. They are eager to continue with you on your journey to health. Staying in touch with them will make the trip more enjoyable and companionable.

Remember and accept that you are a piece of Source and have all the same powers and abilities of Source. Arm yourself with that knowledge and your arsenal will be complete.

ANSWER: Many of this life’s lessons concerned the departure of your husband. It was arranged for him to leave you because you were so connected and dependent on each other. The soul’s journey is a singular affair with interludes of partnerships. Yours came to an end so you might move into completing your lessons.

When he left you felt anger, abandonment, grief, loneliness, survivor’s guilt, and a lack of direction to a degree never before encountered. You did not have him around to help you work through these feelings, and that, too, was new. In your devastated world you first had to find yourself, and then decide how you wished to continue.

The choices were basically twofold: you could remain in the negative energy of all these emotions or you could accept that you had the choice to throw off the bad feelings and replace all with positive feelings of love and happiness.

It was time to take sole responsibility for the future. You were able to do this when you finally acknowledged that you had the power to understand the lessons – and that they were just that, only lessons – and move on creating for the remainder of your existence in this body.

You will find love when you step back, get rid of your haste, and let the universe come to you. Your problem with the approach you have taken is the desperation you feel. There is no need for that – just be yourself. You are the only important thing in your world. Envision what type of companion you desire. Put the intention out into the world that you are ready to receive. Then just wait.

ANSWER: Every soul comes into the Earth plane with different plans. To fulfill those plans some need to have limited emotions, some none at all, and some over-whelming emotions. It is impossible to compare one’s emotions with anyone else’s because it may be a choice to have all your lessons presented to you in emotional terms.

We have repeatedly said that the way you know your life lessons is by the situations that present themselves to you as your fears and doubts. To some, fear generates very emotional reactions, and to others it is a physical sensation. Following those energies back to the point of origin in order to understand your lesson is the key.

When we talk about using or following your feelings to understand your life lessons, we are not talking about emotions. Emotions are the physical reaction to something happening in your body, mind, or spirit. They come into your conscious physical awareness without your having to ask for them. Feelings are the awareness of all the energies that have occurred in this lifetime and others.

To use your feelings to understand and gain the knowledge of your life lessons, ask yourself: Why am I feeling this way? or Where did this feeling come from? This opens the door into the unconscious area where energy is stored that is not part of your everyday consciousness.

ANSWER: You have described beautifully for everyone what it is like to be living in a human body, which is animated by a soul and influenced by all the duality of the third dimension with input from fifth-dimensional soul-essence aspects. A spiritual growth pattern entails taking all the judgmental parts of human life and setting aside the negative while implementing the positive in all activities.

Self-absorption is ego, which is governed by rating, grading, and judging everything in your life. Spiritually, ego is removed along with all judgment, and the acceptance that there is no right or wrong rules. Your path toward awareness is giving power to judgment on some occasions and honoring acceptance on others. Since these two configurations are opposite, your reality bounces from one to the other depending on the behavior you are following.

The records for creating judgment are stored in your brain, having been deposited there by what you have heard, read about, or seen of the beliefs of society. The ability to know there is no right or wrong – only experiences – comes from the feelings in your spiritual energy that arise out of your previous experiences and soul knowledge, which is individual to each soul.

You call to yourself the situations that will enable you to learn the lessons you have chosen, and you are always in the right place when you are there. You have complete freedom of choice, which allows you to always decide how you wish to deal with your life.

The physical thoughts you have come from those others who contributed to your memories, and your feelings come from your own experiences. If you wish to be spiritual, follow your feelings and be in the present, observing what you have called to yourself.

“Letting go” implies you are clinging to something that already exists, which means it has to have come from the past. You can’t change the past, so be concerned only with the moment. Observe, feel, and act in response to what is around you as if you are seeing it for the first time.

ANSWER: The soul has a single life, which it expresses in many different roles. They all are occurring at the same time, much as a CD has all your songs on it at the same time. You understand and can work through the life lessons that gain you wisdom, your reason for coming to Earth, only where your physical consciousness focuses. It is impossible for a soul to be physically conscious in more than one place at the same time.

What confuses a lot of people is that individuals can access their akashic records, or the recording of all their various roles, through the use of hypnosis, deep meditation, or dreaming. This has a lot of people thinking that there is a consciousness in each place they have “lived.”  It is actually a movie on a reel that comes to life only when you turn your full attention to it; the rest of the time it is just sitting there.

The term “split soul” has many different definitions. We do not use that terminology in our teaching. You have just experienced how people can jump from one of their roles into another. Dreams are a way in which you can easily recall what has been worked on in the past and may have a use for you in your current life; that is why you visit that occurrence.

Dreams sometimes also add in figures and happenings from your immediate life’s experiences, such as movies, readings, and beliefs. When you see something out of the corner of your eye, particularly when returning to consciousness, your mind assigns it an identity if you don’t get a good look. Ever seen someone lurking by your home, only to discover it is a shadow from a tree, umbrella, etc.?

ANSWER: Each soul comes to planet Earth to experience the life lessons it had chosen. No person has any help in learning those lessons – it is a solitary event. Your lessons included recognizing that you did not deserve to be disrespected and constantly depreciated. You learned to take control of your life and honor yourself by removing yourself from this untenable situation.

You chose your family so you could have the people who would allow you to be immersed in these lessons. Choice generally involves the negative energies needed, not a loving relationship; that you have at Home and don’t need to enter a human life to experience.

Your mother is your most complicated learning source. You want to love her because you think you should – doesn’t everyone? The job you and she agreed upon was she would constantly throw negativity at you until you respected yourself enough to say, “No more.” She has the knack of psychologically abusing you as well as emotionally trying to impact you by “feeling hurt” when you don’t accept all the trauma she heaps upon you.

You have no spiritual responsibility to remain a part of the games they are playing. You will only grow in awareness by being away from the constant pressure until you can see what is really happening. You are as good as they, you are not guilty of causing them pain, and you are just as worthy to enjoy your life as anyone.

It is time to accept yourself as the beautiful person you are. When you can feel your power, you will be able to listen to what they say and tell them: “I understand that is what you believe to be true, but I do not feel it is true, nor that it applies to the person that I have become.” The only thing you can do is to be yourself, as you feel you want to be, and ignore what they are trying to make you.

ANSWER: As you have pointed out, one of the lessons you chose is learning to deal with anxiety. When the source of that anxiety is other people, or society in general, it comes from your view of yourself and your desire to please and have everyone love you. A major component in your life is your need to be in control. It may seem as if you have no control, but your desire to always know what is coming next and what other people are doing is an aspect of needing control.

Learning patience will help with your difficulties, but lightening up on yourself will assist even more. You are not responsible for what other people, your brother included, have chosen for their life’s journey. You cannot influence the actions of others because they all have freedom of choice to make their own decisions. Worrying means you have established specific expectations over an outcome. That is wanting to control those activities, and you simply cannot.

You have absolutely no love for yourself and the difficult journey you have chosen. Step back and examine what you have placed in front of you. Congratulate yourself for your courage of choice. Accept that what is here exists because you chose it. What a soul chooses is what they know they can handle.

Take each day at a time. Don’t look at the entire world at once. Just deal with what presents right in front of you. Take apart the situation and work with each little part at a time. When it comes to work, what do you feel comfortable doing? Develop confidence in the areas that appeal to you, and then reach out to the universe to let you see where you fit.

ANSWER: Everything physical, mental, or emotional that affects the human body is an experience of which the soul has a permanent record. All physically negative, destructive, disruptive, or other hindrances experienced by a soul during its human lifetime are accomplished for the purpose of learning.

When the soul returns Home, it can review everything that occurred and examine what wisdom may be carried into subsequent lives from the lessons it completed. It can also determine if it needs to spend further time on some aspects it didn’t completely understand.

Dementia is chosen for a number of reasons. A soul studying control issues may want to experience the process of gradually losing all control of mental faculties, necessitating dependence on others. The realization that one can no longer remember how to take care of oneself turns to deciding how to deal with those limitations while there is still awareness.

Once the consciousness of the patient has reached the point of unawareness of everyday needs, the lessons are then generally for the relatives, friends, and caregivers. The affected soul starts spending more time with its awareness outside the physical than within its own body, so the patient couldn’t care less what is going on.

When Grandma is back Home, she will not have a body and can be any age she chooses when she meets up with others. She will know that everything that happened to her while in a body was for teaching purposes. There will be no regrets, embarrassment, or sadness. There will only be a sense of accomplishment and completion.

ANSWER: Your daughter’s body has left you but not her spirit. It is there to reach out and touch and communicate with. This is a part of a life lesson you—and others who had contact with your daughter in her physical life—planned to go through and try to reach an understanding of the pain. Giving you the names of all the lessons involved in this action would not help you understand them. It would simply have you pondering the verbiage. You also would not work through these lessons, and then you would have to repeat them in this or some other way.

The sense of loss, abandonment, guilt, depression—all these are lessons you need to explore. With each heartache that assails you, a lesson is saying, “Understand me; learn why I am here so that you may move on.” The explanation you seek can only be answered with the words “it is as you planned.” We cannot explain what you sought to learn from the event—the emotions within you are the explanation for the happening.   

Go into those emotions and ask yourself what you are feeling. We don’t mean the physical loss but the sense of who you are and how you are responding to the death. When you see a picture of your daughter and you get depressed, ask what is behind those feelings. You will find you are thinking about unfairness, guilt that it was her and not someone else, a sense of abandonment. You need to examine why these feelings are a part of you.

Unfairness is a judgment that everything should be the same and somehow you got left out. Guilt over wanting to keep what you have and let someone else go in her place means you want to control what happens. Feeling abandoned means you think your life is more important than the person who left, or you are not good enough to have them stay. This is your lesson, your life. In examining the feelings that surround you, you will come to your desired explanation. It is all for the learning.

ANSWER: All souls come to Earth to learn specific lessons that they have pre-chosen to endure, and from which they intend to learn about themselves and their abilities. As with any other endeavor they undertake, a single event does not make them experts or possibly even very proficient at the task.

For this reason, a lesson such as finding and connecting to your inner peace, or essential unconditional love, has to be learned through many of life’s various challenges. Thus you will have it presented to yourself in numerous different scenarios and situations. It may seem as though you are losing the ability to be in that energy, but you are merely blocking it from view so that you take the time and effort to reconnect, and come to always be able to sense where it is located, even if life hides it behind adversity.

Altruistic love is not an individual’s life lesson. It is a choice one makes to share one’s energy with others, generally to make oneself feel good. This is a characteristic that occurs only within the duality of planet Earth, where the ego makes judgments about everything.

To share something with another, such as the man you mention, he has to want to share with you. You will never be able to force him to think or act the way you wish he would. The obstacles you perceive are personal beliefs that are interpreted through judgment. Step back, don’t judge, send unconditional love, and observe the results.

The connection with your man is something you chose in order to learn about evaluating how your life lessons may be the same as, or different from, those of a lover. You draw to yourself all the experiences that will allow you to understand what you wished to learn.

ANSWER:  You, as is true of all souls, have the power to create your own reality. For each of your incarnations, the creation process starts with planning what lessons you wish to experience during that lifetime. You make contracts with other souls to have them help you with your desires, and you help them with theirs. Every tiny action is not determined beforehand, but the major categories are set in place.

You wished to go from being physically “whole” to physically challenged in order to experience the characteristics of control and lack of control. Some friends who did not want to have the events occurring to them wished to be close by to see what the transition was like. You have fulfilled your part of the contract and been a phenomenal teacher at the same time.

What you do from here on out is up to you. You are still a fantastic example to those who come into contact with you because of your attitude and the handling of your disability. You always have the ability to change your circumstances by changing your reality—unless your initial desire was to carry these changes through to your transition. But there are no absolutes, so you could change that plan as well.

Think what wonderful work you have done for people. Your strength is constantly growing in the physical and spiritual levels. The choice is yours; what’s next for you?