QUESTION: Masters, I´ve been living in an on/off-relationship. What is this power bringing me back to this man? I am so happy living by myself, and after a few months living with him I feel that I have to go away. I´ve learned a lot of things with him, mostly with tears. We are as different as can be. He is a workaholic entrepreneur. I feel and hope that my lessons with him are over but still afraid to leave him if this on/off is going to continue. What is this attraction–only something with egos and lessons, or something more like soul mates? ~Heidi, Finland
ANSWER: You have total freedom of choice. You are compelling yourself to return time and time again to this relationship because you know what will happen within it. Knowing that takes all the fear out of starting a new relationship. As long as you feel that there is a connection between the two of you, you will be unable to stop this cycle. Working together further complicates your situation.
It is not wrong to continue on with this “on-again-off-again” routine if you choose. It is time to ask yourself: what are you looking for? Are you looking for an abusive relationship where your partner is in total control and does not share anything with you? Or are you ready to find someone who can share your life and the decision making with you?
You were correct to assume that the past has been an indication of lessons that you chose prior to incarnating here. One of your life lessons is to have faith in yourself and your decisions. You need to realize that you are as important as he, and you are right to have a say in day-to-day operations. He has a way of convincing you that you need him, and your lesson is to see if you really do need him or if the decision to leave him is the completion of that lesson.
There are no invisible ropes binding you to him, as some people feel souls have between them. He is definitely on a mission to learn all about ego and control. You have assisted him and you can now decide to let him go his own way or continue to be of assistance at the risk of not completing your own lesson.