QUESTION: Masters what is this theme of rejection in relationships that keeps running through my life? For a long time, a drive towards a partner was more about lack and trying to fulfil unmet needs, not a true heart-based good feeling. Of late, it feels good to draw someone in to share with and grow. But both connections this year quickly ended in the same result – rejection. This theme has become boring, but I seem to draw it to me no matter what. Is this a theme to work through? Is it a sign that attempting to connect to anyone is not my path in this life? I am prepared for the possibility that a relationship on this level in this lifetime may not happen, but my conscious choice would like to experience otherwise. ~CR, Australia
ANSWER: As with all souls, you did not set up specific conditions for your learning of lessons. It may be that you end up without connecting with someone in a lasting, romantic, sharing way, or you may understand the lessons of rejection and clear your way for such a connection. It is up to you whether and how fast you unravel the feelings you have.
The period of your life in which you spent your time having sexual exploits without any real concern for your partner or why you were doing it, outside of the physical release you desired, created a pattern of behavior of which you have not totally rid yourself. Within your energy is an egotism that does not indicate you are interested in sharing. It says you are in any contact for what you alone can get out of it.
Regardless of the fact that you think you have changed the way you approach a potential partner, your expectation precedes your actions. When you enter into a new association, your fear of rejection is always with you. You amp up your intensity to show them what a great person you are, and the result is that they feel the union is all about you.
A heartfelt communication is missing in all your attempts. It is so important to you for them to feel your need to create a sharing relationship that you over-talk them. Before saying anything, stop and reach out with your senses. What does the energy around you two feel like? Is there hesitancy, fear, intrigue, selfishness, or selflessness? Take your cues for your conduct by what you feel.
Put aside expectations and anticipations and just go with the flow of the world around you. If you sense fear or doubts, stop and ask your unconscious what is causing these feelings. The lessons you have not faced or learned from will be the answer. Address the issues originating from yourself before you open up to a sharing, and you will no longer frighten off people – which will prevent rejection.